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Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Meldrick(m): 11:09am On Jan 04, 2010
laurachi:


you can imagine is she meant to be your wife or your slave girl. well u re nt to be blammed wen the right time comes u will adjust to the modern ways of doing things


Don't confuse laziness for slavery. Laziness should never be viewed as modernity, it is the fastest home breaker. Later a lot of ladies will start complaining of one witch that is in their village. Disturbing pastors on various types of deliverance when the main problem is with them.

Don't worry when the time comes, you will adjust. That is when you are ready to keep ur home as a mother and wife, if not trust the other ladies out there they are ready to assist you with the domestic work while you get busy thinking about slavery and modernity.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Malcolm28(m): 11:15am On Jan 04, 2010
We live in times when things have changed quite a lot. Because we r enlightened and can infer and understand things more than our fore fathers did in their time, things should naturally be a lot better.
Now in response to the topic being discussed, my answer is that there is no straight jacket approach to whether ladies should or should not wash the clothes of their husbands. This is my take: A marriage between a Man and a Woman is a commitment to serve and take care of one another. A man who truly loves his wife should not treat her as a beast of burden. On the other hand a woman who loves her husband and sees a need to help him tidy up on his laundry or other home chores is also doing something worthy of praise. I am married and do not see my wife as some house help. I also do not expect my wife to see me as some house help. We are both helping each other enjoy our lives that we are only privileged to share with one another. I am involved in the affairs of running the home as much as my wife is. I do the dishes, wash the plates, clothes (recently we bought a washing machine cos I don't believe in giving clothes to laundry men) as time permits. My work schedule is more flexible than my wife's cos I am my boss so normally I arrive home before her on most days, naturally I do the dishes on those days.
All that thinking that women should do the cooking, laundry, home making etc, are things society has foisted on us which we may need to clarify and take the ones that suit us and will help build better families. I was brought up to do things for myself and I have remained largely independent, I don't see how marriage should change that.  
The bottom line is balance. If u love somebody truly, U will look out for their good. The problem is when parties is a relationship are selfish and looking only to their own gain. I have a loving relationship with my wife and I can do anything for her (cos I know am doing that for myself invariably), she also does same for me.
The real issues to note here are love, mutual respect and understanding. Do unto others as u wish they do to U. No extreme positions on this question will suffice. We need to build better families because the society is fast falling apart. Understanding between men and women is key.

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Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by greateliso(m): 11:27am On Jan 04, 2010
Meldrick:

Iam baffled seeing posts that tag washing a husband's clothes as old fashioned. When has laziness to wash your husband's clothes with your hands become civilization or mordenity? Lazy women will always talk dry-cleaning but a prudent wife will utilize the weekend doing the washing of her clothes and her husband's clothes. The money that would have been wasted on dry-cleaning will be put to better use but the lazy ones who complain about time spend their week ends visiting friends and gossiping.


he is right.

@laurachi
she is not meant to be slave girl, but doing the washing is her duty.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by legba1(m): 11:41am On Jan 04, 2010
in my view,doing the laundry shouldnt be an issue,reason is considering the rigours of pirsuing a career in lagosi spare the time for laundry,so also my wife.as a result we outsource that duty to a lady in the neighbourhood and she's good at it.as a result i dont burden eigher my self and wife.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Nobody: 11:42am On Jan 04, 2010
But i have to take care of her needs and that of her extended family if the need arise and also pay kids school fees, house rents and buy cars for use and also the electronics.
i am sure doing the laundry by her should be a way of showing appreciation.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Nobody: 11:50am On Jan 04, 2010
No Recharge cards, No clothings, No my Mama is sick and No fast foods from the man too! It amazes me when you people said you will do more than washing his clothes in Issaiah 4. Well, I can't date or marry any woman that considers her nails and class battle or gender equality before a healthy relationship or marriage. Men do a lot dirty things to see their women happy and covered, and don't go about bandying them.

You can do best by staying single or single parent, try any of the two.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by etaurus(m): 12:04pm On Jan 04, 2010
GF= NOT COMPULSORY BUT SHE CAN.
WIFEY= VERY COMPULSORY cheesy
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by vianooo1(f): 12:07pm On Jan 04, 2010
did u marry her cause she was a virgin or because u loved her enough to be your wife, u sleep with other girls and expect to marry a virgin. are u a virgin urself.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by vianooo1(f): 12:14pm On Jan 04, 2010
Compulsory no, But in a relationship where there is love and understaning u just do it, cause its no deal.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by VALIDATOR: 12:21pm On Jan 04, 2010
W - washing
I - ironing
F - fucking
E - etc

No be me talk am oooooo.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by VALIDATOR: 12:23pm On Jan 04, 2010
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VALIDATOR:

W - washing
I - ironing
F - bleeping
E - etc

No be me talk am oooooo.

