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Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by LOVEGINO(m): 1:08pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Cyphar:lol. I pity d guy. |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Nobody: 1:08pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Some of the feminist crew sef; I am surprised they have not yet blamed it on your insecurities. Some already rationalize it as normal comms just like birthday wishes, when it’s clearly stealth comms. Some are even of the opinion you should not involve her family mostly out of concern for her reputational damage and not concerned about the damage and emotional abuse she has put her hubby through in the last 2 years. Some have tried to guilt trip the Op as not providing enough. At Op if you know what is good for you, involve her family and send her home. You are not ending your marriage. Counseling will not end this kind, it will only get stealthier. Someone you have talked to for more than 2 years considering marriage and courtship time. While she is at home, she will have enough time to reflect if she wants to stay committed to you or get back to her ex. If her ex was so wonderful, what stopped him from wifing her? This is the height of disrespect! 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Henz81: 1:09pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Arkhanmu:Just damage her Sim card and buy her another different line. Just be a Man for once. I'm out of here 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Faber(m): 1:11pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
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Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by sehin79(m): 1:11pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
well.. what i believe is women do soul tie themselves to ex boyfriend well your wife is not a bad person.. but i doubt if you would be able to fill the GAP the ex boyfriend left within her if i were you i wouldn't try to stop her from communicating with the said ex boyfriend as she would rebel because some people wouldn't stop loving some people. But they can reduce the communication. your aim is for her to reduce the level of communication... start from there first. and change your manner of approach with her so that you can be the one she comes to for what ever she getting from the said man i have once been in this kind of situation before with my married ex... but i think i was sincere to tell her the truth about what she doing but that did not stop her. but she doesn't call as she use to now. because somethings change in her home on how her husband is dealing with her WHICH i cant put everything here.. but if you need any help send a DM .. and they are fine now. she only called twice this year.{newyear and easter} so i believe yours could be work on. dont pull your family apart... NOTE WHEN PEOPLE ARE NOT REALLY HAPPY WHERE THEY ARE THEY GO BACK TO WHAT MAKES THEM COMFORTABLE. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Sominablack: 1:11pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Maverick777: This Kobojunkie of a person is always biased in all his comments. Thought it was only me that noticed this. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by UjuJoan2: 1:15pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Chinny024: Well, just because you do that doesn’t make it right. Can you honestly say that your husband is � comfortable with your association with your ex? And his wife is completely okay with your relationship with her husband? While I will not entirely rule out the possibility that ex’s can actually stay friends with no hidden agenda, I definitely believe it’s a thin line between friendship and inappropriate associations. You cannot just erase history. Once there was love between you guys and that love can almost totally be rekindled. It’s like playing with fire. What happens when your husband upsets you and his wife upsets him and you both need a shoulder to cry on ��� Don’t get me wrong, I’m not enemies with my ex, but I won’t exactly call us “friends”. One time I had a child and he requested for my account details to send something for the baby but I turned him down. I just felt if anyone should be buying my baby gifts it should be the father, not the man I used to sleep with. And yes, I know it sounds silly but I like drawing clear lines when it comes to relationships. If I’m taking money from you, then trust me, I’m not seeing you as just a friend. Now back to the original post. In your case your borrow and pay back, but here the ex sends her money constantly. Clearly they both completely different things. A man doesn’t just send a woman money constantly out of the goodness of this heart. Maybe she cried to him claiming to be in desperate need, which in itself is a betrayal to her husband. This is why I always say marry a rich man. If you are a man, don’t marry broke. To avoid your wife disgracing your and herself! 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Jefferyhi86(m): 1:15pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Oga go for DNA asap 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by IDERAWOLE(m): 1:15pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Arkhanmu: The only language she will understand is divorce papers. Don't come here with any complain again. Most likely she's still sleeping with that guy. You're not even sure who owns the twins she had for you and most likely the current pregnancy isn't yours. Use your head brother. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by kuchikau1: 1:15pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
my girl is doing same o. but they don't stay in same state. |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Yankee101: 1:16pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
zomby: I have the means to cater for my household |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Kobojunkie: 1:16pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
stickle:1. Is there daughter not old enough to make her own decisions and face said consequences of her own?. ![]() 2. What does help mean in this case and why does reporting her to her parents imply this?? ![]() |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by omolasho: 1:17pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Arkhanmu: Bro this is the thing. Majority Northern girls are highly promiscuous. Am unapologetical about this. The above is based on my own personal experiences due to my job. I have lived in Plateau (Jos, Ratified, Tudun wada, Didin Kowa, Room, etc), Kaduna (Kaduna, Malali, Gidan waya, angwa rimi, etc), Bauchi (Bauchi, Bogoro, Tafawa Balewa, liman katagun, Boto, Lere, Bonunu, etc) and Abuja(Garki, Asokoro, Area 1, Kuje, etc). They are easily wooed and bedded partly due to their harsh economy compared to the south. They are very manipulative(emotionally and sexually). If they use sex work on your pschi eeeh, in fact you go forget your mother's maiden name . Thanks to their love potion "kaya mata" Compared to the south, they are less demanding. They will will appreciate the small you give to them. Better still, they demand small small but often. They are so clingy that once you start having sex with them (soo choking guush!). One other common thing with them all is that they are incapable of keeping one sex partner no matter how caring you are. Damn bitches! Many of girls are beer drinkers, but the muslim girls are doctorates in the use of hard drugs, which as a southwesterner, i found so stunning. They are also emotionally damage. They welcome break up with open arms and are ready to move with any available train. As a southerner especially a cultured Yoruba man like, you will find alot of their way/life really weird. May God's will be on your family o. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by kponkedenge(m): 1:19pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Arkhanmu: You said she gave birth to twins..... Do you have twins in your linage? How about her..... Does she have in her own linage? If no.... Then do a DNA test quickly. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Yankee101: 1:21pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
