na2day?:

***sighs**** if he is just ur boyfriend u are still seriously single bcuz when u file ur tax return u will file as a single person. there are those that were married and now divorce or separated, they file as single also, so the study is correct with its term "SINGLE"

But I am not actually single. I have a bf. So how many of those women that the study categorizes as single actually have long term partners. The study is flawed. They should rather do surveys of black women on a wide scale to see how many actually are single as in no bf/husband. Then the numbers would be accurate.

OLAADEGBU:

The moment you verred into the religion section to post you subscribed either consciously or subconsciously into a philosophical debate.  It is basically man's philosophical ideas against God's philosophy if we may call it that.

You do not have any proof of the existence of God because you are looking for proofs in all the wrong directions.  You cannot expect to use empirical methods to prove the existence of a personal God.  How can you scientically prove to me that you passionately kissed your man?  This is a personal experience that can only be proved by personal intimate relationship which has only been experienced by you.  So to prove the existence of the Creator God you have to experience Him personally, as this is by faith in His written word (Bible) which is His specific revelation and through the general revelation of His creation as I mentioned earlier.  You cannot know Him through your five or more senses that is only useful to discern natural things (His Creations) but you can ask Him for faith which you will get when you read His word and He will open the eyes of your heart to see the light of the glorious gospel of Jesus Christ.  Faith comes by the continuous hearing of the word of God.

This again is the religious beliefs of the gnostics who believe that God is feminine.  Did you say that you are not religious? tell me again.

As much as I agree with you that organised religion has been the cause of a lot of heartaches in the world today I will like to tell you that God does not want you to be religious He did not allow His only begotten Son Jesus to die so that you can become religious but He came so that you can have a personal relationship with the personal God who is the Creator of heaven and earth.  He is the source of the moral life that you tend to live and I believe that organised religion cannot do this for you but getting connected to the source of life and having a daily fellowship with Him will get you there.

Despite your claims that you are not religious the fact shows that you at least cling to two beliefs; your belief in the non - existence of God even though you cannot prove it, and your belief that if such a deity exists that He must be a She, a common religious belief in the early centuries A.D.

I am not religious. As I do not practice organized religion. I have to run off the belief that god doesn't exist because the only thing that I can prove as far as this mythological sky god goes is that I have never seen her, heard her etc,  so she doesn't exist logically or at least I cannot prove her existence logically. However there may be a great creator but it is not what we have imagined up as far as I am concerned.

I can be non religious which means to not practice organized religion and still have theories. I like mythology. Based on the qualities that humans have given their sky god then it would be a woman if it existed. But god doesn't exist in reality as far as we can prove. God is only a story with plenty of books and different versions told over and over. God is a fantasy. Imagination. I believe that if such a being exist that is the great creator of all things that the human mind cannot begin to fathom it's existence. We would not know that it exist. And it would not have the qualities that we give to the god we created and worship in organized religion. Because those are human qualities. Well that is my theory as for the possibility of a great creator.

huxley2:

Hello Anglegirl

Am curious about how you became an atheist - what was your most pursausive argument to turn you to atheism.  And secondly, do you life in an very religious environment?  If so,  how did you find the independence of thought to break out on your own route?  Thirdly, are you "out" as an atheist in your community?

Well I became I should say an atheist just by thinking about god and seeing reality. I wouldn't necessarily call it an argument but I was led to becoming an atheist because the religious environment I was in was very contradictory as far as what they preached and the actions they took. It turned me off to that particular group of people NOT the religion. However from that I did begin to question religion and god. The point at which I stopped believing in god was when I just realized that there was no solid proof of her existence. None at all. Just books written by humans who claim to have been inspired to write it by god. I did search for proof. In the end all I was left with was nothing. So I had to conclude that due to lack of solid evidence as of present god doesn't exist, and is only a figment of the human mind. I think god is a way for humans to explain what they can't understand. And that is existence. It would be the same as an animal trying to understand humanity. Humans have to have a cause and effect. Why are we here? Mythical sky god? That'll work! No that doesn't work. You can't just make something up and decree it upon everyone. But there again I won't go to far with this because I am not against people practicing religion. If that makes them happy I am happy for them.

As I mentioned I did live in a very religious community and it was somewhat cut off from the world. Such as most children were educated at home so they would not be socialized by the outside world. Well I will say this of that religious community most of the members were Caucasian, and there were only a hand full of Blacks. Anyway I was one of the few blacks. They kind of left the blacks out of a lot of things. Like you could move up levels in the church and you were given greater responsibility. Well the blacks never were even considered for promotion. Also women were not either. So on those two fronts I became angry, rebelled, and began to question first the people in my church, secondly that particular religion but not because of the way they acted because it was a natural train of progression, and then god and organized religion itself. However I realize now that it wasn't so much that they were discriminating against blacks as much as it is human nature to work within a group mentality. I have since noticed that within every race. As far as the women go well I can't think of any religion that looks to women as equals so that was just blatant discrimination.

