Faber:
Follow white people dey flex feminism muscles and "I don't need a man"

Rita Dominic rushing to go marry, Tonto Dike, always shedding tears for leaving Churchill, Mercy Aigbe becoming a 3rd wife to a man, Judy Austin getting married to Yul Edochie, becoming a second wife, Genevieve running into depression and mental issues because of lack of husband should teach you young ladies some lessons...

Guys are going on strike, you will not notice it till it dawns on you.
I got like two ladies in their 30s always frowning at me when they see me with younger girls...one told me, what I am doing with all these indomie girls. For her mind I should come and settle for her battered pussy who does that

you be bad guy

Veezy4u:
Pheeew....! Finally reached the last page I must say this topic has been very interesting, chai all these comments sef
First of all, life is not fair at all in one way or another. You want money, someone has it in excess and wastes it recklessly. You want marriage n some married people wish they were not. You need children n some people are busy doing abortion every month. Life is useless! We all enjoy our youth n one day we'll get tired of life. But at the end nothing else matters, it's your happiness that matters. My advice to those in these shoes is that our African society has made it look like a cause to you but do not be discouraged. Do your best, live a happy life (find happiness) and if it will happen so be it. But if you are so desperate you may get pregnant and have your baby. Men see desperation from afar n will make sure they use n dump.
As for young ladies out there, d moment breast n curves begin to come and you begin to feel like Cinderella, just know that you should be careful. Humble yourself, be respectful, follow serious guys/men, lower ur expectations (Nigeria is terrible for most young men, the economy is not friendly), that's why most guys are not interested not because they don't want but because they don't want burden. If you can start n build a relationship with someone fine, if there's love he would always appreciate n hold you high. But most importantly forget pride, GO And learn how to keep a man! Being religious or wayward is no assurance of getting a man. Work on yourself, trust GOD (if u believe in him) and be patient. Your time will come, life na turn by turn. No this n know peace, wish you all the best

Imagine how poor you are in typing/writing. Some of you should try and learn how to write properly!

BRATISLAVA:


I don't understand all need to denigrate women.

I feel these guys have lives so miserable, like mpsdii who was killing snakes in the forest to eat, and that is why they're angry at anything female. Poverty is the greatest cause of his kind of posts.

Yeah. You garrit .

Monaboo:
I'm beautiful. I'm 29yrs and I am not married.

The funny part is that, I am not even thinking about marriage atall. I don't even envy married people atall. I think I'm wired differently.

What I am thinking about is how to go to school and grow career wise.

That's just what is on my head and it drives me daily.

So many people are married today yet they are so unhappy as we speak.

Most of them wish to run out of the marriage.

The way they rushed into marriage is the way they rush out of the same marriage.

Go on Facebook and follow "Beyond Intimacy" and you will be shocked at the stories you would hear everyday.

Na we single people dey give them advice.

I heard of a story where a man married this weekend and two weeks later, he was asking a newly employed lady colleague in his office out for friendship.

No be juju be that

In all, I believe God's will for my life will be done no matter what.

If it's his will for you to marry, no power can stop it and when it is time..."GOD'S TIME" and not..."Your Time", It would happen effortless.

So please chill and be happy.

God bless you all.

In all, Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His Rightousness and every other thing will fall into place.

Not many people understand that marriage and kids are not the ultimate goal or part of everyone's desire. I distance myself from people that sees kids and marriage as an achievement. I'm not even good with kids.

BRATISLAVA:


Wait for them to tell you how her private part is slackened, and she's greedy, and she's looking for a dark, handsome, 6ft man with a billion dollars (like there are any in Nigeria to begin with), how she rejected all her suitors and is arrogant, how she was 20 and running them in circles, how the problem lies with her at her age, how she's got a hellish behavior, how she's not actually a virgin.

It is never the fault of the men she met.

I seriously pity any woman above 35 who is unmarried. The mocking and pressure must be intense on her. Imagine this being a forum of over 1M people, supposedly international, and the garbage that daily spills fourth about women is still unchecked. This place is 50 years behind in reasoning.

Why pity them? Not all women wanna rush into marriage. It's even more wrong to be in a marriage because of societal expectations. People should let ladies be!

Faber:
Follow white people dey flex feminism muscles and "I don't need a man"

Rita Dominic rushing to go marry, Tonto Dike, always shedding tears for leaving Churchill, Mercy Aigbe becoming a 3rd wife to a man, Judy Austin getting married to Yul Edochie, becoming a second wife, Genevieve running into depression and mental issues because of lack of husband should teach you young ladies some lessons...

Guys are going on strike, you will not notice it till it dawns on you.
I got like two ladies in their 30s always frowning at me when they see me with younger girls...one told me, what I am doing with all these indomie girls. For her mind I should come and settle for her battered pussy who does that?

Lol... Not all single ladies in their 30s and 40s have battered VJays.

Things didn't just pan out with the right guys due to the ladies' focus on career development, and for some, the men within their geographical locations were not quality men in terms of attributes like taking the initiative and being dynamic in business and career, etc.

