Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

Your problem is not that you live with your parents, your problem is the fact that you don't put yourself in a place where potential suitors can see you.

Better get out of that cage. Very soon, your mum would tell you you're a liability as your mates are getting married.

I don't know any thing about relationships, so I will focus on security for your own safety.

I follow a lot of crime news both online and offline and one of biggest contributor to risen cases of missing persons is meeting strangers especially those who're online.
Thousands of people get missing yearly after meeting strangers online, and it's becoming prevalent not only in developed countries but also developing countries especially Nigeria. Ritualist and serial killers utterlize social media very well to prey on victims. Many profiles on facebook especally the ones that look promising and irresistable are fake. Even profile pictures on some accounts are stolen pictures. Of couse not everyone online is a criminal but it's better to be safe than sorry.
If a guy is serious enough to want to have a relationship with you, then he should be serious enough to come visit you at your parents house. If your online friend for some reason will not be able to make it to your parents house, then set a public place you're very familiar with close to your house as venue for your meeting. Don't go alone, go with a friend.

Never travel out of state to visit a stranger you met online.
We are in dangerous times where wicked people commit unspeakable crimes.
Note: Terrible crimes are commited by people you least expect.

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

You better be in love with me



I will understand you very well

Staying with ones parent can be bleeped up at times, apart from the partner issue, it makes you feel comfortable and you see less reason to hustle.

Immediately my sister was done with service, she just started living with her friend, she wasn't too comfortable there so it gave her more reason to hustle, before she got a job she started doing business on her own, if not she would still be at home getting spooned by my over caring mum.

I'll advice you look for one of your friend that is in same mental situation with you, Rub minds and get an apartment. You can be going home during weekends .

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

Lmaooooooooo....
You're so funny!
A 25 years old woman can't even visit youth church till she is married?

Lmaoooooooooooo....
Make I leave here jejely

Yep someone mentioned it and i thinj he is right.
You are a push over.i know becos i was one.
You need to stand ur ground.
This was my story too.
At 25,my family was still overprotective.i have 5 brothers and am the last child.
It was a lot.
Suffice it to say,im 38,unmarried.Now everyone has hands -off.The guy im with would never have been my choice...His character is queer but hey,societal pressures and im desperate.
Its either u stand ur ground or if you cant,leave the house.u will grow faster than you imagined

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

Which church do you attend?

happney65:
Na fucck dey worry you and nothing else...where are you?Do you live in Ibadan?I can help you scrub that pussy that has been lieing empty for the past 2years..

Women dey marry husband sha
It is well...

U wanna go collect lamba abi. Bad gal

aro1:
am in ado ekiti,can we be friends ife?

Boss. Make sure she cum insyde her house back on time. I don't want to hear raw stories on Nairaland oooo

Sassilicious:
Yep someone mentioned it and i thinj he is right.
You are a push over.i know becos i was one.
You need to stand ur ground.
This was my story too.
At 25,my family was still overprotective.i have 5 brothers and am the last child.
It was a lot.
Suffice it to say,im 38,unmarried.Now everyone has hands -off.The guy im with would never have been my choice...His character is queer but hey,societal pressures and im desperate.
Its either u stand ur ground or if you cant,leave the house.u will grow faster than you imagined

Nice. Did you say 38 and unmarried?

StarOnEarth:
Staying with ones parent can be bleeped up at times, apart from the partner issue, it makes you feel comfortable and you see less reason to hustle.

Immediately my sister was done with service, she just started living with her friend, she wasn't too comfortable there so it gave her more reason to hustle, before she got a job she started doing business on her own, if not she would still be at home getting spooned by my over caring mum.

I'll advice you look for one of your friend that is in same mental situation with you, Rub minds and get an apartment. You can be going home during weekends .

Ermm....is your sister married yet hommie?

Just asking

Ifemide123:

Ondo town

where in ondo town?
I stayed around Okelisa just before you get to Odotu..
Though I have relocated to lagos but I do come to ondo town frequently..I will like to know you better

Ifemide123:

Ondo town

Ki en tiri?

Something I find funny is anytime females face a little stumbling block males have to deal with on the regular they make their displeasure known to the heavens.

You lost five potential males, so? You are using the internet to meet them. Oya na, find more. Left to the Internet I have ‘met’ more than twenty females and lost over sixteen. The remaining four flaked themselves out after a given time period. Nobody hears me complain. I am gearing up to catch more.

