edwife:


I am not alone after all.

It's very obvious na, many people can see it.

freecocoa:
Sounds like a good man, I just wish this was not him pretending, I don't want to just give up on him by concluding that he is not what he potrayed himself to be because of this, people can slip but this doesn't look like a slip.

Just try and calm yourself.

Freecocoa, 2 videos. Not one o. 2 videos of him b@nging some chick. I dont even know if it is the same girl because I couldnt see the face on the second one as it was getting quite dark. I have both videos now. And Im still thinking if I should send to my mailbox

The one where he is nakidd alone is the third one.

I rarely use his system as I have mine and I use my phone most times. I just started using his system because mine isnt near and I was processing some stuffs and my phone wasnt too convenient.

I havent confronted him...yet. I might have to talk to my mum because this load is just too heavy to carry....

One was like 2 months to the wedding after introduction and the second was same month of our wedding oooo. I feel sick!!

I noticed he likes porn but i thought it was just A normal, guy thing. I deleted the ones I saw on his phone and that was it.

But to think of all this!! In two months of saying I DO.

Im lost for words.

freecocoa:
It's very obvious na, many people can see it.

coogar weds kulyie

brownie10:



I can hear his car outside. Ill be bacl please

whatever happen, do your best to win your man to yourself. Don't pick up a fight with, sought out a way with him to break away from the ladies outside. What my wife did then was that first, she didn't pretend not discover something, two she was willing to make it a secret between us and it is till date except that am sharing it now, third she was ready to reason, understand and assist me come out. She call the ladies not quarrel with them but counsel them and make them see the consequent. But most importantly she ensured she didn't lose me to them, she team up with me.

freecocoa:
Small time you two will turn this thread into a battle field, you too like coogar but won't admit it.

you better respect yourself this rainy evening. Hiannn!

Some stupid girls will be making ridiculous insinuations just for incitement purposes



rodan rodan

Thank you to those who have not judged me but have left me a word of advice be it good or bad.
The truth is I can leave him as I have some savings to get a place of my own and live well.

I am still deciding on the action to take. But whatever I do, I will not take this issue with kid's gloves because I know what I saw. It was sickening, it wasnt a pleasant sight at all.

The same towel the girl covered up with while lying spent on the settee is the white towel still in use at home. Yes, I saw it on the first video even though I was jumping the video.
We have sex on that same seat.

My God, I feel sick!!

focus7:
whatever happen, do your best to win your man to yourself. Don't pick up a fight with, sought out a way with him to break away from the ladies outside. What my wife did then was that first, she didn't pretend not discover something, two she was willing to make it a secret between us and it is till date except that am sharing it now, third she was ready to reason, understand and assist me come out. She call the ladies not quarrel with them but counsel them and make them see the consequent. But most importantly she ensured she didn't lose me to them, she team up with me.

#sigh.
I appreciate your advice sir. But I dont know if I can take the route your wife went.
I dont even know these girls. But it is very painful that he chose to do all these in our home!!

I feel violated and sad.

brownie10:


Freecocoa, 2 videos. Not one o. 2 videos of him b@nging some chick. I dont even know if it is the same girl because I couldnt see the face on the second one as it was getting quite dark. I have both videos now. And Im still thinking if I should send to my mailbox

The one where he is nakidd alone is the third one.

I rarely use his system as I have mine and I use my phone most times. I just started using his system because mine isnt near and I was processing some stuffs and my phone wasnt too convenient.

I havent confronted him...yet. I might have to talk to my mum because this load is just too heavy to carry....

One was like 2 months to the wedding after introduction and the second was same month of our wedding oooo. I feel sick!!

I noticed he likes porn but i thought it was just A normal, guy thing. I deleted the ones I saw on his phone and that was it.

But to think of all this!! In two months of saying I DO.

Im lost for words.

I know how painful it is but please don't tell your mum yet, it will be resolved. If you don't mind I have sent a mail request to you, we can discuss if you reply me.

SAMBARRY:




you better respect yourself this rainy evening. Hiannn!

Some stupid girls will be making ridiculous insinuations just for incitement purposes



rodan rodan

No need to get defensive, if they are silly insinuations, why are you getting angry about it? Not that I give a hoot anyways but the back and forth between you two is distracting, plus it can be seen that you always initiate it.

