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Re: A Frustrated Woman by princefaculty(m): 6:59am On Oct 26, 2016 |
You've said it all, he never loved you... you got pregnant just to tie him down and he's not happy with that so he's showing it in his reactions. He may do that all the days, months and years that you guys will ever spend together but I'm sure with farvent prayers and probably the coming of his baby may turn the tide around. So carry your cross while it last |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by HabaSeun: 7:02am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Even if d marriage is next week, its not too late to call it off. You haven't said "I do" yet. There have been many good advices already. For that baby's sake, don't go ahead with that marriage. A child of a single parent is far more balanced that a child from a broken marriage. A broken relationship Is better than a broken marriage. Its not too late yet! 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Acheron: 7:03am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Ujoan:Madam, gender doesn't matter. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by franugo(m): 7:05am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Dyt: what d hell are you guys talking about ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by AuroraB(f): 7:05am On Oct 26, 2016 |
On the flip-side ![]() ![]() I want to pummel you till y'all become the MAN you should be ![]() ![]() ![]() OP, I no wan talk to you on this marra as the earliest posters have done justice to it all 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by comtem2011: 7:05am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Mimzyy:Eni awi fun oba je o gbo! |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by excel101(m): 7:06am On Oct 26, 2016 |
From your statements you claimed that the guy was the very wrong, and there wasn't any part u were wrong (you're perfectly right). Before. I need to hear from him cos there's always 2 side to a story. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by excel101(m): 7:07am On Oct 26, 2016 |
From your statements you claimed that the guy was the very wrong, and there wasn't any part u were wrong (you're perfectly right). Before. I need to hear from him cos in life there's always 2 side to a story. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by gameboyo: 7:07am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Sorry about that. Uyo is a kinda mind ur bizness location, hence I guess no one will bug u with so much stuff. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by JAtoms: 7:14am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Well when just move on, you will still get all the necessary help you need. See it as a problem you are to solve. If you can remain strong, your child will forever be a backbone to you. REMEMBER TO LEARN FROM THIS MISTAKE. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 7:14am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:I don't believe that bastard is broke. Don't you guys earn same salary? What is he spending his money on?. Trust me, he's saving his money. I know his type. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by olenime(m): 7:15am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I'm so sorry to say this: can't u just abort this baby? And move on. I'm deeply sorri. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by enasgreat: 7:18am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Ashawoooo 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Teedawg: 7:22am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Are you really gonna live your live based on some ordinary strangers thought and idea seriously yes its good to seek advice but this is your life its he's baby he has to help you take care of the baby .how I wish child support was taken seriously here like the USA all men will be thinking twice before laying in bed with a woman even your wife self . if he doesn't love you back don't force yourself on him just make sure he' support you and the child how will he tell you to abort when you don't agree with it you're a matured woman now aborting babies would be the last thing you wanna do.you will find a man that will accept you and your child just concentrate on your work and see how you can be and independent woman Men will start lookin for you to take care of not only your baby..We all make mistakes #DontJudgeNobody |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by doll912(f): 7:23am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: Yes, stop cooking... stop everything. Get him out of your life. Don't marry a man that doesn't love you. Oh gosh! I don't know you but I feel so sad for you right now. The only way you can move on is with him out. You both made mistakes but make it your decision to right the wrongs. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by kayzat: 7:24am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: It may not be the final discussion but you actually need that heart to heart talk with him. let him do most of the talking and listen attentively ( You can even codedly tape the discussion so u can be sure) . Something in me is telling me he will still end up a wonderful Daddy for your kid but I'm not sure of him being a great husband sha. I'll put you in my prayer and may God Almighty lead you and your guy right. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nimoomosuli: 7:28am On Oct 26, 2016 |
