The poster made a very important observation in his first paragraph.
The first five people responded exactly the way he claimed most nairaland replies are.
Some have even insulted him which he has also claimed is common on nairaland.

word

Lax75:

@ OP;

And by their "coins" yee shall know them (broke @ss broads).

This is what happens when you deal with broke @ss broads. Not sure how the OP ends up running into these kind of broads, but as for me, I weed them out upon encounter. It's not hard to spot a broke @ss broad. It's no rocket science. Within a 30-minute conversation you can always ask the right questions to weed them out and make the decision whether you want to (1) Continue dealing with them and become an ATM machine or (2) Keep it moving and find you a REAL woman.

I've never met a Naija chick that asked for blackberry money or money for weave.because I don't roll in the midst of broke losers.[/b] [b]All the Naija chicks I know, have dignity,I don't deny that these broke @ss broads are many in Naij. I just haven't dealt with them because I refuse to let my stock plumet by dealing with broke @ss broads.

@OP, Bros, my advice to you is do a better of "interviewing" your potential dates. Weed out the broke @ss broads, and stick to the REAL women who are making things happen. Not unless you can't handle an independent woman.

I just Love that.

Yesterday we had an office chat comparing women of various nationalities and a lady asked how about the nigerian ladies. Apart from nollywood nobody knew a thing but lucky me av been on nl for a while.
Want to hear what I said? The nigerian guys hate their women cz they view them as golddiggers and very aggressive but guess what,they will still come home,marry the same ladies and live a blissfull life. its all talk so dont worry abt foreigners and their thoughts cz we know they love you enough to marry you. chill.

chika98:

Unfortunately poster the romance forum is never the place to have intelligent conversations.

seedord247:

means you are one of the unintelligent people. . .

@sealord, u have earned my respect for this statement of yours.

@chika98, u should even be happy that this topic is worth discussing with the ongoing crises of boko haram. I would have expected a forum specific guy like you to discuss more important topics that has to do with the nations security but of all topics to choose is that of a guy's encounter with little girls who frequent Ozone. Is this topic not too timid for your distinguished self. please lets hear word abeg.

On trial here is society, of which the family is ground and, our implicit complicity in its near demise. If anything that is worth observing, it is the uninhibited urge for primitive accumulation and the coarse interplay that works its way in the quest for the material. It may not be completely divorced from the morass and inner battles that count for today’s reality. On the one hand is a new world order-capitalism, individualism, feminism and its rabid compliment, misogynism, etc., - whose comprehension remains largely fickle and the other, is screaming silence from tested tradition. It’s a world of living contradictions, both in the messages preached and the reality on the battle ground.

The present scape is tilted towards the material, as largely vented in the humor and space that is given to winners of the grabbing game. The male often sets the direction in the larger space with actions that set the female, as always, into the overdrive with modulated versions of the former. Hence what is found as a conquest for the male, in the nature of trophies and their accumulation, evokes reactionary imitation in a domain they evidently wheel- amorous associations or “relationships”.

The task here is to rescue the family, which sadly both genders have imperiled, from the avarice that has characterized the definition of success and attainment. The restoration of in-house community, with self-check on the origins of possessions and, the re-invention of deadened moral inhibitions and self-worth, are sure routes to salvaging, if any, what remains of society, else, we unwittingly may have signed off an age and clime.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-672530.0.html

All these stories, are they real? Yes we know some girls behave funny, but hearing these stories really tires someone. Where in the world do you guys meet these girls? Some don't even have contrary stories to tell-only having met this kind. When will we only hear good, commendable stories about women? Don't we have role model examples anymore or are the men so blind to see them?

@agnesefe 'pheeeeew'

most of u guys just proved d poster's point:nairaland is filled with people who are good at trading insults.it's really a pity.

Whether he said crap or not, i like the way the op stated his points and organised his post.

And the first paragraph, about people insulting and cursing on nairaland, that is soo soo true, but nobody commented on that, everyone just moved to the naija babes side and started blasting the dude.