Some female bankers and lawyers fall into this category of above-30 single ladies.

denobaba:
Off tangent. How does marriage translate into women ending up in the kitchen? Do western women cook for their family or not? Marriage and career are not mutually exclusive. Many are married and practising their career successfully.

I understand ASUU strike is a thing here, but biology and life do not care. Women can get suitors even in their 50's but that would account for the exception. And women don't have to be married if that is their choice. You come across as emotional and lacking in judgement. Work on your comprehension skills.

You're the one that failed to look at what I responded to, anybody that states that women over 25 are less desirable for marriage and should disregard their financial well being in favor of marriage is ignorant, that's all I'm saying!

Monaboo:
I'm beautiful. I'm 29yrs and I am not married.

The funny part is that, I am not even thinking about marriage atall. I don't even envy married people atall. I think I'm wired differently.

U are not wired differently o
We all passed through this stage, it is very sweet now because u are still young. Many of ur mates are still unmarried. Wait till u start approaching 40, seeing all ur friends kids all grown up & entering school, then it will start hitting u, believe me. U will not understand this till that time comes. This is where many ladies miss it, because they have a biological clock ticking which reduces their marital value as they age. If u are not a clergy like rev sis, always have marriage at the back of ur mind. U can always have career even at 50, but when u pass ur prime as a lady without a man, then it becomes a problem.

abbey621:


You're the one that failed to look at what I responded to, anybody that states that women over 25 are less desirable for marriage and should disregard their financial well being in favor of marriage is ignorant, that's all I'm saying!

Multiple things can be true at once. Women can pursue their financial agency and still be married. These things are non-rival interests, I don't understand why you equate desire for marriage to giving up financial agency.

And yes, even if you don't like to hear it, women above 25 are less desirable for marriage. That's pure fact and statistics. Facts don't care about your feelings!

Guys lemme tell you something simps listen too.. . Except for spiritual husbands and ancestral curse, no good woman stays single till above 30, even if she stays in a rock. Men can sniff good women from thousand miles away. Once a woman is above 30 and unmarried it’s a huge red flag.

To all the single ladies or spinsters out there be it you’re in your 20s,30s or 40s or even 50s who seeks completeness in a marriage.I pray that the universe and the almighty God blesses you with suitable spouses and blissful marriages.

I emphatize with you and I see you.

I honestly don’t understand the fuss with marriages especially in Africa and particularly in Nigeria but I have come to realize it’s a socio-cultural thing and a tradition we hold dearly in this part of the Sahara and it has been elevated in to the hallowed chambers of our existence and as such I don’t think we can wean ourselves of it anytime soon nor do I see a paradigm shift in the foreseeable future and this doesn’t even exclude men an unmarried man in his 30s and 40s is seen under some afflicted microscopic lenses and sometimes seems as irresponsible,unproductive,immature or reckless so it’s a phenomenon that affects both genders,females are just more on the receiving end due to biological reasons and some other factors.

I,for one don’t believe “ marriage “ is the numero Uno as far as leading a purposeful,fulfilling,happy and completing life is concerned acts like “ marriage “ should simply be like additives more of a means not an end to any individual’s happiness irrespective of the gender.So find other things that make you happy and get religiously attached to them especially if marriage isn’t happening yet for you!for someone like me I derive joy in the simplest things of life and when the time for me to get married comes it’s simply gonna be extra “ jara “ my true happiness and existence won’t and can’t be defined by marriage.This my dear is the perfect way to live and to explore this particular life you’ve get well!

Katcall:
you sabi fúck

Just like you breath air

BRATISLAVA:


Wait for them to tell you how her private part is slackened, and she's greedy, and she's looking for a dark, handsome, 6ft man with a billion dollars (like there are any in Nigeria to begin with), how she rejected all her suitors and is arrogant, how she was 20 and running them in circles, how the problem lies with her at her age, how she's got a hellish behavior, how she's not actually a virgin.

It is never the fault of the men she met.

I seriously pity any woman above 35 who is unmarried. The mocking and pressure must be intense on her. Imagine this being a forum of over 1M people, supposedly international, and the garbage that daily spills fourth about women is still unchecked. This place is 50 years behind in reasoning.

A Christian site owner would have had checks on people's comments.
This is why a forum like this owned by a Christian might not have such a huge crowd.
If I were the owner, there are lots of these guys I would create kindergarten section for. Silly trolls would find themselves there and won't be able to comment in the main section. I have seen people troll a very popular girl on Nairaland till she stopped using her moniker in the travel section. Although they claimed she was a troll herself.

Since Nairaland is owned by an atheist, any comment goes. Why should anyone mock anyone because they are yet to marry at 40 when they are supposed to rather sympathize with such.

I have seen people on Nairaland mock Banky West and wife for having no child many times in past. Why should that be?
Can a sane person do that?

It is well my sister, stay blessed.

denobaba:
Multiple things can be true at once. Women can pursue their financial agency and still be married. These things are non-rival interests, I don't understand why you equate desire for marriage to giving up financial agency.

And yes, even if you don't like to hear it, women above 25 are less desirable for marriage. That's pure fact and statistics. Facts don't care about your feelings!

