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Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by jumsnarol: 11:14am On Mar 02, 2012 |
for all those telling u to go to court, well its nt that easy cos no court will grant u custody of a new born when nothing is wrong wit the mother medically so i will advise u to be careful in dealing with the issue so as nt to lose them both 1 Like |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by LEXYLOV: 11:15am On Mar 02, 2012 |
The best advice is for you to look at where you can be seen your wife secretly and try to convince her. Also you can try to look for her best friend who can freely visit their house whom you can trust that she can work with you truthfully to help you convince her. The mother in laws nowadays are terrible but that is when your pocket is dry. If your pocket have oil trust me you will enjoy best of marriage and rule your in laws. May God help us. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by karpentar: 11:19am On Mar 02, 2012 |
Even if that were the case, it's not reason enough for a mother to meddle in her daughter's marriage and walk her out of it. God Bless you for this post which is far more realistic than all the other gender supporting posts. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by SamMilla1(m): 11:36am On Mar 02, 2012 |
Too many mothers in nigeria doent know the meaning and concept of marriage. They love manipulating their daughter's marriage from the start. I had a similar experience the woman virtually decides what the daughter (who was then my fiancee) says to me. Well being a self styled soldier, i tried to let the girl know that every decission should come from me and her but she woukd bulge. To her, the mum was the star in the relationship, not even her. Well i sent her packing. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by VirtuousWoman: 11:40am On Mar 02, 2012 |
Mr Naijaklef, Give me your wife's phone number lets talk with her. If you have offended her, we will plead on your behalf and you have to REPENT. If you did not commit any offence, we will let her know that her PLACE is with you, not in her mother's house. A wise family friend once said to us, some years back that " when you (to the single man) are looking for a wife, first find out who/what her mum is" Some MIL are something else. 2 Likes |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by sandiyke(f): 11:44am On Mar 02, 2012 |
every girl wnts to settle down.for ur wife to leave u in such manner means d fault is frm u(simple logic). it tink u hav refused to change datz y ur mil had to interfere.pls dnt com here nd play d saint Go nd appologise to ur wife nd promise to change. U wil c d result instantly frm both she nd ur mil.B WISE ND DO WATZ RITE. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by tukzee: 12:00pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
@poster. I will first blame you, reason being you will definitely be treated based on how they see you. Honestly no one dare try this trash with me, hell will let lose same day. Anyway it is little sensitive because of your little daughter whose future is very important. Kindly approach ur MIL and made her understand she tresspasing into ur family life. There must be at least one sensible elderly man among ur in- laws. talk to him about it things will surely get better. good luck |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by MissyB3(f): 12:01pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
sandiyke:Flawed logic! ![]() Sam Milla:True! |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by browncool(m): 12:14pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
It's obvious that you must have made lots of mistakes the very first 1 is having your MIL living with you and observing all the shit you must have been doing to her daughter, I am sure you know best on these things committed by you because no mother in-law will do what she did for no reason even if she was a Witch. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ojogbontomoye: 12:14pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
OP how old are you? Get one of these and go get your baby back, ediot. http://www.uzi.com/firearms.html |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Naijaklef: 12:18pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
More Info on this: At the hospital, I spoke to her when this problem started that we should go back home, , that i will get her a private midwife or a nurse that would be take good care of her,in addition to a standard maternity hospital that she has access to. i also assured her, that i will tell my family members to stay away, likewise, she should tell all her family members to stay away, but she refused. Right now, the church has intervened but they still not cooperating, with the church! The Question is, Is there anything that I could have done to her and family that wld warrant taking my wife and my child away? , Is there anything that i could have done that wld warrant not cooperating with the church, elders and people? I have kept my cool because i respected the elders and the church, Virtuous Woman: @virtuous woman, Thanks. I doubt if she wld cooperate with you. 1 Like |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by juman(m): 12:30pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Just leave the wife and the new baby for the MIL. It's better to have bad wife than having bad inlaws. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by coogar: 12:34pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
texazzpete: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() baby-boy: that is exactly what nigeria is. . . .a banana republic. a country where you would be taken advantage of if you decided to stay cool. how can any mother in law take my baby. was she the one that impregnated her?