That being said, i have nothing to say (or choose not to say anything) about the naija babes part,

H e l l o! He addressed one issue in just one paragraph and the other in 6 paragraphs I think;can't go bk to confirm. Even the title suggests the post is about Naija babes. .

bhusayor:

H e l l o! He addressed one issue in just one paragraph and the other in 6 paragraphs I think;can't go bk to confirm. Even the title suggests the post is about Naija babes. .

because he had stories about the other topic, ,

come to think of it sef, ladies that are criticizing the dude for generalizing unreasonably, isn't that what they do when they say things like "All men are the same"?? And i hear that A LOT!! So don't point fingers at guys for doing this (even though its wrong), women say stuff like that too,

As long as people won't see problems in both parts, communication will be tough then,
let's try to debate quitely about what you both dislike and then conclude, but just blaming one part without taking any distance and balance messages would lead to frustration then insults

I think we're adults and mature, we can handle our misunderstandings as such, I'm sure Nigerian males do cherish their sisters, they want them to be perfect, but first they will never be and secondly if you think they have to improve their behaviour you shuould talk to them politely as responsible, you'll see the difference

Always cracks me up when some females rush into threads like this to protest that: "not all Nigerian girls are like that", "there are many independent women", "don't generalize", and all such yabadabadoo nonsense. The few that aren't 'like that' would probably be honest enough to admit that MOST are indeed like that; only guilty trollops rush to defend the elusive 'few' when the subject matter pertains to the tainted majority.

@ Poster, your experience with naija babes is by no means unique to you. It is definitely the norm, and by all means is largely generalizable. As long as a phenomenon is prevalent enough to assume the status of a 'rule', then one can, in fact, SHOULD generalize in spite of the very few exceptions to the rule that exist. As they say, majority wins the vote. Even the so-called working class girls are not exempted, in case you were wondering.

But then there is no point whining about most naija girls' habitual commoditization/commercialization of their punanas. The wiser thing to do (for the majority that 'deserve' it) is to try and get maximum value for the money you spend on them by forking them ruthlessly and treating them like the commodities they are. No strings attached, and certainly no emotions.

good morning pro, the same pro01 when some guys say " Nigerian females are like this or like that", just asking you a question:

When a your sister is complaning about infidelity Nigerian male, what do you think? if you're faithful would you like some people make generalisation to talk about a community? I wouldn't agree with that because I know a lot who are different, my opinion is talking brutally like this might be worse for communication and again let's try to select educated, and simple women, because some guys maight prefer the "fashion", "sophisticated" women to simple and natural ones, if I'm wrong please explain me and I will remove my comment
We can not have all in life, life is about choices

pro01:

Always cracks me up when some females rush into threads like this to protest that: "not all Nigerian girls are like that", "there are many independent women", "don't generalize", and all such yabadabadoo nonsense. The few that aren't 'like that' would probably be honest enough to admit that MOST are indeed like that; only guilty trollops rush to defend the elusive 'few' when the subject matter pertains to the tainted majority.

@ Poster, your experience with naija babes is by no means unique to you. It is definitely the norm, and by all means is largely generalizable. As long as a phenomenon is prevalent enough to assume the status of a 'rule', then one can, in fact, SHOULD generalize in spite of the very few exceptions to the rule that exist. As they say, majority wins the vote. Even the so-called working class girls are not exempted, in case you were wondering.

But then there is no point whining about most naija girls' habitual commoditization/commercialization of their punanas. The wiser thing to do (for the majority that 'deserve' it) is to try and get maximum value for the money you spend on them by forking them ruthlessly and treating them like the commodities they are. No strings attached, and certainly no emotions.

u sound hurt man,

Where is Mrs. chima

girls want 2 live bigger than their means @ the expense of men, but really there`s poverty in Naija ok. So guys U gotta be a step ahead of them, Spend bigggg, wisely n get what U want

na man u b,sharttaguy,any girl wey no wan behave eh?d dooor dey open shekena bar wahala.

pendo89:

I just Love that.

Yesterday we had an office chat comparing women of various nationalities and a lady asked how about the nigerian ladies. Apart from nollywood nobody knew a thing but lucky me av been on nl for a while.
Want to hear what I said? The nigerian guys hate their women cz they view them as golddiggers and very aggressive but guess what,they will still come home,marry the same ladies and live a blissfull life. its all talk so dont worry abt foreigners and their thoughts cz we know they love you enough to marry you. chill.

Pendo Cup-cake,

Whatup with thee?

I've been a mess since you left me for that Cowleg! This is not good for this our lovechild business.

Come back to me

agnesefe:

On trial here is society, of which the family is ground and, our implicit complicity in its near demise. If anything that is worth observing, it is the uninhibited urge for primitive accumulation and the coarse interplay that works its way in the quest for the material. It may not be completely divorced from the morass and inner battles that count for today’s reality. On the one hand is a new world order-capitalism, individualism, feminism and its rabid compliment, misogynism, etc., - whose comprehension remains largely fickle and the other, is screaming silence from tested tradition. It’s a world of living contradictions, both in the messages preached and the reality on the battle ground.

The present scape is tilted towards the material, as largely vented in the humor and space that is given to winners of the grabbing game. The male often sets the direction in the larger space with actions that set the female, as always, into the overdrive with modulated versions of the former. Hence what is found as a conquest for the male, in the nature of trophies and their accumulation, evokes reactionary imitation in a domain they evidently wheel- amorous associations or “relationships”.

