quality time is what counts most
but the quantity should be considered too, it doesnt make sense spending lot of time for example one day a month and the rest of the days there is no time for each other

to fall in love can't be planned
if he doesnt love u now doesnt mean that he will never fall in love
do u really want a marriage without love just to give him a family

money is not everything
specially if u get an average man who is handsome and caring, what more do u want? u ppl can start to make money together

it feels good to hear it, but its more important to feel it !!!

@ adolfe bad: yes he is nigerian

@ Mrs, Eve: thanks for ur input, i was already expecting something like that, i believe if he was serious with me, he would have made it official long time, i better go on with my life

we started talking about marriage some years ago, and he keep me waiting eversince

im from europe

im going out with my bf for more than 4 years now, but he is not yet ready to marry me, he tells me to wait and always extent it, it was till ending of 2010, now its till easter this year
i know im not perfect, he knows my good sides and bad sides and im sure that we know each other good enough to know if we want to stay with each other or not.
im not nigerian, thats why im writing in this forum, maybe im missing out some important sense of understanding

moreover we both have a child before we met, he is in a good relationship with my daughter but i havent seen his daughter more than 3 times in the 4 years

im just confused if its better to make a painful break than to draw out the pain.

i know nobody can make the decision for me, but i just need some input

tnx