do not tempt the Lord your God, my answer is capita NO, except if you are very sure that God spoke to both of you and that you are very sure[color=#990000][/color].
please love is not foolish, love is understanding.

kudos to him, i love him, how i wish i can meet him, what a genius

there is no much talk,
1  calabar
2 Enugu, but may rank highe than calabar if chime go one step higher
3 Abuja dut cant be very sure
4 Oyo is coming up fast

YES! if the man is ambitious and work towards getting ajob and the lady is already working. then the man shouo know that 70%of the house chores is for him untill he gets a job.
because it will be unfair if the wife
1 go to work
2 brings money
3 go to market , cooks and feeds the man
4 suffer the haet of pregnancy
5 and other house keeps and chores.
I dont believe in all this gender responsibility, Marriage is for completness, God noticed the incompleteness of  Adam  that was why He created Eve.

please mpetempe, dont allow that it is very wrong, if you promote it any consequence that may come from God you may partake
Now one of my family relative impregnated a girl when he was just 14, jss3, the girl lured her into it because she is very much older, the girl tried to abort but unluckily for her it was noticed, our family told her never to, my uncle payed the bill and gave her some money,  and both family understood, after she put to bed she went back to school, i still know vividly of a girl that got pregnant from her boyfriend and he jilted her, the family encouraged her and she put to bed and went back to school, GOD KNOWS WHY U PICKED THE CALL!  save your brother from beign a murderer.

i love this topic FREEMAN! God blees you, and i terribly agree with your view, there is true love butt the fact remains that it is very hard to find,
guys the only solution is that you should free your mentality of "with money you can get any lady of your choice, because with that may not meet true love, when you meet some one that loves you, you will find out that you will be the one to be begging her to collect some thing from you. or she will not demand but because you love heryou can give her any thing you wish without her demanding for it and she will be very appreciative, and you too will not be after sex becuse it is WRONG! that it is IMMORAL until you are ready to take her to the altar.
but some guys believe that any lady that doesnt demand is proud or pretending

[/, that is another bad mentality![q

Did you think that love is all about having sex no! you are making a very big mistake , infatuation and lust aims at having sex but love comprises of many things, both the pleasant and the unplesasant.[color=#000099][/color] when your love dies that does not mean that the love you had for him or her has faded its just that anavoidable condition has seperated you, now you love some one andyou realized that both of you cant settle down because of biological incompactibiliy like blood group or genotype and both of you understands and brokeup that doesnt mean the love have fade it all means that there is now limit, you can be friends, but you can get married invariably, the only differents is that you wont have sex , but you can still share your problems even when you meet a new lover you will always be bold to share your pass experience with him or her, becos there is true love. and you will be bold to say this was my first logic. anyway you dont believe in true love so dont ever think you can get one.
i have one or two very close relative experience if you want i will share with you, TRUE love neva fade!

frank3.16:

that mean your own true love does not exist at all. do u mean if u have a boyfriend and u break up, and its hurts u so bad, but then decied to move on, what u had was infatuation?
what if someone's spouse dies and he/she remarries, then what they had was infatuation. cos if its true love as u say, then the love u have cannot be shared with anyone else.
please leave that fantacy world and face the real world. love, no matter what, must fade and note that the fact that two people are together foe a lond time does not mean tht the initial love has not faded. love fades, but people make decision to stay together because most times, the enemy u know is better than the friend u dont know

thanks @ natoday

FRANK i like and really appreciate you questions,when you are married to your wife you married her because you love her and whenever you feel like having sex with her you can because that is the pleasure involve with getting married, but whenever other ladies start enticing you, because of their exposed body or beauty, to the extent of you having deep thinking about what you have seen bros you de lust whether you like it or not, what did you think that contribute to rape my dear it is LUST.
true love is permanent because it has no sting attached to it, [b]pls read my comment very well before you argue,[/b]whether you like it or not whenever your love fade for some one what you had for the person was INFATUATION, that is why TRUE love is rare. your wife loves you that is why she dresses to entice you so that you will not be enticed by other girls.

