Pakavy: 9te dear

talina: I couldnt get on my knees and beg a man not to leave. If something was so wrong between us and we couldnt even talk about it then its over. Me resorting to being a begger and him being ok with it is twisted. What kind of relationship would that be There has to be mutual respect or common sense to know when its over.

~Killz~:

In most cases, the man is the elder. . . And even if he wasn't, Nigerian culture stipulates utmost respect from the wife. It doesn't make them less. It's just respect, and a sign of humility!

slimyem: thank you sis!
Seriously,if i offend my guy (infidelity excluded) and the only thing he could do is threaten to leave,he would have shown me the depths of his immaturity and that would be one big reason to let him go!
These peeps just dont gerrit!

Mrs.Chima:
I still can't wrap around why a woman would beg her husband to say if HE WANTS TO LEAVE?!!!

peziz: I can go on my knees and beg my man if i was at fault. Really no big deal; cos i get lots of kneeling and apologies from dudes in d past who wronged me while i was in a relationship with them.

REALITY101: To have sex with her? Maybe not sure "Creepy" yes I can do anything to penetrate her vajayjay but I seriously doubt kneeing down for a woman or anybody at all. Going on my knees begging her not to leave me? Hell to the NO. I was thought to knee for prayers only.

KINGwax: seriously? Like how many DUDES in the past? Your machine will be spilling oil now!

Miss EZ:

I guess my question is, for those guys who must see knees hit the ground, what is it about kneeling down that is more superior to tears? Is the offended person more interested in me apologizing his way, or truly apologizing for my wrong? If someone is truly interested in seeing a sincere apology, i doubt they will give priority to any given act.

I hate to go all spiritual but even Jesus does not demand that we must be kneeling down to pray the sinners prayer, he only asks for a sincere heart and a confession of sin. If Jesus was more concerned about our hearts, why are we humans so focused on actions alone and not the heart.

Anyway i think i have over flogged my own point of view. To each their own.

Culture is just a way of life. Don't blame anyone for being born into such culture. The act on it's own is NOT demeaning. It only means respect in such culture. I think you take it to mean belittling the woman, while it's not. Jesus can see hearts. . . Humans cannot! Humans tend to work with what they can see. Don't blame them for that! BTW, some ladies see kneeling as the best way they can appease a man they love! Would you blame them for that too? Save your relationship the way you deem fit. Know the man you are in it with. Is he the tears alone type? Pray you meet a man like me who is sold out on tears alone!

freecocoa: Any guy that didn't budge after a lady must have cried her eyes out will most likely not budge if she kneels and any guy that will only budge when a lady kneels is not worth begging.

Well, save your relationship anyway you deem fit. . . Doesn't change the fact that kneeling is a Nigerian culture that cannot die! And i don't buy that he is not worth begging line. . . What warranted her crying her eyes out in the first place? If she's really at fault, nothing is too big to do, just to show that remorse. . . Pray you meet someone like me who needs only tears and a puckered face. . .

Mrs.Chima:


Uhmm Killz suga.......why is a wife begging her husband to say if he doesn't want to stay? Begging isn't a sign of respect and it is the epitome of desperation and out of options. A wife should't have to resort to scraping her legs to get her husband to stay especially if he doesn't want to stay. Let say she does scrap her legs begging her husband to stay and he still left then what?

Begging a man to stay isn't going to stop a man from leaving if he truly desires to leave.

I will not get on my knees and the only person who is worthy of scraped knees is my CREATOR.


Let's put the bullshit to the side and get to the meat.

Helloooooooo. . . Leaving doesn't always mean leaving the relationship or does it? It may be a serious quarrel, thoughtless use of words on the man etc. Once she realizes he error, she tries to make peace with the man. Most times, going down on the knees is a sign that she is truly sorry. . .
Lemme tell you. Kneeling is part of the Nigerian culture to appease someone, not just a man. I've seen an elderly man go down on his knees begging a young chap after he damaged his car. Kneeling is the final resort. It depends on the gravity of the offence committed! Did you not see men on this thread saying they'll kneel and beg the woman they love, just to show her how sorry they are? Does it make them less man?
A wife doesn't need to beg him if she is not at fault, but then, what if she is at fault and is trying to save her relationship? You'll ask her not to beg her man the way she deems fit? Like seriously? That you won't get down on your knees doesn't mean the other woman wouldn't. Kneeling may just be the last ingredient to melt a mans heart. Begging him and kneeling is not a guarantee for him to stay. but then, would you not rather exhaust all your resources to make him change his mind, if you "really" love him? It's NOT a must to kneel, but you choose to do so to show how sorry you are. At least you tried. And even when he leaves, he could have a change of heart and come back. I'm yet to see anyone that has dropped dead as a result of saying "I am sorry" in the language the man understands. Kneeling is a way of saying "I am sorry" when it comes to that extent. I wont ask any woman not to use it to try making her man stay. Hell, i've seen grown men knee walking, not minding the bruises, trying to beg the woman they love. Cultures are different. This is Nigerian Culture we talking about. . .

Idowuogbo:
Character

Nite!

mofuflex: Omo babes dey vex for hia o.
Make we dey talk am as we see am o.
Genuine love does things differently.....u'd never imagine what more u'd do than just going down on bended knees.
But these kind digital babe/wife now no send oh, u go beg tire ur knee go chop 4 ground and then Nada!

talina: I couldnt get on my knees and beg a man not to leave. If something was so wrong between us and we couldnt even talk about it then its over. Me resorting to being a begger and him being ok with it is twisted. What kind of relationship would that be There has to be mutual respect or common sense to know when its over.

rokiatu: Never have never will.

odiaero:

The question was not meant for single ladies, who will be that unfortunate to be begged by willy willy with yam legs, the person do rather beg u to stop appearing in his life

Pakavy: hahaha ;Dmake i come go where i dey pack concrete cos my boss na single woman with willy willy yam legs..i no fit beg dat one even if she wan sack me for coming late

slimyem: For all here crying foul and singing hypocrisy,i'll take it that you still dont get the crux of this matter which is-[size=30pt]WHY BEG sOMEONE WHO DOESNT WANT TO STAY?[/size]
ugh!