Assalam alaykum: The Prophet (SAW)said: Exchange gifts for they increase affection......do not discourage gifts Deols if it's the halal way

deols:

haha its okay to feel ds way. If not, dr will be no need going after her. But remember you heard someone say somfn about you and not like she told u of her interest. She just may not be ready to showcase her feelings yet. Give her some time.

And you need to give her some space too. She needs time to think about what you are to her, exactly what she wants frrom d relationship, etc. Matter of factly, and ds is a secrete am sharing wv u, many ladies dont like clingy men and dr's an adage, absence makes the heart grow fonder. So, give her a reason to think, Why isnt he calling? Is he having a change of mind?.

And about her having other people. She probably has them. But no other person can be you. When she sees the good in you, they will matter no more.

And like Olawalebabs said, pray well and hard. But unlike him, I wldnt advise you start sending gifts to her. They are a waste if she doesnt feel that way.

I hope this is helpful

UmAnas: Can we all try checking out the muslim family series book 1 precisely if we must chose the right way? Lets not make this unislamically funky (we sure can get playful the halal way) and forget about the rulings for selecting a spouse in the Qur'an and Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed (SAW)!

You can post similar online content here. You have a valid point that I also put in consideration.

UmAnas: Can we all try checking out the muslim family series book 1 precisely if we must chose the right way? Lets not make this unislamically funky (we sure can get playful the halal way) and forget about the rulings for selecting a spouse in the Qur'an and Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed (SAW)!

UmAnas: Can we all try checking out the muslim family series book 1 precisely if we must chose the right way? Lets not make this unislamically funky (we sure can get playful the halal way) and forget about the rulings for selecting a spouse in the Qur'an and Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed (SAW)!

like He said,it will be nice if u help us wt d content of d book.while some don't have access to d book,some of us r too lazy or busy to read d book.
b.t.w. Umanas,is dt a kunya or u are really an umu.?anyways,i think u'll be a good check for us when we tend to derail.
On gift issue,d hadith is valid but does it apply in dis case?some gift can be embarrasing.if u must gv, i believe u shld know what to giv,who to give and when to give.

bntY:
like He said,it will be nice if u help us wt d content of d book.while some don't have access to d book,some of us r too lazy or busy to read d book.
b.t.w. Umanas,is dt a kunya or u are really an umu.?anyways,i think u'll be a good check for us when we tend to derail.
On gift issue,d hadith is valid but does it apply in dis case?some gift can be embarrasing.if u must gv, i believe u shld know what to giv,who to give and when to give.

Are you single or married? You speak like you are single, I feel you are married- that is why I ask.

giving gifts is not haram nor is it mandatory in Islam.

When I told him not to give d gift, it is in a particular context, of him trying to woo a woman, someone not yet giving him a face. So, if u thnk it wld make her like him more, say it and in that line, an argument may ensue. But this hadith is sure not applicable.

maclatunji:

Are you single or married? You speak like you are single, I feel you are married- that is why I ask.

r u interested?

and about d book, its a good idea. I av read it too, long time ago though and would appreciate a reminder.

shrek4:


All I can say is... Thank You!!!!
So much appreciated... Ur d best... Cheers!

u'r welcome bro. Am glad u find it helpful. Remember to post situation reports

deols: and about d book, its a good idea. I av read it too, long time ago though and would appreciate a reminder.

Easy hotstuff.

olawalebabs: ^when i call her amirah, do you think i just say it for saying sake. There are some quality i see in her. As per the 'gift' i said, they serve as a bait to let the girl know how you feel about her. This may be flower, roses. Just make sure what you are sending will be meaningful and valuable. She'll surely appreciate it.

hehe..u and ds Amirah thing ehn? Are those flowers for a Nigerian? Someone better not try that wv me.

Dyt:

r u interested?

I have this motto: don't assume when you can ask- I like to be up-to-date and correct when it comes to information. I asked the question not really for interest sake. I am drifting back into the mode I was in before this thread was created- Laissez Faire or carefree. I have bigger priorities right now- any lady interested may signify though.

As-slamu alaykum to all

UmAnas: Can we all try checking out the muslim family series book 1 precisely if we must chose the right way? Lets not make this unislamically funky (we sure can get playful the halal way) and forget about the rulings for selecting a spouse in the Qur'an and Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed (SAW)!

But, what rules should we expect to find on choosing a spouse.

First, Allah makes mention of the people whom we cannot marry in the Qur'an and that shows every other person, apart from those is legitimate.

And then the ahadith explain the conditions for marriage. The waliyy, sadaaqi, acceptance, and witnesses.

Apart from these, I think every other thing are some form of advice and not actually rules. I c people making the mistake of assuming d four criteria in choosing a wife are beauty, wealth, nobility and religion because an hadith makes mention of them.

In essence, am saying, dr's a need to differentiate d rules from the other things only enjoined.

miftaudeen: As-slamu alaykum to all

Wa Alaykum Salam.

deols

deols:

hehe..u and ds Amirah thing ehn? Are those flowers for a Nigerian? Someone better not try that wv me.

you mean you won't appreciate 'flowers'. God, wait till i bring mine. Lol

millinmax2:

Very Interested in you.But can u put ur real pics here ?

miftaudeen: As-slamu alaykum to all

wa alaykum salam. Welcome

eniafelamo,

olawalebabs: you mean you won't appreciate 'flowers'. God, wait till i bring mine. Lol

hehe

toba: deols

ki lo sele

deols

deols:




ki lo sele

I miss you greatly

Dyt

bhusayor

maclatunji:

Are you single or married? You speak like you are single, I feel you are married- that is why I ask.

I'm single.you FEEL I am married? that's funny.

bntY:

I'm single.you FEEL I am married? that's funny.

U'r single and I have many single brothers o. Where d'u live. Lagos, Ibadan, kwara??

deols:

U'r single and I have many single brothers o. Where d'u live. Lagos, Ibadan, kwara??

match maker

@Deols .... Things av taken another turn oo... We are back to the silence game... I don't want to bother her, just gonna relax all efforts for now and let her take d lead and imma follow. To be honest, av lost 50% interest in dis jare.. Whatever happens, I will let you know... But for now, am still single!

Hi everyone, how was ur day?? Cheetrs!

bntY:

I'm single.you FEEL I am married? that's funny.

The feeling must have been triggered by a post where I believe you were talking about a baby. No problem, May Allah provide you with a husband that will complement and make you happy, the same prayer is for everybody else too a good wife for we the men.

bhusayor 3 days to go

Dyt:

r u interested?

yes

@mac,thanks for d prayer.I appreciate
@deols,I am stuck in dt city wr dy iron iron(literaly) for now.