LUST IS A STRONG DESIRE MOSTLY ASSOCIATED WITH MEN WHEN THEY SEE LADIES THAT ARE INDECENTLY DRESSED

INFATUATION IS AN INTENSE LIKING OF THE OPPOSITE SEX THAT IS NOT PERMANENT, THAT IS A "TRANSITORY ADMIRATiON OR FONDNESS" THAT IS WHEN YOU CLAIM YOU LOVE SOME ONE BUT YOUR LOVE IS ATTACHED TO SELFISH REASON
NOW LOVE THE SIMPLEST TO UNDERSTAND BUT DIFFICULT TO IMPLEMENT IS "PERMANENT DEEP AFFECTION OR FONDNESS," LOVE ANSWERS ALL DIFFICULT SITUATION IN LIFE ESPECIALLY IN RELATIONSHIP, LOVE COVERS MULTITUDE OF SIN, LOVE IS THE ULTIMATE, LOVE IS LIMITLESS, LOVE IS FIRST PRACTICED BY JESUS FOR THE CHRISTIAN, LOVE IS SACRIFICE, NAME IT,  BUT DUE TO INGENUITY IN THE LOVE OF HUMAN BEING TODAY WE NOW HAVE TRUE LOVE AND FAKE LOVE,
FAKE LOVE =LUST AND INFATUATION
TRUE LOVE=LOVE (1 CORINTH 13, ) PLS READ, THANKS!

LUST IS A STRONG DESIRE MOSTLY ASSOCIATED WITH MEN WHEN THEY SEE LADIES THAT ARE INDICENTLY DRESSED

INFATUATION IS AN INTENSE LIKING OF THE OPPOSITE SEX THAT IS NOT PERMANENT, THAT IS A "TRANSITORY ADMIRATON OR FONDNESS" THAT IS WHEN YOU CLAIM YOU LOVE SOME ONE BUT YOUR LOVE IS ATTACHED TO SELFISH REASON
NOW LOVE THE SIMPLEST TO UNDERSTAND BUT DIFFICULT TO IMPLEMENT IS "PERMANENT DEEP AFFECTION OR FONDNESS," LOVE ANSWERS ALL DIFFICULT SITUATON IN LIFE ESPECIALLY IN RELATIOSHIP, LOVE COVERS MULTITUDE OF SIN, LOVE IS THE ULTIMATE, LOVE IS LIMITLESS, LOVE IS FIRST PRACTICED BY JESUS FOR THE CHRISTIAN, LOVE IS SACRIFICE, NAME IT,  BUT DUE TO INGENUITY IN THE LOVE OF HUMAN BEING TODAY WE NOW HAVE TRUE LOVE AND FAKE LOVE,
FAKE LOVE =LUST AND INFATUATION
TRUE LOVE=LOVE (1 CORINTH 13, ) PLS READ, THANKS!

FORK addict and Play boy[color=#990000][/color][i][/i], both of you are the same and i am not suprise that you have the same idea, what a good use of nickname to represent behavioral aspect of your lives
Fork addict SU or no SU , good attitude to life matter doesn't have any thing to do with Su but with Christians Period!
"selfishness have implications and whatever that is sweet can kill if not used in the right way"

ha ha ha ha, you are two logical, oh you have quantified having immoral sex as pleasure wao!, i can now understand what you are driving at,BUT whether you like it or not anything IMMORAL like having extramarital sex is very wrong and as a christian ,you should not indulge in that, or even if you are a muslim, the law is bidding on you the more

ok that pics is your babe pics right?
guy if you cant upgrade her to ur standard then do not take advantage of her unfortunate situation simple as ABC
ka ji kwo?
inu go?
se, E gbo?
u don here?
emeh kom?

