This is for the ladies in the house , Can a Man Rape His Wife?

This is a story about a wedding that took place recently. It was a huge wedding with over 300 guests. After the wedding at the reception, the groom got up on stage and took the microphone to talk to the crowd. He said he wanted to thank everyone for coming, many from long distances, to support them at their wedding. He especially wanted to thank the bride’s and groom’s families for coming and to thank his new father-in-law for providing such a fabulous reception. To thank everyone for coming and bringing gifts and everything, he said he wanted to give everyone a special gift from just him. Taped to the bottom of everyone’s chair (even the chairs of the wedding party) was a manila envelope.



He said that was his gift to everyone and told everyone to open their envelopes. Inside each manila envelope was an 8x10 picture of his best man having sex with the bride. (He had gotten suspicious of the two of them and hired a private detective to trail them weeks prior to the wedding). After he stood there and watched the people’s reactions for a couple of minutes, he turned to the best man and said “F----you!” he then turned to the bride and said “F----you!” and then he turned to the dumbfounded crowd and said…. “Thanks, I’m out of here”.

He had the marriage annulled first thing that Monday morning. While most of us would have broken off the engagement immediately after finding out about the affair, this guy goes through with it anyway as if nothing was wrong. His revenge;

1) Making the bride’s parents pay a lot for a 300 guests wedding and reception
2) Letting everyone know exactly what did happen
3) And best of all trashing the bride’s and best man’s reputations in front of all their friends, parents, brothers, sisters, grandparents, nieces and nephews, etc.


Did this guy go too far?

it just could not work out. I was 20 and she was 25.I had a girlfriend and she had a fiance.I was in school and she was a worker.I was in abuja and she was in lagos. Her parents hammered on the need to get married my parents told me to face my books . She made me happy and I did too.What were we doing when we couldm't be together even if we wanted to.Finaly,she was cheating and so was I.We both knew that this love had to die.I spoke to a friend and he told me to quit.I called her up and that was it.It broke her heart and it broke mine.I heard her cry for the first time.I felt my heart melt like a burning candle as she asked why.I told her I felt guilt that I was betraying the other person who loved me.We both said ok as we said bye.The next morning I wake up and think I made a mistake

I Just read this from an online website,

i have been married for ten years with two kids. For some time now i have been longing to have my spouse's friend between my ***. I am worried because i dont know how to go on with dis feeling. Am afraid to tell him because he may simple tell my husband. What will i do?

President Goodluck Jonathan's financial recklessness has further depleted the strategic foreign reserve of the Nigerian state by $3.5 billion in 2011 alone, according to information obtained by SaharaReporters.

A source at the ministry of finance told SaharaReporters at the weekend that when Mr. Jonathan came into office, he met a robust foreign reserve in place, but this year alone, he and his gluttonous inner circle have frittered away $3 billion of the reserves, which is now at $32 billion, down from $35 billion in January.

This situation is further compounded by criminal rent seeking and petroleum subsidy applied to petroleum products importers, notably Femi Otedola, who are also members of Jonathan's "Economic Team." In 2011, rent seekers and economic leeches will get $6 billion in the name of petroleum subsidy.

A Central Bank of Nigeria document however states that so far petroleum product importers have only imported $7 billion worth of fuel imports, meaning that only $1 billion of their investment has been spent on import, with Nigeria being made to subsidize and reward their criminal activities with $6 billion.


SaharaReporters also learnt that foreign multinational oil companies are ripping Nigeria off through a maze of sharing and royalty agreements that were agreed upon in the 90s when oil prices were at $30 per barrel. Last week, following an extraordinary meeting of the Central Bank of Nigeria’s Monetary Policy Committee (MPC) on October 10, the CBN revealed in a communiqué that a substantial part of oil production (about 40%) is currently in deep offshore wells.
“Based on terms agreed in the 1990s when oil price was under $30, royalty from oil wells deeper than 1,000 metros is zero percent and the nation is maidenly 20 %of profit by oil companies after deducting their expenses, as a result the country (Nigeria) has had limited benefit from high polio prices and increasing output, with most of the gains going to multinational oil companies under and inequitable fiscal arrangement," the MPC said.

Whereas the MPC recommended the passing of the Petroleum Industry Bill (PIB) to stop the scams in that industry, it however recommended that Nigerians be saddled with the burden of paying for the crimes of the rent seekers involved in petroleum subsidy scams and blamed “discordant voices” for delaying “enabling legislation for correcting fiscal terms.” The committee asked that Nigerians be made to pay higher prices for petroleum products that would put some $10 billion back into the economy.
“Whereas the labour unions have genuine concerns about the impact of subsidy removal on the poorer segments of society, the stark reality is that the country is living above its means,” the MPC said.

The MPC estimates that “simply passing the PIB and removing subsidies on Premium Motor Spirit(PMS) will add at least $10 billion to national reserves annually,” with no consideration of how quickly irresponsible governing vultures will descend on it at the expense of the nation’s poor on whose back such numbers will be made up

http://saharareporters.com/news-page/jonathan-depletes-nigerias-foreign-reserve-35-billion-2011-alone

U.S. to Expand Military Co-Operation With Abuja.And President Jonathan Desperate To sell Nigeria Back To Colonia.
Abuja — The United States of America has indicated interest in expanding military and defence co-operation with Nigeria in order to tackle the emerging security challenges in the country and the West African sub-region.