It’s clear the mentality surrounding the answers I see is ‘ never help a woman unless you sleep with her’ that is what is wrong, not the assisting part |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by lereinter(m): 1:23pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
This is serious marriage trouble Is the man ie Ex a soldier? Maybe it's time for you to call the man, or worst still report your wife to someone If she wants to leave free her |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Meenabee(f): 1:25pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
The moment we are its bye forever like yesterday. I will cut off all form of communication, block on social media and all. If we meet somewhere ever mehn I act like I don't know you ever. Let's learn to respect the sanctimony called marriage. Women should learn bare. DBestDoc: 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by zanshi: 1:26pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
I am strongly of the opinion that you can't get exclusivity with most women nowadays, look at intentional men like Kanye West, Michael B Jordan who did so much for their wives, they ran them through. That is why i am strongly of the opinion that if you notice you wife is wandering about get Magun so she can glue herself to hew new hearth throb and it would send a mssg. One thing mainstream media has influenced men to do is this endless pandering we keep doing to women while the gains is very little or mininal, one of the reasons why men are loving more of transactonal relationships and opting not to settle with a woman. |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Hespee93: 1:26pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
In Yoruba land, it was stated that any man that sleep with a pregnant woman whom he is not responsible or he owns the pregnancy, the said man will have financial problem not untill the baby started talking or can call money, with what you write above saying your business is not going fine meaning you're gettting financially wreck, I guess you must have lay on another man's egg. I rest my case. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Demigod22: 1:26pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
People will just stay and put their life in trouble. All the way from Lagos, you didn't see any decent girl, you travelled all the way to kaduna only to end up with a girl that her ex is seeing as friend with benefits. When you said she do ask him for money, I was expecting money for house rent or one big money. The doctor is even sending 4k to her, nawao. OP, I won't insult her because she is your wife neither do I have any sympathy for you. You saw the signs clearly, you know OKAFOR LAW, you know how crazy some girls are with their ex, which is evident with your woman, but you go ahead and marry her. Whom the gods want to destroy, they first made mad. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by OriginalCEO: 1:27pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
MartinsD12: My Advice to the OP is that before acting find money and do DNA test. The best action would be to do what you should have done a long time ago, walk away, but before doing that too make sure you have exhausted all other options which i think you have. Don't let woman matter kill u o, a cheating spouse is a great danger to their partner. Guys, Guys this advice goes to y'all. Times are hard, hoes are all but loyal. When you meet that special woman that can't stop giving you red flags, please note these flags, don't overlook them because you are head-over-heels in love. Your eyes will eventually clear after marriage o. To prevent future threads like this one. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Elporo(m): 1:32pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
stickle: Sorry to interject. I know it's rude. How can you claim or believe marriage is between two people! Are husband and wife deities? Are they not born of man and woman? Was a bride price not paid, and marital including conjugal rites performed in line with cultural norms and practices. So, how is a marriage - a merger between two families. Sometimes, ethnicities or nations, be referred to with an insignificant and futile description, such as "union between two people". Are the offspring not called Grandchildren and so on? Do, they not carry the names of their forebears? This same shameless woman has two children for the poor man, whose life span is reduced by 12%. 8% by his union with her and 4% by her lack of insight, pride, and nostalgia for doing dirty things like a low life. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by maduchukwusun: 1:34pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
The solution is calling the guy in question yourself. Threaten the hell out of him and make him understand that you would deal with him in ways he won't know if he fail to desist from discussing with your wife. Make sure you record the conversation for future reference. And warn your wife seriously.threaten to send her parking if she continues..make her call the guy in your presence to stop calling her that it's affecting your relationship...make sure you have enough evidence that would make her shiver when you talk to her about it... |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Bkdson2121: 1:35pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Arkhanmu:Kaduna ladies are not easy to keep as house wives, so you must be xtra careful with your life and the moralities of your family 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by LARRYOBRAIN(m): 1:35pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
She ain't loyal and cannot be loyal. Decide for yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Aystarz: 1:38pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
shortIGBOman:Not an excuse to throw dirt oh your marriage and husband. The uncomfortable truth is ladies these days are just poorly trained. Imagine a well-trained lady in marriage asking financial favours from different exes on Social Media, when she has two hands and a brain ![]() Doesn't make sense. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by kelmicheal: 1:40pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Demigod22: Nothing wrong in marrying from another tribe. Inter tribal marriages should be supported to maintain peaceful coexistence 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Nobody: 1:43pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Some times I do give marriage second thought because I too jealous and I hardly forgive. ladies of these generation is something else. Imagine one of my friend's ex sending him nude pictures while with her husband in the night. Even asking him to come and Bleep her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by simongonner: 1:47pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Arkhanmu:not generalising but most Southern Kaduna girls are promiscuous/ free givers 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Hassanmaye(m): 1:50pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
vickydevoka:Why does your waist pain you? Do you knack alot? |
Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by abidem4real: 1:53pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Arkhanmu:Women are naturally insatiable. One of the huge problems marriages are facing is the problem of "ex". The only woman that can probably stand the test of time with her husband is the woman without ex but unfortunately at least 98% of our women have exes and as long as they keep communicating with them, marriages will always be in danger. Women are uncontrollably lovers of material things and as such they don't get contented with what their husbands give to them and that drives them to infidelity of various kinds. The only advice I can give you is to part ways with her provided she doesn't want to genuinely change so that you don't commit murder accidentally as a result of her misbehaviour because once they start infidelity, they hardly change unless they meet their waterloo. 1 Like 1 Share |
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