Olomubj:
yes of course the doctor that did the analysis is Uk doctor who base his professional on genotype though if you ask many doctors who are not in that professional 64% wil tel you they are match why the 36%wil tel you not in the sense that they are not in that profession.so the analysis was done by the UK doctor who base his profession on anything blood most especially genotype though am NT a doctor but with my research I got that information and it was proved and confirm

So because the doctor is UK based and specializes in genotype, AS can now marry SC?
If am correct they have the chances of birthing;
AS
SS
AC
SC
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That's a 50% chance of having at a variant of Sickle cell disease. (either SS or SC) and this UK medical specialist endorsed this?
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That's is ignorance

Smartestelvis:
u really believe dat?? dey cant give birth 2 an SS...even some AS n AA do give birth 2 an SS.....dont ask me why?? even normal ppl do have a mad offspring due 2 mutation n close genetical repeatation coz dat lady's family mite sa wel be filled wit SS....

So much ignorance in this thread.

kayangel:
Op, i will not advice you to marry the SS lady. Its unfortunate that her parents had to put her through this pains but believe me the pains is better absorbed now than after marriage. I know the kind of emotional inbalance a close relation is passing through now because he married an SS. Though the had kids but mehn the few times she was pregnat ,she nearly died not until death took her finally because of her genotype. When she was alive she stayed on coke,pepsi,yoghurt,malt as though it was water. She was always having crisis that most times the spend 50k&more a week. I know it will break your heart to go but she is better a f[email][/email]riend
. Though she might not understand but i pray that God will interven.

Ehhmmm.... Am sorry to say this, but if you are sure of the bolded then she killed herself and not necessarily because she was SS.
If you go through my threads, you will find where I have stated it severally that Junks is not meant for SS. Rather eat healthily.
Healthy foods..: Vegetables, fruits, lots of water, and avoid carbonated drinks and junk foods.
"My people perish for lack knowledge"

kayangel:
Op, i will not advice you to marry the SS lady. Its unfortunate that her parents had to put her through this pains but believe me the pains is better absorbed now than after marriage. I know the kind of emotional inbalance a close relation is passing through now because he married an SS. Though the had kids but mehn the few times she was pregnat ,she nearly died not until death took her finally because of her genotype. When she was alive she stayed on coke,pepsi,yoghurt,malt as though it was water. She was always having crisis that most times the spend 50k&more a week. I know it will break your heart to go but she is better a friend
. Though she might not understand but i pray that God will interven.

Ehhmmm.... Am sorry to say this, but if you are sure of the bolded then she killed herself and not necessarily because she was SS.
If you go through my threads, you will find where I have stated it severally that Junks is not meant for SS. Rather eat healthily.
Healthy foods..: Vegetables, fruits, lots of water, and avoid carbonated drinks and junk foods.
"My people perish for lack knowledge"

And, the ignorance continues............... OP, I wish you luck in your FEAR.

jidxin:
but we can just give birth to one or 2 .... d chances for SS re slim

greatgod2012,
you see why I didn't bother much. His mind is about made up, he is just looking for justification for the decision he is about taking.

berem:
....And she's a sickle cell patient. Her own case is even worse knowing well her illness is certified.

Some people sha!

Pamela Mojekwu is not a sickle cell patient. Rather she had a daughter who was SCD person, but unfortunately she is dead now.

Bro, I don't know how that will work out, cos this guy is not the one selling it. He bought from Amazon, and sent it to me.

It looks very much like the rest. But it's a bit different.

Enigift:
Hi,just came across this topic.my cousin who is 3yr old was daignosed 2yrs ago of having severe SNHL hearing loss.his parents bought heating aid but the one his been using hasnt really improved his hearing please .does any1 know were i can get a good one outside the country for him his parents have bought 2 expensive ones in nigeria but the are all not improving his hearing

Been a while. Hmmmm.
After the one madam chaircover got for me, I have purchased additional 2 and one more as a gift. Actually my friend in London helped me to purchase them from Amazon and sent them down to Nigeria.
The one I am currently using among the three has really proved to be reliable. Just that I don't know how to differentiate them. But I will see if I can get a picture of it.