This was disclosed yesterday in Abuja by the US Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defence in Africa, Amb. Vicki Huddleston when she paid a courtesy visit to the Minister of State (Defence) Erelu Olusola Obada in her office. Huddleston said she was in the defence ministry because of the meeting President Barrack Obama and President Goodluck Jonathan recently held on a number of issues including security.
Do not be fooled African People again.This is just an attempt to recolonialize Africa.
Do not be fooled African People. This is just an attempt to recolonialize Africa. There is no secret that the US, EU and others are facing severemonetary problems. Why are so many US Ambassadors to Africa and the head of Africom White and usually white men. It is also very clear that the majority of the world's natural resources are now located upon theconteinent. They need money and the only two places with money are China and the Motherland.
The last time I checked the colonial period had ended.Why does no one see the map of what is going on and this is an attempt torecolonialize Africa and steal even more of its wealth without returning it to the people of Africa.

Are you so naive as to believe this madness has gone on for all these decades without the blessing of the US, EU and other former colonializers. If President Obama is so concerned about human rights Why has he done nothing about the situation of ethnic persons, especially Blacks, within his own country?. What about those who have been robbing and raping in the DRC?.
Why is it when they wanted to invade Libya they went to the Arab Union even though Libya is on the African continent and a member of the African Union?.
Why have they not done anything to stop the slaughterby the Libyan Rebels against Blacks?
Why have they not stopped the mess they started in Libya and secured that country? Most importantly has anyone looked at the map?The northern portion of Africa is now being considered"Arab" and thus giving access to shipping and other transportation to"Arabs".

Once Central Africa is conquered, it will not be long before the recolonization is complete. Africa is the weathiest continet on earth yet its people are the poorest. Almost all of its resources are being exported for the benefit of the US and EU with little, if any, benefits to the people of Africa.
Do not be fooled by the Black face in the White House.The game the same. As the young people say whats up with that,
Following developing romanticism between Jonathan administration and U.S government on security question for our country . Let me repeat my earlier remark for those who did not hear me .

The American government is like cockroaches, they check into your house and do not check out . History of relationship between U.S and their good friends ended indisaster, Nigeria has always been a volatile baby . I strongly resent anysecurity or collegial relationship with that country that may rob us the stability we have all craved for . Many former colonialists and slave dealers are too desperate and nostalgic to return to what made them very rich historically .
By the way , why has it been a subject of debate to expand the voting vetoof the U.N to include Africa and other big players ? Recent global eventsis too fragile to keep that body like a personal property of the same musketeers who have enjoyed using terror and propaganda to achieve what they want.
The world has changed. Politicians no longer solve problems of their countries. They,now exist to loot their national treasury&enrich their family and friends. When they run out of ideas, they bomb themselves and cry terorism.
Fighting terorism is the new way that state terorism uses security forces to intimidate their enemies and limit the freedoms of their own citizens.The UK and the US are at it again. So we are now to be Headquarters for Al Queda?
The Scramble For Africa
Napoleon once said that " when China wakes up, the whole world will tremble", I say that when the Black race wakes up, human consciousness will experience a quantum leap, !!!


I feel so much pain in my heart, how long can we continue to look at injustice on the Africa continent? It happened during the time of our four fathers and we blamed them for been foolish and naive, but here we are now to our face, the west have come again by force and we are looking. Well, i pray our children should pass the blame on us for been stupid

Napoleon once said that " when China wakes up, the whole world will tremble", I say that when the Black race wakes up, human consciousness will experience a quantum leap, !!!

1 – A Change in her Physical Appearance
Women who cheat often want to impress or entice the individual they are having inappropriate relations with. When doing so, they often change or improve their appearance. If she starts paying more attention to their weight or buys new clothes, they may be having an affair. If your wife has gone through a change in appearance, it could be a sign that she is cheating on you. What you will want to look for is small, but significant changes in appearance. For example, has she always worn glasses but has all of a sudden opted for contact lenses? Has your wife recently started showing more skin? Dressing provocatively is a common sign of cheating, especially if your wife typically dresses conservatively. Switching perfumes or wearing it more often can be another sign of cheating. This can be done to impress a new man or to cover up another man’s scent.



2 – Distance or Lack of Communication
Until you recently started noticing a problem, how was your communication with her? If she has recently stopped talking to you or distanced herself from you at home, there is a good chance that she may be cheating on you. This is because she may be afraid of making a mistake and talking about the affair or she may already be discussing her problems with someone else.

3 – She Constantly Works Late
Depending on her career, she really may have to work late. With that said, be on the lookout for changes and use your best judgment. Has your wife all of a sudden started working late? In terms of using your best judgment, know what careers often call for late nights, such as lawyers, doctors, and so forth.

4 – She Spend Too Much Time with Friends
Spending time with friends does not always signal a cheater. In fact, healthy relationships also depend on healthy outside friendships. With that said, be sure to use your best judgment. Look for the appearance of new friends or an increased amount of time. Has your wife gone from spending one night a week with friends to three or more?

5 – You Don’t Know Where she is-one of the bigger signs of a cheating wife.
When you are married, there is never really any reason why you shouldn’t know where your spouse is, especially late at night or for long periods of time. If you do not know, chances are she is cheating. When she arrives home, they better have a good reason for being late or not letting you know where they were. If she goes into a long complicated story. That’s a good sign she is lying. The truth is usually short and simple. When she is nervous she will over think the lie and just ramble on. The truth should be easy to verify , on your on.



6 – You Hear Rumors, Cheating wife rumors from different sources-also a top sign.
Many women are not careful about cheating. This often involves them telling someone or someone seeing them out on a date. In these types of situations, people often talk. Listen to what you hear. If people are telling you that your wife or girlfriend is cheating, it might be time to start listening.

