Tayorshd87:
To me you dipped yourself into trouble how can u marry a man of 5 children 😲😳

And u are happy u are married .

And u are so young
Yet he met u in 100 level

Abeg use scope they lie na and if not lie
Then you'd put yourself into unlimited troubles .

Mtheew

You sure you understand what you are saying?

Yinabim

If the security isn't the police, throw him or them out!

Get a bunch of people to throw them out. What she has done is simply illegal.

It isn't your fault her mother dumped your dad. I expected you to have challenges with his second wife, and not this one's daughter.

If the security has no legal right to be there, kick them out or get them out for trespassing. Why she's doing this is to prevent you from disposing the house. That's her fear.

dhiqson:
Just skirmed through your page and boy oh boy
Nothing like insults or callin men demeaning names


Anyways
Candid advice?
Your schooling in Canada is it well funded?
If yes.. worry not bout properties in Nigeria
Focus on urself ur school
Come out fine and start from scratch...

But if you want to fight it.. well ur husband should have a will somewhere??

Yeye advice of a drunk man...so...u urself will take this Ur advice...?

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

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You are in Canada. Continue to work on improving yourself.

Whatever is going on in Nigeria is better settled through lawyers and courts.

/

This my best advice for u..just seeing this...

Since sh wants war...den give her war..but let it b in collaboration with the other kids which their mom are legally married..

In the lawsuit, bring out the fact her mom isn't legally married .Nd no will was left for her...

I trust Nigerian judges..they hate yeye wahala PPL, they will side with u...don't let her bully u...sh is an idiot who still reasons like a bush African animal....

Zaheertyler:

❤️‍🩹

When did he build that house in question? If he did so before he married you, then lady A has strong say on the property unless of course he explicitly willed it to you. Same goes for all other properties.

ereluroz work hard make ur story no come be say u dey dependent on one old dead husband properties with other women
have ur own properties and money
as ur father d test him popularity, make him setup something for u
at least e never dey too late for am to send u to school further so that u fit get promising career
also no forget to d exercise always so that your fats go continue to dey for d right places

This one dey find wetin go finally kill am.









DM me.
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VHILL:
This one dey find wetin go finally kill am.









DM me.
I'm very good at comforting widows.

me ma i get shoulder wey she fit cry on

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.
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Go get a very good lawyer and also a very strong pastor that can help you spiritually. Issues like this people go extra mile. My condolences 💔

So sorry about your loss. Immediate family members should be there for you in these trying times.

The issue of inheritance in the place you come from is very very disturbing. You have to carefully navigate your way out of it via legal means. Litigagtions are meant to settle disputes, so don't feel bad about taking legal action to get what is rightfully yours. In the end, the other children of your late husband are your child's siblings. They are a family now. Make sure the bond doesn't get broken.


In Islam, the issue of inheritance is very mathematical and simple. There are people who will inherit from him, like you the widow he left behind, and all his kidss (the males take twice as much the females.

My condolences.

What type of death kill your husband

And after all this is over, you should love again, and marry again. Don't deny yourself that. Life goes on.

Kobicove:
What about Woman B and her 4 children... what's their position in all this?

Those ones are supporting lady A, only God knows what she promised them, even when Lady A suggested that we share properties into equal seven(myself and six children) and I told them I agree but let’s make it legally binding to avoid future problems. That way lady B children would get about 57% , they still didn’t take the opportunity until lady A said “I can’t force them to sign any agreement yet because I don’t know what her current preferences are”.

I believe she expected me to say NO to equal sharing, so that she will have a point against me(maybe paint me greedy) she was shocked I agreed.

D111:
What type of death kill your husband

Dr said cardiac arrest

Get a competent team of lawyers because you have a long series of legal battles to fight. That's all I can say.

If you're his legally wife truly.
Kindly consult one good lawyer, you have a good case.
You're not supposed to be treated like that by Lady A. You and your daughter have right than her.

Yinabim:


Yes I am legally married

AfDapone:


When did he build that house in question? If he did so before he married you, then lady A has strong say on the property unless of course he explicitly willed it to you. Same goes for all other properties.

When I met him the house in question was an incomplete building (only building and roofing , no windows, doors or interiors) , in fact when he left his ex wife he rented an apartment, I had to encourage him to finish a part of the house which is the visitors apartment, then we moved in there, then we started rushing the main building . So I paid my dues in that house, and I knew she was interested from the start maybe the 3D floors or the 100inches TV I don’t know what is getting her so desperate, I was even willing to share with her, till she started conducting herself like alpha and omega

Accept my condolence pls.

But sincerely according to the word of the Lord only few will be saved, as only few will be willing to walk the narrow way that leads to heaven.
Come to think of it, you said your husband loves God and yet he's a divorcee. And you also knowing him for seven years before getting married to him eventually.

Look at what Jesus said about the kind of relationship called marriage you both shared.
And mind you Jesus being a higher authority than the law of any nation, his words therefore invalidate all other man-made rules.

Mark 10:11-12 (KJV) And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Luke 16:18 (KJV) Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

Anyone marrying a divorcee or serving as second third or fourth wife is just wasting their precious time. Such unholy relationships is not acknowledged before the Lord.

grandstar:
Yinabim

If the security isn't the police, throw him or them out!

Get a bunch of people to throw them out. What she has done is simply illegal.

It isn't your fault her mother dumped your dad. I expected you to have challenges with his second wife, and not this one's daughter.

If the security has no legal right to be there, kick them out or get them out for trespassing. Why she's doing this is to prevent you from disposing the house. That's her fear.

My husband is buried there I can’t even do that to him

AngelicBeing:
Dayuummm, well said mate, but on a serious note, polygamy na big kasala, no wonder Jehovah made Adam and Eve , if you check very well, the man's death could probably be traced to Voodoo or charms amongst the wives

hehe voodoo charms or high blood pressure from dealing with 9 entities, 3 wives and 6 children. That’s too many people to be dealing with 😄

Yinabim:


Yes I am legally married

You better get a lawyer and fight. Fight hard so you can get what is yours back...they won't respect you if you don't fight back. You are legally married and one woman that left years ago and is married to another man,wants your share?

You need vawulence and madness to show them that you are not gonna take shiit

You are their target. To forget the sorrow, Go and marry another man secretly. Remove your mind from the property, if you want to live long.They will share the property with your daughter. You are made already! You are too young for family Brouhaha.

na woman dey do woman

U married him cuz he was wealthy bloody gold digger..if he was poor will u still accept to be his 3rd wife..u going to Canada was part of the agreement before marriage..the family should ensure to collect every penny from u..we know ur type..at ur tender age just like Regina Daniels will u agree to be the 3rd wife of a lvl 3 civil servant..nonsense write up

Yinabim:



My husband is buried there I can’t even do that to him

u don't have custody of the house..the house where the man is buried belongs to d first son...do ur research...don't u know d tradition...stop behaving like a kid

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Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

don’t slack. You better take this as war. Don’t trust any of them even if na your child. Lawyer up and be security conscious.

diamond68:
hehe voodoo charms or high blood pressure from dealing with 9 entities, 3 wives and 6 children. That’s too many people to be dealing with 😄

Absolutely spot, Chai ,

Wahala for we that already have children with two different woman.