I have always maintained that if you feel for anybody, you better tell him or her as soon as you can. I know how painful it can be to love someone and not tell the person for the fear of how it might sound.

When you find the person with someone else, you'll wish you did not hesitate. But if the person no gree, you find another one.

Poster, I'll advise you concentrate on your marriage and family. Even if the person felt so for you, there is nothing he can do about it now, 'cos both of you are married now.

PS: If I were your LO (or whatever you call it), I'd really need to hear it from you now. Maybe a platonic relationship (with me) will help you cool off.

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@POSTER by the way, are u male or female?

I think you are being too desperate for a relationship o. If you continue this way, you might attract the wrong type to you. They'll come not because they care about you but because they want to devour you,

Many people here on Nairaland are currently not in a relationship and we're OK like that. My guess is that you are comparing yourself with your friends and peers. If I'm right, you should stop this unhealthy competition.

Your life can still be something useful without a guy.


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omega25red:

The woman called you a wuss because you are a wuss and not because you got on one knee to propose.

Getting on one knee to propose is a western gesture which is from the idea of being a gentle man when you propose. Besides some Nigerian cultures do worse. Like when you go to a traditional yoruba marriage the husband and his friends postrate (lay on the floor face down) in front of the bride and her parents begging for permission to marry their daugther ( i have seen that with my eyes) Buying cases and cases of yams cloths cows and money for dowry all goes in that direction too. I mean i would rather get on one knee than to be a nally ra ped by buying all that stuff just because i want to get married

guy, come o, wait a minute! Have you met me before? Which one you dey attack me for all my posts? which one be ur own na? abeg, take another lane o. you no see me biko.

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nonsense! Tried it once when I wanted one correct chic to marry me. She said I was a WUSSY.

Since then, I NEVER EVER do that shit. If you'll marry me, I dont have to beg for it. It's a two-way thing. We are both in it - enjoy it together or suffer it together.

Guys, take note o. That kneeling down stuff does not please women. It even makes them dislike you sef.



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I think there are elements of truth in your document, but that emal part?, nah, I dont have time for that.

The fact is that most women here on Nairaland may not accept this: WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO STRONG AND FOCUSED MEN. So, if you think a woman is going to trip for you because of your niceness, friendliness, looks, money, then you better think again.

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abeg, dont be selfish,

have you considered the consequences of your decision? You obviously dont know the ordeal that sickle-cell children suffer before they eventually die.

think about your unborn children. what if all of them become SS? abeg, think well before you make this decision.

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[size=26pt]Now, I'm going to be a BAD GUY. Anybody joing me?, lol [/size]


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Dont start another tribal war o.

Later you pple will start arguing about Hausa, Yoruba and Edo chics.

But anyway, I luv Igbo chics. Many of them are gorgeous -especially the ones bred with bread and butter.

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nah, I dont want her back.

I think we need to move forward - not backwards


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Guy, you messed up big time. That is the least I can say.
Some guys are whole-heartedly looking for a woman who can pour this much luv, you found one and still flirting?

My brother, you need to be flogged 24 strokes of te cane. The best you should do now is to leave that your EX immediately (like a hot pan) and concentrate on your MAIN gf, before she discovers what's going on,

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@poster: Excuse me niggar,

I dont even care how you feel about my reply, but I'ma give it to you just the way I deem fit. Honestly, your post is typical of a guy who's had troubles attracting women.

I suggest you go learn the art. What's wrong with ya? This is an insult to gentlemen (like moi) who might be classified in your category.

How do you know a lady dont have a guy? Or do you now read minds? If a gal dont want you, bro, it's by force - move on and find the next available woman. There are tons of them out there.

You sound like some 'em fellas who'll be stalking, threatening and cursing a chic for not dating you. How old are you by the way? Go and learn and quit whinning.


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monkey, catch banana, lol

I have been having this challenge for a while now:

I want to register a domain with the extension of .edu and it has to be on Windows platform. But it appears that the webhosts that I know do not register .edu domains, let alone on Windows.

Is there anyone here with better experience or advice?

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190:

But you wanted something concrete to forget about her!

yea, but not your suggestion. , lol. Let me try other chics,

meanwhile, how is omolola? Oh yea, we know everything,

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190:

maybe you should spend alot of tyme watching hard core po[i]rnog[/i]raphy

You would forget abt her,

you are not well.  have you heard about a man named Jesus? I think you need him in your life.

omega25red:

dude you have to find other women to chase after or maybe since she shut you down politely you are baffled because it is strange. you might want to try your luck again so when she turns you down with disrespect you will feel better

guy, you made a good point o. Maybe, I am used to girls turning me down in very impolite ways, ranting and snubbing et al. So, maybe I got used to female antagonism, lol But nah, I wont let it get to that level. I'ma leave now before I lose my respect.