7 – No Sex or decreased amount of affection.
Has your relationship recently become sex-free or has the sex that you do have decreased in intensity and in frequency. Has the sex changed? Is she doing something differently that she had not done before? A new technique?. Sure she could be watching sex tapes and learning new stuff. But it could also be a sexual preference of the guy she is seeing on the side. Question yourself about it. There is a good chance that your spouse is cheating on you. Women who get sex elsewhere don’t always need to have it again when they return home. A change in the amount of affection that your wife gives you could be seen as a sign of having an affair. For example, has your love life been happy and healthy in the past? Was your relationship filled with fun, adventure, and great sex? If so, has that changed? If your wife no longer compliments you as she did before or does something as simple as pull away during a kiss, an affair may be going on. Many cheating women try to avoid close contact with their husbands in fear of getting caught or letting their guilt show.

8 – You Are Accused of Cheating
In today’s society, cheating is a major concern. If your wife accuses you of cheating, have you been displaying behavior that may lead them to that conclusion? If you haven’t, there is a good chance that they are accusing you of cheating to make themselves feel less guilty.

9 – Hearing the Phrase “We are Just Friends”
The “just friends,” phrase is a big sign of a cheater. As with all other friendships, it is important to use your best judgment. Is the friend of the opposite sex and are they are a newly acquired friend? If so, something may be up. But they don’t have to be new acquaintances. Office romances are common. She could have been working with him for a long time. But has just decided to to take the next step…into a affair.

10 – A Bad Feeling
Bad feelings are not something that should be easily dismissed. If you have reason to believe that your wife is cheating, they may be. If you do not want to be in a relationship with a cheater, it is important for you to follow your heart. Take additional steps to see if they are truly cheating. These steps may involve hiring a private investigator or spying. But most importantly. Don’t ignore the signs. the gut feeling is often right on target to some degree. But you have to get the facts and do your homework to get the facts. Confronting her without facts is stupid. You are just putting her on alert and enabling her to better hide her tracks.

11 – Secrecy
A wife becoming more secretive can often point to an extramarital affair. For example, does your wife spend too much time on the phone or the internet? If so, what does she say when you ask her what she is doing? If you receive a “nothing,” or a “not your business,” response, something may be going on. In keeping with phone and internet use, does your wife automatically hang-up the phone whenever you walk into a room? Does she shut off the computer or try to block your view of it? If so, your wife’s secrecy may mean that she is trying to cover up an affair.

12 – Changes in accounting ,paying bills and household book keeping.
One of the simplest ways to catch a cheating wife is to start paying the house bills. In most relationships, this is the woman’s responsibility, but make it yours. By doing this you can examine your wife’s cell phone bills. Does it show what phone numbers are called or what numbers text messages and pictures are received from? Also, closely examine credit card bills. Are there expenses listed for hotel rooms, vacations, restaurants, or anything else that you have no idea about? If so, your wife may be cheating on you.

The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many that you will want to look for in a cheating wife or girlfriend. If you think that she is cheating on you, just be sure to keep your eyes and ears open. Fortunately for you, the cheaters often make mistakes. Many women get so comfortable, that they slip up at one time or another. If you know what to look for, this is when you may be able to catch your wife cheating.

If you do find out that your wife is cheating on you, you may want to carefully approach the subject. Never confront your wife in front of your children. No matter how angry you are, do not get violent and try to keep your voice at a reasonable level. As hard as it can be, calming approaching the situation can better allow you and your wife to have an honest discussion. This is where you can decide what will happen next with you and your relationship. Can be saved? By knowing the facts and the level of the infidelity before confronting her will go along way in you being able to think clearly and deciding what Path will be best for you

Most of men's problem is finding a good woman. Some men have been deceived and dazed by a woman's looks, at some point in their lives. Many of them have wasted countless hours and spent fortunes chasing after women who lied to them and basically treated them like dirt. Some regret the lost opportunity to the marry a woman who was not exactly physically attractive but was a good woman.

Below some attributes of a good woman:



1. She is family oriented: She has a close relationship with her family and avoids bad worldly external elements that may taint its sanctity and purity.

2. Compassionate and gentle: Avoids yelling and hurtful confrontational words that can later cause long term damage and resentment.

3. She has a big heart: Thinks about others and knows how to talk to them and treat them.

4. Unselfish: Considers you in every situation. She does her part of the work in the relationship to make it strong.

5. Good with kids: If she is unable to be patient and understanding with kids, it is quite possible that she will not be able to be patient and understanding with you.

6. Cooks and cleans well: Women are virtually useless if they do not have domestic skills. Don't get me wrong, men should learn these things too. It's just that you should expect this from women just like women expect a man to buy her a drink. They naturally attain a gift for maintaining life at home with every gentle touch. What a beautiful thing.

7. Patient: Sometimes this may be difficult given that time of month but a good woman will have patience. She will not rush you into saying "I Love You", living together or getting married in the first week of the relationship. Watch out for women who rush into things without giving it some time. Nine times out of ten it's not because you are "different from any other guy she's met", and has done this many times before.

8. Sense of humor: If she has a good sense of humor and loves to laugh most of the time. This is a big plus. Her willingness to have fun and play around. Pillow fights, air hockey battles, bowling, play wrestling, dancing, and singing are among some simple examples. Life is not that serious all the time so we must learn to drop our corporate grown-up act occasionally. We are all still children.

