This is in response to the  thread that just went up. I'd like to see if this one lasts as long.

Personally, I think most women have no idea what a long term relationship means. They only want to stay around when it's exciting, and as soon as the passion dies down they want to move on to the next thing, each time ACTING as if they are interested in long term, but unable to actually follow through when they "get bored".

Most women on here still list superficial things for interests and superficial qualities in men they are looking for (looks, height, dancing ability, etc, ), and couldn't care less about whether a guy would be a good father or husband.

I've stopped even trying and have devoted myself to my business. What do the rest of you guys think?

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I've been reading through some of the other threads here ,  one in particular about something like "What romantic things has your partner done for you?". I couldn't BELIEVE the number of fellas that wrote in and said "NOTHING"! Or ,  "I'd like to see something like that!". Gee ,  don't you girls out there know how to be romantic to/for a man, or do most women expect romance only "from" the other half? I always thought "romance" was a two way adventure. I know "I" get huge satisfaction from doing something sweet and romantic for my girl ,  what have your experiences been you men out there? And you girls too
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You gotta look at the sources - are they trying to sell you something? Or are they legit studies?

There's ONE study of only 38 people that shows *some* correlation between vitamin D deficiency and obesity. But correlation is not causation and even the study concludes that much more research and proper clinical trials are needed before anyone can say that taking more vitamin D will aid in weight loss. They also don't know if VitD deficiency is contributing to obesity or if it's the other way around and the obesity contributes to a VitD deficiency.

However, people want quick fixes, so this study has been used in a zillion websites to declare "Vitamin D aids weight loss". It appeals to people who want a quick fix or a magic bullet.


The only long term clinical study I know of that shows weight benefits to Vitamin D is one that was done on post-menopausal women and involves VitD, calcium, and tracking weight gain. The study says that adding VitD can slow weight gain in post menopausal women - not that it causes weight loss.

So again , don't believe everything you read on the Internet. Then go and research.

Living together before marriage a bad idea?

I just read a piece by psychologist and syndicated columnist James Dobson who said one of the worst mistakes a couple can make is living together prior to marriage. He said research on five decades of statistics have revealed that those who lived together prior to marriage have a 50% higher incident rate of divorce than couples who only lived together post marriage.

I quote:

Why? The researchers found those who had lived together later regretted having “violated their moral standards,” and “felt a loss of personal freedom to exit out the back door.”
Furthermore, they have “stolen” a level of intimacy that is not warranted at that point, not has it been validated by the degree of commitment to each other.


Kind of flies in the face of what you might expect.

Thoughts?

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Living together before marriage a bad idea?

I just read a piece by psychologist and syndicated columnist James Dobson who said one of the worst mistakes a couple can make is living together prior to marriage. He said research on five decades of statistics have revealed that those who lived together prior to marriage have a 50% higher incident rate of divorce than couples who only lived together post marriage.

I quote:

Why? The researchers found those who had lived together later regretted having “violated their moral standards,” and “felt a loss of personal freedom to exit out the back door.”
Furthermore, they have “stolen” a level of intimacy that is not warranted at that point, not has it been validated by the degree of commitment to each other.


Kind of flies in the face of what you might expect.

Thoughts?

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i have not done anything crazy to my sweetheart cause i have learnt alot from my years of research

stop lieing to your spouse,telling the Truth

When your spouse hurts your feelings, do you keep it to yourself, but hold on to it? Do you not share your thoughts and feelings because you think your spouse can't handle it? This type of behavior hurts both of you and your relationship. Either be honest with your spouse or let go of the hurt and start with a clean slate. what do you think?

If you keep making yourself do this, it starts to become a habit. It gets easier and easier to do. After a while, it starts to flood over to where you never expected it to flood. You'll find yourself doing this in front of people you know , which wasn't the project. You didn't plan that but oh my, there you go chatting with the check out girl about her really cool ear-rings!

Your shy friend is thinking "man, I wish I could talk to people like that , " Next thing you know, people will start saying, oh my god, that you are not shy! No way, you're outgoing! And friendly! (If they only knew the truth , )

It will even start to leak out into your personal relationships. Once you get yourself started, it keeps building.

Here is the Tip


1. Eye contact:
So this is easy. I'm talking to someone who is probably busy they really won't notice if I made eye contact or not. (I can even be looking at the polish while I tell them how great it is , ). Once I got a little used to that, I started moving on to speaking to people I normally wouldn't speak to. That's harder.