I have moved to another area away from that church and I wasn't an atheist when I moved away. I even promised the church that I would congregate with another church that serves the same religion. I meant to sincerely. I visited the new church one time and the people barely noticed me so I never returned and that gave me more of an open avenue to explore my already questioning mind of that religion. I have not told my old church that I am an atheist and to be honest I don't think I would feel comfortable telling them. Because it wouldn't do them any good or me. They would be hurt and I would feel bad for hurting them.

I did not want to get into a philosophical debate about god and religion but here goes:

As far as this mythological sky god is concerned, I do not have any proof of her existence. That lack of proof is actually quite simply that for a human being who relates the world through senses touch, smell, hearing, sight god doesn't appear in any of these senses. I refer to god as she because if there were such a deity in my human mind from what I have saw of the world women give the breath of life. Not men.

As far as religion is concerned I think that organized religion in today's world is invalid and irrational. It might have been beneficial at a more primitive time in history. But in today's world it causes much suffering. I do believe in living a healthy moral life. I think that organized religion is not needed to achieve this. Common sense goes a long way.

Still I do not judge others for their beliefs. If someone chooses to be religious then I will not look down upon them or even try to convert them.

People regardless of gender who cheat are not satisfied with something in their life/relationship. Could be one thing or a combination of things. Maybe their partner is not nice to them, maybe they have low self esteem, maybe they do not truly feel romantically about their partner and thus cheat out of boredom or thirst for more. But men and women are different. So in most cases when men cheat they weren't in love with their partner in the first place or their partner cheated on them first and the love was lost. Either way I think men mostly cheat when they fall out of love, never were in love, or have a sex addiction. Women cheat mostly  cheat because of self esteem issues or security issues. Women also may cheat because they have a sex addiction.

Ok I see you are going to continue mistreating women until you get burned. Maybe disease, maybe unwanted pregnancy, or maybe you will fall in love with a good girl you mistreated but she will not forgive you or take you back. But I wish you all the best just the same.

Same here, I just clean up all day to keep my mind off of it, or to fill the empty spaces between him being here and him being gone. When he comes home he is happy that the house is so clean and it helps our relationship. One day he will stop working so much and we will be financially secure. So I just deal with it. Hope you can.

Well I cannot tell you how to live your life but all I can say is that karma is a pms-ing angry woman and will get you one of these days. Also think about the women in your life your sister, your mother, females cousins etc, what is some guy mistreat them the way you mistreat women? Would you not be angry? Well it is someone's daughter or sister that you are mistreating.

In the USA when you report your relationship status on a form "single" and "never been married" are the same thing. They are interchangeable.  So I still say that statistic is flawed and it is 43%.

For example whenever I fill out fasfa I check *single (never been married), yet I have a bf. So according to "your" statistic I would be counted as one of the single women in the USA yet I have been in a relationship for 2 yrs.

Chuck Ba$$ two wrongs don't make a right. I hope you do not go around mistreating unsuspecting women for pains you have had in the past. That is terrible.

Um I think what you said is that a guy answered your gf's phone and told you that she was no longer dating you?

Well it seems that she has moved on. So I would advise you to do the same. Good luck.

That photo on my profile is not me. It is a Nigerian model named Oluchi Onweagba.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XRmEYqgv7M0

I noticed that a lot of Nigerians are very religious. I know that not all of them are. But it seems to be a big part of Nigerian culture. I am not religious. I do not believe that god even exist. I don't disrespect those who are religious however and I certainly do not try to turn them against religion. I think that religion has a lot of good advice. Things such as saving sex for marriage, and just general morality I follow those same rules because they are sensible. I was wondering if most Nigerians are religious first of all and is so then would most of them look down upon Atheists such as myself?

Sorry for her misfortune, but how does she know that she cannot conceive? Also I think if that is the case she should go to the doctor and get checked out.

I truly love my current bf. I think he is the only guy I have ever loved. I know he truly loves me. I don't think that I have ever been loved in the past. So I guess I have truly loved another once and truly been loved once.

I think most marriages stay together out of tradition, obligation, and fear. I think love and lust are interchangeable and that both die. And in the end all you are left with a big pile of memories and responsibilities. I guess these temporary feelings (love or lust whatever you wish to call it) are necessary to keep the human race reproducing. It is also necessary that societies boast about those feelings making it seem like "oh when you find this then you will live happily ever after, no more worries" so that people will not see the reality and thus as a result of finding that love is temporary live immoral lives having sex with multiple partners. So I guess it benefits humans to be ignorant to the reality that love doesn't exist. Also they would probably cease to reproduce as much if they knew that love was a temporary feeling. I don't think that monogamy is normal for humans. I think monogamy is healthy and rational however. If I was to be perfectly honest I don't desire marriage. It just seems boring, empty, and overrated.

