Opus85:
Get a developer, reach an agreement with him and enjoy una life. All those mini flats developers build, landlord do have share in them. They might give you one flat or two, and you will still collect money for the long lease join.

we give them 1.5 million with 2 room and parlor self contain and use the said property for 18-20 yrs

Better go and get the money, I don't mind

if the house is located in Lagos or Abuja you can sell half plot but any other place jst sell everything, once u are dead u are dead and till eternity u won't wake ,even if ur generation DNT sell it in sure ur kids generation will sell it, that's why I like cemetery idea.

finaleeec:
From a family of 4 Children, as the head Child, 2 boys and one Girl .There was frequent demand for money from my Junior ones who are yet to find their bearing.

Today Bros Anything for me, tommorow Bros am broke etc. I decided to come up with an Idea to sample their opinion on what to do about our Dads One plot which has four rooms. Each person collects the room rent. As The house Maintenance is only done by me, others just come collect money and leave.

I organised a meeting asking what should be done about the House. One Male Suggested shop should be builts and be Rented out, the other male suggested a Developer should be called upon. The girl suggested that the whole land should be sold, same land her father is Buried.

After further delibrations the other two males agreed half plot should be Sold then part of the money realised be used to develop the remaining half plot on which there father is Buried while the remaining money is shared equally among the four Children.

The Girl Finnaly stands on her Decision that the whole plot of land be sold and money should be shared and her father's grave be removed.
What sort of response should one give to such a Child?

can u all go for DNA test am sure that girl is not your blood



now back to the matter get a developer put more room and shop in the place with time everybody going to smile

ask our ikewere brothers

Richy4:
Her father's grave removed? How does she proposed to do that? Does she have another place to relocate the bones?... What kind of PDP share the money is this?

Cemetery is d best place for d dead

Solatium:




Poverty of the mind superceeds that of material things.
So until when they sold what the Father laboured for before they can break even abi?
People like you are ready to sell your father's grave because of capitalist orientation,some things are of intrinsic value,they can't be sold for any amount.
Yes,customs, tradition and what have you were the things that made us,it even stands us out from the whole lot.
Did I forget to tell you that your capitalist orientation is also some people's culture?

Yes, I will sell my fathers grave , sell that of my grand father, sell that of my great great great grand father. So, anything again? The dead is dead , let the dead face the life beyound. I will never be a liability to the dead in as much as the death is natural.Even the so called land mY dad brought, who knws if it was even a graveyard before? Besides, "My father," the one I know, will be so proud of me if I used the money judiciously to help my younger once and lift the family out of poverty instead of tarnishing the family's image. So, any other thing to say? Africans!! Africans!! Make God help una
I once had a friend who said he could not sell the land he buried his premature son, till today the land his still dhr, no money to develop it, no work and nothing doing. Shmmm

In the City of Ado-Ekiti, many ancient houses were sold, many more had to give way for road dualisation and corpses of many years were relocated to a another land.

But, for a lady to give such opinion, I pity the man that will marry her or her husband if she is married.

gunners160:
Yes, I will sell my fathers grave , sell that of my grand father, sell that of my great great great grand father. So, anything again? The dead is dead , let the dead face the life beyound. I will never be a liability to the dead in as much as the death is natural.Even the so called land mY dad brought, who knws if it was even a graveyard before? Besides, "My father," the one I know, will be so proud of me if I used the money judiciously to help my younger once and lift the family out of poverty instead of tarnishing the family's image. So, any other thing to say? Africans!! Africans!! Make God help una
I once had a friend who said he could not sell the land he buried his premature son, till today the land his still dhr, no money to develop it, no work and nothing doing. Shmmm

The fact you can sell your father's grave and your father will still be smiling to you in heaven does not mean all othe should tow your line.
Your orientation is differ from those of us who hold those things in high esteem.
Let me burst your bubble, ₦5million between 4 siblings can NEVER LIFT ANYONE OF THEM OUT OF POVERTY those who are agitating for the land to be sold will be back asking for handout in Months.
Let them go out there to make their own money and leave something behind for their own children.

finaleeec:
From a family of 4 Children, as the head Child, 2 boys and one Girl .There was frequent demand for money from my Junior ones who are yet to find their bearing.

