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Dude,dnt let anyone decieve you,pay ur tithe and before u know it,u have already paid for the house.Even,the bible says put ur faith in God and he will perfect all that concerns u nd ur household.


Please,pay ur tithe nd see the great blessing that is awaiting you in hundreds of folds.


Remember,success is yours in all u do,AMEN!!!!!!

ok!!

"of which if she is on Nairaland u are doomed!!! lol"

Tolulop001,why did u say that?

Tolulop001,

I no dey vex Babe just a little understanding.

So far,i appreciate ur contribution.

txs.

Tolulop001,

why did u say that am messing with u guys?

As a rational thinker,I need to thank you ALL for the advice.

Or u think its not necessary to thank you guys?

I wonder why u sent the two posts.

To be frank nd sincere,am not making jest of anybody rather than thanking u ALL for the advice so far.

Hi people,at this jucture,I say a big thank you to ALL for the immense contribution so far.

Thank you very much and my kind regards to all.

Fellow Nairalanders,

I think I have to move on from here.

Thank you very much for all the contributions so far.

Wishing u all success in all ur endeavours.

jumie,
thanks a lot.


She knows that am not the jealous type cos she believes that i trust her uh.

The issue now is that,

1.i did not tell her about the fone and she did not know whether i knew she has a third fone

2.For a way forward,wht do i do cos she will be coming to lagos dis weekend.

3.Do i need to raise this point when she come arround cos i made her realised that i was not the one that sent message to the guy cos i did not use my fone to send the text. (with this i have created an impression that i did know wht she was talking about), but i have gotten a fact that she knew the person.

4.So, how do i put it down so that i can get the fact now that i dnt have access to the fone here in lagos as the fone was kept in her place where i saw it.


Please,i need to act smart cos she did not know that i have knowledge of the fone.


For now,i have taken the numbers she stored on the third fone since the time i saw it nd the sim card number.

what do i do?

Nairalanders,


I really appreciate ur advice indeed and will try nd see wht to do,may be by having a heart-to heart talk b4 further move.


But wht about the fone in question?

She doesnt come to lagos with the fone nd that was the very first time i will see the fone in her wardrobe.

I think I really need to lay my hands on the fone for better talk,proof and CANDID WARNING!!! to her while i continue with treating her as a wife widaout any suspiction like u guys have said.


Cos,i think I really need to get the fone to clear my conscience or wht do u guys feel about this.



Like u guys have said,PATIENCE.

PATIENCE is a "very hard thing" to have but its always good.


pls advice!!

otukpo,

TXS.she is not feeding me in any way,as a man,am doing the very best i can do for her and everything arround her (hope u know wht i mean,her youger ones,mum,friends and all) which i believe makes me a man.


But the issue is,now that i did not ask immediately i saw the fone,wht do u think i should do?

dustydee,

"I don't think you are a serious person, If she is having an affair, you need to back it up with evidence, stop acting like a child and grow up.Confront her and let her know u are not happy with her actions."

Yes,i will confront her but the issue is that i think i need to do this when i get the fone or wt do u think?


wht if she says no cos the name she stored the number with is different frm that she said the person is when she called me.

Please,lets share this feelings together,i am not framing things,this is what i discovered.

Hi everyody on Nairaland,


I have read all the suggestions u guys posted.Well,I still believe that the only way i can hold on my stand is to get access to the fone again as an evidence.Right now am in Lagos while she is in another state where she is working pending the transfer success.

I f i cant get the fone how will i proof this ponit to her.

To be candid,i have not accused her of this,i only text the no i gton the fone to know who the person is.I pretended as a friend to the person i saw on the fone and ask him to give me the number of her girlfriend friend no.this is where i mentned the name of my wife as his girlfriend to get the fact.


Little did i realised this,my wife called that somebody called her as per the text i sent to the guy.She first accused me why i was challenging someone but i pretended that i knew nothing about it cos i dnt have the fone with me at the moment to proof this.