Of course I can't say for sure that these theories I have written above are even close to true. I am only 20 yrs old and have only had one serious relationship. Maybe I have never experienced such things as love. Although I love my bf, it is not in the way in which hollywood love stories make love seem like between lovers. I don't go crazy at the sight of him. I love him in the way that I respect him and wish for him to be happy in his life. I love him in the same way I love my family members. I only wish good things upon him but I don't feel about him the same way Juliet felt for Romeo. I would not drink the poison lol. I don't know. What do you think?

That 70% thing is not true. That doesn't even make sense.

The actual number is "43% of African American women between the ages of 30 and 34 have never been married"

I am guilty as charged. For me personally it is like a ticket to drama/heartache/yousawitcoming-ville. I mean he is attractive so of course he has women chasing him, so already you better be ready for competition. And at the same time you think that this guy is that good-looking he must be a ladies man. So it is like women prejudge these guys based on the likely reactions they have in society to their good looks. I think also that sometimes not always but sometimes girls don't feel good about themselves and automatically think "this good-looking man is interested in me!" and they think naw couldn't be and suspect that either he is playing around with them, or that he is just wanting friendship and they are mistaken. I imagine that I have missed out on a lot of good men by prejudging them in that fashion.

I personally do find men's lips attractive. All the details that you inquired about as far as lips go I say that for me personally I am mostly in the middle. As far as size goes I absolutely don't like thin lips unless they have a nice shape to them, so usually I like somewhat big lips. However, I still don't like lips to be too big to where it looks weird. The color is not that important I could deal with any color but I would prefer them to be somewhere between brown and red. I don't like dry lips but also I would not like them to be shiny wet. I think that a little chap stick once in a while through the day will warrant the perfect median. And of course I have to go with soft when it comes to lips.

or make you feel empty inside. What I mean by casual dating is jumping from one girls bed to the next without being in a serious relationship, maybe even one night stands. Don't you just feel empty inside after a while, not having any emotional connection? When the only thing between two human beings is pleasure. There is no substance. You wake up and you are in bed with someone you feel nothing for. Do you leave before they wake because there's an emptiness that surrounds that bed. Do you ever feel disgusted with yourself.

I ask because it seems like most men are doing it these days. Not all men but most. It seems like they are trying to impress their friends by being able to brag about how many girls they have had. Well I for one would not be impressed. lol

Does it feel empty?

I have been through this same type of ordeal with my current boyfriend. You can win him back and he will be the man he used to be. First apologize. However you have to mean it. Truly mean it. Don't cry and ball and feel sorry for yourself. Be mature and well composed and truly say you are sorry. Look him in the eyes and say I am sorry and truly mean it within your heart. I looked my bf in the eye and said sorry and I meant it with all that is in me. Secondly promise never to do anything like this again and truly mean it.  Do not say this unless you know that you no longer have the desire to do whatever you were doing and that in the future you will break any bad habits that may lead to it. Thirdly after the apology and the promise do not act differently. Act like your old self. Joke, laugh, whatever,  Just don't act like you are making amends. When you act like that it strains the relationship and pushes the two of you apart. Why? because it is a constant reminder of the past. When you act naturally the past dissipates. The point is to crumble it up and throw it away and walk away. Do not dwell by acting sorry. I have been through this and now my relationship is back to normal and we are planning on getting married. I hope that I helped you.

Is that normal or does it indicate that something is wrong?

I was just asking which body type is considered more beautiful thin or fat. I wasn't passing any judgment or anything. Sorry if I offended you.
So I take it, it can go either way.

I am Black American and I watch Nigerian movies, Ghanaian movies, etc,   I noticed that the fat women in these shows are not presented as being unattractive at all.

While in American movies the fat women are usually portrayed as unattractive, desperate and lonely, and if not all of those, then they are presented as the aggressors(that is they chase the man) as if the only way a man will notice them is if they initiate contact because they are less attractive than the thin counterparts. Fat women are always presented as inferior to the thin woman/women in American movies to sum it up.


Not that any of this bothers me. I am objective to it. I just noticed a stark difference in the presentation of fat women in African movies vs. American movies.


I just wondered which body type considered most attractive in Africa or at least Nigeria. Also has the west's obsession or glorification of thinner women had any influence in what African's consider an attractive body?

I know a lot of people who have degrees in computer networking and such and they always advice me to get a hp.

I only know English fluently.
I have studied Spanish as a requirement by my college, but I am by no means fluent,