Those guys were probably men ready to settle down. They know very well the hinderance staying with your parents presents hence their backing off. If you want men who don’t care try dating within your age range. Men aged 21 - 24 still have a strong reproductive drive and are ready to endure any situation to win you over.

One last thing: In the real world men and women do the chasing. The last time females had to sit and men came calling was in university. The real world with many distractions does not present the same luxury. Get used to chasing the man you find attractive.

Hahahahahahah....very funny.

Your problem is you're too "good" (for lack of a better word).

I wasn't even up to your age when I started attending a different church. Your problem is that you've always been around them.

Get up early on Sunday and go to whatever church you wanna go. When they start talking, just tell them you're old enough to make that decision. If you tell you not to repeat it again, just do it again the Sunday, and again and again and again until they leave you the hell alone.

As for the relationship issue. I'm sorry to say but you have been meeting assholes.

Am 23 and exactly in the same boat with you.

@Op I don't see any problem living with ur parents as a single lady.
If those men are actually serious abt a genuine relationship, they should be happy paying you visit in ur father's house that shows how discipline you are, coz you can't be misbehaving in front of ur parents, that's if the parents are also strict & discipline.
Maybe those guys have a different motive & are looking for free gift to chop.
A well coordinated, matured, discipline & serious guy looking for a life partner will take it as an opportunity to meet the lady & the family in order to access the type of home he wants to involved himself into.
Living alone, wondt make u an independent woman.

pocohantas:


Women dey marry husband sha
It is well...

na kitty dey scratch this babe lol. But her parents no dey try

Ifemide123:

What is PUSHOVER? I want to know if I am

You are. You need to be more assertive, your parents treat you like a kid. Your write-up made me cringe.

Ifemide123 you cannot lie ni? Lie that you are going for a friend's wedding or job interview or secondary school re union or something jare. Training, conferences, etc.
But be careful like someone mentioned above, if you're meeting someone for the first time, let it be in a public place. Don't let them serve food before you arrive. Let at least a friend know where you are going and forward the guy's details to the friend. Why don't you start a post graduate program and mix up with fellow single classmates? You will get a chance to develop yourself and still mingle.

Two options for you. Gather mind and Spend a night in man house or go and visit your sister.

Best Answer!!!! ���

rentAcock:
Why are most of the guys you meet online based in different states from you? Why not meet guys closer to you? Long distance relationships can be very challenging. Also, no guy should find it weird that you are still living with you parents when most ladies live with their parents until they get married so this is absolutely normal. I think you should focus more on getting a job, it will keep you busy and you will get to mingle with other guys. You can even save enough money to move out if that's your prerogative. Also attend church service, but whatever you do, please don't come off to guys as being desperate. You are just 24 and have your whole life ahead of you. Good luck.

You've been meeting fuckboys wisen up if they're interested in a serious relationship they'll come to your parents house.

Ladylite:


Why not LIE that you got a job, and come to where your sisters are at, why not lie with proof of employment and escape. Inbox me, I can help

lie for what exactly? Are her parents aliens? If she lied to them sooner or later they will find out the truth and it will make an already difficult situation worse. Honesty is the best policy.

1Sharon:



You are. You need to be more assertive, your parents treat you like a kid. Your write-up made me cringe.

You want them to disown her ba. Naija parents na sense we dey use for them o

meobizy:
Something I find funny is anytime females face a little stumbling block males have to deal with on the regular they make their displeasure known to the heavens.

You lost five potential males, so? You are using the internet to meet them. Oya na, find more. Left to the Internet I have ‘met’ more than twenty females and lost over sixteen. The remaining four flaked themselves out after a given time period. Nobody hears me complain. I am gearing up to catch more.

Those guys were probably men ready to settle down. They know very well the hinderance staying with your parents presents hence their backing off. If you want men who don’t care try dating within your age range. Men aged 21 - 24 still have a strong reproductive drive and are ready to endure any situation to win you over.

One last thing: In the real world men and women do the chasing. The last time females had to sit and men came calling was in university. The real world with many distractions does not present the same luxury. Get used to chasing the man you find attractive.

Oga keep quiet. Who are the men who do not care?

What are they asking her to come over for? If a man really wants to settle down with a lady, that she can't be spending mights will be the least of his problem. Na fuckboiz problem be that.

Ifemide