Today Bros Anything for me, tommorow Bros am broke etc. I decided to come up with an Idea to sample their opinion on what to do about our Dads One plot which has four rooms. Each person collects the room rent. As The house Maintenance is only done by me, others just come collect money and leave.

I organised a meeting asking what should be done about the House. One Male Suggested shop should be builts and be Rented out, the other male suggested a Developer should be called upon. The girl suggested that the whole land should be sold, same land her father is Buried.

After further delibrations the other two males agreed half plot should be Sold then part of the money realised be used to develop the remaining half plot on which there father is Buried while the remaining money is shared equally among the four Children.

The Girl Finnaly stands on her Decision that the whole plot of land be sold and money should be shared and her father's grave be removed.
What sort of response should one give to such a Child?

That girl is just talking like a woman she is. If you do mistake sell your parents grave, mockery will be on your head as the first son. You may receive mockery from your entire village such that even your own children may come and join in the mockery while your sister will marry and be living with her family somewhere else

That girl is just talking like a woman she is. If you do mistake sell your parents grave, mockery will be on your head as the first son. You may receive mockery from your entire village such that even your own children may come and join in the mockery while your sister will marry and be living with her family somewhere else

Bro,she is right and wrong at the same time.firstly how much can the land cost in that area?if the land value is high enough to share for them to use the proceed to setup a business then i we advice you to sell so that they can start a business and ur neck we be free.concernin grave you can relocated it.but if the proceed is small dont sell.that is what so many people are doing now.dont give ur house to developer you are on your own buy the time ur contract expire and transfer ownership to you,you we begin to spend money again for maintenance but selling it off

[because you guys are financially ok.in a situation where you are poor and the property worth is now 50m we you we take 10m are you not going to sell it?quote author=techmo post=94627036]God forbid bad thing my great grandfather and other family still conveniently seat on our land even when lands around is running into millions because an international market complex is close by and the states airport is few mins drive away


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Don't follow what she said or else all of you will regret it.. I have someone like her always complaining of about the family house that she's the one paying nepa bills, water bills she will go toto the most seniors house in the family to complain the mama was tired OK let's sell the house they will still have one left sha so gbam!!! she sold the house and share the money all were happy. ok before that year ended none bought land or even invested they ran to Lagos but laces they're all broke naw paying rent so painful paying rent these are people that have their family house in heart of Lagos Island Naw their hope is on the 2nd house is with the developer. the problem is that most of them are ladies in that family everything sell sell sell and sell they're all paying rent naw in regrets. don't listen to her o

That's why I don't like the idea of burying the dead at home. What's the purpose of cementary. All states must make laws against that.

If the land is in a choice area, develop the land. If the money realize from half plot can develop the other half plot, go for that option. That grave might still be a clog in the wheel if you want to sell half. If it is, exhume it and relocate. Rental property is a great asset, tell your sister to think more about the future.

finaleeec:
From a family of 4 Children, as the head Child, 2 boys and one Girl .There was frequent demand for money from my Junior ones who are yet to find their bearing.

Today Bros Anything for me, tommorow Bros am broke etc. I decided to come up with an Idea to sample their opinion on what to do about our Dads One plot which has four rooms. Each person collects the room rent. As The house Maintenance is only done by me, others just come collect money and leave.

I organised a meeting asking what should be done about the House. One Male Suggested shop should be builts and be Rented out, the other male suggested a Developer should be called upon. The girl suggested that the whole land should be sold, same land her father is Buried.

After further delibrations the other two males agreed half plot should be Sold then part of the money realised be used to develop the remaining half plot on which there father is Buried while the remaining money is shared equally among the four Children.

The Girl Finnaly stands on her Decision that the whole plot of land be sold and money should be shared and her father's grave be removed.
What sort of response should one give to such a Child?

The way young girls think sef...
I'll personally suggest you don't even sell any part, this land will appreciate enormously in few years time.