My dear, a lot have been said already and I wouldn't want to rehash most of the points raised. Whatever piece of advice you have received on this platform is to some extent useful. Everyone has contributed based on their experience and exposures in life. Having been married for more than 15 years to my heartthrob and friend of 20 years, I believe I have some experience with men. From your description of how the guy now relates with you at home it is quite clear that he feels boxed up and 'could' be silently wishing for a magic spell to turn things back in time. While it may seem unheard of (especially in a place like Nigeria) for a 'pregnant' bride to call off a wedding, I will still strongly recommend that you make attempts to stop the arrangements for any marriage by this December. Rather than let him marry you grudgingly and ‘out of pity or in the name of protecting your family’s name’ and you’re the unhappy one for it all, I will suggest you put things straight once and for all. Seek his audience respectfully and let him know you want to put the marriage on hold (don’t say you don’t want to marry him) until you safely have your baby and to give him chance to discover whether he truly loves you or not. Try to put your feet down and give him the feelings that you don't intend to snare him into marriage by getting pregnant and that you are willing to move on with or without him. As you speak to him, watch out for his body language and expression and if there will be any transformation in him. If he easily agrees to call off the wedding then you know he's not meant for you. Don't worry yourself so much about tongues that will wag at the news (believe me the rumour mill will stop and everything will go back to normal). It is not going to be the end of the world. You can pick up back on your life once the baby is safely here. However, if he still wants the marriage to take place (be careful not to accept the ‘out of pity and family name saving’ reasons. Let him convince you why he still want you to get married to him apart from those dumb reasons) then know that you are destined to be together regardless of the circumstances that brought you together. If getting married is the ‘final word’, then avoid dotting too much on him. Give him the chance to show you love rather than you asking him to. Doing this will help you both in the long run. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you shouldn’t show him love. I am just advising that you be yourself (at least you are in love with him, right?) Act normal toward him. Do things expected of you as a wife and God will see you through this trying period. 2 Likes |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by delerx(m): 7:28am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Don't tell me you r stl giving out ur cookie jar. ifyalways: |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by lurdkriss: 7:29am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Dats not fair, the fact remains that ur pregnant,whether ur married or not should be non of their business, does it make any difference if a pregnant woman is married or not? Abi pregnant woman wey never marry dey carry her own belle for back? Doesn't make no sense to me ![]() I'm really sorry bout ur situation,im sure ur gonna be fine,d guy doesn't love u so I won't advice u to go ahead with d marriage cus wat he is showing u now is small compared to wat u will see when he finally gets married to u. Ppl shld learn to take responsibility for their actions. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by fabienjoe: 7:30am On Oct 26, 2016 |
'I used to nag and quarrel a lot' Your own words. That's a deal breaker and certainly why he feels the other woman 'gives him peace'.I've come across several women and nothing puts a guy off more than nagging and quarrels. Suspend the marriage indefinitely. Think about your baby. Give the guy space. He needs a clear head to comprehend things. He would find out it was you he needed after all, especially seeing your child...Trouble is, he may have been married to another by then. But that is not the end of your life. Give your child the best. You would meet another man. Having one child under the circumstances described won't be a barrier. More importantly, STOP NAGGING and QUARRELLING. You destroy relationships with that. Good luck! 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by franugo(m): 7:33am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa: you are 23yrs and you felt d best thing to do as a 23YR old was to move in with a man ![]() cc maamaa |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by 4reala(m): 7:33am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:so Sist. Wat will be ur action towards d Hard truth? |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by abbeyty(m): 7:39am On Oct 26, 2016 |
people are just making it seems like the guy was married to the other lady and she snatched him away from her, i know the young girl made some mistake she should just brace herself up and move on with her life cuz the deed has been done |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 7:40am On Oct 26, 2016 |