Thank you

lepasharon:
Congrats dude

ohaleoghene:




you have a son already ? Hmmmm so wifey was pregnant before the wedding . is barely 5 months or less than since your marriage . you said u had a church wedding ? how come? so church now weds pregnant women ? congratulations ! more babies to come !amen

Yes, she was pregnant before the wedding. But it wasn't planned like that. I already proposed and was preparing (financial wise) to go and meet her people before we found out that she has taking in........ My church doesn't mind wedding a pregnant woman.
Judge ye not, that ye may not be judged.

Chi59:

Bro, i feel your pain. I, myself was seriously considering such. But pls just keep hope alive. The one that will love and get married to you, will do so regardless of your genotype. Abali, is an example of such. Though a warrior like you and i, the last time i checked, he had done his trad. wedding...KEEP HOPE ALIVE

Actually, I have done my Church wedding and I have a son now. So, this Warrior is actually responsible for two other lives.
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@OP, it's only ignorance that can make people look down on Warriors.
#nuffsaid.

rollingpoint027:
Pls i need responses from all d experts in d house regarding genotype n wat av always been reading about it.my genotype is AA and according to wat av been reading,AAs are prone to malaria but mine is kinda different cos am hardly sick or down with anything especially malaria.....sumtimes i stay 2 years witout any sign of malaria and one tin dat amuses me again is dat i dont xperience d normal tinz sum pple go thru like cough(infact dis is d most dat amuses me cos i can stay 5yrs witout anytin like cough),catarh etc.

I dont breakdown even wen am really stressed n lack enuf sleep,am still on my feet as if a not human.......pls is dere a reason for all i stated above.

Your immune system is really strong. But don't be careless or too carried away with your superman nature.

Safari29:
3 years gone and I still miss her dearly, no one can never be like her. I love you Abeebat and I wish you the best in ur new home. May Almighty Allah grant me my heart desire.


believe me if it had happened now I wudnt give a darmn about the outcome. past three years had bn terrible. I struggle miserably everyday but cudnt find anyone to fill the vacuum u created. Am tired and I regretted ever parted ways with you. U are the one i will always miss I love u Abeebat Adebambo

It's well.

grimandevil:
for me oo. all d fear of sickle cell and stuff is d fear d will die early abi. but think of it dis way even d AA genotype still die before d age of 40.

and to think of it again u guys r saying i hav less dat 10yrs to die . #i cant wait

a doctor once told me to cheer up dat i look health dat God will mak me live up to 40yrs. dat he know of a sickler dat lived upto 40. i was lik should dat b a good news? funny enuf i went for eye check up oo. nt even hospital.

Bro, I don't know how old you are. But next time anybody says such a thing to you, rebuke him/her like Jesus rebuked Peter, and tell him/her that you will surely eat rice at his/her funeral.
NO MAN IS YOUR god.................... THANK GOD for being GOD

SwagPower:


REMEMBER DAT THE WORST PART OF HELL IS RESERVED 4 THOSE WHO MAINTAIN NEUTRALITY IN TIMES OF MORAL CRISIS...

pray tell, what is the MORAL CRISIS here?

Oluwagrace1:
Growing older has nothing to do with reduction in ss crisis, rather how one take care of him/herself will. Maybe he's not taking enough care of himself hence the frequent crisis.
I will recommend water therapy, he should drink a (or two) full glass cup of water immediately he woke up from bed in the morning. Whenever he wants to eat, he should drink a cup of water b4 eating, and avoid drinking water while eating (he can only take water if compulsory). Above all, he should always drink water every now and then.

Op, this is what I would also say.
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On a second thought, are you sure your brother is not doing something that goes contrary to his health. Like, drinking alcohol, stressing himself too much in form of play or other forms of stress.
Does your brother get enough rest?
Does your brother eat healthily? By that I mean a lot of vegetables, fruits, etc. Or is it just junks .... meat pie, doughnuts, buns, etc
You may not know all this, because you are not 24/7 with him.
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Educate him, and let him know that he needs to help himself, by doing what is necessary. Sickle cell can be effectively managed.

gabbytabby:
You will need to check every pregnancy and make the difficult choice. It really is important that people check before they marry.

And I believe the difficult choice is "abortion"....... I would like to be corrected.