Davash222:

You insulted me on that other thread until you realized you were wrong, yet you didn’t even apologized.

awwn...mabinu. hop i'm forgiven nw. lolz

finaleeec:
. Thanks so much for your input .The thing is that Half out of the one plot is intended to be sold while the remaining half where Late father is Buried will be Left .It's two wives the Deceased had ,First wife had 3 boys,Second wife had one Girl .Both wives left the deceased before His Death .The 3 Boys agreed half should be Sold , Remaining Half with there father's Grave be left while the only Girl from the second wife insisted that The whole Plot should be sold which includes the late man's Grave .The boys are mad and contemplating if truly the Girl is true Daughter of there father ,They insisted only a Bastard Child would Offer for sale the Grave of His Dad.They are even Suggesting a DNA Should be Carried out ,but the Possibility of that I don't know since there Father is already in the Grave about 15 years ago .

oohh....I now get. Seems that girl is feeling insecure and does not trust you guys....she feels once she gets married, she might not have any portion again so she wants to grab what belongs to her now before it's too let.

finaleeec:
From a family of 4 Children, as the head Child, 2 boys and one Girl .There was frequent demand for money from my Junior ones who are yet to find their bearing.

Today Bros Anything for me, tommorow Bros am broke etc. I decided to come up with an Idea to sample their opinion on what to do about our Dads One plot which has four rooms. Each person collects the room rent. As The house Maintenance is only done by me, others just come collect money and leave.

I organised a meeting asking what should be done about the House. One Male Suggested shop should be builts and be Rented out, the other male suggested a Developer should be called upon. The girl suggested that the whole land should be sold, same land her father is Buried.

After further delibrations the other two males agreed half plot should be Sold then part of the money realised be used to develop the remaining half plot on which there father is Buried while the remaining money is shared equally among the four Children.

The Girl Finnaly stands on her Decision that the whole plot of land be sold and money should be shared and her father's grave be removed.
What sort of response should one give to such a Child?

Don't listen to that girl, I have not seen where a land that houses the original late father who is buried on same land is sold, it's a complete taboo in igbo land, some things are sacred you don't even discuss land issues with women let alone girls having say on matters that involve lands. Matters of land whether you know it or not can kill if not properly followed with the normal culture of the land.

Vanzcharles:


Bro sometimes ehn...u need to be calming down. If he had wanted to display his hatred like you said or whatever you call it. The sister wouldn't have been involved in the meeting despite the fact she's the last child and not from the same mother. Any suppressed hatted would have erupted now the father was dead.

Again, read up carefully he never indicated them from different mothers in the first post. Calm down and read. It was when someone asked, he took time to explain.
The question there is, what kind of response should be given to such a child? Let her know that you can't sell the land that is what he is driving at.

Stop inciting hate, that's bad.
Sometimes you seek advice outside the caucus of your domain. Its better to search for such on the faceless forum with some minced words. Nobody is an island of Knowledge. You can't prover one, then dont talk.

Bro/sir... I'm not dumb, I don't have issues with the op first write up. Going through his subsequence replies I figured out a lot of things.

About hatred, you don't expect him to publicly declare that's why he's using a subtly way to do so.

She's the only child from his father 2nd wife and her present in the meeting concerning their fathers property isn't negotiable, she's the 2nd family representative.

Wether what she said is wrong or write... You don't bring family affairs to public domain to seek strangers validations and sense of "rights"

Baybii:
It hurts to think of my parents as dead and buried.

If I were the one, I would do it. I can't stand to go to the village anymore because I'll have to see my sister's grave, so imagine how much more pain I would be in to continually have to see the land where my parents were buried. I will definitely sell the parcel of land, and buy another in a place far far away.



I know other folks might have different opinions, but to each his own.

What if the parent didn't have any property ?

seems the females are afraid of loosing their property right.. if u sell half, money go still walks...

instead develop the whole plot & share

To relocate your dead father be ready to do another burial in his honor, else you are in for something.