9. Tactful with class: One way to tell if a woman has tact is the way she eats. If she devours food and acts as if nothing else around her exists, that's not good. There is nothing more disappointing than a female slob.

10. Can enjoy and appreciate the simple things: A good woman should be able to enjoy the simplest things in life. Sitting down together and talking over some tea or wine. If she is not able to enjoy the bare minimum, it's time to look for somebody new. A good woman appreciates what she has been given. It's the simplest things in life that count.

11. Hard working: Is positive about her job and works hard at it. Does not complain and nag about work all the time. Knows how to save her money and spend it realistically (not caught up in lavish living unless affordable). She does not use your money all the time and belittle you for not having enough.

12. Honest: A good woman is not afraid to tell you the truth even though you may not like it.

wow, I am surpise at everybody coment here,

pendo89:

We have wishes and reality. We must learn to separate the 2.

sorry this is not wish its a reality. i have all the 12 attribute of a Good man.i see the reason why most of you all failed in your relationshio and blame one another. I am not a perfect man, but a Good man with all the attribute and qualities.

But let me tell you,there just aren’t any good men in this town. The trick isn’t to find a “good man” but to find one who is real and figure out if you can learn to deal with his imperfections. Here are 12 signs the man you’ve found is a real man. It’s up to you what you do with him after you find him.


1. Are first and foremost, gentlemen.They are polite, respectful, considerate and attentive to a woman’s needs. They open the door, pull her chair, lend their coat, offer to escort her home, pay for the dinner and kiss her goodbye on the cheek not on the lips. Good guys never cross the line of being inappropriate.

2. Are not intimidated by strong women.Good guys are not threatened by women who speak their minds, have different opinions, show passion or the causes they believe in or perhaps, earn more money than them. They see strong women as a gift to society because they are the ones who have the power to change things for the better.

3. He’s Patient–A real man won’t try to force you to be with him. He’ll try to impress you and convince you that he’s worth your time, but he won’t force you to do anything. If you find a real man you won’t have to worry about unwanted groping, date rape, or worse. He’ll take the time to get to know you and take things at a speed you’re comfortable with.A real man will wait for you to open your arms to him. Good guys are humble guys. They don’t need to beat themselves in the chest to show they are better, stronger, smarter, more successful or more handsome than other men. The ego is the enemy of good guys and they usually have it under control.

4. Are supportive to woman’s personal and career goals.They understand the importance of individual growth outside the relationship realm. Good guys see their woman’s success as their own success. Therefore, they prefer to encourage her to move forward as opposed to oppress her desires for expansion.

5. Write cards, send text messages, buy flowers and cook dinners for a woman as an act of thoughtfulness. Good guys don’t need an occasion to express their love. They just do it spontaneously. See their woman as the most beautiful, glorious, magnificent and unique woman in the entire Universe! Other beautiful women may catch a good guy’s eye but his heart and soul belong to her!

6. Keep their word. If they promised to call, stop by, take you out or do anything else, they stick to their promise. If they are unable to fulfill their promise, good guys have a sensible explanation…not a lame excuse.

7. Are not jealous. Good guys don’t require for a woman to check with them every single hour, to give them detailed reports on who she’s speaking to on the phone, to document every one of her activities or to follow everywhere she goes. They are secure enough in themselves to need a constant reaffirmation of the status of their relationship.

8. He’s Flexible –A real man might not be able to touch his own toes, let alone bend into a human pretzel. But he will be able to sleep on concrete, wear the same clothes for days, and survive for indefinite periods of time in beer and ramen noodles. Any man who says he couldn’t survive under the same conditions is either lying to appeal to your fair nose or is hiding a sex change. If he’s being real with you, he’ll admit to his, um, flexibility when it comes to lifestyle options. How is this good for you? A real man’s flexibility means he’ll be able to take your ups and downs, curves and flats, and wild ideas in stride. If a real man loves you, he’ll flex to you. That’s huge.

9. Are in touch with their romantic side. They are not afraid to express their emotions, talk about their feelings, show their interest and do it in the most romantic ways possible. Good guys can make a woman’s heart melt from miles away just by opening their romantic side and letting the love flow. Make love to a woman’s soul at the same time as her body. Merging with her soul is their ultimate goal…not just a mere orgasm.

10. Have achieved a balance in their lives on their own.Good guys have invested enough time in all aspects in their development – family, education, career, health, hobbies, interests and sports. They are happy with who they are and are satisfied with their lives.

11. Will find time and place for you no matter how busy and crazy their schedule may be.Good guys never use the excuse, “Sorry, but I was busy with work.” If they want to be with you, they will move mountains, sail oceans, cross continents, fly countries and do anything they can to be with their special woman.

12. Don’t use past relationship disappointments as excuses to why they don’t want to commit to a woman. What happened in the past, stays there. What’s important is the here and the now…and that is YOU!

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Solution To Our Suffering And Struggle Is Revolution

There are so many issues militating against Nigeria. Nigeria is a beautiful nation, and richly endowed in both natural and human resources. It is supposed to be the one the Richest, if not the richest nation in the world. It is a nation blessed in virtually every natural resources that earth can offer, yet Nigeria as a nation battles with virtually every facet of life.



The Nigeria polity is a very complex and corrupt institution. Virtually every section of the Nigeria polity is corrupt, including the Religious section. Many promises have been made by both past and present government that have not been considered, or any intention to bring such promises to pass, instead they few elites gather to enrich their families alone and gang members.



