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Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by initiate: 4:52pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
you have 2 options, either you go the confrntational way, put your foot down, damn the consequenses and walk her out. just know that you have offended their family for life on the other hand you can save your marriage from them by moving away with your wife. the first mistake you made is that you dint put your foot down early enough. you should never let a woman or her family ride you, plenty girls dey outside there, desperate for husband. good girls self! |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Ib(f): 5:00pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
@ Poster, i wont advise you to go the confrontational route because after using force to get your baby and subsequently your wife back, the relationship between yourself and wifey would be very strained for a long long time because no woman would be happy for her husband to lock up/ intimidate her mother in that way. On what to do to get your wife back, let me think about it and get back to you. Thanks for reading. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Zilja(f): 5:04pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: If I knew the laws of UR land, I probably would give him some sound advice. I would contact him directly and not post it for all to see becase of its sensitivity. Not one of you lived in his house with him so you really don't know. You are reading and making nonsense accuations at him. That only feeds the negative side of the post. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by taryour(f): 5:26pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
oradee:@op just as oradee as said,WERE IS YOUR MOTHER ![]() Secondly,do u smoke or drink? Or even beat your wife? Do you use abusive words on her? If you do any of this then you have created a big problem here cause you would have created more fear in her so she listend to her mum, she would have made her believe you would come home late and drunk and then beat her up,get the little baby injured in the process(that is if you drink or smoke). I see no reason why she would do such a thing if you dont do any of this. Then have you also considered if the child is truly yours?find out if the baby is yours,if the baby is yours then fight tooth an nail to get your child and make sure he or she will be well taken care of cause if you leave your child for then,i assure you that your child wunt get a good upbringing and might not recognise your as his or her father. As for your wife,she needs real prayers and delivrance, |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 5:35pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Naijaklef:What are her instructions ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 5:38pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Moreso, your wife just put to bed( or why is she in the hospital), you should be thinking about her well-being and the baby's not for you to be concerned about your MIL attitudes. Who can take care of a child if not the mother? seriously? why are you angry that the her mother wants to take care of her daughter, do you know if she had complications during child birth, nope!!!! you are just bothered that she followed her mum home. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Nobody: 5:49pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
i wl advc u c go 2 d grl nd talk 2 ha,she is stl ur yf,smthn must b wrng .dnt assume shes ungrateful,sm1 who is stffd wv food cnt say he is hungry xcpt he is sick.so ur yf jus nids mre attentn.go 2 ha nd plead,tl ha its going 2 b fyn.dnt divorce,thnk of d baby,wuld u lyk ur chld 2 b 4rm a broken home.d trauma of dat nd d effcts besids d bible hates dat if u a xtian.tl ha u ms ha.jus try getn ha attentn nd show ure differnt,remind ha of wat u guys pland b4 marriage,4 d sake of d child. nd she wl cm bak.gdluck |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 5:55pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: You don't need to be sentimental here. The MIL is a criminal and she has not stake in that family. The MIL can take her daughter if she want, but that child's custody should be decided in court. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Nobody: 7:41pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: Thank you o! The way I see it, this is basically a case of marital separation where the wife has moved back with her mother, simple. emmatok: Are you saying the MIL kidnapped the daughter against her own will? How did she do it? Did she tie her up? Drug her? Knock her unconscious with a baton? If the wife walked out of there on her own with her mother, then she chose to separate from her husband and live with her mother. Nothing illegal was done here. Could the MIL have influenced her decision? Yes, but the wife decided of her own free will to go live with her mother. OP needs to gain access to his wife and make amends with her. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 7:57pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
emmatok: Emmatok, nope!! am not being sentimental, just saying it as i perceive it, i don't know what the MIL has done that is so wrong !!! she is protecting her daughter and grandchild and that is wrong ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by dayokanu(m): 8:08pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Op Listen to me and listen well I dont know what happened that led to that decision to take your baby away. But this is what I would do. I wont go to forcefully get my baby cos an infant straight from hospital needs the mothers care for a while, So the child needs to be with the mother I would call the wife and ask her whats the reason for acting that way, If no genuine reason, I would give her an ultimatum to move back in, after the expiration of the ultimatum, The marriage is cancelled. Get a court order for a divorce since she has abandoned her wifely duties, Thats easy to get. Now wait till the child is weaned and can survive without the mother. Now surprise them with a pickup of soldiers, area boys and every force you know in the world. Lock that MIL up for kidnapping your child. Its Nigeria, If you have money you can get away with it |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by omar22(m): 8:19pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
I wont go to forcefully get my baby cos an infant straight from hospital needs the mothers care for a while, So the child needs to be with the mother Spot on (in bold), All these omo garage attitude, I would bring MOPO, I would bring Military yada yada yada wont wash men!!!!!!! she has abandoned her wifely duties Egbon ti kun ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by foyeks2001(f): 8:27pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