my fellow Naija I NO FIT HOLD MY LAUGHTER BUT THIS IS HIGHLY DISGRACING, BUT DESPITE ALL SINCE WE CANT HELP THE SITUATION LET US KEEP ON PRAYING FOR OUR LOVELY COUNTRY.[color=#006600][/color] NIGERIA MY COUNTRY I LOVE YOU AND WILL ALWAYZ DO, IF I CAN SERVE MY COUNTRY IN SOKOTO(DESERT, SEAT OF CALIPHATE,) WITH DEDICATION , UNDER THE RAIN AND IN THE SUN JUST TO SHOW MY LOVE TO THE NATION WHY WON'T I PRAY AND LOVE MY BLESSED NATION
IT IS WELL!

Ladies if you are already a graduate please try to get something doing before going to the altar because immediately you say "I DO" you have no option except if the guy is very connected to get you a job or he is well to do, to set up a benefitting business for you , PLEASE NEVER BE A HOUSE CONSUMER (house wife) pls strive to be a HOUSE CONTRIBUTOR OR MANAGER,
guys please do away with the mentality that house chores are made for wives and waifs alone, these are the people who believe that women education end up in kitchen, helpmates (husband and wife) are helper to them selves in every thing that pertain to marriage.
IN A NUTSHELL I STRONGLY AGAINST WIFE RELYING ON THEIR HUSBAND FOR EVERY FINANCIAL ASPECT OF THE FAMILY AND MEN LIVING ALL THE HOUSE WORK FOR THE WIFE,[color=#006600][/color] THANKS.

fork addict pls are you a lady or a guy? no wonder you are reasoning like that,
back to business
yeah you well said that they needed better life thats why they will want to give in to just sex, how i wish that our eyez will be opened to see the terrible situaton that had led my fellow ladies to some sympathetic state, NIGERIA!!!
at this juncture, you have proven your selfishnes to the highest level, why will you want to enjoy the good and natural beauty GOD have endowed her with without plans to upgrade her to the standard of dating or marrying her?

mafolayomi:

;. yeah, every woman wants me and my husby thing , but there are some situation that you will find yrself that u cant just do anything about but agree with yr husby. take for instance, my husby's immediate younger sis suddenly lost her husby last yr june, and since then, my husband has been d one helping her and d 3 kids financially, pay for house rent, celebrate d kids b/days, their sch fees etc, there ar other siblings o, onme is still in sch dat he pays d sch fees, another one just finished service but has not gotten a good job, his father is there. now, tell me, do i stop him from take care of all dis pple then i bcom a bad person? even though i know its affecting us financially? no i wont. but i will make sure am always doing something for myself, so that wen he is not having too much or when what his extended family wants bcoms more important than mine i can still take care of myself. every woman MUST be doing something. that is d koko

you a nice woman with good understanding of situations, God bless you, MY FELLOW LADIES MAKE SURE YUO HAVE SOMTHING DOING NEVER BE A HOUSE CONSUMER BUT BE A HOUSE CONTRIBUTOR[color=#990000][/color]

Ugbavihi:

It varies 4rm woman to woman some may mean try again.while some will be outright rejection

yes i agree with her, dont rely on the first NO, she may need to prove your interest, if you rely know what you want, you can have little patience with her, before you shift.

DOnsteady if you wish, then work towards it,: if you where the medium behind the break up and she is still single  and now you realized what she meant to you, she may be wishing that you come back aswell who can tell, no body untill you try and observe her reactions. "make a trial, there is no harm in trying"[color=#770077][/color]

donsteady:

it all depend, i wish i cn go back to my frist love

o yes fork addict, you are not being discriminatory you are just arguing from your own view point, i know some guys may be lying as you said, but on a neutral ground why must have sex with some one you cant date or marry is not because of your own selfish and non-challant reasons. most hawkers may be very brilliant and capable of making it in school but condition had deprived them of gaining good education. now my argument here is that you should not just have that mentality that hawkers dont worth to be dated or married, I STILL believe and I quote that "if you love anybody make he or she what you want"![color=#000099][/color] thanks.