I am just seeing this thread now. I hope the OP, got a lot of useful advice.
Thanks to all those that has helped the OP. I am more pleased that other Warriors are coming out to speak and seek help. We can only win this battle, by creating a lot of awareness.

yettyade:
Gud day guys pls i need advice am in a relationship which my introduction is next month and later find out my guy is AS and am AC can we still go on pls advice no issult[color=#770077][/color]

AC/AS
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Possible outcome
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AA
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AS
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AC
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SC
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That means you have a 25% chance of having a SC in every one pregnancy.
My dear, SC is almost as serious as SS. But I guess, the final decision lies with you.
Just last weekend, I was counselling a father who has five children, and out of the five, four has SS. Though he lost one child this year. That means, he now has four (4) children left with three having the SCD.
It's your choice actually.

Thank you all.
Like someone already pointed out, this thread is to serve as a source of inspiration to other warriors. As a Warrior, I have heard so many negative side talks, and some to my face about what warriors can do and what they cannot do. I once had a girlfriend who said to me that her mum said that male warriors can't impregnate a woman, and she went futher to say that a nurse corroborated the assertion.
The God who has kept me and done all these things for me, will also do it for as many Warriors and non-Warriors out there. Amen.

afamgod:
@meme5, babymama123 and abali1, congrats on your newborn. @abali1, you dey us birth tori oo. Abeg mek u com give us the gist

Maybe, when my wife is strong enough to narrate her story, I will post it.

ona2:
congrats abali. just read your story on another thread. God indeed is wonderful and he is our strenght. he says his grace is sufficient for us. abeg come and post birth story o. abi you were not allowed into the labour room ni. may God keep and protect your little man.

I was not allowed into the labour room, and God knows I would have freaked out if I was there. I really can't tell what happened there, but I know the hand of God was involved.
Thank you.

bestestgirl:
congrats!! hope the boy doesn't have the gene tho

No, he won't. His mother is AA. Though he will be a Carrier of the gene, that's AS.

bestestgirl:
congrats!! hope the boy doesn't have the gene tho

No, he won't. His mother is AA. Though he will be a Carrier of the gene, that's AS.

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God has been Faithful to me and my family. Once again His words has been proven true in 2 Corinthians 12:9 "And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for
thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.
Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my
infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me."
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For those who may not understand the importance of this thread, I will do a little introduction.
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Abali, is a Warrior, AKA; A man living with the Sickle Cell Gene. A lot of people, have this phobia of entering into a long term committed relationship with a person who has the Sickle cell gene.
The essence of this thread, is to encourage other warriors out there who may be going through pains, trials and sometimes stigmatisation as a result of bearing the Sickle cell gene. Persevere and continue to aspire to be better than you were yesterday.
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Sickle Cell, does not define who we are

Greetings to all pushing mamas.
I have always visited this thread on and off. I will say this thread helped to calm my frayed nerves, when my wife enterered labour.
On Friday 14th my wife was delivered of a baby boy. I give all Honour and Adoration to the most High God. To Him alone be all the Glory.

goodheart4God:

I have actually chatted with my female friends and deleted. My dear all hell was let loose. Why must you delete it. What are you deleting it?

Like you say, when he complains I simply reply that I am learning from the master. After all, I am a good follower na. But most times I don't really enjoy pay back, but sometimes I like it when I have been on my phone all evening. And you drop your phone only to see him scrambling to read all your chats. And if he is sure you have deleted. You get to be asked who were you chatting with that you have cleared it now. Don't forget that 4 years long the line. He will be always make references to the chat you cleared. To show you that he was greatly pained. Yet stop doing to me na. Mbanu.

When he got angry about you deleting those chats, was the best time to kicking COMMUNICATION.
I have used the mirror image severally to get results. But it was only my wife that has used it on me. She used both the Mirror image and the ignore tactics. Now I have also learnt to use the ignore tactics.
I can't over emphasize Communication. After he must have been angry and all, then you calmly explain to him that the same way he felt being at loss about the chats you deleted, is the Same way you always feel when he can't tell you what he is doing. And that if he continues that you will be left with little choice than to get your happiness from "Friends" also.

hispinkolo:

Females can be very very cunning.
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You are a newly wed,how long will wifey keep smiling at you being over friendly?
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Is it not wise that if your spouse is not at ease with something,you let it go or at least reach an understanding that he/she is happy with?
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When you are talking about a woman who understands you,are you also willing to understand if she has hordes of male friends that she's 'helping' and sending money to?Also chatting with on the phone for hours at a time?