1) u dont allow her to tell u wat to do in ur home 2)u dont accepts her instructions 3)u dont give her as much money as she deserves This is no marriage, I dont blame d poor mother-in-law mehn because reason 1 is baseless, which home,whose home even d bible says a wise woman(not a wise man here buildeth her home) reason2, marriage is all abt mutual respects, mutual understanding, u r still dwelling in ur fore-fathers ways poster, u beta wake-up now because gone r dose days wen showing off d man of d house was d order of d day reason3, dis one makes me laff, just hear ursef out, u dont give her money as she deserves wen she knows u ve got d money, haba Mr Man b human for once now |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by R3tr0str(f): 8:48pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp:Smh Stop it because you're spewing BS and you know it, Why shouldn't he be bothered that she followed her mother home after giving birth? And you really expect him not to know if his wife had complications after giving birth?? I really think that you should stop being sentimental because last time I check you don't live with him and unless his wife can tell her side of the story, just drop it already. BTW the op's MIL and your mother are two different ppl, foyeks2001:Uhmm Missy, he was referring to his MIL in that post and not his wife, |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 8:56pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
R3tr0st^r: And how are my replies to the poster affecting you ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by DrummaBoy(m): 10:00pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
pity. op, where is ur mother? dont u hav pple? my mil can be a pain 2. but wit God i know victory. God wil lead u out! |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ojogbontomoye: 10:08pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
omar22: Epon, not Egbon |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 10:45pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: LOL, She (MIL) has no right to take another mans child. The child belongs to both parties (husband and wife) and not MIL. If she is needed they (husband and wife) will call on her, not her imposing herself. And what the MIL did is shameful and totally wrong in all ramifications. I tell you some father in-laws will not hesitate to send their daughter and the child back to her husband, cos it is bad and shameful to the family. Now the MIL is gradually turning the innocent child to a Bastard(A child whose birth lacks legal legitimacy). Shameless people. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 10:53pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ileobatojo: The MIL and her daughter illegally took away that child. That is kidnapping and it is a crime. The court only can decide who keeps the child/children in case on a proper divorce and not a runaway wife. Do you know the MIL can be jail and the daughter forced to handover the child after weaning years. Hope the-same woman won't come back begging, blaming the devil . |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by dayokanu(m): 11:02pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Emmatok, The wife is the one to blame here. She is an adult and the MIL told her to leave her husbands house she left. But at the moment due to the age of the child, you cant separate mother and child so its best to wait till the child is old enuff before he claims his child |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 11:03pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
emmatok: Emmatok go and drink cold water, there is more to that story. IF late Titi's (the banker's) mother went and carried her daughter away from her husband's house she will still be alive today"". |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 11:10pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: Me, i support divorce 100%. But these case is different, no proper divorce, no court arrangement, just disappear with the baby. ABA, the is bad for the child health too, because the whole family will be under pressure. Will they be able to do the naming openly? |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 11:19pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
Emma, the baby is doing well, am sure she or he is suking on the mama's boobies as we are typing, wetin konsine pickin with wahala, the mother-in-law, is bathing for both mother and the baby, cooking yam peppersoup for the child, we dey here dey worry. ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 11:20pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
dayokanu: I get you point, but what if these cretins takes the child to another state and the lady end up marring another man. Cos i know that kind of MIL might be pushing her daughter to marry another man. Guess who suffers.The innocent child suffers . And it might take years to locate them. That is why he needs a court order to keep them within his range. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 11:23pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: You dey there ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by ronkebp(f): 11:29pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
^^^ Abi!!!! that is the scenerio though!! ![]() |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 11:32pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ronkebp: ok o, Make she no talk say na devil push am letter. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Nobody: 11:43pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
emmatok: I don’t believe it’s illegal for a parent to take their own child anywhere they like as long as there is not a legal custody agreement being violated. The wife took her child to go live with her mother. If I leave my husband’s house with my child will I be kidnapping my own child? emmatok: I agree with this. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by emmatok(m): 11:54pm On Mar 02, 2012 |
ileobatojo: No, In these situation, they are legally married. So it is both parties(husband and wife) child. None of the parties can take any action on that child without the other agreeing to it. Even in divorce child custody and visitation is discoursed. |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Nobody: 12:08am On Mar 03, 2012 |
emmatok: At this point, it is not illegal. Not until a court order has been violated. It is his right to move the battle to court but till then, I don’t believe it’s illegal even in Nigeria. Same thing if the dad moved the child out of the home. Is it morally wrong? Perhaps (depending on the circumstances). |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by dayokanu(m): 12:16am On Mar 03, 2012 |
You cant move the child without the consent of the other partner |
Re: Mother In-law Snatched My New Born Baby by Nobody: 12:32am On Mar 03, 2012 |
dayokanu: Yeah you can. Can any lawyers in Nigeria clarify for us pls. I know in the US, it is definitely not kidnapping for either parent to take the child away until there is a court custody order being violated. The police will not arrest the other party for kidnapping until you demonstrate this. |
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