Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

You narrated a story and then ended with Nigerians are so terrible. What's wrong with you lots giving us bad names with every little opportunity?
Your brother should get his guys and throw those idiots at the gate into the bush.
When my ... act senior ..... sudden... shouted... down. You better be tough, don't allow no one take what's rightly yours.
If you think you don't have the strength for the battle ahead , just remain in Canada.

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

if you want to fight for your right, you cannot stay in Canada and fight. You need to come back. If you are legally married to your husband, you need to involve the Courts. Lady A is not even a legal child, you need to reach out to Woman B and the two of you define a clear line of actions. The action will involve the court and law enforcement. If you have got to have stomach for this.
Else, forget the inheritance and stay in Canada.

As a legalized wife:

1. Fortify ur daughter with any known Quranic plus biblical verse and jazz that ever existed on diz planet called earth
2. Fortify ursef too
3. Get a good lawyer wey dey fortified....

U see sey I dey lay emphasis on fortify, na because I wan make u clock 45 o,

Ur instinct gats dey sharp now...
U don't eat or drink at just anyhow places now..
U don't just leave ur child with anybody.
U don't just make friends with anyhow person..

Na serious fight dey always dey involve in diz kind scenario o, physical, spiritual, emotional, legal, just name it, and e dey prolong for decades
Dem dey kpai pesin ontop diz mata sef....


If u really want to slug it out, just know sey till the next 30years, the fight still fit continue...

If u want start, start strong so that u go end am on a strong note
God's protection over you and ur daughter

Seunpapa65:

Thank you for this man probably fall from tree those bitch might have even cause enemity between the man and his family

Young ladies consciously complicate their lives , mingling with men who are old enough to be their fathers.
The man even has a grown up married daughter who could even be older than her and she went ahead to marry him.She no fear.
A man who already had 5 children with different women and she didn't know there will be a "fight"?
She gotta be kidding me.

spiceadole:
Small girl with big god.

Imagine a young lady going to marry a much older man with 2 previous wives and 5 children.
Such dirrrrty baggages... simple because he was wealthy.

Pls deal with your problems without disturbing social media.

And she said he is a kind man. Such a kind man it took woman No3 to spot it. Oh well, he was already retired and tired, so we can understand her. I have noticed the rules and ironhand is for the wives of their youth. The ones they build with. When they get older, make money and marry a young girl, she would be a contrast to the first wife.

I wonder when ladies would learn that no sane woman leaves a supposedly good man after 4 kids to start all over. Men can do it easily, not women who bear the stigma and burden of childbearing.

Anyway, she is the first beneficiary as the legally married wife at the time of his death.

No monopoly in violence, it is best you let the court handle her.

My own be say, why will lady A change security to the house she never lived in. You can imagine the effrontery. Why did she not go and drag the other family house with Madam A.
My dear, in my own opinion, that particular house you lived in with him belongs to you because you were legally married to him.

But just like you have been advised here, get a very good lawyer, cos na moi moi case be this.

My only fear is that she could go diabolical on you...so make sure you are strong spiritually too, so as to match her like for like.

My 2 cents

If he left a will behind, then no problem, but if no will, that will be a problem, then take the matter to court, since there was no legal marriage with lady A and he was separated from lady B legally, then you have a strong case against them.

Yinabim, the God of Chosen answers prayers. Come to Chosen and present your matter to our God and he will fight for you. Like he did for many people.

But, this matter soemhow get K leg.
Because in Chosen, we preach against Marrying a divorcee according to Mark 10:11-12 etc.

Heart felt condolences to you.

Contact VDM

@Yinabim please be strong and fight for your right. You need a good lawyer. Don't allow anyone to guilty trip you. You are not wrong to marry a divorcée.

You need to put the Lady in Australia in her place.

May God continue to guide and protect you. Aameen

First, I will like to say sorry for your loss. May his gentle soul rest in perfect peace amen!
Secondly, you need to stand up and fight for what’s yours. Gone are the times when a girl child does not inherit properties from their father. The wife B isn’t even the one giving issues. You need to fight for the other kids and yours too. Your stepdaughter should take a chill pill and let you morn your husband (her father in peace). If you need to go legal with this, please go ahead with your best foot pushed forward.
“The boat will not sink and the storm will not last forever”

Yinabim:


When I met him the house in question was an incomplete building (only building and roofing , no windows, doors or interiors) , in fact when he left his ex wife he rented an apartment, I had to encourage him to finish a part of the house which is the visitors apartment, then we moved in there, then we started rushing the main building . So I paid my dues in that house, and I knew she was interested from the start maybe the 3D floors or the 100inches TV I don’t know what is getting her so desperate, I was even willing to share with her, till she started conducting herself like alpha and omega

You are in canada, you must show that you are enlightened and exposed. Thankfully, the Lady A child also live abroad. You must bring in a lawyer fast. Like Tomorrow. I understand that legal fight is very much complicated in Nigeria but you cannot be ruining your peace of mind for griefing to hold amicable meeting with someone that do not care about you or your daughter. To her, you rather be a dead fowl.

Tayorshd87:
To me you dipped yourself into trouble how can u marry a man of 5 children 😲😳

And u are happy u are married .

And u are so young
Yet he met u in 100 level

Abeg use scope they lie na and if not lie
Then you'd put yourself into unlimited troubles .

Mtheew

Them wan marry big man nah

Yinabim:



I’m rounding up in December by Gods grace.
We’ve not found a will.

You're in Canada, at least you should write well.

Most of you up there are asking her to go to Court, get a lawyer, this, that.

Let me tell her the bitter truth, She is the last woman married, she has just two years old child.

