Dear Nigerian Girls and Ladies,

Please, sit back to read through this post and do not be in a hurry to read it. This post can change the rest of your life for good.

99.9% of you have mistaken lust for love in many relationships with boys and men. Because, you have been misled by your emotions and ignored the truth. That true love is not based on emotions and physical attractions, but on honesty and transparency of the heart, soul and spirit.

1. You are creatures of easy virtues, who are often swayed by the flattery and lies of boys and men who swear to love you, but are only interested in your physical attractions and how pretty or sexy you look. They would do whatever they could to lure you and woo you to seduce you into premarital sex and even promise to marry you. And in most cases, you would be mere pawns in their Chess of Romance. Because, they later compare notes with their buddies when they meet at the Ikoyi Club 38 in Lagos, SportsShack in Surulere and other bars, clubs or pubs where they regale themselves.

2. Even when they do whatever it would take to hook you and marry you after they would have sworn heaven on earth at the marriage registry or before a crowd of witnesses in church, they will now show you their true colours in black and white. And it would be too late to cry. Because, you are trapped in the bondage of a marriage of convenience. So, you have no choice but to do your best to survive by all means possible. But please, do not do anything stupid or what you would later be left with apologies and regrets for the rest of your life.

3. Don't fall for the "shine shine bobo" or the "randy dandy", whether young or old.
Don't lure a married man from his wife. Because, the grave consequences of adultery would leave you cursed and scarred for life. The husband who would stray from his wife to waste his money and time on you is evil and wicked and deserves to be condemned and damned. Because, only an irresponsible and unreasonable husband will betray his wife.
Remember that, as he was unfaithful to his wife, he would be unfaithful to you too.

4. Do not be looking for a ready made husband who has already acquired all the status symbols of the society and then pack into his house, because such a man would feel that you did not contribute to his success and in fact, he would treat you as part of his acquisitions of status symbols like a trophy girlfriend or trophy wife. Because, men love the acquisition of status symbols and having a pretty and sexy girlfriend or wife can boost their egos and they cheat, lie, exploit and even steal to acquire them. And if you prefer to be his trophy girlfriend or trophy wife, be ready to face the humiliation of his infidelity. Because, when the first trophy is now rusty with age, he would prefer a new one.

5. Love and marry any honest and hardworking man you can build a home with and raise a good family. So that he would be proud to say that you contributed to the building of his home, progress and success.

6. Too much sex is not good for you.
Because, ask the commercial sex workers and the most sincere ones will tell you that they now use diapers like babies. Why? It would be unprintable here. Ask them to confess the bitter truth of the sour grapes they eat in their ordeals of abusing and misusing the awesome sacred body God has given to womanhood.

7. Finally, do not be deceived and fooled by the lies and vanities of social life. They are all perishable things and they will all end up in the cemetery and junkyard.
Do yourself a great favour today, after work, relax and read the books of Proverbs and  Ecclesiastes of the Holy Bible. The profound words will guide and guard you for the rest of your life and you would be wiser and richer.

These seven verses are for your own good.
Share them with your sisters, friends and every literate member of the female sex. 

Everybody deserves a good life, so, do not spoil or waste yours.

Cheers and God bless you always.

Yours faithfully,
Orikinla Osinachi

The author of  "Children of Heaven", "The Language of True Love", "Scarlet Tears of London" and "Memories of a Refugee Child".

Real words,, ,but there are also men that fall in this category,this applies to both.
it's vice versal,i think but just that the % of ladies are higher than that of men.

@Orikinla
Awesome posting! Preaching in the spiritual of exhortation to God's daughters and deliverance of evil spirits!

Amen!!!

Thanx man, shows u really care, just that its a bit lengthy.

I have an elder sister and a younger one and both are married. I have to share from their experiences and the existential realities of others in Nigeria.

This Thread is simply great!
I love numbers 3, 4, 5, and 6. But I love Number 6 the most! Every girl must be told that from birth.
Thanks Buddy.

they now use diapers?

eww!

LadyGodiva:

they now use diapers?

eww!

