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Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by fykes(m): 1:14am On Oct 21, 2019 |
CeterisXVII:U are only saying all this becos u may be privileged to not have had encounterd such a toxic person.. U will be wondering what's got over u in no time. I don't know what kind of beating he gave her, but from what u quote, if she hits him first, then I don't wanna know. U can't expect every man to be full of self control and discipline. We ain't all gentlemen 1 Like |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by CeterisXVII: 1:18am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Ishilove: GOD BLESS YOU!! ![]() 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by CeterisXVII: 1:25am On Oct 21, 2019 |
fykes:No matter how toxic a person is, you have NO right to inflict violence on anybody. Any man that decides to use his fists to settle an argument is a maniac in disguise. A man can always walk away from such a toxic person, or take a decision to send her out. If in the process of beating her, she ended up dead, will you be saying this same thing you just said?? 9 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by 99persait(m): 1:25am On Oct 21, 2019 |
What you need to do is to find and report the matter to the husband's close friends or colleagues or even the boss.they will certainly caution him |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by fykes(m): 1:33am On Oct 21, 2019 |
CeterisXVII: Worst things than this has happened. Talk is cheap, talk is really cheap. I speak as a law officer. Marital issues are best dealt with wisdom not emotions. When u let ur emotions get ahead of ur senses in another man's family affairs, we will all ask u if ur own marriage is perfect? Name any couple who don't have issues?? That's when u will know that marriage matter no be "let me rush in and be her superman" 1 Like |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by CeterisXVII: 1:40am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Slimdada:The husband should not get involved and should withdraw the police case. Are you normal? What kind of lousy advice is this? So, you prefer the woman to die there, right? From your advice, it is likely that you also beat up the women in your life.... 3 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by NUJABEZ: 1:43am On Oct 21, 2019 |
mysticgal: Are you seriously asking somebody to hire assassins? I thought you were wise. 3 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by CeterisXVII: 1:45am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Stillthebest: This is the most INSENSITIVE and senseless advice, I have ever read on this forum. ![]() 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by CeterisXVII: 1:48am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Advocate500:BabaAlabi's post was a sarcastic reply to someone who was advising the OP to 'mind her business.' 3 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by CeterisXVII: 1:57am On Oct 21, 2019 |
fykes:If you are a law officer, then your thinking is a disgrace to the uniform you are wearing. ![]() I repeat: No matter what she said or did, he still has no right to beat her up. What if she died? ![]() There is no marriage without issues, but any marriage that involves violence should be nullified. ![]() 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Sleevia: 2:06am On Oct 21, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls: You must be stupid for talking like this. Someones life is in danger. I lost a dear aunt from a similar case. It is this same "mind your business" that has destroyed this country and given the elites and politicians so much power cos they know people like you will mind their business and not fight. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by wany(f): 2:13am On Oct 21, 2019 |
computergeek: Haaa east,east is well known for domestic violence dear.guess the guy is an anambra man.the guys with over bloted ego. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by fykes(m): 2:19am On Oct 21, 2019 |
CeterisXVII:Don't worry, you can stay behind ur keypad and be the judge and jury until we meet in person. People like u usually find out very late, that too much talk is even an offense in this country. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by CeterisXVII: 2:22am On Oct 21, 2019 |
fykes:You call saving a battered person's life "too much talk?" I repeat: You are a disgrace to the law enforcement uniform that you wear. It is your kind of mindset, that makes domestic violence to thrive in our society. 12 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by baby124: 2:33am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Stay out of it so that, that mad man does not come for your family. Just find a way to send message to her sister or brother if she has any to come to the hospital. Tell them to say that they went to her house and neighbors said she was in the hospital. It’s up to her family to take up the matter and, if she insists on staying with the man and dying there then there is nothing anybody can do. We all choose our paths in life and I believe she’s an adult? Police should stop seeing domestic violence cases as a case that can be dropped. That is outrageous. Once there is evidence of the fact, investigations and prosecution for at least assault and battery should commence immediately. Make sure you take the time to discuss with your son, what he witnessed. How that behavior is inappropriate and very bad. You will need to watch him closely because you exposed your son to such a terrible environment. How could you take him back after that first incident? You need cane for that! 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by bigfrancis21: 2:34am On Oct 21, 2019 |
computergeek: If they ever reconcile and she gets back to her husband's house, advice her against any direct confrontation with her husband in the meantime. 3 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Ategberoson(m): 2:35am On Oct 21, 2019 |
I will advise you to withdraw the case because you and your husband might regret the consequence. the only help you can rendered to the woman is to find a way to reach any of her family member. let them handle the case as it pleases them help must have limitation. don't trade your family peace of mind for charity 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by bellong: 2:45am On Oct 21, 2019 |
@Computergeek, My immediate concern is your family's attitude to the traumatic experience your child had. In your statement, you wrote that you told the boy to forget about the experience. It may not be to you but that is dismissing his experience and downplaying the serious effects of the event. You and your husband will need to do an in-depth search about the workings of the brain. My advice is that you get help for your son to adequately and professionally process the experience. If not dealt with appropriately now, it may start haunting him in form of flashbacks down the lane. Your talk is not enough. He needs a professional help to process the event. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:11am On Oct 21, 2019 |