In all her narrations, she failed to tell us anything about the man's family.

There is a need to know their stand on this issue before I will throw an advice.

If not, we are just throwing advices on a half baked information.

There is a possibility that the other women, their children, the man's family members, they all see her as a gold digger.

Conclusively, let's hear their position on the matters arising.

I have a good family lawyer for you here in Nigeria.

tellwisdom:
Your type are probably the cause of the divorce to those women. U knew he was married and was busy fucking him on the low.

Ndi small girl with Big God

Seun, how can I give this guy a million like?

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

1. Same way you are feeling entitled to the property is the same way the daughter and everyone else is feeling entitled to the property.
2. Get a lawyer with the requisite knowledge to explain the position of the law on this matter to you then you can determine your chances legally.
3. Why did it take you so long to return after your husbands death knowing fully well that Nigeria women always marry for love and fight from property.
4. How consistent was your communication with your husband or what kinda marriage were you guys running in this internet age that made the daughter get information about his death before you.
5. Were you having issues with your husband before his demise
6. Hope you know what fighting for land and properties in Nigeria entails and you are adequately prepared for it.
7. Was your husband legally divorced from his other wife.
8. Was your husband such an ancestor that all his family members are dead or are they just insignificant in the grand scheme of things
9. I don tire bye...

Get good personal lawyer or involve reputable NGO like FIDA

dawnomike:
What issues are they giving you?

Reach out if you need some help or get intimidated by anyone.

Hope you were legally married to your husband?

What do you mean by legally married? Court r/marriage registry or traditional marriage?

Housing:
@Yinabim please be strong and fight for your right. You need a good lawyer. Don't allow anyone to guilty trip you. You are not wrong to marry a divorcée.

You need to put the Lady in Australia in her place.

May God continue to guide and protect you. Aameen

Amen

Yinabim:



I’m rounding up in December by Gods grace.
We’ve not found a will.

You won't find a will. It doesn't work that way. Did your husband have a lawyer or his businesses have legal representative? Upon his demise, they should reach out to you and the family.
My sincere condolences.
Thank God you decided to take the offer to study abroad. It's a big lifeline. Get the succour that your family will provide

Tayorshd87:
To me you dipped yourself into trouble how can u marry a man of 5 children 😲😳

And u are happy u are married .

And u are so young
Yet he met u in 100 level

Abeg use scope they lie na and if not lie
Then you'd put yourself into unlimited troubles .

Mtheew

That's irrelevant now. No need casting blames as the deed is done. Stories like these ain't impossible.

I don't see why woman A will have such power since she was not legally married to your so called late husband, this behavior supposed to be coming from woman B. It is high time you fight the battle legally, the only problem here is that this battle might result to the use of juju.....
I don't know why you agreed to marry a man that has married two women before and non are staying with him and here you are claiming that he is a good man, you would have known what you were getting yourself into when you decided to marry him. I know that the major reason you married him is because of his money, now it is either you fight the battle or you backed out and relocate back to Canada in order to continue your life there.. ...
This is a lesson to others ladies reading this story, marrying a man just because of money without considering other factors is really bad.

Women are very brutal.

sonofsteven:
I've told people, when marrying into polygamous or into such settings, always make sure you gather things for yourself and kids, be stable and always have energy and strength to match madness with madness else they bully you, if you be craze person, she sef go fear you... by the time una drag una sef wetin no good, put shame aside and fight dirty, court dey to settle am....

For instance, land for village, because we no dey, elders take am

Sue them to court in Abuja, still carry 5 deities put for the land and locked it, anyone wey put leg, na death... they couldn't attend the court case, and na indefinite adjournment e dey...

This is madness jam madness

If you sleep, them ride you


You are lucky that other wives no fight you

Na illegitimate child they fight you and by court she has no right as her mother wasn't married, you have upper hand in these case,highest court go gi e am something but you see that matrimonial home, she.no fit ever win am for anywhere either in court or by tradition....I hate soft hearted women

Brutal but the most realistic comment

One major drawback of becoming a second, third, or fourth wife to someone without a solid succession plan is the potential for chaos. Many women enter into these marriages without preparing for the inevitable.
My advice to others in similar situations is to prioritize securing your future. Encourage your husband to create a will, specifying his wishes clearly and explicitly. This document, witnessed by his lawyers, will minimize disputes and ensure his intentions are respected.
By doing so, you'll avoid potential conflicts and guarantee that his wishes are carried out.

The man is way older than you so there is every possibilty he may die and leave you a young widow. So you gotta be smart on this .Plus a man will naturally still have affection for his ex wives especially the first one and all. Do don't keep a grudge when he wills some of his properties to them.

Steveagro:

1. Same way you are feeling entitled to the property is the same way the daughter and everyone else is feeling entitled to the property.
2. Get a lawyer with the requisite knowledge to explain the position of the law on this matter to you then you can determine your chances legally.
3. Why did it take you so long to return after your husbands death knowing fully well that Nigeria women always marry for love and fight from property.
4. How consistent was your communication with your husband or what kinda marriage were you guys running in this internet age that made the daughter get information about his death before you.
5. Were you having issues with your husband before his demise
6. Hope you know what fighting for land and properties in Nigeria entails and you are adequately prepared for it.
7. Was your husband legally divorced from his other wife.
8. Was your husband such an ancestor that all his family members are dead or are they just insignificant in the grand scheme of things
9. [b][/b]I don tire bye...

Go and get a lawyer. Your lawyer will use the court to compel her. So doesn't own everything

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

if u truly love ur child. Avoid everything about them and hustle ur own.

Kobicove:


Is it free?

Not too sure, but most likely