The promises are made to benefit the life of a few particular homes in the Nation. I always find it too hard to see any future with the Nigerian society. It is too difficult to understand the love I have for my nation, and it's people. Not only humans who are against Nigeria, but I believe that God is also not happy with us. We've done better than the children of Sodom and Gomorrah in the Bible that God destroyed with anger. We have no love for one another, and we expect the best out of God's varieties of Virtues. We have asked God "What can you do to us".



I believe that the best solution to our suffering and struggle is revolution. Without revolution, life will be more unbearable than we had expected. There is nothing good coming out of the present government. They will only do as their predecessors did. Nothing will be different from the past. The evil manipulators are still walking the streets of Nigeria free

Nigerian politicians have swallowed Trillions of Dollars in a bid to govern the Nigerian populace in their selfish interest, yet we've not been able to achieve any thing out of the empty promises of the past. The same group of politician who made empty promises in the past are still being employed in the present government to loot from the left over’s they happened to leave in the past. People with ugly and repulsive reputation are still around the sit of power. We expect the best tomorrow, yet tomorrow comes and goes without any expected change. How long shall we wait to be able to change the situation? We have been promised so many things in the past, and there are many promises made each tenure without any expected end. The Nigerian population is more than 300,000,000 both home and abroad. Our population is enough to raise the economy of any country to glory, yet the more we grow in number, the more poverty greets us with it's ugly hands.

I will be so happy if I die trying to make a better change for my nation. As old as Nigeria is at the moment, it is supposed to have achieved better than any nation of the world. The country itself stands on top of the greatest mountain of prosperity. It has every thing it takes to prosper. Nigeria as a nation has no excuse to be better than any nation of this world. We have the most vibrant and bustling economy in the world, yet we still go and borrow.We are highly blessed and favored in every form and shape. We have the greatest educated population in African, if not in the world. Our human and natural resources makes us over qualified to do better than any nation of the world, yet we are always managing. I am not expressing it this way because I am frustrated or poor, but to see a Nigerian polity that is free from the evil intentions of men in power. I am more comfortable than most politicians in Nigeria.You may doubt me, but this is the truth.

If God decides to visit some countries on the planet earth with blessings, I don't think Nigeria should be amongst the list of countries to receive any package at all. Nigeria is very blessed to be more beautiful than any paradise on earth. If Nigeria decides to give per each family N10, 000,000, it will still be richer than most countries in Africa. Some countries in Africa are more beautiful and organized than Nigeria, yet they don’t have 1/3 of our natural resources. Our population alone makes us one of the highest TAX paying societies in this world. Our nation is ridiculous poor, because we as Nigerians are still not feeling the heats. Nigerian embassies around the world are just monumental offices for the compensation of ex-politician who can be of great assistance to the existing government.



I was privileged to conduct a survey on some of our present and ex-leaders that are living outside the shores of Nigeria, and we discovered that some were as rich as the CBN. The Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC) realizes over $1 Trillion US Dollars from Crude Oil alone, and $200 Billion US Dollars can not be accounted for to the public. The Nigerian Gross Domestic Production (GPD) is greater than US Wall Street Stock market, but not every activity is accounted for the public to know. The People of Nigeria are in absolute ignorance, both the educated and uneducated. We live as though it doesn’t concern us at all.

When are we going to learn from the troubles of the past? When will a Nigerian be proud of the riches of his or her country? When will our nation be free from injustice and bad governance? When will a 50 years old man reason responsibly? When will the tears of both the poor and underprivileged be of any concern to the leadership Nigeria? When will Nigeria as a Nation be proud in any part of the world? Our name is a total mess outside Nigeria. A nation as great as we are do not have a data base for any of her citizen, and in our absolute stupidity we call ourselves the giant of Africa. What is the Giant all about? A giant in absolute foolishness and ignorance. A giant in the business of looting and embezzlement. A giant in the business of destruction.



I strongly believe that we can still make a change the violent way. We have seen the worst evil under the sun, and we are not intending to see more. I believe that God has turned his back on us, and can only be able to listen once again if we are ready to take up the responsibility first. We are just like any other politician who is in Abuja. It is just that we are the opposite of what they have gone to the National assembly to do. These people are just a product of the Devil. I believe that the Devil belongs to the Nigeria community. When you fly into the environment of Nigeria, you will observe that you have entered into hell on earth. Our people are so difficult to handle. I pray and wish the best to come out of this great unison for change.



I am ready to die for it. Very soon a lot of Nigerian citizens will be setting bombs on their body as a sacrifice. Many people are out to die for this course.

You go fit make Eba for well?

C'mon friends let's play the OLEKU game. it goes like dis, TELL ME SOMTING WEY I NO FIT DO?? & I go tell u somtin wey u no fit do too. trust 9ja, we no dey carry last, *wink*

fit use superglue do eyedrop?

Living together as husband and wife still remains a great challenge despite all the counselling people undergo before marriage. I wonder a great deal how people with little or no counsel cope. Does this (lack of counsel) in a way account for the soaring number of divorce and marital problems bracing our world? Anyway, I do not want to believe that problems come because couples have decided to stay together and build a family; rather, bringing two human beings from different places or even siblings of the same parents could still be pretty difficult to manage. The bulk of the cause, I think, is in our differences as no two persons are ever the same.

With this in mind, it would help if we could do our best to live amicably and keep the love we first had alive. Studying and understanding the need of your partner and going a step further to meet it sure puts you on a higher platform of love. Both men and women have need to be loved and appreciated but they express this in different ways according to their personality.