A commercial sex worker said they have to use diapers.
They know the truth since they have gone through the ordeals.

nice talk, well its just that most females like sweet talks and lies, they prefer a man that lies than the truthful ones, you know you have bowl legs, a man would come and tell you, your legs look sexy and just straight to make you the queen of the town and then you believe, shio, well, men do play on women's emotion alot, thank God i am not one of them, i have never done that and not planning to do that in a lifetime, What ye sow, ye reap, if not you, your kids will reap the bad things you sow now, Just talking my time

Great Post. Thanks

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@Orikinla, If there are words you have written on your own, then you're a motherfucking hypocrite. Nice topic, but it's coming from the wrong individual. I know you, and I'm irritated that you're acting all prim and proper here. WTF!

@ oriki.
You are a real man.
You know I've always loved your writings and excerpts of your novels especially "unveil me,my love"
That was a classic write up.

babyo

Nice post.

But guess what?

They know more than what you post here because they have been hearing them even before my mama was born.

But they will never follow it. Do you want to tell me they don't go to church?

That is why they are what  they are : weaker vessels.

Apologyy, but that is the truth. ^{[s]Did I hear somebody say they are gullib******* [/s]}

well he's right with what he said

Good Write-up,I have always followed your posts,Its so full of Wisdom,Keep the ball rolling,
God Bless you.

that is coool nice of u guy

This is a good write up. Thanks a lot for that. And I hope our menfolk, as well as the ladies, would learn to deal truthfully with one another to avert what happened to the prostitutes to happen to them.

@Gridlock:
Knowing someone in the past and judging by what he was 'then' is not proper. From what he writes now, and what people say about him, he is a new person.

Emulate goodness.

Cheers

True talk. ma wa je ki okunrin kan wa temi mole bi rag. God forbid. Most ladies often want OLORUNSOGO, ignoring the  SURULERE. But the truth is that most girls often follow up in their friends' steps. They want to be like their friends. Some girls engages in sex just to build their bodies, to have sexy bodies. I'm always telling those that wants to hear that it's of no use to sleep with many guys knowing that they are going to end up with a man. If you ask some married men whether they wold like to know the number of men that have already slept with their wives, some will be eager to kniow, while some will say no because they may no longer feel the same after hearing thr truth.

good post please tell them the truth but they we not hear, all they after is red made man and money. God bless you for this post, more grease to your elbow.

Mr author, sorry but I believe everyone knows whats right or wrong, just that most girls would prefer a bad guy to the good ones, Even SU girls wouldn't date an SU guy, because they believe they are f**king boring.
There's a difference between TRUTH and REALITY, what u've posted is the truth but Reality says otherwise.
Most nairaland females will come here to commend this post,but it's all pretence. Guys go get your dough so u be the boss,don't be surprised if ya babe slap u cos your ass is broke,and if u looking for a surulere girl, they exist no more, even village girls don soji

That is a very lovely and well constructed post Man. I really like it.

really good post, but you stressed to ladies not to roll with rich men - what about the case whereby a poor man met a lady and agreed to marry each other - then the couple hustled together and made money bigtime! - then the bobo see say he done get money so decides to sleep around? that happens a lot - the best thing is to pray to God to give you a faithful partner or a man like me

Girls make it really difficult for guys not to lie,at least i dint lie b4,but now!!
God will save us oo

@Tommyex
If no be say I know u well,I for say na true u talk but the only lie wey I don hear from you na the lie wey u talk say u too dey lie.

Orikinla:

Share them with your sisters, friends and every literate member of the female sex.

Very good post.

Just wondering why you only the literate ones.

some pretend that they dont know it but i thank the poster for reminding them

i scanned the article, saw the too much sex is bad quote, and came to the conclusion it was utter crap.

Nice post but it won't change a thing. If it will help at all, say, 1 girl out of zillion!

Truth! Truth!!.
I pray say make God Let them hear sha As they want use powerful phones!

though,i'm a man but i took all the tyme to go through all this cus it's damn too awesome.wish we can get 50 of u in da lander's forum.kip up da gud work