I started by just making eye contact with people and smiling. You'd be amazed. Most people are surprised when someone just looks at them and smiles. This might sound bad, but old people especially just eat that up. This can be fun. I'll walk around the street or the chemist shop or a super market, make eye contact and smile at everyone I pass.

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5 Tips on how to forget someone

There are many teaching from marital man . This is one of them which will teach you how to forget someone

Others include how to start with women, what to say on the first time and how to make yourself more attractive to girls.

What they don't teach is how to get over someone who is not attracted to you or that doesn't love you back. I realized that all the teachings on how to start and be more attractive to women won't work when you're still obsessing over someone who doesn't love you back.

Having a crush or being infatuated with someone who doesn't feel the same for you happens to almost everyone even to the most handsome and famous guys and in most cases it can be a painful and agonizing experience.

So here I collected a list of tips on how to get over someone you love who doesn't love you back. These advice really helped me a lot. The advice is equally true both for men and women:

1. Get your mind off of him/her. The most important thing is not to be alone. Surround yourself with family and friends, the people who love you unconditionally and spend more quality time with them.

2. Ask yourself what might be in his head or his heart; it takes two people to be in a relationship and even though you feel the way that you do, maybe it was meant to be this way. Save your love for someone who feels the same way about you!

3. Love is a peculiar thing. There is an almost ludicrous asymmetry between two people. The person at the top of your best friend list may rank you only at the middle of his or her list. However, if you truly, truly loved someone, then you'd be able to realize that it's OK if they don't love you back. True love gives and expects nothing in return; a true unrequited love. So, I've moved on from my perfect potential companion. He gave me the strength to realise that I can move on. He gave me the courage to try something different. He gave me the wisdom and sense for me to also respect myself. So, if you truly loved them, it doesn't matter if they feel the same way, your love conquers all.

4. For all those wondering what went wrong just stop wondering say it really aloud "SHE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU". Only when one stops chasing and pursing someone who doesn't love you, will you open the door to that perfect person who will love you back with the same intensity that you will love him.

5. It's not about getting over a person, it's about feeling good about yourself. It's about knowing that you are the most important and you need to be happy. If this other person doesn't feel the same way, it doesn't really matter.


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How to Make Your Boyfriend Fall in Love With You All Over Again - Use the Mystery of Powerful Words


I am going to tell you what you need to know right now on how to make your boyfriend fall in love with you all over again after you messed up by cheating on him. You are going to learn about the mystery of powerful words to win him back and turn your current relationship into a more fruitful, blissful and long lasting one.

I am also going to help you by pointing you in the right direction. What I am going to show you today could make the difference between life and death, and it could also make the difference between whether you succeed or you fail in your current and future relationships.

There are two powers bestowed on every human being, which more than anything else has shaped our lives

- words and imagination.

Everything you see around you first existed in the mind of somebody. Remember, how just one spoken word calmed the raging sea of Galilee, "Peace be still" and that word calmed the sea even till this day. Also, remember, that words brought back to live dead Lazarus.

You have the power to use words to calm your relationship and even make it better. You have the power to use words to make your boyfriend to fall in love with you all over again. You have the power to use words to resurrect your dead relationship. You can use the power of words to make your boyfriend crazy about you again.

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Unexpected Gift Giving in Your Marriage is to Show Appreciation



One of the ways many spouses feel appreciated is when they receive a gift.

To make sure your spouse feels valued, don't wait until a birthday, holiday, or anniversary to give a gift. Your marriage license is not a permit to quit showing your appreciation and love to your spouse.

Give unexpected gifts throughout the year as a way of saying thank you to your mate.

* Remember to say "thank you" either in person when you give the gift or in a note attached to the gift.

* Let your spouse know what you are saying "thank you" for. Taking the time to express the reason for your gratitude may be as meaningful to your spouse as the gift itself.

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If you've had a divorce, you're probably either trying to figure out how to get over the person, or how to win back lost love. Neither is very easy, but most people fall to one or the other, with only very few able to move on quickly without pining or wishing things could be different. You should really think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were and how they will be now. Try to be as unbiased as you can. You might decide that the divorce really isn't a bad idea.

If you decide to try to win back lost love, the first step is to apologize. You might think you've done this. You might have said you were sorry several times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to stop the divorce, he or she might not think the apology was sincere.