There is definitely no ‘one size fits all’ in marriage; you have to diligently work out what works for you. Having said that, there are a few points to consider if having a good relationship is your goal:

•Emotional attention: This sounds like a cry of an abandoned wife. Women, naturally, love to be heard and identified with each time there is a problem. They love to talk about their feelings and would love you to give them the best attention that can see them through this rough time. Men, on the other hand, have their emotional downside in a totally different way and have a different way of coping with it. A man would invariably love to be quiet in rough times; taking more time to be alone and brood over what just happened with the view of finding solution fast.

The natural instinct of being a leader makes him feel responsibly to the people around him and always putting himself in the position of problem solver. If, in anyway, the rule changes (that is your husband is now the one who loves to talk about his problems or your wife wants to be alone and quiet during challenges) in your relationship, you should be smart enough to pick what kind of person you are married to and how best to support him/her in times of need. The whole essence of relationship is having someone to share your life with.

•Show kindness: Little acts like opening the door for your wife or polishing shoes for your husband before he leaves for work could make a whole lot of difference all through the day and set a romantic atmosphere for the evening. Giving a helping hand to the children and the home sure makes her feel loved and cared for. She’ll respond to you without much struggle and your love would continue to grow. This does not mean that she loves you because you help, rather, helping makes her feel you really care for her and want her to have less stress.

•Communication: Every interaction you have with your spouse is either making a positive or negative impact on your relationship. Someone, somewhere, refers to this as ‘emotional bank account.’ You have to be in check of what you say to him/her, considering whether you are adding or subtracting from emotional balance. If you talk to your spouse nicely, you are likely to get nice replies, but if you speak in an unruly manner, strife might be the result; soft words turn away anger.

•Self pity: Indulging in self pity drains your partner of ideas and constructive ways to help you. People who spend unnecessary time lamenting over what they do not have and wishing life would treat them better and ending up having no time left to enjoy their relationship. If your relationship is not exactly what you thought would come your way, move on with life; happy days may lie ahead but you have to leave yesterday to enter tomorrow. Learn to take each day at a time and don’t cry over spilled milk.

•Lack of commitment: For any relationship to grow, there must be a good level of commitment; be it in the area of being faithful or deciding to go all the way to support your loved one through a difficult period. The way you respond to your spouse during challenges is indeed the value you place on that fellow. You can’t afford to be very nice and sweet when all is well. Lots of money, good job, healthy children, thriving business, etc. and turn a devil, snapping at the very sound of his/her voice just for no reason when there are tough times. Commitment says ‘I’ll stick with you through thick and thin.’ Not sticking grudgingly but giving the support you need and making you feel as a King /queen although you are far from it.

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Legendary Harold Smith Speaks About Nigeria ‘hidden Agenda

The man Harold Smith is not new in Nigerian history. He is one of the architects of colonial foundation that midwife Nigerian independence in 1960.


I met him in a meeting three weeks ago where he opened up a bit about the lingering problem in Africa especially; Nigeria unbalanced protracted social political situations. We asked if he could make this known to the media. His response was “I am in my 80s now; I have agreed but in the past ‘they’ did not want me to say anything, but now I don’t want to go to my grave without telling the truth about the atrocities perpetrated in Africa by the colonialists.

Brothers and sisters; on Ben TV last Thursday, Harold Smith was on a program to reveal what went behind the scene before the independence. The Oxford University graduate had this to say about his role in Nigeria pre and after independence era.

‘Our agenda was to completely exploit Africa. Nigeria was my duty post. When we assessed Nigeria, this was what we found in the southern region; strength, intelligence, determination to succeed, well established history, complex but focused life style, great hope and aspirations… the East is good in business and technology, the west is good in administration and commerce, law and medicine, but it was a pity we planned our agenda to give power “at all cost” to the northerner. They seemed to be submissive and silly of a kind. Our mission was accomplished by destroying the opposition at all fronts. The west led in the fight for the independence, and was punished for asking for freedom. They will not rule Nigeria!



Harold Smith confessed that the Census results were announced before they were counted. Despite seeing vast land with no human but cattle in the north, we still gave the north 55 million instead of 32 Million. This was to be used to maintain their majority votes and future power bid. He stated that the West without Lagos was the most populous in Nigeria at that time but we ignored that. The north was seriously encouraged to go into the military. According to him, they believe that the south may attend western education, but future leaders will always come from military background. Their traditional rulers were to be made influential and super human. The northerners were given accelerated promotions both in the military and civil service to justify their superiority over the south. Everything was to work against the south. We truncated their good plan for their future. “I was very sorry for the A.G; it was a great party too much for African standard. We planned to destroy Awolowo and Azikwe well, the west and the east and sowed a seed of discord among them”. We tricked Azikwe into accepting to be president having known that Balewa will be the main man with power. Awolowo has to go to jail to cripple his genius plans for a greater Nigeria.


FRAUDSTERS

However, Harold Smith justified the British agenda of colonialism in Nigeria, which he believed was originally to help build Africa after the ruins of slave trade, but lamented that the British only looked after themselves and not after Nigerian interest. The British really let Nigeria down. When I see Nigerian been accused of fraud and from what I saw on the streets of Lagos; the British were worst fraudsters.