The task here is to rescue the family, which sadly both genders have imperiled, from the avarice that has characterized the definition of success and attainment. The restoration of in-house community, with self-check on the origins of possessions and, the re-invention of deadened moral inhibitions and self-worth, are sure routes to salvaging, if any, what remains of society, else, we unwittingly may have signed off an age and clime.

Confam! i agree wit u bros

Quote from: moremi2008 on Today at 04:34:01 AM
The OP went shopping in the pigsty and is shocked his purchase turned out dirty! You think club girls are interested in you because you are handsome?! The kind of Nigerian girls you're looking for rarely ever go to clubs, especially not by themselves. Any Naija man from a good background/home will know that you don't go to certain places to find girlfriends! The girls I hang-out with when I go home are either friends of friends or friends of my cousins. They are usually from good homes and lack nothing. When I go out and pay, it's by choice. They would NEVER demand anything from me. You're looking for girls in the wrong places bros! Don't come here crying when those girls end up milking you dry!

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It seems most people here are like trying to say the Poster deserved what he's got. Some are criticising him for coming out to express his experience and opinion about Nigerian women which we all know that is true. Some says he looked for women at the wrong places etc,  The fact that our society doesn't approve or respect the idea of meeting women in clubs or bars doesn't mean you can't meet a good one there, it might only take the Poster a very long time to meet the kind of woman he is looking for in Naija club or bars. It's every parent dream that their daughter should gain admission into a Uni to have a qualification and if she is lucky enough, she might end up meeting her life partner before her graduation, but Nigerian Universities nowadays are worse than a night club and bars, they are as good as a brothel.

Has anyone ever thought that the Poster might be a Nigerian by nationality but he is as good as a foreigner when he relocated back to Nigeria. We all don't how long he has been away from home, where, how and with whom he has live his life abroad. If he lived in UK before relocating to Nigeria he might probably be prepared for the shock and not be so that surprise with the materialistic behaviour of some of our Nigerian women at home because there is little or no difference between the behaviour of Nigerians living in UK compare to  the one in Nigeria.

But if the Poster lives his life for a long time in a typical white man countries like Germany, Netherland, Swissland, Austria etc,  he might not be
prepare for Nigerian women at home (Naija) because of the lifestyle in this countries and the few Nigerian women in this countries don't really act and are not as demanding like the ones in UK and Nigeria, most of them are just happy when you finally returned back home after work. Probably this is due to the fact that their population in this countries is not so that much hence they can not spread this materialistic behaviour around and was forced to adapt to the white people ways of life. For example, black brother ain't much in Germany compare to UK and Yankee wey black man wohwoh or Yapaa, unlike Germany, black men are not so that valued in UK by the white women nor by our black women. Divorce cases are common between the Nigerians/blacks in UK and in compare to Germany

I have hardly come accross divorce case between Nigerian or other black couples in Germany. I used to flock around with the black American soldiers in the military when I was in Germany, I've seen some of them getting excited to be with white girls and I heard some of them saying Germany is a blackman paradise when it comes to women, lot of them have their first intimate contact with a white woman in Germany, so please don't always believe all what you see in American movies about black and white relationship in America.
So a typical Nigerian woman knows if she is too materialistic, you are gone in the next seconds because you could have what you want without paying for it.
Secondly, white girls in the above countries don't joke with black PORO, if you now what I mean . The white girls will serve you appetizer plus main dish  without asking for a dime and if you are good enough they will top it up for you with desert (PALI to waka). Like the Poster said, girls in western world just wanna hang around with a guy who is entertaining, you don't have to be handsome, just have a good physique. They are more into your personalty and physical qualities but all this doesn't count in our society, what count is the size of your pocket. And when I say western world I don't mean an advance third world country like you UK.

Like the Yoruba saying "Inu Ikoko dudu leko funfun ti jade" (white pap from the black pot) Maybe in our society you don't come accross good girls in clubs and bars, but in Mainland Europe, I've got lot of friends who came accross their black (especially Nigerian women) or white life partners at the clubs or bars and they are now happily married with children. I come to discovered that the Nigerian/African living in the above countries valued their black

brothers/partners more. So to most Naija women who are hating in this forum, and the materialistic ones in Naija, pls stop hating, make haste while the sun is shining. A man have a good chance of correcting most of his past mistakes, but you women don't always have, WHY? because of our culture, belief and mentality and for the fact that women body grows quickly older than men. In our society usually a man mistakes doesn't live after him for long but with the women the stories goes on, the damage to the image is not worth the chicken change. If a woman is good and smart enough, she can make a man empty his pocket on her without asking. No be say make una go cook punana vegetable soup for the man or go do tribal mark for your punana oo (Adodun).