chiwuike20:

i believe most people commenting on this thread did not know of d mbgn contest, not to talk of watching it. What happened to her likened to five athletes asked to run down a finish line. Three stumbled and fell on their way. The althete that took 2nd position was way behind the one that took the 1st position. At the end, the gold medal was given to one of the contestant that fell on their way. It inhuman for the judges not announce the lagos contestant the winner of that competition, without an explanation. As far and wide as i know, one of five contestant will be crowned winner based on her witty and cohesive answer to question/s given. Answer was not only excellent, her diction and intonation was exhilarating to the stuttering and meaningless answers given by fellow contestants. You all should  have seen how loud the applause  given to her was. It was so loud that it took the mcs quite some time to restore silence. Without an iota of sentiment, i think she should be MISS NIGERIA and not MISS TARABA. I believe mbgn is been politicized along wit other big competitons(including dance athon host by silverbird group). She deserves an expounded explanation of was really happened. "THE TRAGEDY OF COMPETITION" i believe most people commenting on this thread did not know of d mbgn contest, not to talk of watching it. What happened to her likened to five athletes asked to run down a finish line. Three stumbled and fell on their way. The althete that took 2nd position was way behind the one that took the 1st position. At the end, the gold medal was given to one of the contestant that fell on their way. It inhuman for the judges not announce the lagos contestant the winner of that competition, without an explanation. As far and wide as i know, one of five contestant will be crowned winner based on her witty and cohesive answer to question/s given. Answer was not only excellent, her diction and intonation was exhilarating to the stuttering and meaningless answers given by fellow contestants. You all should  have seen how loud the applause  given to her was. It was so loud that it took the mcs quite some time to restore silence. Without an iota of sentiment, i think she should be MISS NIGERIA and not MISS TARABA. I believe mbgn is been politicized along wit other big competitons(including dance athon host by silverbird group). She deserves an expounded explanation of was really happened. "THE TRAGEDY OF COMPETITION"

please chi, she actually did well but not that she should be the winner, i believe that the undue applaud of her fans even contributed to that,  following the distraction caused by her fans she could have been the last of the five but  the  way she answered her question helped her. the judge did well in their selection, though MISS TARABA
blabbed before answering her question but did you agree with me that her question was more challenging than others

i am very much pleased about most answers given by you guys but for you FORK ADDICT i am not suprise because your name portrayed what you are.
no condition is permanent, whosever you love make Him or Her what you want.

YES, VERY VERY WELL, I BELIEVE THAT NOT ALL LOVERS END UP SETTILING DOWN, DUE TO MANY GENUINE REASONS UNDERSTABLE BY BOTH OF THEM. THAT IS WHY IT IS VERY GOOD THAT BEFORE YOU BREAK ANY RELATIONSHIP, SPELL OUT THE REASON AND MAKE SURE THE OTHER PERSON UNDERSTOOD IT. THAT IS AN ACT OF TRUE LOVE, AND WHENEVER YOU HAVE A NEW LOVER OR MARRIED THOUGH IT MAY BE HARD MAKE SURE YOUR PARTNER KNOW ABOUT YOUR FORMER LOVERS, IF HE ACTUALLY LOVE YOU, HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOU AND AUTOMATICALLY BECOME FRIEND WITH HIM,
I AM NOT DOUBTING THE FACT THAT BOTH OF YOU BEING TOGETHER ALONE WITHOUT YOUR NEW LOVER OR ANY THIRD PERSON IS RISKY, SO IT IS POSSIBLE DEPENDING ON HOW YOU HANDLE IT[color=#000099][/color]