You should know by now most Nigerians don't have sense. Anyone telling you to mind your business when a life is involved is a very big fool. "Mind your business", "mind your business" is one of the reasons Nigeria is like this. There is a certain bad road around Kaduna axis that had claimed the lives of too many people as a result of accidents. The govt didn't prioritize repairing that road until a very prominent commissioner (or so I think) lost his life and that of his son on that same road in an accident. The point is this, you should do your best because there is absolutely nothing more precious than a human life. Do what you should do if it were your sister in that situation. computergeek: 9 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Excuzeme: 3:13am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Some people sef, na another person matter dem go carry for head like ALABARU! - You have removed your son from danger. - You have tried to remove the woman from the situation, as you described it. - That she, as an adult, has told you "Thank You, mind your business", that is not enough for yo and you labelled it " a syndrome" since to you, she just must accept your offer to arrest her husband! This woman has a "free choice" of leaving her matrimonial home or remaining, she chose to remain and that is making Aprokos go crazy? Why the heck are some people so fixated on the ruin of others? Stop injecting yourselves into toher people's marital issues, let them sort themselves out or where you there when they met and decided to marry? I hope this serves as a lesson to those who allow others into their homes, to the point tha they begin to pry into their marital affairs. There are alot of evil people out there, whose only life ambition os to destroy as many homes as possible. Ediots and bone-heads that know nothing about marriage, pretending and calling themselves marriage counsellors. ![]() Just watch as they would gather on my post, like say l am the cause of their frustration. ![]() |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:14am On Oct 21, 2019 |
You're a mad man. I pray such happens to you. BRATISLAVA: 7 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by djoe21(m): 3:16am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Computergeek she has opened up to you a little by revealing that her husband beat her because she confronted him about a lady he is moving around with. You can use this opportunity to find out: 1. if that is the ONLY reason for the beatings. 2. if the man still does his duties as a father/husband. If the affair is the reason for the beatings, then you can advise her not to confront her husband about it anymore for the sake of her life and children. She needs to bear it for now. Meanwhile, encourage her to start seeking ways to equip herself financially so that if the husband doesn't change and she feels she can no longer stomach his ways, she will feel confident enough to separate from him. In all, let her remain prayerful. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:16am On Oct 21, 2019 |
You need to be with your fellow mad people at yabaleft. Allow sane people to discuss. BRATISLAVA: 3 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:19am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Why are you making contrasting comments? BRATISLAVA: 5 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by HowDareU: 3:21am On Oct 21, 2019 |
OP, I can see you really love your friend. Here is what you will do for her. Let her talk to somebody she can trust, she has the choice whether to stay or not, let her get a counsellor or do it for her, she should not infuriate him, she should get a help line. I wrote an article on how to protect yourself from domestic violence a long time ago in my blog. Go to the search engine and search domestic violence: www.securitymattersafrica.com 1 Like |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:22am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Like your mother? AK481: 4 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Excuzeme: 3:27am On Oct 21, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls: "When Hand-Shake starts reaching towards the Elbow, it has become something else, an Arrest" ![]() ![]() They wont listen to pure advice like this! These "helpers" (or ruiners) of destiny want to help the woman, by force, by fire! Imagine! You want to help somebody, the person says "Am okay, thank you for the offer". You said: "No, l must help you by force, by fire". The person said: I know things are not looking very good but l am okay and can still manage on my own. You then said: Noo, l must escalate this further by involving the Police? Are you saying the person you are trying to help (an adult with sane mind), does not know the way to the Police station or does not have a phone to call the Police helpline, if need be? Oh, l forgot, anyone tha does not allow you to meddle in their family issues (while yo left yours unattended), must be suffering from some fancy word invented in Stockholm! ![]() ![]() "Mind Your Business" nor be Abuse o, APROKO dey kill sometimes. If you destroy that man's marriage for your own selfish reasons, it is not just the man that will come after you and your family members, his wife will also do same......and that would be a legitimate endeavor. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:32am On Oct 21, 2019 |
The way some of you talk baffles me? Christianity is the only religion that tells a man to love to love his wife even to the point of dying for her. Yes that is what it means when the Bible says, "men love your wife's, even as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it". Christianity is also the only religion that says when a man married his wife, they two become one. This means that whatever you can't do to yourself, you shouldn't do to her and vice versa. It means both should be selfless towards to one another. So please, how does Christianity encourage men to be unreasonable? Graxie: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:34am On Oct 21, 2019 |
You're a big mumu. You insulted her and all women including your mother and now that you're insulted back you're crying and screaming bullying. Brother wey mumu. AK481: 8 Likes |
Re: Wife Battery: Should We Drop Police Case, Though He’s Threatening To Kill Her? by Midas01: 3:39am On Oct 21, 2019 |
Jesus Christ!!! Also had a neighbor who used an iron rod on his wife and she nearly lost her eyes. My dad called the police on the man when he beat her so badly one time and she was bleeding profusely. When my bro went to their house day following screams of the wife, he found the man with a weapon and she was on the floor in a pool of her own blood. They're separated now though. Turned out his wife wasn't his only victim. He had "wa boys" who he beat up mercilessly. One one occasion he beat one up with a dog chain at about midnight and the dude ran to my house at that midnight to seek succour. Wickedtruths: 3 Likes |
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