waladis:

Quote from: moremi2008 on Today at 04:34:01 AM
The OP went shopping in the pigsty and is shocked his purchase turned out dirty! You think club girls are interested in you because you are handsome?! The kind of Nigerian girls you're looking for rarely ever go to clubs, especially not by themselves. Any Naija man from a good background/home will know that you don't go to certain places to find girlfriends! The girls I hang-out with when I go home are either friends of friends or friends of my cousins. They are usually from good homes and lack nothing. When I go out and pay, it's by choice. They would NEVER demand anything from me. You're looking for girls in the wrong places bros! Don't come here crying when those girls end up milking you dry!

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It seems most people here are like trying to say the Poster deserved what he's got. Some are criticising him for coming out to express his experience and opinion about Nigerian women which we all know that is true. Some says he looked for women at the wrong places etc,  The fact that our society doesn't approve or respect the idea of meeting women in clubs or bars doesn't mean you can't meet a good one there, it might only take the Poster a very long time to meet the kind of woman he is looking for in Naija club or bars. It's every parent dream that their daughter should gain admission into a Uni to have a qualification and if she is lucky enough, she might end up meeting her life partner before her graduation, but Nigerian Universities nowadays are worse than a night club and bars, they are as good as a brothel.

Has anyone ever thought that the Poster might be a Nigerian by nationality but he is as good as a foreigner when he relocated back to Nigeria. We all don't how long he has been away from home, where, how and with whom he has live his life abroad. If he lives in UK before relocating to Nigeria he might probably be prepared for the shock and not be so that surprised with the materialistic behaviour of some of our Nigerian women at home because there is little or no difference between the behaviour of Nigerians living in UK compare to  the one in Nigeria.

But if the Poster lives his life for a long time in a typical white man countries like Germany, Netherland, Swissland, Austria etc,  he might not be
prepared for Nigerian women at home (Naija) because of the lifestyle in this countries and the few Nigerian women in this countries don't really act and are not as demanding like the ones in UK and Nigeria, most of them are just happy when you finally returned back home after work. Probably this is due to the fact that their population in this countries is not so that much hence they can not spread this materialistic behaviour around and was forced to adapt to the white people ways of life. For example, black brother ain't much in Germany compare to UK and Yankee wey black man wohwoh or Yapaa, unlike Germany, black men are not so that valued in UK by the white women nor by our black women. Divorce cases are common between the Nigerians/blacks in UK and in compare to Germany

I have hardly come accross divorce case between Nigerian or other black couples in Germany. I used to flock around with the black American soldiers in the military when I was in Germany, I've seen some of them getting excited to be with white girls and I heard some of them saying Germany is a blackman paradise when it comes to women, lot of them have their first intimate contact with a white woman in Germany, so please don't always believe all what you see in American movies about black and white relationship in America.
So a typical Nigerian woman knows if she is too materialistic, you are gone in the next seconds because you could have what you want without paying for it.
Secondly, white girls in the above countries don't joke with black PORO, if you now what I mean . The white girls will serve you appetizer plus main dish  without asking for a dime and if you are good enough they will top it up for you with desert (PALI to waka). Like the Poster said, girls in western world just wanna hang around with a guy who is entertaining, you don't have to be handsome, just have a good physique. They are more into your personalty and physical qualities but all this doesn't count in our society, what count is the size of your pocket. And when I say western world I don't mean an advance third world country like you UK.

Like the Yoruba saying "Inu Ikoko dudu leko funfun ti jade" (white pap from the black pot) Maybe in our society you don't come accross good girls in clubs and bars, but in Mainland Europe, I've got lot of friends who came accross their black (especially Nigerian women) or white life partners at the clubs or bars and they are now happily married with children. I come to discovered that the Nigerian/African living in the above countries valued their black

brothers/partners more. So to most Naija women who are hating in this forum, and the materialistic ones in Naija, pls stop hating, make haste while the sun is shining. A man have a good chance of correcting most of his past mistakes, but you women don't always have, WHY? because of our culture, belief and mentality and for the fact that women body grows quickly older than men. In our society usually a man mistakes doesn't live after him for long but with the women the stories goes on, the damage to the image is not worth the chicken change. If a woman is good and smart enough, she can make a man empty his pocket on her without asking. No be say make una go cook punana vegetable soup for the man or go do tribal mark for your punana oo (Adodun).