So can u guys feel me now .Tell me what to do.Should i wait till when i get the fone to proof this or?

Uh,

Dandas;u have a point there.I should have asked at that same day i discovered the fone.


Now that it had happened that i did not ask at that same day or next,i think thye next thing is close monitoring as u havbe said henceforth.



Well,whtever that come next,i will let everbody knows on this Nairaland.

Thank for the responses so far frm everbody and may the good Lord see to ur situations too,Amen.


Thank you all,you guys have made me realised some points and u have teached me some lessons which i wuldnt have known if i have not excallated the issue to you guys.

Once again,thank you very much.

uh,

I really thank u all for the words of advice that uve shared with me all tru the begining of this very post.



Well,i will apply this suggestion and see ,but that will be the time i am at where the fone is;

@poster
bloody hell, be a man and confront her straight up. she is your wife, cant you even talk to her!!!!!!!
the minute you found that phone, you should have brought it to the table and ask her in a friendly manner(like married people do):
- whose phone is it?
- what is it for?
- who are these guys that are saved on it?
- why is it hidden?

thereafter you could have also asked:
- why is this guy calling HER to say that someone is harrassing him?
- why does she care about the issue?

I quite believe that the phone belongs to her.If i should ask her about the fone now,it will not work cos wht if i dnt see the fone again?

nikkykay;thanks a lot.

The issue now is that she will be coming to Lagos this weekend and i dnt want to ask her to come with the fone cos she is not aware where i got the number from.


From what she told me yesterday on the fone after the person had called her,she said the person is one of her customers when she was in Ecobank (as a contract marketer).But,the name she told me that the person bears is different from the name she stored the number with on the fone.

As it is now,should i just keep silence when she come by the weekend since she is not going to come with the fone which i believe is my evidence.

People,what do i do now?

lonelypal;if i see my wife with a male friends i dnt react like such but she have to know how they are related.

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@poster
bloody hell, be a man and confront her straight up. she is your wife, cant you even talk to her!!!!!!!
the minute you found that phone, you should have brought it to the table and ask her in a friendly manner(like married people do):
- whose phone is it?
- what is it for?
- who are these guys that are saved on it?
- why is it hidden?

thereafter you could have also asked:
- why is this guy calling HER to say that someone is harrassing him?
- why does she care about the issue?

also it is safe to say that if you cant even communicate with your new wife then there is a more serious problem in your marriage

hi MRbrownJAY,

I really appreciate your kind gesture concerning this issue.

The day i saw the phone,was the day after our wedding when we were trying to move our things to our new place.So i wanted to know whose numbers that were stored on it b4 i reacted.

Like u have said,when she come over to my place,I will definitely ask her those questions u mentioned cos for now we re not together as she is working in another state but still processing her transfer to where i am.

What if is true,wht do u think will happen?

Please,what is the general opinion of NAIRALANDERS ON THIS ISSUE?

Thanks funkybaby,

But the issue now is that i did not tell that i got the guys number on her third phone cos she knew that i had no knowledge of her third phone at all.


And if i ask her to bring the phone, she might delete the number on it.

The best i can do is to ask her for the fone whenever we are together at where the phone is kept.Presently,she is not with me here in lagos as she is working on her transfer to lagos.


To be realistic,my mind tells me that she is cheating and i have made a promise that instead of cheating on her,i will seek for separation cos i dnt wanna have two wifes.  OR I GO ON DATING HER CLOSEST FRIENDS OR COUSINS.


Please advice.

i know that she has two phone cos i bought them for her and she know that i have 2 phones too.


The phone am talking about will now be her third phone.


Even,she just called me now explaining that one MAN called her concerning the issue that somebody called him to find out if she know her.


Even,she spent up to 10 minutes explaining the issue to me.


Please,this is a gross INFIDELITY on her part.Even,her reactions at times with me is suspicious.At times when we are together she will never demand for sex if i pretended as if i was sleeping.I have being having this feeling that may she is seeing someone else cos i wonder why she will not be demanding for it as husband and wife.