Act like a mature adult and ask him out, instead of the childish banter, a guy calls you all those names and yet you won't leave him be.

edwife:


coogar weds kulyie

That would be something, if only coogar will notice and do the needful.

focus7:
I know how painful it is but please don't tell your mum yet, it will be resolved. If you don't mind I have sent a mail request to you, we can discuss if you reply me.

Please can you view my email name? I just opened it today but because I was so upset, I cant remember anymore. Im trying to login but Its telling me wrong username/password. Im pretty sure about the password but its like I cant recall the email.

I cant seem to find the email on my profile

brownie10:


#sigh.
I appreciate your advice sir. But I dont know if I can take the route your wife went.
I dont even know these girls. But it is very painful that he chose to do all these in our home!!

I feel violated and sad.

I can assure you that your hubby is a nice man, he only went astray he can be help to retrace his step and the best person to do it is you, marriage is taking responsibility for each other, he needs your understanding, forbearance and love now, do it for him he will live to respect and appreciate you.

brownie10:


Please can you view my email name? I just opened it today but because I was so upset, I cant remember anymore. Im trying to login but Its telling me wrong username/password. Im pretty sure about the password but its like I cant recall the email.

I cant seem to find the email on my profile

sorry about that nairaland will not reveal your email, that's why we send a request which they transfer to your email, when you confirm t comes to my email.

^

I have replied you sir. Though may not be able to talk extensively tonight as he will soon ask me what Im up to on the system...

But Ill be very willing to open up via email. Maybe you can check my real moniker and put two and two together to see if Im not just prolonging my suffering by fighting for this...


Check your mail please.

brownie10:


Freecocoa, 2 videos. Not one o. 2 videos of him b@nging some chick. I dont even know if it is the same girl because I couldnt see the face on the second one as it was getting quite dark. I have both videos now. And Im still thinking if I should send to my mailbox

The one where he is nakidd alone is the third one.

I rarely use his system as I have mine and I use my phone most times. I just started using his system because mine isnt near and I was processing some stuffs and my phone wasnt too convenient.

I havent confronted him...yet. I might have to talk to my mum because this load is just too heavy to carry....

One was like 2 months to the wedding after introduction and the second was same month of our wedding oooo. I feel sick!!

I noticed he likes porn but i thought it was just A normal, guy thing. I deleted the ones I saw on his phone and that was it.

But to think of all this!! In two months of saying I DO.

Im lost for words.

My darling, I can't say I know how you feel but I definitely can imagine it and I know it's not something anyone should go through but then, it's happened and the nest thing is to find a solution.

I still think you should take some time to come to terms with what's happened and then confront him, it's normal to feel betrayed, anger and many more emotions, just don't blame yourself as this is not your fault.

I don't even know what to say to you now sef, as I feel really sad for you, and I can tell you really love this man. You'll be alright.

Am just so scared of getting married God. What is this. My heart can't take all this o. God

In discussing the revelation with him, make him see your pain and agony, make him see your tears, that you trying to understand him does not mean you should conceal your emotion, he need to see what his action makes his wife go through. Once again I truly pray for restoration of peace and harmony in your marriage, God will stop the intruders in your home in Jesus name. Please don't forget the place of prayer, it works wonders in every situation, when you pray you involves God.

Setaje:
Am just so scared of getting married God. What is this. My heart can't take all this o. God

My dear, its not about getting scared. You cant be scared the way I was before marrying. I was soooo scared and look at where it got me.
What you have to do is. You need to be logical. Calculative. These men are not loyal at all.

Im learning fast is why I have those two videos in my possession. If it was before I would have confronted him immediately, giving him the opportunity to delete those videos.

With what I have, If I decide otherwise, I have all that I need to pull free from him.

Afterall, I have satisfied society. I have gotten married.

If I am pregnant, I could as well immigrate migrate to Australia which is easy to migrate to and start a new life with my baby and my vibra.tor.

Nobody will say I wasnt married.


No need to divorce, just drift apart and live a good life free from drama.

Confront him with the videos.Find out what his defense is.
You'll hurt,no matter what he says.Take your time to decide what next you will do.

I hope you can forgive him and he can change for good.