Long posts like this makes me sleep

How many minutes did you spend typing this

agnesefe:

On trial here is society, of which the family is ground and, our implicit complicity in its near demise. If anything that is worth observing, it is the uninhibited urge for primitive accumulation and the coarse interplay that works its way in the quest for the material. It may not be completely divorced from the morass and inner battles that count for today’s reality. On the one hand is a new world order-capitalism, individualism, feminism and its rabid compliment, misogynism, etc., - whose comprehension remains largely fickle and the other, is screaming silence from tested tradition. It’s a world of living contradictions, both in the messages preached and the reality on the battle ground.

The present scape is tilted towards the material, as largely vented in the humor and space that is given to winners of the grabbing game. The male often sets the direction in the larger space with actions that set the female, as always, into the overdrive with modulated versions of the former. Hence what is found as a conquest for the male, in the nature of trophies and their accumulation, evokes reactionary imitation in a domain they evidently wheel- amorous associations or “relationships”.

The task here is to rescue the family, which sadly both genders have imperiled, from the avarice that has characterized the definition of success and attainment. The restoration of in-house community, with self-check on the origins of possessions  and, the re-invention of deadened moral inhibitions and self-worth, are sure routes to salvaging, if any, what remains of society, else, we unwittingly may have signed off an age and clime.

I agree with your write up. I want to, however, advice you on a problem that is replete in the writings of many Nigerians: pompous and verbose writings--aka the use of unnecessary "big words" when writing.  The use of "big words" does not make you sound intelligent, especially when, as in your writing, the use of "big words" are so unnecessary and out of place to the extent that it distorts the meaning of your writing and renders it incomprehensible. You should focus more on grammar and clear communication so that the intended reader can clearly understand your message. Trust me, it won't make you look less intelligent.

Princek12:

I agree with your write up. I want to, however, advice you on a problem that is replete in the writings of many Nigerians: pompous and verbose writings--aka the use of unnecessary "big words" when writing.  The use of "big words" does not make you sound intelligent, especially when, as in your writing, the use of "big words" are so unnecessary and out of place to the extent that it distorts the meaning of your writing and renders it incomprehensible. You should focus more on grammar and clear communication so that the intended reader can clearly understand your message. Trust me, it won't make you look less intelligent.

Oopss, I thought I was the only with this opinion.

@ italkalot, your essay are on point on mostly naija babes, esp lagos babes even abuja babes are worse. It is just unfortunate dat u based your experiences on naija babes on 2 immatured girls,statiscally dat is low,and because of your essay d guys are bashing us all,it is said in yoruba land dat u can't throw away the bath water togeda wt the baby, Just  continue your search for a good woman and remember don't lean on your own understanding trust in God or if u r muslim Allah, it is said he who finds a wife find a good tin.

@taio luv
I know long essay based on few girls. But my friends seem to say its general. I also wish everyone his or her own ordained partner

@ yusu_@
Thnks bro!
@swift sms
Thanks for your well thought reply. I will mix around more, hopefully see the full range
@ horny4u

Yes. I went to watch movie alone. I didn’t add this to my already long post. First time she as late. I got there, and called she was still at home at the time we agreed. So you see in my mind she is not d keep to time type.
The poster took his experience of naija chicks too personal.
Dude, you need to see it as a game.
Naija girls cannot seperate going out with a man from obtaining money and all the things they need.
when you approach them, the assumption is that you are ready to take over at least most of her financial needs; dont panick or get upset.
This is what to do:
the moment you talk to a naija girl and u start going out, as soon as she starts pushing for material things, start pushing for s.e, x.
If she stops , you stop.
If she wants things before sleeping with you then you draw up the conditions like she's a call girl.
this is just so that there are no misunderstandings.If she wants to know if you must sleep with her, im sure u want to know if u must buy her things.
It balances up and eventually u will come to an equilibrum where you will then see the real her.
(what kind of person she really is, what she really is about,if she likes u, etc)

@ hackney
You say it’s a game. To me it looks like glorified prostitution. What’s d difference in guys that just pick girls. I personally like fun-people. Guys or gals. I want to go out to enjoy myself. If that’s all she wants, I might as well not go out and just pick any gal.

@Op,  the criteria for wooing a Nigerian babe or even fluking around with them you'll need to be fantastic with the following:

1. BB torch or Iphone4
3. Car keys in your middle finger
4. Dress like a very big boy even if you are not
4.fake American accent
5.When you want to book an appointment, it best be the hot spots around
6. You like the Don Jazzy type(money spinner)

@ pinkrex
I swear u made me laugh with ur comment

my brother, maybe because you don't want to see "classy ones"

@ nayah
I really do. Remember class is not money. Some poor people have class far more than rich ones who misbehave

@ OP

You got what you wanted because of those you choose to hang out with, maybe what you don't know is that, this so call chicks desperately hang out on this spots so that they can get feeding allowance, money to barf-up and money to make hair-do. And once you walk into there traps, the more you see the more you spend.