I did not say bleeping.Na dis word filtering stuff, Here it is again

W - washing
I - ironing
F - f,ucking
E - etc
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by lovemoi2(f): 12:27pm On Jan 04, 2010
VALIDATOR:

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I did not say bleeping.Na dis word filtering stuff,  Here it is again

W - washing
I - ironing
F - f,ucking
E - etc
i bet thats the quality of yah mama
did she explain about the f,ucking part to u too
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Pharoh: 12:50pm On Jan 04, 2010
lovemoi2:

i bet thats the quality of yah mama
did she explain about the f,ucking part to u too


You don't have to go there lady.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by lovemoi2(f): 12:54pm On Jan 04, 2010
oh yes i do, if that modafucker thinks that a woman is just for fuckin,g and cleaning the house, yeah am gona go there mr, 
its not a joke to me

the fool sent his message twice and updated to prove his fuckin point
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Pharoh: 1:05pm On Jan 04, 2010
I never said it was a joke and neither do i joke with such as well but you should take a look at his first statement.

He was just trying to get some peeps worked up and you fell for that, by doing so you replied him in a way that went overboard.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by mirabell: 1:10pm On Jan 04, 2010
It is not suppose to be a big deal in washing your husband's clothes, but the point is does he ever appreciates it. I have made up my mind to limit washing my husband's clothes because inspite of the my efforts and sacrifices he pays me back with insults. I work, school, take care of the baby, home, cook, do the dishes, watch his clothes, mine and babys etc without his help, no house help, yet there is no such word like thak u, I washed 2nd and 3rd Jan, all he could say was that he had warned me severally to always straighten his clothes u cant imagine how bad I felt.

I practically backed the baby y'day to b able to wash, when her cry was too much I had to stop. In all I only washed few of my house wares all his was almost done,  and all he could do was complain. pls the stress is not worth it 4 a man who dosent reciprocate.

For me I will only was his clothes when i feel like it.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by lovemoi2(f): 1:11pm On Jan 04, 2010
Pharoh:

I never said it was a joke and neither do i joke with such as well but you should take a look at his first statement.

He was just trying to get some peeps worked up and you fell for that, by doing so you replied him in a way that went overboard.

i dint go over board
unless if his mama never married his papa and gave birth to him as a bastar,d making her a slut mistress instead of a wife

then i will understand why

he clearly defined wife as
W - washing
I - ironing
F - f,ucking
E - etc

anyway am out of this thread
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Nobody: 1:17pm On Jan 04, 2010
mirabell:

It is not suppose to be a big deal in washing your husband's clothes, but the point is does he ever appreciates it. I have made up my mind to limit washing my husband's clothes because inspite of the my efforts and sacrifices he pays me back with insults. I work, school, take care of the baby, home, cook, do the dishes, watch his clothes, mine and babys etc without his help, no house help, yet there is no such word like thak u, I washed 2nd and 3rd Jan, all he could say was that he had warned me severally to always straighten his clothes u cant imagine how bad I felt.

I practically backed the baby y'day to b able to wash, when her cry was too much I had to stop. In all I only washed few of my house wares all his was almost done,  and all he could do was complain. pls the stress is not worth it 4 a man who dosent reciprocate.

For me I will only was his clothes when i feel like it.
Oh my dear that not very nice cry cry. You two need to talk, I mean really talk he should respect you as a human being.


lovemoi2:

i dint go over board
unless if his mama never married his papa and gave birth to him as a bastar,d making her a slut mistress instead of a wife

then i will understand why

he clearly defined wife as
W - washing
I - ironing
F - f,ucking
E - etc

anyway am out of this thread

Girl I dont blame you, some of the comments by the misogynists have been horrible but I dont see anyone caution them especially the males who usually only crawl out only when a female says something that looks like the truth grin grin. Fly the flag hun kiss
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by KennyG6(m): 1:20pm On Jan 04, 2010
@poster
I hate it when married couples WASH THEIR DIRTY LINEN IN PUBLIC, abeg!! angry angry angry angry
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by sayso: 1:22pm On Jan 04, 2010
mirabell:

It is not suppose to be a big deal in washing your husband's clothes, but the point is does he ever appreciates it. I have made up my mind to limit washing my husband's clothes because inspite of the my efforts and sacrifices he pays me back with insults. I work, school, take care of the baby, home, cook, do the dishes, watch his clothes, mine and babys etc without his help, no house help, yet there is no such word like thak u, I washed 2nd and 3rd Jan, all he could say was that he had warned me severally to always straighten his clothes u cant imagine how bad I felt.

I practically backed the baby y'day to b able to wash, when her cry was too much I had to stop. In all I only washed few of my house wares all his was almost done,  and all he could do was complain. pls the stress is not worth it 4 a man who dosent reciprocate.

For me I will only was his clothes when i feel like it.