To me,I dont think i need her sex anymore cos i hate infidelity.

Please advice me very seriously on what to do.

But she already has two phones.

Ben-10,

I said i got this phone widaout her knowledge.The phone was switched off when i saw it and i put it on to realise that some numbers,JUST TWO NUMBERS ARE STORED ON IT.
They are guys, even at times i realised that she do received calls from this very number but i was just trying to see ao i culd get the number untill i now got the number on a separate phone that i dnt even know that she has.


Please,lets be realistic,what do i do?


SHOULD I CALL IT A QUIT BEFORE I GET MYSELF HURT IN THE NEAR FUTURE?

Hello fellow Nairalanders,

I discovered yesterday that my newly married wife is having one phone that she kept to herself but unknowingly to her,I got the phone and discovered that she strored some guys numbers on it.

I tried calling the ist number nd realised that its a guys voice so I latter send a message as if am the guy friend.

Little did i know,my wife called me at arround 5 minutes later telling me that i was arrasing somebody.


Please,what do I do?I think i rather call it a quit before i mess up myself in the latter future all in the name of marriage.The wedding has not even lasted for 3 months.


Please,help me out dear Nairalandersss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kidsam,

U said i should shup up?

Will this solve the issue at hand?

Emzybrown,

I think u get my point.

The question is that why did she hide the phone and the sim from me with male contacts?


Please,something has to be done very fast as am just loosing my patience.

I repeat,this marriage is just ONE MONTH and 29 DAYS.What do i do my fellow NAIRALANDERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

michelin89,

what am saying is that she has one phone with different line which i never new.She stored some numbers on it but fortunately for me,i saw the phone and she was not aware of it at all.

Hello fellow Nairalanders,

I discovered yesterday that my newly married wife is having one phone that she kept to herself but unknowingly to her,I got the phone and discovered that she strored some guys numbers on it.

I tried calling the ist number nd realised that its a guys voice so I latter send a message as if am the guy friend.

Little did i know,my wife called me at arround 5 minutes later telling me that i was arrasing somebody.


Please,what do I do?I think i rather call it a quit before i mess up myself in the latter future all in the name of marriage.The wedding has not even lasted for 3 months.


Please,help me out dear Nairalandersss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Praise God!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Uh, God has been so wonderful to me and my family both home and abroad at large in this year 2009.

He gave me good health,spiritual growth,academic growh,financial breakthrough,new apartment,successful wedding ceremony and other greater greater things he has been doing for me and all my family members in this year 2009.


By the power of the most high,I strongly believe that he is going to do more greater things in the coming year 2010 because he lives for evermoreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!.AMEN.

THIS IS TO OFFICIALLY INVITE ALL NAIRALANDERS TO MY UPCOMING WEDDING CEREMONY ON THE 13TH & 14TH NOVEMBER,2009.

I WILL LOVE TO SEE ALL OF YOU AT THE WEDDING.

IT'S TAKING PLACE IN ADO EKITI.


THE INVITATION CARD WILL BE SCANNED AND DISPLAYED FOR ALL NAIRALANDERS.

THANK YOU ALL.

CHEERS!!!!!!!!!!!!

whitesturd,
I really appreciate this from you being the first person to respond.

Meawhile, I will officially scan and attach the Invitation Card for all NAIRALANDERS.

whitesturd,hope you are going to be there?

THIS IS TO OFFICIALLY INVITE ALL NAIRALANDERS TO MY WEDDING CEREMONY COMING UP ON THE 13TH & 14TH NOVEMBER,2009.

I WILL LOVE TO SEE YOU THERE AS YOUR OWN SEATS WILL BE OFFICIALLY RESERVED FOR ALL OF YOU.

ITS TAKING PLACE AT ADO EKITI.

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR CANDID ADVICE SO FAR.


THANK YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!