MizMyColi:I just love reading your posts lol, speaking sense since the days of ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,common sense |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Richiy(f): 7:40am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Nairalanders in Uyo should reach out to her please. We need each other, especially in times like this. Cc maaamaaa |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by melejo(m): 7:42am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Maaamaaa:Please you don't need to quit the job. Self-pity is destructive. You owe no one any explanation. Which shame are you talking about? Pregnancy? No, you are not the first person to be pregnant out of wedlock and you're not going to be the last. Stop the wedding processes as you've been advised, read good books, associate with positive minds, get yourself a counsellor. This issue your seeing as though heaven and earth will pass away will soon become part of your life's story. Those colleagues yours at work that you're ashamed of facing might not be better than you. The deed is done, though irreversible but can be effectively managed. Please don't think of quiting the job, both loneliness and lack are suicidal. If you don't mind please respond to my ping |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Evangdanyno2017(m): 7:49am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Life without christ is in crisis. The bible said abstain from al appearance of sin 1Thess 5:22. What wil be the foundation of marriage? Who wil be the cynosure of ur marriage?. History repete itself whn people fail to learn. The foundation is wrong anytin u are going to build may not stand the test of time and may demand ur life later. Go to God in sincere repentance, he wil 4give u and redesign u to fit ur purpose in life. Dont mind wht people pray to ur creator he wil nt forsake or leave u. |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by abbeyty(m): 7:50am On Oct 26, 2016 |
lurdkriss: that is Nigeria for you, you keep wondering what is the job of our so called labour union if it cant protect the right of workers who find themselves in this kind of situation 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Nobody: 7:51am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Can u really move on if that guy is still in your house? I mean share apartment. No doubt you still love him till now. How can you move on with such feelings? It's like running while looking back. Some couples actually started like this. Some of them right now are good and some not good. But that guy doesn't even resemble your husband if u ask me. How did I know? Oh ho! Yours is on his way! Just keep ur head high. All the best. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by WORLDPEACE(m): 7:52am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Mayflowa:Because of you na im I log in. For real, that guy nor get level hahahahaha! He just needs to feel he has control of things, not being pushed by circumstances into where he is heading. Once he has that in his head he will come around fully, and her attitude towards him is what will make that happen. If she is not aborting the pregnancy I think she should work with what she has if he is willing irregardless of his present confusion and bewilderment. That guy actually needs her to get his life together; him and his scattered financial state. Soon he will realize what an asset she is to him and let her be the treasurer of the relationship; that guy wey no sabi manage money. He also needs friends who will let him see this as a positive rather than a negative. All these people shouting upadan that she should raise the baby on her own, the world is not a kind place to a single mother. First you have to live your life with people judging you everywhere you go while looking for a man who can love you with your child. Then you have to think about loving his own children too because he will most likely also be a single father. The work ahead is no small work. 1 Like |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by gonkraziiiiii: 7:53am On Oct 26, 2016 |
Hard truth is 1) u knew he had a girl n u still followed at ur own risk 2)belle enter....oga said remove...he doesn't and wld never love u or forgive u for what ur doing... .3)d marriage....u wld regret everyday cos u wld not be happy so pls call it off....he hasn't married u he is treating u like dis....marriage is to be enjoyed not endured oooo.... 4) d innocent baby....pls keep d baby cos he/she is a blessing....am married n yet to have kids o but ur blessed even doe u don't like d conditions....if he agrees to take care of d baby pls kip d baby n be happy don't marry him n be sad forever....forever is a long time to be unhappy... .5)shame or people talking--people must talk o whether u do good or bad....all u have to do is keep ur head up high and when dey c u don't care about dier talks dey wld shut up....if Ppl ask u abt d father u must not say its d guy Na...must everyone know ur problem 6)work....jus now u have to work o cos u must survive whatever comes ur way.... 7)I wld be in uyo on fri-sat so if u need someone to talk to am available aii |
Re: A Frustrated Woman by Mercyroselyn: 7:53am On Oct 26, 2016 |
I won't advice you start giving yourself headache, don't blame yourself for loving him. Give him some time, but be a good wife, make his meals, dress him up in the morning, wake up by his side and pray for him. When you welcome your baby I'm sure there will be changes and please make sure he's in the labour room with you that day, some men need to see the pains we women go through during childbirth. Stay good dear Maaamaaa: 2 Likes |
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