GreaterFuture:

You're right I've edited the comment

Okay

Where for rivers state be this?

Op...Why are you even considering what your sister said?
Take a decision with your brothers and act

We have too many coffins littered around our towns in the name of "papa is buried in our compound", and in some cases "papa is buried under the parlor". One of my uncles said to me: "nobody wants to visit this place because we have like 4 graves... who can sleep with all those ghosts around"? And it's true. If not that the graves house my relatives, me too would fear to even enter my ancestral compound.

I support the girl. Move the bones to a dedicated graveyard, and pay your respects in that place. Lagos and Abuja have such, and many cities are moving in that direction.

To those objecting, let me ask you this: where are all the graveyards of all your ancestors? Nobody in my family knows were our papa's papa's papa's papa (great-great-grandparents) were buried, meaning, over time, it don't matter.

Everybody has 16 great-great-grandparents... I doubt anybody can point and say, yep, these are where 16 of them are buried...

Reading from first page.

Many intelligent individuals have written their point of views. Please appreciate them all.

Coalition of ideas may confuse you if you don't process the ideas in an intelligent way.

1.Extract Opinions.

2. Every decision you take has to be according to the Law. Everyone is equal in an egalitarian society. You and your siblings have equal rights to your parents' property.

3. You came online with your situation because you know there is a challenge that needs to be sorted out.
Basically, you used the word " have not get their bearing" innocently it means they are not doing well. But they need to be "doing well" and you will need to help them to be "doing well".

3a. What is your plan to help them to improve their earning power?

4. Info provided is not enough for 100% analysis.
Let's say the property worth 50million naira.
And we don't want to assume that it is facing a major road.
Analysis: This is Nigeria. Anything bcan change in a matter of seconds. For example, "let's pretend government came to demolish the place as usual and claim their road construction reasons. If you find yourself in such situation, What's you gonna do? GOD forbid'

If one loses such, ones reflexion would be if the place was sold and everyone relocated to Canada, life probably get better for ever if you all got there and became Nurses and Doctors, e.t.x. instead of losing everything.

First make plans what exactly will need to be done to make lives better for your siblings. Time of our life is not to be spent in wants and unhappiness.

Israel Adesanya a kick boxers for example. His father relocated to New Zealand.
Synergy.

Call everyone to make plans together. No mistakes permitted.

N.B
For fear of Eldest ("OloriEbi" coverting everything, things can get dangerous.
In a delicate family situation, joint ownership of property might lead to assassination in Nigeria.
GOD forbid.

It does not ends there.

She's not serious, you can sell part of the plot of land but not the plot your dad is buried on, or better still, develop the plot of land by building shops to yield yearly income.

finaleeec:
From a family of 4 Children, as the head Child, 2 boys and one Girl .There was frequent demand for money from my Junior ones who are yet to find their bearing.

Today Bros Anything for me, tommorow Bros am broke etc. I decided to come up with an Idea to sample their opinion on what to do about our Dads One plot which has four rooms. Each person collects the room rent. As The house Maintenance is only done by me, others just come collect money and leave.

I organised a meeting asking what should be done about the House. One Male Suggested shop should be builts and be Rented out, the other male suggested a Developer should be called upon. The girl suggested that the whole land should be sold, same land her father is Buried.

After further delibrations the other two males agreed half plot should be Sold then part of the money realised be used to develop the remaining half plot on which there father is Buried while the remaining money is shared equally among the four Children.

The Girl Finnaly stands on her Decision that the whole plot of land be sold and money should be shared and her father's grave be removed.
What sort of response should one give to such a Child?

The truth is, the dead knows nothing at all. What of people burnt to death, or eaten my fish in the sea? That grave is not important.

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Each with 12 tyres

Some people advising that the children move the grave and sell everything don't know what the sweat, pain and prayers session the parents have gone through before they could afford to buy the land talk more of erecting anything. Now, a daughter is advising to sell it off out of pure greed, that is considered highly unwise. My kinsmen sold off their father property worth millions and shared fast cash and yet today they are still broke and hustling.


Let them develop. That's all.