BOY FRIENDS , DATINGS, ALL OF THIS MUST ONE BE PATR OF TJIS BEFORE MARRIAGE, I DONT REALY BELIEVE THAT THEY A YARDSTICKS BUT THEY CAN CONTRIBUTE. NOW ONE TRUE FACT THATNO BODY IS 90% PERFECT, TEMPERAMENT CLASH MUST EXIST BUT ALL THAT IS NEEDEDE HOW MATURED AND TRAINEDC ARE YOU TO CONTROL YOURS TO ALIGN WITH YOUR PARTNERS OWN, PLS I STILL BELIEVE THAT TRUE LOVE HAVE NO LIMIT. (1 CORINTHIANS 13: 1 TO 13 ) PLS READ AND DIGEST THOROUGHLY, THANKS

IF YOU ARE A PRACTICING CHRISTIAN OUR BIBLE HAVE ANSWER TO EVERY ISSUE IN LIFE IT DEPENDS ON YOUR UNDERSTANDING, BUT FROM MY OWN VIEW I BELIEVE THAT WHEN A LADY ACCEPTED YOU AND LEFT HIS FAMILY FOR YOURS SHE HAS ALREADY DONE WELL, NORMALLY YOUR FAMILY AND HERS IS UNITED BUT DON'T FORGET WHAT THE SCRIPTURE SAID "SO SHALL A MAN LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE" NATURALLY THEIR MUST BE LITTLE MISS UNDERSTANDING AT INITIAL TIME BUT PLEASE COUPLE NO MATTER WAT FAMILY PROBLEM REMEMBER THAT YOU AND YOUR WIFE HAVE YOU OWN FAMILY TO BUILD. PLS NEVER ALLOW ANY CHALLENGE TO TAMPER WITH YOUR MARRIAGE VOWS THANKS.

ITS ONLY THE LADY THAT KNOWSWHAT SHE MEARNT, THOUGH THATS A VERY WRONG CHOICE OF WORD, I HAVE A FRIEND THAT PROPOSED TO A LADY , THE GIRL TOLD HIM TO "LOOK ELSE WHERE", WHEN HE TOLD ME I ADVICED HIM THAT THE GIRL MAY WANT TO PROVE HIS LOVE OR SERIOUSNESS, BUT UNFORYUNATELY FOR THE GIRL HE BELIEVED THAT HIS LOVED WAS THROWN BACK TO HIM AND THAT HE THOSE NOT WORTH, SO HE WENT AHEAD AND LOOKED ELSE WHERE, BUT WHEN THE FORMER LADY FOUND OUT ABOUT HIS WEEDDING, SHE ALMOST DIED TO THE EXTENT THAT HER BROTHER OFFERED MONEY TO MY FRIEND TOCHANGE HIS MIND BUT IT WAS ALREADY LATE, SO,

YOU MAY BE CORRECT INDIRECTLY, BUT WHY LADIES, BOTH ARE NOT SUITABLE OR MATURED FOR THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE, YOU MAY BLAMHE THE WOMAN BECAUSE NATURALLY GOD ENDOWED LADIES WITH CORDINATING ABILITY. ON THE CONTRARY WHEN YOU DONT SHOW LOVE TO YOUR WIFE SHE MAY FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SUBMIT SO WHY THE COMPLAIN

MISS BAYELSA DIDNT TALK, MISS ENUGU DIDNT COMPLAIN, WHY YOU?
I BELIEVE MISS TARABA WAS CONSIDERED BECAUSE SHE IS TALLER

I THINK THEY WILL BE IN BETTER POSITON TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION, BUT NO MATTER WHAT I STILL BELIEVE THAT IF EVER ONCE HAVE TRUE LOVE FOY UR WIFE U WIL NOT CHEAT ON HER, PEOPLE SAY TRUE LOVE DOESNT EXIST , I SRONGLY DISBELIEVE THAT BUT WILL ONLY BELIEVE THAT IT IS HARD TO FIND "ALWAYS MAKE YOUR LOVE TO BE THE WAY YOU LIKE"