Looking at the northern leaders now he said, “If they have any agenda in Nigeria at all, sadly it is only for the north, and nothing for Nigeria. He stated that the British look after the British people and this is so all over the world. He said the time has come now to see people of intelligent minds with an open and inclusive agenda for all Nigerians in power…people who will really look after Nigerians large population…but ”I still curiously and sorrowfully see now that the British has not let go of Nigeria…her wealth,. her potentials, her future. He opined that the Caucasian people now assert themselves as the keeper of the “New Age” keys. He therefore said that it is only logical for Europeans to maintain their position of power, scientific superiority, economic exploitation, they must continue to perpetuate their lies and falsehoods and this is the most unkindest cut of all in relation to Nigeria situation!

According to him, Nigeria, a great nation was crippled not because of military juntas or corrupt leaders alone but by the British and American fear of Nigeria great future. He confessed, “The fear of the place that will be our ‘dumping ground’ really occupied our minds”.

Some of the things he said were not new to Nigerians or to the whole world but hearing it from the horse’s mouth is quite revealing and established more reality zones. He finally submitted that the colonial masters have caused havoc while they were in Africa, and planted timed bombs when they finally left. What we see since independence, the administration of new internal colonial masters by fellow Nigerians holding sway in power is doing more damage to Nigeria. Instead of detonating the time bombs planted by the British, the north is planting mines.

He added that ‘It was my duty to carry out all of the above and I was loyal to my country. Nigerians should try to be loyal to their country leaders and followers alike. Love your country. You have got the potentials to be great again and the whole world knows this’.

I am sorry for the above evil done to Nigeria. I can’t say sorry enough……"

My people, this is a great "expo"


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The Minister of State for Health, Suleiman Bello, has admitted that about N14.2million was collected as hardship or welfare allowance from the Governor of Adamawa State, Rear Admiral Murtala Nyako(rtd) while serving as a Resident Electoral Commissioner in the state.

He said the lump sum was collected in cash in Government House in Yola.

He also said that he has regretted his action but he won’t forget the experience.

The Independent Corrupt Practices Related Offences Commission (ICPC) has arraigned the Minister on an eight-count charge at the Federal High Court, Yola following the collection of unauthorised allowance from the governor.

Although, the Attorney-General of the Federation, Mr. Mohammed Bello Adoke (SAN) has applied to withdraw the case-file, the suspect owned up to the fraud in his statement attached to the evidence before the court by ICPC.

In the statement, exclusively obtained by our correspondent, the Minister said the allowance was "not the normal allowance" accruable from Independent Natinal Electoral Commission (INEC) headquarters in Abuja .

He gave details of how the alleged fraud sum was collected.

The statement, which was made during investigation, reads in part: "After my retirement, I was appointed Resident Electoral Commissioner with INEC. I was posted to Kogi State in February 2003 and conducted general elections in April 2003. I was deployed to Kebbi State in December 2003. I was later redeployed to Abia in 2005. I was later redeployed to Adamawa in April 2007. It was barely two to three weeks before the general election of April 2007. I conducted the April 2007 general election.

"It was after the elections, about April 27, 2007 on the decision of management we wrote a letter to the state government requesting for assistance. This we received in cash a total sum of N14, 245,000.00k.

"The money was used to facilitate our movement to our new office and INEC staff generally were given money as welfare out of which I was given N750,000.00(cash).

"I strongly believe that the word hardship was wrongly used, but we were asking for assistance and logistics.

"I personally quarreled with the word hardship, but I was convinced later after looking at the difficult terrain areas we had to cover and conduct the elections, especially Tongo Local Government.

"Finally, I must confess my displeasure on the use of the word ‘Hardship allowance’ in the letter. The copy of the letter was shown to me and I confirmed that it was exactly the letter.

"I agreed also that it was myself; the Administrative Secretary ( Mikeal Ala ) and the Accountant (Tanko) that were called to the Government House to collect the money.

"This is an experience, especially the inappropriate use of the word ‘Hardship Allowance’, I will never forget in my life. I am sincerely very sorry about it.

"I confirmed that my signature that was on the letter. I told the headquarters that I made a request verbally contained in the said letter.

"The allowances we collected and shared is (sic) not the normal allowances headquarters pay to staff. I can’t remember how much was spent on the movement to the new office and work done on the generator sets.

"Finally, I must confess the wrong use of the word hardship. From what really happened, let me say it is a lesson I will always remember. I am very sorry for this mistake.

"I was shown a copy of the letter I wrote to the state government requesting for the assistance and I confirmed that it was exactly the letter.

"I agreed also that myself (REC), Admin Sec and the Accountant were called to go to the Government House and collect the money which we did. When I mentioned hardship, I mean ‘Hardship allowance’ as mentioned in my letter to the government."

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President Jonathan said, “Lagos is a commercial centre and the ruling party must control the state. We will take over Ekiti, Osun and Ondo States. Before 2015, we will take over the South West. South West is too educated and civilized to be left in the hands of rascals”.

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http://www.vanguardngr.com/2011/02/obasanjo-justifies-preference-for-jonathan%e2%80%99s-candidacy/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cHqZIkzxHhw

Hello people, just got this story from my best friend on facebook, ( Anderline Gold ) I though i should share with you and advice as soon as possible.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Bitter true life experience

A lot can happen in four months.

This is a true life story by someone, who for privacy and security reasons wishes to remain anonymous.

Just to make it easier for us to relate to her story, I have given her a different identity.

Her name will be called Jane.

Jane is an emotionally charged but reserved loving wife, with a husband who is slightly different.

Her story gave me goosebumps after reading, and i decided to share it.

Our Jane is from Nigeria, 27, works in a Bank. Anyone would love her vintage look.

If her position as a banker hasn't given her massive publicity push yet, her personality will do the talking; and with one like hers, it won't be long before men starts buzzing.