Hmm. Honestly, trying to fix a cheating husband is not your job. Men constantly preach that "it shouldn't be your husband's job to make you happy or make him dependent on making you happy" so why is it your job to fix his mistakes, when is his personal responsibility going to come into play? If he feels no responsibility towards what he did and you rush about trying to fix things continually (like most women), he'll probably do it again. So, here's what to do: think short-term.

Delay for a few days. You need to calm down. Whether or not you decide to leave, calm down at first for now so you can make logical decisions. If you leave, you want to exit in a dignified manner. If you stay, you want a plan and he has to work very hard.

Lock the kitchen door (you want to keep all weapons away,as in your madness and righteous anger, you could easily get physical. Because if I were you, I wouldn't realise a knife was in my hand until it's late. I'm being realistic). Get a HDMI cable or tell him you want to show him something, sit beside him and play the videos. Say nothing, let it play and walk out and lock yourself in another room that night to sleep in. That night is not the night to be arguing or hearing pleas or anything.

The next day, listen to him and what he has to say for himself.

Remember, he has jeopardised your marriage, it is up to him to fix it. It's up to you to let the process happen. It is not your place to be rescuing him, because I have 5 brothers and yep I'm married and I'm super-smart and independent, yet none of those men in my life appreciate me overdoing it and trying to rescue them or tell them what to do or make excuses for them. Infact, the more you overdo it and make excuses for his bad behaviour, the more the man goes from guilt to anger to blaming you (he is human so he is trying to make himself feel better and one of those ways will be "it was your fault, you didn't pleasure me the way I like, I have needs you don't meet, blah blah". Sure, you may end up together, but you will constantly have it at the back of your mind that you're not good enough for him and that is a lie. And your marriage will never be fulfilling and you will always regret it. And he will know you do.

I will recommend not trying to fix your marriage by getting pregnant or letting him do so or urge you to do so (some people feel once children come, the wife will "settle" down and the marriage improves. This is not true, it will only become like 90% of Naija marriages, where the only thing keeping them together is their children and what-will-people-say.).

If he wants to be the man and head of the house, the CEO of his family, he needs to fix this. If you fix this, then you're in charge, which is not always a bad thing but then again that depends on what you had in mind for how your marriage will look like.

Don't tell your mum, not yet. You and I both know what she will advise you to do.

focus7:
whatever happen, do your best to win your man to yourself. Don't pick up a fight with, sought out a way with him to break away from the ladies outside. What my wife did then was that first, she didn't pretend not discover something, two she was willing to make it a secret between us and it is till date except that am sharing it now, third she was ready to reason, understand and assist me come out. She call the ladies not quarrel with them but counsel them and make them see the consequent. But most importantly she ensured she didn't lose me to them, she team up with me.

Oga please, stop sounding like you weren't responsible for your actions, team up with you, like wtf? You messed up and your wife is supposed to help you clean and cover it up, just so she doesn't lose you, what a load of bull.

Why didn't you think about losing her and restrain yourself from doing something that can mar your marriage, ofcourse you are doing her a favor by marrying her na, hence your sounding like she's won a price.

OP, your husband is to take FULL responsibility for his actions, never lose your self respect because you want to hold on to a cheat. Your hubby might be a good man but he messed up and should know that.

Setaje:
Am just so scared of getting married God. What is this. My heart can't take all this o. God

Perfect love cast out fear.

You don't have to be overwhelmed with fear.Just observe due diligence and be prayerful.Some of us dey enjoy our marriage.

troy20:

you are making alot of situation out of this.give yourself a break.all these emotions.he is this perfect yet a few past experiences before he wedded you is amounting to all this? I think he deserves better.

Are you trying to blame me in some way? What about me, dont I deserve better?
Like I said he is not perfect. It was because freecocoa asked about my relationship with him that I enumerated the way things are when all is well.

we do have our arguments too and they can get intense.

Though we resolve most times.

This is not a "few, past experiences" as you call it.

As Im typing the girls image just flashed in my mind. Chai.

Seeing texts would have been less painful. But seeing the cheating live is just killing.

brownie10:


My dear, its not about getting scared. You cant be scared the way I was before marrying. I was soooo scared and look at where it got me.
What you have to do is. You need to be logical. Calculative. These men are not loyal at all.

Im learning fast is why I have those two videos in my possession. If it was before I would have confronted him immediately, giving him the opportunity to delete those videos.

With what I have, If I decide otherwise, I have all that I need to pull free from him.