Bluhazel:

@Poster, can you be sincere with yourself that if you are able to woo this girl that you would be faithful to her and the love can lead to something serious? If yes, don't give up; but if no, why act like a sissy? Let go Mahn.

Today, I decided I'd let go, but in response to your question, I can only guarantee the luv coming from me. I dont think she feels that way and you know, it has to be mutual.

Carolece:

kidnap her and run for the hills. she will have no other choice but to love you as the only man she will see every minute, every day and every year.

carolece, you want her popsi to shoot me? abeg, i'm only 28. dont wanna die now

Anyway, thanks y'all

@sista-jay: thanks


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I should be the last person to say this considering my strong beliefs about love, relationships, et al.

Some months ago, on Nairaland, I chided some guys for following after a particular girl after being rejected by the same girl. I said I would move on, if I were in their shoes. I may even have said some other ridiculous things to those fellas who I thought were "lost in Love".

Now, I'm caught in my own trap: There's this chic I asked out some months back and she politely turned me down. Oh my God, I've never been so nicely rejected by any female in my life. The politeness was 100%.

At first, I tried other methods to woo her, but they weren't working. So, I decided to let go, since it was not the first time a woman was rejecting my advances twards her.

But here's the problem: The more I try to remove this chic from my mind, the more I hurt myself. I used to think that I was strong when it comes to matters of this nature, but ths gurl has proven me wrong.

This whole thing happened between September 2009 - March 2010. I know you are baffled with these dates. Me sef, I still cannot believe these dates.

Please, what is wrong with me? I cannot believe that I'd be tripping for a woman to this point. I want to get out of this hole, but I cannot do this alone. Someone with better experience should please advise.


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@poster,

can you see what NOLLYWOOD is doing to your BRAIN? The likes of Ini Edo and Michael Ezuronye have given you a distorted picture view of how relationships really work.

The most mature post here (I think) is that of: deco2come

deco2come:

A lot of men are like that but since most girls take their caring as being dumb, men have learnt never to show a girl that his full love.

Anyway, interested in learning/knowing more about my language and culture you are welcome at www.umuigbo.com. Don't forget to post a topic or ask any question in the forum section. You can also advice me on how to make it better

The actual truth is:

I luv my Girlfriend, but I dont do all these things you posted here. They make you look like a wussie (jerk).

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After my last experiences, I just decided not to believe in Luv anymore (that's my personal experience o). Those experiences happened with people I know very well, not to even talk of people I only see pictures and webcam shots of.

Na wa o. There's nothing we no go see for internet.

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After my last experiences, I just decided not to believe in Luv anymore (that's my personal experience o). Those experiences happened with people I know very well, not to even talk of people I only see pictures and webcam shots of.

Na wa o. There's nothing we no go see for internet.

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I fell in luv three times (and they all turned me down - Dupe, Ebi & Titilayo). Right now, I want to fall into MONEY (change of strategy).

I'm tired of falling in and out of luv. I want to fall into MONEY, as in EXCESS MONEY.

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Both of them are good actresses but I PREFER GENEVIEVE TO STEPHANIE!


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Security operatives carrying the body of a Senior Police Office in a body bag after the deadly blast this morning,

E no go easy o.


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Occupy your mind with other things and you'll be better. By other things, i was referring to meaningful things o.

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This is an AMERICAN crop which will not grow in a NIGERIAN soil.


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ElRazur:


Another one I remember is if said neighbour brings food over festive period, it goes automatically goes into the bin, due to lack of trust and the cultural beliefs that such food may potentially contain poison. While I agree that there are possibilities, I still feel it is wrong for your neighbour to come with good intentions and such intentions are just met with suspicious. Again as a kid growing up, this makes me actually think my neighbour is a witch and as such the kids must be witches too. You can imagine how destructive that can be for us as a kids.

Brother, I'm sorry to disappoint you, but on the above, I kinda AGREE with your parents a bit. Brother, this is Africa - Nigeria, for precision! People just get jealous for no big reasons.

Reasons such as
your children are more intelligent than mine
you just bought a new car.
you just bought a new house.

I wonder when we will start thinking right in this dark continent,

Warning: You may not like me because of my views, but my brother, I have seen a lot in this country in my young age.,


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I've been waiting for four years on Nairaland for someone who is reasonable to at least make such a remark. At last, here it comes.

Thank God.

Were you expecting a reply?

Thought I was the only one who ever had that problem. Bruv, u aint alone!

Leave them for good. however, still be friends with 'em. Your own is coming. Just be patient. Also, I think thee's an important message there:

There's never a perfect time to say or do anything. The best time is NOW.


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