even if i had allowed family interference out of total respect for my in-laws, they still don't have the right to take my baby away from me. in nigeria of all places? heads would roll. what the poster needs is a shock factor. begging and pleading here n there would not work. what's the essence of begging when they have already disrespected my manhood? he should go there with MOPOL - fire gunshots in the air - break the gates and retrieve the babe. put the mother-in-law in the van and level charges of kidnapping against her. she won't try such nonsense again ever in her life. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Nobody: 12:43pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Hmm |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by texazzpete(m): 12:52pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Lexoria: Well, one assumes that if he gets the child, the woman will follow. He has indicated a desire to remain in marriage with the woman so I feel this is the best approach ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by texazzpete(m): 12:56pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
coogar: Leave them, how can someone be asking the man to start groveling and begging for his inlaws for his own child? After now, they will start bullying him at the slightest opportunity. If only the OP can summon the balls to follow your plan to the letter. All these hungry MOPOL sef, you know how they hate hearing stories like this one. I'm sure even 30K will suffice. By the time they lock up this his in-law for 2 weeks and feed her once a day with only beans wey never don, dem go begin beg the man. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by oradee: 1:15pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
I didnt have time to read all the posts here but i wanna ask, ''WHERE IS UR OWN MOTHER, ?'' 1 Like |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 1:16pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Lexoria: You really don't know what you are talking about. kidnapping is a crime irrespective of who commits it. @OP Just get a lawyer sue both mother and daughter for kidnapping your son. Get your child back, while they go to jail. Simple. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Jay5000(m): 1:33pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
you should consider marrying another wife because you don't have a wife. The one u have now is not a wife. 1 Like |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by babyboy3(m): 1:38pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
If it goes to court, who would they award the child? Lets say they award the Child to the Hubby, Would the Lady be coming once a week to breat feed the child? The guy should forget about the wife, but should be able to see his child Custody over a child (no a baby) is not the case at the moment because best option would be the mother, yes they could throw the mother in law in prison for kidknapping but the child would always stay with the mum, All the John McCain approach (send in NATO/ ECOMOG attitude) is not needed, 1 Like |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Nobody: 2:29pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
The truth is that we've witnessed so many homes destroyed as a result of external interferance. I have friends who listened to their mother's advice and made the mistake of moving out of their matrimonial homes and today with all their wealth they are single parents regreting their earlier actions. Even if the guy was maltreating his wife, it doesn't give the mother the right to cart her away from the hospital. They are married for goodness sake and should be able to sort their differences out so far no one's life is being threatened. There is no home today in Nigeria without issues and it takes two responsible adults to sort out their differences and move on. What the wife doesn't realise is that she will be at the loosing end if the guy decides to let her be. She should go and find out from those who have gone through that part before how easy it is to be a single parent or leaving in your mothers house after being married before. A man can get remarry at 60 to any woman but its not so with women so the earlier we decide to ignore exterenal interferance from our marriages the better. Its obvious the poster loves her that is why he is going through different means to get her back. But if it doesn't work out, please and please move on with your life. Your child will difinitely come looking for you when the time comes. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 2:41pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
baby-boy: For me the man should just send his wife and MIL to jail. There are alternatives to mothers breast-feeding. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by babyboy3(m): 2:47pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
For me the man should just send his wife and MIL to jail. REALLY!!!!!!! |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 2:59pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
emmatok:HE CAN DO THE BOLDED ONLY IF HE IS INNOCENT. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 3:11pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: And what crime did he comment. You snatched my child and you asking if I am innocent. Innocent of what? |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Zilja(f): 3:26pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
The only way to solve a problem is to have a solution. This man is seeking for advice . . . . .NOT to be scorn from you people. Apparently if he had the answer he wouldn’t be on this thread asking for advice. What’s done is done and your silly questions are not helping him in any way. Give the man some advice that he can use and not shred him to pieces. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 3:28pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
emmatok: Innocent of whatever the family is accusing him of. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 3:30pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Zilja:You can start yourself, by giving him the advice he desperately needs. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Naijaklef: 3:35pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: @ronkbp, I dey laugh ooooo, WHO'S RULE DO DO I LIVE BY? , MINE OR THEIRS? , ACCUSING OF ME OF LIVING BY MY OWN RULES OF RUNNING MY HOME? Na wah for you ooooooo. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 3:41pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Naijaklef:It depends on what the rules are, is your wife happy with those rules? this is not really about your MIL now, it is about your relationship with your wife. I can't imagine my mummy coming to scoop me up away from my hubby's home without a reason. Think about it too, you know whatsup, your wife is definitely not happy with some of your ''so-called'' rules. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Naijaklef: 3:54pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Naijaklef: @ronkebp, I lyk your response, i think you need to read my post again. Question: if were your brother, , would u advice your brother to take instruction from his MIL? , would u advice him to please your MIL at the expense of your home? , would u advice him to give his salary to MIL when she doesnt aknowlegde or appreciate the little you give? These are my rules, These are the rules that made me a criminal abi? , LOL! |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 3:54pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: Whatever the the family is accusing him of does not justify their crime. By the way did that family report those accusations to the police or Court? It is only the court that can give anybody the right to take a child. That mother and her daughter are criminals. |
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