And the other thing is this, when Guys like you just land from wherever you always like to show , make unnecessary noise, flaunt and want everybody to know how you spoke with Obama and Iya charlie

My advice- Dress simple, comport youself and be relax you will enjoy yourself in Niger.

@ brainpulse
I see your point. But believe me, I don’t flex. Just normal guy, ok flex a little , but if you go out, don’t you want to have a good time?

u attract what u desire.am sure u went for lil girls who got no jobs.what'd u expect from such girls?dont blame them cos u shud look before plucking

d way some dudes complain abt how naija girls r so demanding makes me wonder if its not d same naija girls i meet every now n then.

@o.obim
Well won’t argue, I don’t even know the difference between a working girl an not. I can tell who is probably a market girl/agbero/ who is in a government jeep/escalade, but apart from that everyone looks normal. I see 2 guys in a shop dressed in suit n tie, one jumps on okada, d other gets in a car. See?

no, I don't think so, are you not aware that nigerian men are PERFECT.

@ bhusayo
No Nigerian men are not perfect; it should be interesting to read out faults too. But please just another thread 

@ poster
First thing is I am a guy who likes to go out, so first week back, i started visiting cinemas and bars. Met a couple of people. Decided to take some girls out,          that says it all , dodon't think

   
@femferan
I don’t lie. I do like going out. I am not d boring guy who just sits at home, I mix with people. Outside of Nigeria I have friends from South America to Vietnam, so it’s my nature. Story on the girls was just about the girls, I didn’t add to the post eating suya in allen, waterside Ikoyi, beach with my friends, just what happened with the girls.

@op, to some average nigerian girls, you fit the frame of a 'nice' guy. Picture that.  Maybe, you a bit unlucky with the ones you attract here. Unless you go about with a large banner on your forehead that you just came back or there is a logo inscribed somewhere on your shirt, you should know the way some of these girls behave. This is 'normal' to a guy on the street. The advise l could give you has been proferred by @hackney, wherever she turns, she is gored.

@ joudini
Me nice guy? Maybe. Mugu, impossible

Nigerian girls take their traditional roles seriously and their men should do so too. They are slowly teaching you how to be the head of the household when you finally put her for house, both of you come back from work and as head of the household you go sit down for parlor with cool breeze and finish off the newspaper while she dey slave over the gas cooker and when it is your turn to dami siwa ju so that you can tele tutu you start to complain. A beg find something else to talk about.

@gabbytabby
I tell you, I WILL spoil my wife. But I want to know at least she’s there because she enjoys being with me not just money

. . . you know what? I believe it would be better if you guys just consolidate all your grievances into a single thread where you can verbally chastise the type of women that born you into this world without clogging up the whole board with these repetitive complaints . . . after all the subject of Nigerian women is a hot topic around this forum.  If you like, such a thread could even be permanently pegged on the top of the board like the complaints section only this time the subject would be appropriately named "The irredeemable Nigerian Woman: Chapter 1"

@emofine
I like your humor on this my “not so nice” post
@temiade
You are bold, also nice to hear a female with a different view.
@ dabrake
Not bashing gals.  Just telling my experiences

@OP,
You're a real selfish man and I'm disappointed in you. I read your post completely because I'm not a lazy reader. You shouldn't have gone in alone just because the said lady was late to the Cinema. You didn't know why she was late and you were not interested in finding out. She even called you several times, you ignored. She bought ticket, but couldn't find you. She waited for you till the end of the movie, she really tried. I don't want to say much about the first lady but in the case of the second lady, you got it wrong! You're full of yourself, too bad. That lady deserves an apology from you and you have to refund her ticket money because you invited her to the Cinema and she spent her money on transport and I didn't see anything close to being materialistic in this second case. Man, you've got to change your attitude.

@ maasoap
At first I was like wtf? But I also read your post to the end and in many ways you have good points.
D gal really disappointed me first time, I was there and she was at home time we agreed. Second time, I warned her in advance, I am not proud of it, but I am not the best behaved guy in the world. Once I got there she wasn’t picking I was like damn it, not standing two hrs again. Maybe there was a better way around it, but I guess I didn’t reason too much. As for her asking for refund, I stand my ground, common, how can she ask for it?  We r not dating, I didn’t invite her, I said lets meet up, company? Watch a movie? And even if we were dating, I def wouldn’t stick with a gal who asks for a refund. Now the one who buys me a beer, I’ll say – woah, that’s different, what’s special bout her?
@ carlinks
“givers never lack but she likes receiving” – Oscar comment!
@ fickle
Haba, why is there so much venom in your post? You say you are a mother, so you should be more compromising. Strange and contrary to your opinion, I actually garnered that most Nigerian women don’t agree with my opinions. Now I will pretend you didn’t call me a dunce, or cant wash pots but can wash gutters, tsk tsk, because this isn’t a thread to insult but to discuss. However what I said is, from my experiences, the ones I met abroad were not as demanding. Simple.