An impressive life you would conclude so far from this picture of our Jane, now here's the whole story.

Jane is married to Mr Dayo, a business man based in Lagos State, Nigeria.

Mr Dayo, 34, a very tall, dark and handsome enterprising young man, but a womanizer.

Who would have thought that a man with such a beautiful hardworking and successful wife, would be gallivanting all over town with other ladies?

This man's appetite for women, is insatiable.

Overall assumption would be, that Jane would create a scene about this behaviour, being that she contributes more financially.

But that's where you're wrong, she blamed herself instead, for not making more effort to be more adventurous in the bedroom.

Jane tried everything humanly possible to contain her husband's excessive sexual urges, but was sadly unsuccessful.

She soon became bitter, and gradually, depressed.

This is a very beautiful lady, in an environment where all sorts of men approach her for friendship, and she could go out with anyone of them, if she so desired.

But as a loving wife and also a very reserved lady, she turned down outright, other men's advances towards her, without even thinking twice about it.

And here was her husband, so called family man, acting very irresponsible, openly chasing after other ladies, despite knowing, that his wife was well aware of all his numerous sexual escapade.

Mr Dayo's conquests, were not just strangers, he also played close to home, how callous is this?

It got to a fraustrating point, where our Jane became certain, that there was no remedy for her husband's over active sexual malady.

She decided to look for a confidant.

As someone who was very envied by other ladies,, (her friends), she decided against going to a fellow lady for advice.

Jane instead, sought the help of a client she's known briefly, and has been helping with company contracts for sometime.

It's "twists" and "turns" from here onwards.

An arrangement was made for Jane and her client to have lunch together.

This lunch outing to Jane, was just so she could create a condusive friendly atmosphere, for them to get to know each other better.

Well, they did have lunch alright, but Jane would come to discover, wild adventures beyond her darkest imagination.

Perhaps she felt, she's finally got a friend to rely on.

But her client had a different hidden agenda, as a pleasure seeker.

Moments Jane spent with her client, soon wiped away her initial reason, for wishing to meet with him.

What we're talking about here is, intimate moments, nude pictures of passionate intimate moments, different sexual exploration, in fact I wouldn't want to waste your time with sordid details.

Anything you can imagine in your head, happened.

Jane felt over the moon, to her, this experience was the best time of her life.

Here comes "the twist",, As if by magic, Jane's husband, turned a new leaf.

He stopped his womanizing habit.

He began acting responsible, all too caring and loving towards Jane.

This was what Jane had been praying constantly for all these years, but with no luck of a change in her husband's behaviour insight.

But now that it's here, facing her squarely, she's confused as to how to react to this change,

She's by now, norm to her husband's sexual advances, because she is seeing her client secretly behind him.

After careful reconsideration of the whole messy situation, she made up her mind like a good wife she is, to give up her client, and focus instead, on her husband.

Now we have "the turn", She arranged to meet her client as usual, and he came.

Jane explained everything to him, about the dramatic change in her life, really hoping her client would understand.

Just like every jilted lover, the client felt used and dumped.

He initially tried all he could, to persuade Jane politely, expressing his love for her, and how he's going to miss her in his life.

But Jane remained adamant in her decision.

When he didn't succeed in trying to come her round, he turned violent.

It was the usual lovers struggle, few minor bruises here and there, nothing serious.

Jane went home that day, not particularly happy, that she's called it quits with her client, but atleast relieved, that she can now face her husband, no matter how unexciting her marriage to him is.

Her peace of mind lasted only a week, before she received a message from her client, to meet him.

She was sceptical of going at first, but she later convinced herself to.

It was after work that faithful day, and she left as usual, and began making her way to their earlier arranged meeting place.

Our naive Jane agreed meeting her client, of all the places in the world, again, in a hotel.

It started off very cosy and cordial, until, Jane soon discovered, that her client wanted her intimately.

By this time, she quickly reminded her client politely, that they were already over as lovers, and it won't be possible anymore.

But before she could finish her sentence, the bathroom door squeaked open.

Approaching her looking shabby and oozing of alcohol, was a scary looking macho man, she had never seen in her life.

The panic attack was overwhelming,

Both her client and the scary looking man, wrestled her to the bed, gagged her mouth, and each took turns in raping her, still unsatisfied, both men raped her at the same time.

After they were over and done with her, both men left her in the hotel room helpless.

Jane managed to get herself cleaned up and made her way home.

For fear of what her husband's reaction would be, and the consequencies if she told him, she decided to keep this ugly incident, behind her.

Many weeks passed, but her client continued harassing her at any available opportunity.

Seeing that Jane did not take any serious action against him, he became even more encouraged to try more stunts, like before.

This time, Jane was raped in her own home, right on her matrimonial bed!!!! Can you imagine such disgust!!!

After this gruesome ordeal, she became so scared and fraustrated.

This client has suddenly turned, from a life saver, to the only menace to her life.

According to Jane, he's still threatening to come out public with their nude pictures together, if Jane doesn't co-operate with him.

He rapes Jane anywhere, anytime, and anyhow he likes.

This is an ugly experience, she's found really hard to disclose to anyone for many months now.

The affair is over and done, but the heartache lives on inside.

She needs protection for her life, only God knows how this would end.

Jane is shocked, lost, lonely and depressed.










How does she tell her husband what she's going through?

This is in Nigeria not in the UK, Who does she turn to for help?

Have you ever been in similar predicament or know someone who is/had?

Is she to blame entirely for all she's going through?

What advice can you offer our Jane?