ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

OGA your wife know you make a lot of money. Buy those things by yourself.

Coca cola company should be the next. They keep increasing prices. They have sent notice for another increment next week. Someone should tag the government. They have to stop.

Good morning guys. I bought 180days treasury bills that will mature around April 27th @ 8%.
As it's I need the money to buy land, I want to liquidate. What advice do you have for me. Will I loose or gain? 13M involved

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

There's no marriage Councillor on nairaland. Atleast you have had sex a few times in 2 months, it's ok to me o

pocohantas:
Marry a second wife.

Is this play?

pikomamamusicwo:
Good pm niranlanders, how una dey?

I married very early, that Is five years ago, immediately i started working. Immediately we gave Birth to our first child, I was sacked from my place of work in a mysterious way. All our house equipment was sold, we left a comfortable apartment to a single room.

At a time, I was doing menial jobs just for us to feed. One day, in the process of seeking for solution to get my job back, I got to a church, and the pastor asked me to come with my wife, which I did, to my surprise, the pastor asked my wife, why are you afraid for your husband to have money? You are thinking if he makes money he will marry other women, he said pls pray for your husband to succeed, he is bigger than this.

And he asked my wife to come back for deliverance, but she refused.

Secondily, I went to another place, a spirituallist, and a female, she said I married wrongly, that the girl I was supposed to marry I missed it. She said I should come with my wife, and I did, she said my wife has another spirit, that she feels the marriage will not last...but till today, nothing I put hand dey work, most times we live together but never discuss together, we just live like strangers at home, and most time I regret getting married. I don't really know what to do now, I can't support my parents like before, they are not happy with me...

pls I need advice, prayers and support.

Op receive sense IJN. So you still believe in all these men of God. Who did this to you?? A seer that cannot see what happens in his/ her own family

VeeVeeMyLuv:

No u are not late, this the right time

Thanks so much. Please will 2pm be late

I want to go and apply for treasury bill today. Hope I am not late guys?

Alexxx2000:
It's a long story but I will try to abridge it.

My mom raised I and my brother of 5yrs old single-handedly. There's a separation in the family so we're shuffling the deck. She's an hairstylist with meagre wages.

My dad was never part of the family. They both separated because of infidelity and harsh treatment. Since then, my dad, I guess erased our memories from his life.

I must confess, she's trying but the bills is weighing her down. My little brother was to start school last year but we couldn't pay for fees but after saving, we decided to put him in a cheap school close to the house.

Now, my mom want to stop us from bearing my father's name. She mandated me to change mine as well to her own dad's name.

Yesterday when I returned from the Pos attendant job I do, she brought the topic again and she said, nothing is holding her back on her decision.

Is she right for taking such decision? What will you advise me to do please?

Why do you want to retain his name when he has forgotten about you. Please don't stress your mum. Change that name

God1000:
This is how they corrupt and push young people into wrongdoing, we're not interested in seeing his wealth abeg, he should keep it to himself.

Displaying your wealth every now and then in a country where over 100 million people live in abject poverty is the height of insensitivity, our politicians do this as well.

In Senegal, Sadio mane is transforming his village into beautiful town with lot's of empowerment programs, our celebrities do the opposite in Nigeria

https://www.nairaland.com/7187821/sadio-mane-transforming-village-into

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Funflipper:


You messed up pretending not to know. Next time, reach out for the vibrator and help her with it and after making her reach orgasm, bang her real good to your satisfaction. She will never ever turn you down again.

Real G

Adetayo41:
My wife has been depriving me intimacy for the past 1 months, i touched her yesternight, she declined, and later in the middle of the night, I caught her using a vibrator, although I did as if I was sleeping,


What should I do house.? I am pained though

I have vibrators too. I use it the days I'm extremely Hot and Oga doesn't meet up. He helps me use it after he has cum. Both of us are happy at the end. The only thing here is that you asked for sex and she didn't give you, instead she went to use vibrator. So talk to her, let her know you didn't like that at all. If she continues, then follow @Chatinent's advice.

joyd200:
Oga help her use the vibrator on her. She cum and you cum too. No quarrel, no competition, and no cheating outside, case closed.

Simple!!! Marriage is sweet when your partner is liberal

Adetayo41:
I planning to leave the house for her, I am still in much pain. I swear to God. But will be sending her money for my twin babies

Calm down Oga. It's not that serious. You'll come around

Adetayo41:


I think you are right, I am always busy working 24/7, sometimes she called me for intimacy I will sleep off, sometimes she will wake me up, and for me to cooperate. I will sleep back touching her. But now i am less busy, that is when I noticed what she have been doing

You see what I'm saying. Please tell her you saw her and hear what she has to say. Vibrator is 100times better that cheating. She needs it if you're always busy

Yomit71:
Is she mourning while at it

tayo60:
Instead of acting as if you didn't know, why not ask her why she's denying you sex but uses vibrator instead? Let her know you saw her using it, and don't sleep or ask her for sex again. Satisfy yourself elsewhere, let it pepper her until she apologises.

Satisfy himself elsewhere because his wife used vibrator? Pls don't scatter this marriage o. It takes a lot of patience, communication and understanding to be in marriage. He should ask his wife, he can even do what @ Chatinent has suggested but not to get satisfaction elsewhere. That's harsh!!