OP! Very Nice articulated write up! Kudos!
The level of mindless castigation you meted out to Nigerian girls on this thread, is nothing short of amazingly stupefying! That you only ran and concluded your hypothesis in just a week makes it even more pathetic!
Now let's get straight! You took them girls to ozone, right? Where is Ozone situated? Around the environs of Unilag? A Nigerian university? Filled with all sorts of wannabe girls? Majority of Girls living around Unilag are what? Students? I mean, c'mon man! What kind of independence were you expecting from student girls, who are dependent? Girls still discovering who they are, and who they want to be, academically and emotionally? And after you purposefully & surreptitiously criticized Nigerian girls, you typed a disclaimer that read that "I KNOW ALL NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE NOT LIKE THAT, JUST THE FEW ONES I MET". Are you for real? Just a few? And you wrote this epistle? Are you an Apostle? That smacks of unenviable Hypocrisy! If you say Nigerian girls and swallow it before the end of your poem!
Another case i pointed out, is that you actually took these girls out to have fun with them, did you actually go with empty pockets? And as the loud trumpet i think you are, you would obviously have been harping to them that you just got back to Nigeria!, Right? What kind of girls were they? Were they your old friends? Was anyone of them your girlfriend? Did they have your best interests at heart? Because, one week is not enough to truly know the true intentions of any girl. Unless of course she is a prostitute! There are lots of them in Unilag, under the guise of students! #FACT! Look before you leap next time!
Independent ladies! Hmm! you struck a nerve there! But i'll ask you what is wrong in spending on an independent woman? Why o Why did you not make clear the terms and conditions of the relationship or the date, so to speak, before diving in head first? It's even more pitiable that with the amount of twists and crookedness of this fanciful, well concocted story of yours, gullible ones are even swallowing it hook, line and sinker! True that in some percentage of occurrences, your scenario plays out, but i urge you to be unbiased when categorically pointing out unenviable flaws of the Nigerian Woman!
Some of Us are actually blessed with them and they are very pretty and we love them the way they are! If you dont like them, you not need to date them! Easy on the Bashing!
Next time you want to conduct a case study, dont do so with students who cant fend for them selves! Students and making demands are synonymous! I'm Out!

@ Mikael
I liked your post the way u took me apart stage by stage
1. She is not a student, and I have concluded that all girls in ozone are student, in fact unilag students :d
2. She is not my girlfriend, repeated many times, just lets chill together, been going out with guys  too
3. I never told anyone who met me I am from abroad. Though my friends do says it shows.
Read the above 3 points carefully and you will see your post is absolutely baseless.

I do know! class is about attitude not money, I was talking about classy behaviour my brother, someone who's classy and educatedwill probably be more reserved in terms of material things, because I've noticed some guys are attractive to "sophisticated" women who laready have a "life level" they wouldn't change like that, try to be selective I think this is the key issue here

Indeed, Italkalot is admirable. I'm impressed at the way you outlined your replies to almost everyone, Cool!

The OP went shopping in the pigsty and is shocked his purchase turned out dirty! You think club girls are interested in you because you are handsome?! The kind of Nigerian girls you're looking for rarely ever go to clubs, especially not by themselves. Any Naija man from a good background/home will know that you don't go to certain places to find girlfriends! The girls I hang-out with when I go home are either friends of friends or friends of my cousins. They are usually from good homes and lack nothing. When I go out and pay, it's by choice. They would NEVER demand anything from me. You're looking for girls in the wrong places bros! Don't come here crying when those girls end up milking you dry!

@moremi2008
Shopping? Purchase? I want to meet people, interesting people, not goods . And if I talked to only my cousins, that will be a very small circle. And another thing, I never said I met them in a bar or a club.

. I would have expected a forum specific guy like you to discuss more important topics that has to do with the nations security but of all topics to choose is that of a guy's encounter with little girls who frequent Ozone. Is this topic not too timid for your distinguished self. please lets hear word abeg.

