Inferno001:
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Bro I'm not saying he did wrong by spending within his budget... See ehn this Is a win win for him because party is over and he didn't exceed his budget now the second win will be to make her feel she's right and pet her into understanding your situation...him also getting angry won't make the home peaceful o...sometimes we need to stoop to conquer and making her feel she's right, he wins both ways

So when its birthday time and of course she ll nag. You also expect him to pet her again? Oga why start what you know is unrealistic and you cants finish?

gamapoy539:
She has a crush on one of your neighbours who might have been eating her work behind your back and probably the real father of the child. and she is mad at you cos you didn't appreciate him enough for a job well done. Use your brain; if your neighbours are all women, her reaction wouldn't be the same.
Better run a DNA test on that child ASAP.

Modified: To the angry inconsequential homo sapiens quoting me, have you all eaten today?

Come on Bro!!! Women generally don't want to know how money come in. They just want it spent. @op. You have no reason to believe @gamapoy's comments if you have never suspected your wife of infidelity. She never mentioned a particular neighbor, mind you.

Bross,,,, you be home breaker..uote author=gamapoy539 post=89401307]She has a crush on one of your neighbours who might have been eating her work behind your back and probably the real father of the child. and she is mad at you cos you didn't appreciate him enough for a job well done. Use your brain; if your neighbours are all women, her reaction wouldn't be the same.
Better run a DNA test on that child ASAP.

Modified: To the angry inconsequential homo sapiens quoting me, have you all eaten today?[/quote]

rhymesu28:
My people, I greet you all.

I am a married man with a child. We did our child's dedication few days ago online and my wife is angry that I should have spent more to entertain our neighbors after giving them soft drinks.

I have considered my pocket and sincerely with the present situation if I don't cut down my expenses it will be hard on us.If don't learn to ignore women in your life on certain things, they will lead your neck to a rope hanging on ceiling fan or where they are selling sniper one day. Na you still dey give am face on that matter nonsense

For almost two months now no salary. I have explained to her but she is not pleased with me.

How should I go about this matter please?

if you don't learn how to ignore the women in your life on certain matters then one day they will lead your neck to a rope tied to the ceiling fan or lead you to where they are selling sniper. Nonsense. Na you still dey give am face on that matter

Wickedtruths:


You are a very weak man and people must be ringing roughshod on you. Not everyone is destined to suffer that. He has absolutely nothing to apologise for. Is it wrong not to waste money? Let her do her worst. Apologise for not wasting money on mere celebration? Your advice is a foolish one.

No wonder you were complaining about men being an endangered specie. You are very weak with poor judgment.

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What rubbish is this one saying? I made a comment and you're not the OP...not everyone is destined to be aggressive with their approach...you're a strong man and I'm weak? OK you win..my thread on men being endangered has nothing to do with this in anyway but your Brain didn't tell you this...I am enjoying my marriage because I know when to be aggressive and when to be subtle...probably if you had sense you'll see where I said I'm happy he didn't exceed his budget..the advice was for him to make peace but yet again your aggressive strong man brain didn't see that part...won't respond to you again...

This is what a Nigerian woman means when she say she cant settle with a broke man whereas she herself isn't worth more than a pitbull. Come let me give you wizkid number so u call him and host your child dedication in the coca cola dome, Johannesburg S.A.

Inferno001:
My brother, at this moment the naming is over and you have spent what you can afford and nothing can change it..it is only natural for some women to want to show off and I won't blame her for that but here is the thing..sit her down and apologize not because you did wrong but because you want peace..promise her you'll celebrate the child's birthday better and she will draw the plan and you'll give her whatever will be needed to make it her taste after all the baby is yours also and if not for the period we're in you would have loved to do more...just say this for peace to reign and make her feel she is right..a happy good woman makes a happy home my brother...

Nonsense.

One rule you must follow in life is to never apologise if you do nothing wrong. If not, you'll be perceived as weak, more susceptible to negative treatments, and still expected to apologise infinitely. He who runs from a fight live to fight another day, so therefore, he who apologise for others bad behaviour will live to apologise another day.

If his wife wants to celebrate it big, she should do it, but its foolish to expect other person to fund a lifestyle you cannot give yourself, especially when it is clear that the the person cannot afford it, not because they do not want to do it.

Your wife is rooting for your downfall

Inferno001:
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What rubbish is this one saying? I made a comment and you're not the OP...not everyone is destined to be aggressive with their approach...you're a strong man and I'm weak? OK you win..my thread on men being endangered has nothing to do with this in anyway but your Brain didn't tell you this...I am enjoying my marriage because I know when to be aggressive and when to be subtle...probably if you had sense you'll see where I said I'm happy he didn't exceed his budget..the advice was for him to make peace but yet again your aggressive strong man brain didn't see that part...won't respond to you again...

You are not intelligent and this your post is a confirmation. You lack intellectual and emotional intelligence. You can't control your self and you lack commonsense. The other day, you opened a thread to cry and lament about women. Today, you are suggesting he begs a woman with unreasonable expectations.

Being a man is not only by having male organs, it is by being able to lead and make decisions that save the home. You are an effeminate lily-livered man and I suggest you start attending women meeting.

ignore her.Wisdom make pipu wise.@ Op,plan ur life/saving well during the rain season.Save to build ur own house/invest in property.Nobody knw wen he’ll get sack:baba landlord to com and knock ur door at 2.15 AM.Dis type of reckless spending make one regret later life.Be wise

rhymesu28:
My people, I greet you all.

I am a married man with a child. We did our child's dedication few days ago online and my wife is angry that I should have spent more to entertain our neighbors after giving them soft drinks.

I have considered my pocket and sincerely with the present situation if I don't cut down my expenses it will be hard on us.