Please don't marry this girl. She will give you problems

nenyewrites:


The men back in the days are those we submit to

ReadingIsWealth:
Feminism by itself is just that women and men both deserve dignity and mutual respect as equals. Some women do act closer to a "female supremacist" but thankfully this is rare. Though it is tempting, try to not let this "vocal minority" - that being female supremacists - define the label of feminist. Technically speaking, feminism just means equality of the sexes and no supremacy can exist with this definition.

Feminist women make good partners and are typically more intelligent. There is nothing like a woman with a body AND mind that excites you. Intelligence and humor are so strongly related and I thank God my wife makes me cry with laughter from her wit!

As a country we are very far behind rich and powerful nations when it comes to gender. Feminism has made the western countries rich and hold back so many ones like nigeria. If more women were career oriented here instead of just baby-machines, maybe we would not have a terrible population boom that will cause so much tension and instability in the coming years.

God help us.

Wise man!

frozen70:


What exactly do you want her to submit

her self esteem I gues . The men on this forum have low IQ true true

blinking001:

I never had to ask because she was properly loved and cherished by my father. Being a nurse didn't stop her from submitting to my dads authority as the man of the house. For the records they are both highly educated too.
So what stopped your mother from submitting to your father's authority?

Submitting to your dads authority? Is your dad her God? Irritating I must say! Whatever happened to mutual understanding between man and woman. They should respect each other dear. If the submission works for them let it be. I can't submit o, I can only respect my partner because I love him. I'm not a baby now!

Kobojunkie:
You watched your mother submit to your father and you never once felt to ask her why she did what she did?

Sorry, my father and mother were both educated partners in their relationship.

I love you dear

Novemberaura:


Please detail me why

I want to know the reason why you make this assertion

I wan learn.

I mean if she really loves you.


Sometimes I feel most feminist are born out of severe heartbreak and disappointment from men.

Stop listening to all these boys I beg you. There's nothing like feminism dear. Because an average African man wants a woman he will treat like a child, that's why they label any woman that stands for her right a feminist.

Human beings don't submit except you are a slave. Treat people the way you would want to be treated, that's all the so called feminists ask for including myself. Share expenses together, distribute shores etc. It takes efforts from both man and woman to make marriages work not the woman alone as most guys see it.

I'm enjoying my marriage o. 11+ in marriage

Freelane33:

May peace be upon you and your households.
Big bro ,There is nothing like feminist in the real world . If you marry your match i.e someone that matches your energies in all ramifications of life . We only talk about alphaness , feminism and other when we are already on the bad side of life .
That’s why we ( human ) needs to stay true to our personal self and intentions
Before you go into relationship
Ask yourself few questions
Do I really love her ?
Is she exactly what I want
And tell her to ask herself the same
If anyone faults the questions and ride on because of the benefits he or she is expecting or looking at , the fellow must be ready to face the consequences.
We are living in the world of consequences
You do good or you do bad , you’re finna face da consequences.
May peace be upon you once again

I love you already .

matrix199:
Let me define an idiot.


An idiot is someone who goes to the market to buy tomatoes only to buy rotten tomatoes from a seller of his ethnic group and ignores the call of another seller from a different ethnic group who has fresh tomotoes in his tray.



Literally, offer Tinubu himself the choice of a stale vegetable and a fresh fruit and see which he would choose.



Osinbajo(as an independent candidate) and Peter Obi(of the Labour party) are the two fresh fruits we have to choose. Let's choose right!

Well said!

Magnoliaa:
Hmmm.

Op, I didn't you read your story but your topic has told me all I need to know. How? A woman cheating. I am neither shocked nor surprised nor anything. That is a normal thing and the sun shines everywhere.

What will not be normal is you thinking of ever leaving her. Leaving your place so another man can come and take it. Who does that?

I see she has cheated on you before and that led me to believing that that is a weakness on her part. Some women are like that. I'm sure she loves you, women can detach their emotions from sex, so what I will advise you to do is just for you to continue helping her. This is a trying time for your family, or soon-to-be family rather, and I can see the Dev*l is already trying to attack a marriage that has not happened! Please, give no room to the devil in your lives, I beg you.

Don't let him push you in sending a good thing away. Because if that lady old now, na you go come dey enjoy am oooooo. Young boys these days are not smiling. Na from where dem go dey chop dem dey find now.

But all in all, in whatever you do, if you find that she is not changing, don't stop praying for her, but make sure to be putting packets of cond.oms in her Balenciaga and LV purses. As a safety precaution. Infact, when you keep doing that, I'm sure her conscience will be pricking her anytime she wants to do the do with another nigga.

Keep being a good man. Your reward is in heaven. A good wife and marriage is a favour from the loord. Don't throw all that away because of a small stumbling block.

My 5 kobo.

May Krishna be with you.

I love you

siofra:
I just say make I tell una.

Never leave a good woman because she mistakenly slept with another man Thank you

There's no light you went to her house . The woman is frustrated abeg. Your daddy didn't do well in music and you still want to tow his lane, how do you expect your mom to be happy about it? Buy fuel na if there's no light if it's easy

Error401:
thank you

He lied to you. Positive doesn't have to be very bold lines. Read the instructions on the test strip, it's written there!

Polygamy is a crime against women and should be abolished

I love these guys