This touched me sister,but let it go,just do your duties as a woma/wife,he will surely do his as a man/husband.he will come back just like the old days when you guys saw each other for the first time.shalom
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Pharoh: 1:26pm On Jan 04, 2010
mirabell:

It is not suppose to be a big deal in washing your husband's clothes, but the point is does he ever appreciates it. I have made up my mind to limit washing my husband's clothes because inspite of the my efforts and sacrifices he pays me back with insults. I work, school, take care of the baby, home, cook, do the dishes, watch his clothes, mine and babys etc without his help, no house help, yet there is no such word like thak u, I washed 2nd and 3rd Jan, all he could say was that he had warned me severally to always straighten his clothes u cant imagine how bad I felt.

I practically backed the baby y'day to b able to wash, when her cry was too much I had to stop. In all I only washed few of my house wares all his was almost done,  and all he could do was complain. pls the stress is not worth it 4 a man who dosent reciprocate.

For me I will only was his clothes when i feel like it.

On behalf of the male folk i should say sorry for such treatment and thanks for doing all these for him with the added humility and understanding. Please try to talk things out with him and also pray for him i wish you the best.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by lovemoi2(f): 1:32pm On Jan 04, 2010
mirabell:

I have made up my mind to limit washing my husband's clothes because inspite of the my efforts and sacrifices he pays me back with insults. I work, school, take care of the baby, home, cook, do the dishes, watch his clothes, mine and babys etc without his help, no house help, yet there is no such word like thak u, I washed 2nd and 3rd Jan, all he could say was that he had warned me severally to always straighten his clothes u cant imagine how bad I felt.
God will see u through girl,
i hope God can get u a better man to replace him
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by ogbori(m): 1:34pm On Jan 04, 2010
Washing of Husbands clothes, children care, house chores are believed to be the duties of the woman or lady because, that s the way they support the man who goes out all day to work and provide for the family. How best do you share the role in homes.
There are instances where both partners work, then the house chores should be done in a manner to support the other. A washing maching or house help could be employed if affordable. The bread winner can assist the lady when not working and available if he truly love her. cool
Even though the bible suggested the lady be submissive and tolerate the head cheesy (also base on age) it never preaches slavery shocked, neither does it say the woman should prove her relevance via her ego
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by KennyG6(m): 1:38pm On Jan 04, 2010
lovemoi2:

God will see u through girl,
i hope God can get u a better man to replace him
U try, just based on her "SOB" STORY you've concluded that the husband is no good and should be replaced? The bottom line is there are 2 sides to a story and while the treatment she's been getting may appear unfair i am almost sure the man is not the Brute she paints him to be.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Nobody: 1:41pm On Jan 04, 2010
Kenny_G:

U try, just based on her "SOB" STORY you've concluded that the husband is no good and should be replaced? The bottom line is there are 2 sides to a story and while the treatment she's been getting may appear unfair i am almost sure the man is not the Brute she paints him to be.
If a man had come here with his problems, Im 99% sure you will say the woman is a biatch right? Its only wrong when its a woman even if she is being unfairly treated she still has to be doing something wrong. This forum should be called MISOGYNIST because there sure is nothing remotely romantic about this place.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by KennyG6(m): 1:51pm On Jan 04, 2010
Ebonyeyes:

If a man had come here with his problems, Im 99% sure you will say the woman is a biatch right? Its only wrong when its a woman even if she is being unfairly treated she still has to be doing something wrong. This forum should be called MISOGYNIST because there sure is nothing remotely romantic about this place.
not so ma'am, i actually identify with everything she said regarding the man practically "slaving her" and sympathise with her, what i disagree with was lovemoi's conclusion that the man is useless and deserves to be jettisoned based on this singular revelation,
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by ogbori(m): 1:57pm On Jan 04, 2010
[/quote][quote author=lovemoi2 link=topic=374266.msg5245718#msg5245718 date=1262608327]
God will see u through girl,
i hope God can get u a better man to replace him

The prayer would have been " I hope God help you make him a better man"
Would she continue to replace every man she marries because they come with their peculiar problems
A better man in the area in question might be a good drunk, might not be able to supply as much as the previous dude, might not be good in bed, might not be a better company
Divorce should not always be hurried into. angry
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by KennyG6(m): 1:59pm On Jan 04, 2010
ogbori:

The prayer would have been " I hope God help you make him a better man"
Would she continue to replace every man she marries because they come with their peculiar problems
A better man in the area in question might be a good drunk, might not be able to supply as much as the previous dude, might not be good in bed, might not be a better company
Divorce should not always be hurried into. angry
My point exactly,
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Nobody: 2:00pm On Jan 04, 2010
So in essence, this young lady should continue to suffer in silence? God help women in Nigeria.
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by KennyG6(m): 2:03pm On Jan 04, 2010
So because she dey wash her husband’s clothes she is now suffering ehn? Na wa oooo
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by desthan(m): 2:11pm On Jan 04, 2010
Yet anoda inane/retarded question/thread from them so called miss independent.

What a shame undecided
Re: Is It Compulsory To Wash Your Husband's Clothes? by Pharoh: 2:23pm On Jan 04, 2010
Ebonyeyes:

So in essence, this young lady should continue to suffer in silence? God help women in Nigeria.

What about those in the UK?  undecided

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