For almost two months now no salary. I have explained to her but she is not pleased with me.

How should I go about this matter please?

Divorce her then, or what more did you want to hear?

Inferno001:
My brother, at this moment the naming is over and you have spent what you can afford and nothing can change it..it is only natural for some women to want to show off and I won't blame her for that but here is the thing..sit her down and apologize not because you did wrong but because you want peace..promise her you'll celebrate the child's birthday better and she will draw the plan and you'll give her whatever will be needed to make it her taste after all the baby is yours also and if not for the period we're in you would have loved to do more...just say this for peace to reign and make her feel she is right..a happy good woman makes a happy home my brother...

...modify...
For everyone quoting and insulting me calling me a weak man because I asked OP to be subtle and make peace, I'll ignore you!!!

Wise man

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ignore her for now.

Wickedtruths:


You are not intelligent and this your post is a confirmation. You lack intellectual and emotional intelligence. You can't control your self and you lack commonsense. The other day, you opened a thread to cry and lament about women. Today, you are suggesting he begs a woman with unreasonable expectations.

Being a man is not only by having male organs, it is by being able to lead and make decisions that save the home. You are an effeminate lily-livered man and I suggest you start attending women meeting.

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You're right.. Area commander!!! Strong man!! I agree with all you have called me...its a faceless forum anyways so enjoy...next time look in the mirror and tell yourself I'm not the reason for your anger so please advice the OP based on your masculinity and wisdom and leave a lily-livered man alone...cheers

If this story is real, your wife is not wise. On top these hard times.

rhymesu28:
My people, I greet you all.

I am a married man with a child. We did our child's dedication few days ago online and my wife is angry that I should have spent more to entertain our neighbors after giving them soft drinks.

I have considered my pocket and sincerely with the present situation if I don't cut down my expenses it will be hard on us.

For almost two months now no salary. I have explained to her but she is not pleased with me.

How should I go about this matter please?

Tell her to bring the money to entertain the neighbors

I did my child dedication yesterday 10th of may I didn't entertain anybody as my neighbours didn't know I did anything since we had to go to my mother's in-law church in Iyana Ipaja... It's not everytime we'll please people,people eat n drank during the wedding it's our first child yes but person no go kill himself

Inferno001:
My brother, at this moment the naming is over and you have spent what you can afford and nothing can change it..it is only natural for some women to want to show off and I won't blame her for that but here is the thing..sit her down and apologize not because you did wrong but because you want peace..promise her you'll celebrate the child's birthday better and she will draw the plan and you'll give her whatever will be needed to make it her taste after all the baby is yours also and if not for the period we're in you would have loved to do more...just say this for peace to reign and make her feel she is right..a happy good woman makes a happy home my brother...

...modify...
For everyone quoting and insulting me calling me a weak man because I asked OP to be subtle and make peace, I'll ignore you!!!

useless men...is the wife handicap?

gamapoy539:
She has a crush on one of your neighbours who might have been eating her work behind your back and probably the real father of the child. and she is mad at you cos you didn't appreciate him enough for a job well done. Use your brain; if your neighbours are all women, her reaction wouldn't be the same.
Better run a DNA test on that child ASAP.

Modified: To the angry inconsequential homo sapiens quoting me, have you all eaten today?

ypu get food for us? Abi you no get money

Your wife is funny I had my baby last week,we didn't even share biscuit when we dedicated him few days ago, una still share coke


For this Coro season?

Stand your ground. You will have many of this battles. Start preparing for 1st birthday spending quarrels. The Lord is with you. May he fatten your pockets

This website's name should be changed from Nairaland to MarriageCounselling.

rhymesu28:
My people, I greet you all.

I am a married man with a child. We did our child's dedication few days ago online and my wife is angry that I should have spent more to entertain our neighbors after giving them soft drinks.

I have considered my pocket and sincerely with the present situation if I don't cut down my expenses it will be hard on us.

For almost two months now no salary. I have explained to her but she is not pleased with me.

How should I go about this matter please?

go about which matter abi na she dey control you!

It's either she doesn't have sense or she is trying to do pass another woman.




Tell her to use her money to feed the neighbours.

This is one reason i dislike Nigerian women especially the ones that feel entiled too much. I cant please any woman in this life. If u want to Bleep my best friend cos he is rich I will arrange him for u. Pleasing any woman in this country is waste of time and money.

rhymesu28:
My people, I greet you all.

I am a married man with a child. We did our child's dedication few days ago online and my wife is angry that I should have spent more to entertain our neighbors after giving them soft drinks.

I have considered my pocket and sincerely with the present situation if I don't cut down my expenses it will be hard on us.

For almost two months now no salary. I have explained to her but she is not pleased with me.

How should I go about this matter please?

rhymesu28:
My people, I greet you all.

I am a married man with a child. We did our child's dedication few days ago online and my wife is angry that I should have spent more to entertain our neighbors after giving them soft drinks.

I have considered my pocket and sincerely with the present situation if I don't cut down my expenses it will be hard on us.

For almost two months now no salary. I have explained to her but she is not pleased with me.

How should I go about this matter please?

My dear brother my advice for you is to be stern with your resources especially at this trying time. Remember if you spend all your resources on unnecessary things it is still thesame wife that will complain when there is nothing left, I am encouraging you as a family man with three beautiful children stamp your feet on the ground and never listen your wife to spend unnecessarily. GOD bless you.

[/b]NA BRAIN GO KILL YOU FOR ME

Bola146:
Tell her to use her own money too, why is she angry if she couldn't provide to celebrate her own baby Just be watching her

Your head get oil

Women and nasty character,, If there husband spend na problem if he no spend na d same problem,,, men Wenti we go do?

Tell her to support you na... If she can't support then she should relax. Some women are crazy will only want the man to be spending but can't support in anything.