Afterall, I have satisfied society. I have gotten married.

If I am pregnant, I could as well immigrate migrate to Australia which is easy to migrate to and start a new life with my baby and my vibra.tor.

Nobody will say I wasnt married.


No need to divorce, just drift apart and live a good life free from drama.

And to think he met u a virgin. The world has turned upside down. I don't even no d advise to give u. Am not married. Just putting myself in your shoes am already feeling like heavy $hit is about to come out of my ass. Yes am emotional like that. God be wiv u. It is well!

brownie10:


Thank you and God bless....

sister. jst duplicate d video. then ask him to watch wht u saw in his laptop wt u.

wht a sad story of a virgin wife. mehn God oooo

Onegai:
Hmm. Honestly, trying to fix a cheating husband is not your job. Men constantly preach that "it shouldn't be your husband's job to make you happy or make him dependent on making you happy" so why is it your job to fix his mistakes, when is his personal responsibility going to come into play? If he feels no responsibility towards what he did and you rush about trying to fix things continually (like most women), he'll probably do it again. So, here's what to do: think short-term.

Delay for a few days. You need to calm down. Whether or not you decide to leave, calm down at first for now so you can make logical decisions. If you leave, you want to exit in a dignified manner. If you stay, you want a plan and he has to work very hard.

Lock the kitchen door (you want to keep all weapons away,as in your madness and righteous anger, you could easily get physical. Because if I were you, I wouldn't realise a knife was in my hand until it's late. I'm being realistic). Get a HDMI cable or tell him you want to show him something, sit beside him and play the videos. Say nothing, let it play and walk out and lock yourself in another room that night to sleep in. That night is not the night to be arguing or hearing pleas or anything.

The next day, listen to him and what he has to say for himself.

Remember, he has jeopardised your marriage, it is up to him to fix it. It's up to you to let the process happen. It is not your place to be rescuing him, because I have 5 brothers and yep I'm married and I'm super-smart and independent, yet none of those men in my life appreciate me overdoing it and trying to rescue them or tell them what to do or make excuses for them. Infact, the more you overdo it and make excuses for his bad behaviour, the more the man goes from guilt to anger to blaming you (he is human so he is trying to make himself feel better and one of those ways will be "it was your fault, you didn't pleasure me the way I like, I have needs you don't meet, blah blah". Sure, you may end up together, but you will constantly have it at the back of your mind that you're not good enough for him and that is a lie. And your marriage will never be fulfilling and you will always regret it. And he will know you do.

I will recommend not trying to fix your marriage by getting pregnant or letting him do so or urge you to do so (some people feel once children come, the wife will "settle" down and the marriage improves. This is not true, it will only become like 90% of Naija marriages, where the only thing keeping them together is their children and what-will-people-say.).

If he wants to be the man and head of the house, the CEO of his family, he needs to fix this. If you fix this, then you're in charge, which is not always a bad thing but then again that depends on what you had in mind for how your marriage will look like.

Don't tell your mum, not yet. You and I both know what she will advise you to do.

Yes, I could be that upset. So if I confront him, I'll definitely lock the kitchen.
Playing the laptop for him also seems workable, since we are mostly in the parlour together most times. As well as locking myself up in the room.

He is sleeping/snoring across from me at the moment and I just looked at him and shook my head.

He has the same towel covering his nether regions. The same towel the girl used to cover herself when they were done....


Thank you. I really shouldnt be telling my poor mum this.
Poor woman. She's so proud of her daughter....

Another sad tale
This marriage shii is becoming more real than ever. OMG

Setaje:



And to think he met u a virgin. The world has turned upside down. I don't even no d advise to give u. Am not married. Just putting myself in your shoes am already feeling like heavy $hit is about to come out of my ass. Yes am emotional like that. God be wiv u. It is well!

*smiles.

In fact, my friend chatted me since afternoon. She sounded hurt that I am so distant. She must feel that I am so happy/having a happy Saturday lie-in with the MR that I have decided to ignore her. If only she knew....

Vikky014:
sister. jst duplicate d video. then ask him to watch wht u saw in his laptop wt u.

wht a sad story of a virgin wife. mehn God oooo

I have the video. Thanks....

brownie10:


I have the video. Thanks....

can we see a snippet of the video?

how sure are you that the lady in the video isn't a honourable member of this forum?