She has stated that they are not even comfortable financially and he's busy playing father Xmas to females.It's a very painful thing to live with.
You say he's deleting his chats cos he doesn't want the wife's imagination to run wild..how are you sure? He's spending hours talking with them and sending cash they don't even have..
When we agree to share our lives with another person,it's expected that some attitude that go hand in hand with singledom should be dropped or adjusted so at least your spouse can be comfortable.

Nne calm down. You raised good points even though you were angry.
Yes, am newlywed, but we were able to trash most of these points before being wedded. Infact most of those "friends" where surprised at me getting married when I did. I practically disappeared from their cycle. And wifey did help me to see things from her angle. COMMUNICATION.
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It took effort on both our parts to make it work. At a time during the courtship period, she lost TRUST in me, so I have to build it up again. How? By making sure that anytime am at home, wifey has my phone. So if you call, its most likely that you will be speaking with her first. (She is not an internet person). Gradually, the Trust came back.
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Since she said that he checks on her (let me say monitor her), she should just mirror his habit. REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY. Chat with your friends both male and female, but make sure you delete those chats (I will add, copy the chats first). Make calls to some unknown numbers (it could be to your relations, but delete their contacts first from your phone) talk and laugh out loud. After the calls, just wear a satisfied look.
When mirroring his habits, make sure you hold your emotions to check. ( Nobody likes being ignored). When he sees that you are making effort to ignore him, I bet you he will want to TALK. Then, you can let him see reasons with you.
@hispinkolo, I didn't change overnight. Yes deep down I am still "the Counselor". But wifey knows all the story behind any "counselling" and she advices me accordingly.
NB
These are the matters that should have been trashed out during courtship.

goodheart4God:


My hubby is a very friendly person, every where he goes he makes a lot of friends both male and female. My problem is that he doesn't know when to draw the line between this women. He can turn a career counsellor, relationship counsellor, etc..
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No one should even suggest communication cos I have done my best but he seems to think that I want to control him. So I am not talking about it again but I am dying in silence.

I can actually relate with your hubby. I am very sure that before he got married to you, he must have believed that "yes this is the woman who understand me". But unfortunately like most women out there, you thought "he will change and be mine and mine alone."
My dear it's very possible for him to be yours and yours alone, if you will continue accepting him the way he was before he married. By that I mean accepting the fact that your hubby loves helping people, he feels other people's pain and he feels that by counselling them, giving those in need money he will at least put a smile in someone's face.
Madam, like CC said, open those communication channels. If your hubby is anything like me, he will equally open up on his "relationship" with these "women friends". By opening up communication channels, I dont mean criticize him or put him in the defensive. Get him to tell you about each and everyone of these friends. Then in communicating with him, get him to see your own point of view. Get him to understand that these women may not have pure heart the same way he has.
I am not saying he will stop, but he will come around to being more careful around those women, and the ones who have hidden agenda will walk off . THE TRUTH IS, HE IS DELETING THOSE CHATS BECAUSE HE DOESN'T WANT YOUR IMAGINATIONS TO KEEP RUNNING WILD.

Picomon:
Hello Warriors , I'm also a warrior.. Life sucks mehn.. Going tru crisis is not something I will wish for my enemy..

Just last week, I was given 4 injections.. every nurse in the hospital I used know me.. They do make jest of me in a funny way.. I don't blame them tho..

Any tips on how to manage this? I do take folic acid once per day.. But not everyay though.. I'm a regular customer of Ibucap and Lofnac but of recent I noticed they are not working as usual..

I believe Ibucap and Lofnac are pain meds. If they are, then your observations are very correct. Cos after sometime, your body system becomes used to them and you will no longer feel the effect.
Tips on how to manage yourself;
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Keep taking your daily folic acid
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Drink a lot of water
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Eat healthy....vegetables, fruits, fish, liver or kidney, etc
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Cut down on junk food, alcohol, caffeine etc get enough rest, and try not to over stress yourself.
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Take malaria preventives, at least once every month.
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I hope the above will help you in managing yourself.
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As per people (nurses) making side talks about your health, I will only ask that you ignore them.