If you were the one who did something that you need to apologize for, apologize again. Now they might think the apology is sincere, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you won't be saying it only to save it but they will believe that you really mean it. (And hopefully, you do.)THANK YOU.

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The ball is in your court.
It depend on how emotional moral and spiritual matured you are ,
so @ the age of 24- and above is advice able for both gender .

and you @what age do you think is okay?

Physical Attraction, Does it really matter?

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with preferences, we all have them, and of course, everyone has their own idea of what attracts them physically,
happy love @1st sight

Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?

We all know that attractive women can scare off guys. You know, the whole rejection thing and all.

But are women like that with men they think are really cute? Do they think, "I can't talk to him. He'd never want me"?

please let open up

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i will just advice you to check out this post of mine

how to know if you are getting married to the right person

I personally dont think a woman have a right to her earnings to her husband.

However, the jews instituted that since the husband is obligated to feed, clothe and provide housing for his wife it is only fitting that he should be the beneficiary of her earnings.

It should be noted that even after the JEWS established this rule, if a woman wishes, she has the right to tell her husband, "I will support myself and I will keep my earnings."


but it is advice able to say that a wife should give her husband all she have since the Bible verify it that

"THE WIFE AND THE HUSBAND ARE ONE FLESH"

so it is a capital YES to the post above

HOPE THIS IS CLEAR

How to Marry the Right Person

Finding Miss or Mr. Right is not always an easy thing to do. Once you think you've found the right person, you may have doubts. Having doubts about who you are marrying is not only normal, having doubts is healthy.

Hopefully you already know that you shouldn't marry someone who drinks too much, spends too much, works too much, brags too much, uses drugs or other illegal behavior, or is unfaithful, cruel, or dishonest.

If your future spouse is free of those destructive behaviors and you are still having doubts about getting married, read through these statements. You will see if your doubts are reasonable and worth paying attention to or if you are having cold feet about getting married without having any rational reasons.
Happiness and Emotional Support
Although expecting a spouse to make you feel happy all the time is unreasonable, being with the right person can bring happiness and a sense of personal strength to your life.

* You will know you are marrying the right person when you feel support and encouragement about your own growth both emotionally and intellectually. The right person will want you to be emotionally healthy and able to stand on your own two feet. When you are with the right person you will feel good about yourself, safe, and fulfilled.

* The right person will not be negative, selfish, wishy washy, silent, embarrassing, critical, or a slob. Why spend your life with a jerk?

Affection, Love, and Sex
It is important that the person you marry is someone who is understanding and agreeable to your wants and needs when it comes to sex and affection.

* You will know you are marrying the right person if your future spouse says "I love you" not only in words spoken, but by loving actions. We define loving actions as doing things such as noticing when you are tired, remembering your birthday, wanting to spend time with you, listening to you, showing you respect, calling if you are running late, showing you affection, being patient with you if you don't understand something, kissing you hello and goodbye, and hugging you for no special reason.



* The right person is someone who you like and who is your friend. The right person will enjoy spending time with you.Your love and your marriage will slowly fade if the two of you are not friends.


* The right person is kind, considerate, and polite. Little things in life such as saying 'thank you' and holding a door open may seem old fashioned, but they do reflect the amount of caring and kindness in a person.


Communication, Goals, and Values
You and the right person will have similar goals and values in life.

HOPE YOU FIND MR OR MISS RIGHT NOW WITH THIS ,

Top 5 Things Wives Want From Their Husbands

1. Telling Her Daily That She is Loved
Everyone wants to be affirmed. Everyone wants to know they are loved. The best ways to say "I love you" are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways like an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.



2. Understanding and Forgiveness
There will be days when your wife will make mistakes or when she will be difficult to be around. No one is perfect. She both wants and deserves your willingness to understand and forgive her. Remember that no relationship can be sustained without forgiveness.



3. Conversation
Don't let your conversations with your wife dwindle to nothing but talk about your kids, your jobs, and the weather. If that happens, your marriage relationship could be in real trouble.



4. Willingness to Make Time for Her and Your Children
Having quality time with your wife and kids isn't something that just happens. You have to make it happen by not only making the plans but by following through. Time with those you love has to be a high priority for you.


5. Saying "Yes" More Than Saying "No"
Habitual negative responses to your wife and kids can push them away from you. Think twice before saying "no" and you will be surprised at how saying "yes" can improve your relationships.

THANK YOU ALL