@fickle
Then read this other LONG posts of mine
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-771336.0.html#msg9244397
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-771340.0.html#msg9244415

It seems most people here are like trying to say the Poster deserved what he's got. Some are criticising him for coming out to express his experience and opinion about Nigerian women which we all know that is true. Some says he looked for women at the wrong places etc, The fact that our society doesn't approve or respect the idea of meeting women in clubs or bars doesn't mean you can't meet a good one there, it might only take the Poster a very long time to meet the kind of woman he is looking for in Naija club or bars. It's every parent dream that their daughter should gain admission into a Uni to have a qualification and if she is lucky enough, she might end up meeting her life partner before her graduation, but Nigerian Universities nowadays are worse than a night club and bars, they are as good as a brothel.
Has anyone ever thought that the Poster might be a Nigerian by nationality but he is as good as a foreigner when he relocated back to Nigeria. We all don't how long he has been away from home, where, how and with whom he has live his life abroad. If he lived in UK before relocating to Nigeria he might probably be prepared for the shock and not be so that surprise with the materialistic behaviour of some of our Nigerian women at home because there is little or no difference between the behaviour of Nigerians living in UK compare to the one in Nigeria.
But if the Poster lives his life for a long time in a typical white man countries like Germany, Netherland, Swissland, Austria etc, he might not be
prepare for Nigerian women at home (Naija) because of the lifestyle in this countries and the few Nigerian women in this countries don't really act and are not as demanding like the ones in UK and Nigeria, most of them are just happy when you finally returned back home after work. Probably this is due to the fact that their population in this countries is not so that much hence they can not spread this materialistic behaviour around and was forced to adapt to the white people ways of life. For example, black brother ain't much in Germany compare to UK and Yankee wey black man wohwoh or Yapaa, unlike Germany, black men are not so that valued in UK by the white women nor by our black women. Divorce cases are common between the Nigerians/blacks in UK and in compare to Germany

I have hardly come accross divorce case between Nigerian or other black couples in Germany. I used to flock around with the black American soldiers in the military when I was in Germany, I've seen some of them getting excited to be with white girls and I heard some of them saying Germany is a blackman paradise when it comes to women, lot of them have their first intimate contact with a white woman in Germany, so please don't always believe all what you see in American movies about black and white relationship in America.
So a typical Nigerian woman knows if she is too materialistic, you are gone in the next seconds because you could have what you want without paying for it.
Secondly, white girls in the above countries don't joke with black PORO, if you now what I mean . The white girls will serve you appetizer plus main dish without asking for a dime and if you are good enough they will top it up for you with desert (PALI to waka). Like the Poster said, girls in western world just wanna hang around with a guy who is entertaining, you don't have to be handsome, just have a good physique. They are more into your personalty and physical qualities but all this doesn't count in our society, what count is the size of your pocket. And when I say western world I don't mean an advance third world country like you UK.

Like the Yoruba saying "Inu Ikoko dudu leko funfun ti jade" (white pap from the black pot) Maybe in our society you don't come accross good girls in clubs and bars, but in Mainland Europe, I've got lot of friends who came accross their black (especially Nigerian women) or white life partners at the clubs or bars and they are now happily married with children. I come to discovered that the Nigerian/African living in the above countries valued their black

brothers/partners more. So to most Naija women who are hating in this forum, and the materialistic ones in Naija, pls stop hating, make haste while the sun is shining. A man have a good chance of correcting most of his past mistakes, but you women don't always have, WHY? because of our culture, belief and mentality and for the fact that women body grows quickly older than men. In our society usually a man mistakes doesn't live after him for long but with the women the stories goes on, the damage to the image is not worth the chicken change. If a woman is good and smart enough, she can make a man empty his pocket on her without asking. No be say make una go cook punana vegetable soup for the man or go do tribal mark for your punana oo (Adodun).

@waladis
RESPECT +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

waladis:

Oopss, I thought I was the only with this opinion.

No. That writing was pure garbage.

I agree Buhsayor, OP is really cool taking time to answer to everybody

@poster


TRUE TALK BROTHA!

Poster,well-thought out and well presented,kudos. D characteristic display of insults here is jst an extension of d nigerian value wer even senators trade abuses,and ex-presidents point fingers at who is a bigger fool.
D naija gurls' gory tale cld not be truer! In fact,i dread to associate wit gurls because its become a sad norm. Its said in igbo to remove a monkey's hand frm a pot of soup b4 it becomes dat of a human n pitifully,d monkey's hand has truely become human! D society doesn even frown at it so who cares? In prostitution universities,d status symbol is how much d guy(s) ua datin spend on yu,dey r jst livin up to wats up.
U myt wanna look in corporations for ur drm miss independent,ua more likely to be successful der.gudluck!