Again read what I responded to, until you do that you can't understand, read man, READ and if you can't GTFO!

libertyfather:
Who marriage help? Go for pikin and regulate your life

you realise 80% of criminals are from single mums who can't cover all aspects alone?

Una never see something, shea una dey select? Only ready made man una dey find not whom to build together.

karkinase:
Guys lemme tell you something simps listen too.. . Except for spiritual husbands and ancestral curse, no good woman stays single till above 30, even if she stays in a rock. Men can sniff good women from thousand miles away. Once a woman is above 30 and unmarried it’s a huge red flag.

this is a very gigantic lie!!
Because you're a good woman! So every jack, dick and harry that comes across your way, you'll just say yes??
It mean the lady doesn't know her worth.

VeryWickedMan:
Gazzuzz is now a marriage mechanic.

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Medianna:
this is a very gigantic lie!!
Because you're a good woman! So every jack, dick and harry that comes across your way, you'll just say yes??

Keep on select nah

Interesting thread.

Paulianfa:



Keep on select nah

Who is talking about selection here.
If a good woman see the man that is slapping her every morning and he wants yo marry her. She should just say yea, because he is the only man on earth abi?

karkinase:
Guys lemme tell you something simps listen too.. . Except for spiritual husbands and ancestral curse, no good woman stays single till above 30, even if she stays in a rock. Men can sniff good women from thousand miles away. Once a woman is above 30 and unmarried it’s a huge red flag.

Hahahaha, this is how most of you miss out on the best partners with your mindset.

Are you aware that just the way you think ladies go for rich guys, the same applies to guys, I doubt you are.

If the lady never meets a guy she shares same convictions/value system with due to location or other factors nko

Genotype incompatibility issues nko

Then, there are those who cherish peace of mind as the men want peace too.

There are those who want virgin men too as men want virgins and you know how loose your gender is even when married. Not all Ladies can cope with being married to a man who sleeps with anything in skirt in the name of marriage.

There are those who really don't want to be married if there was no societal pressure.

So you expect ladies to marry rubbish just because they are growing older

See, start seeing beyond your nose, how many people have you met in your lifetime??

emmanuelbrown26:
U can't compare life of a man with a woman. Women expires after 25 down to 29years. U see 30year old lady is so shattered both mentally and emotionally.
I was engaging one sometime ago, d way dis aunty dey fast and pray all bcs of a man I keep wondering if men dun finish for dis kantri.
When a woman start flexing muscle with a man,she tends to remain single for d rest of her life, if u think say na lie go and ask @Blessedmercy8

god abeg ooo

Monaboo:
I'm beautiful. I'm 29yrs and I am not married.

The funny part is that, I am not even thinking about marriage atall. I don't even envy married people atall. I think I'm wired differently...

Wait till 40. It hits differently then, when one mostly likely would have achieved the main "bullet points" of one's career goals. And then one looks around and slowly starts wondering what all that stress was for. No gender escapes this mid-life crisis, but in truth it does hit women worse than men. You seem like a smart woman; you know what to do.

captainking:

I see what you did there... Had to screenshot oga G's comment abi..bad dude..

Lol, I just did that

Treasure17:
There's more to life than marriage and kids. Why subjecting yourself to unecessary tears, pressure and sorrow cause you ain't married? Common.

Modified. To those quoting me with unecessary takes. Hope you understand now?

The truth is that most humans find their purpose in what other people are pursuing.

You make your assertions there because you've seen other purposes for living. Some people don't have the capacity to do that. So if they don't get married, have kids and money, they'll never feel fulfilled - Nosayer

she no get problem.

They will site the celebrities that they think are suffering depression cause they aren’t married but won’t site the ones that have died lately due to domestic violence and abuse in marriage.

Abi nor be your mate die yesterday because of marriage wahala?

Y’all prioritize that institution too much.
Change is constant, it worked for our fathers but it’s not working for us.
Live your life and be happy. Things ain’t the way they use to be. Arggghhh!

kay9:


Wait till 40. It hits differently then, when one mostly likely would have achieved the main "bullet points" of one's career goals. And then one looks around and slowly starts wondering what all that stress was for. No gender escapes this mid-life crisis, but in truth it does hit women worse than men. You seem like a smart woman; you know what to do.

Like there aren’t women who became widows in their twenties and thirties??
There’s more to life please

BRATISLAVA:




Please, tell all these little boys that life is beyond their mocking of women. They think they know everything and are quick to mock unmarried women.

emmanuelbrown26, Qwr123, kay29000 can you see?

When a child receives a haircut, the shape of his head becomes obvious. D gods are wise son

Suspect33:
god abeg ooo

I'm only a humble servant and I stand by d truth, so help me Jah

MALIGNANTGuest:

Abeg eeeeee dooooo
Pity these women small
Marry 3 today, u no go die
Let's try to decongest their soaring figure.

May loneliness send them back to their ancestors, no room for mercy

kay29000:


Hello, I'm not mocking women... I have sisters. I'm just stating facts. Even Linda Ikeji insinuated the same theory I'm stating, so I don't understand why you feel I'm bashing women. A 40 year old male has more value than a 40 year old female when it comes to marriage matters. This is a fact.

40 year old woman has nothing, absolutely nothing to bring again na