Bj5all:
Truthfully, after reading comments, i know most ladies are naturally selfish.

Back to the question, personally i don't think you have been duped, not for one single reason, if the guy was responsible enough to set up a company and run it, i also believe he is responsible enough not to dupe the only woman in his life, for what gain?

What people don't understand is this, the money you lend to your fiance is one of the most difficult money to recover, i have given money to my babe when she has issues in her business and today it's voicemail and she has also given me money that i don't even bother myself to think of paying back.

For a guy that has planned marriage with you, he sees you as his own and your money is an investment to the family business which your children will definitely enjoy including you the intended wife, so why should i over bother myself thinking of paying back.

Though it was borrowed on the premise of paying back but babe chill, this is your guy here, if God willing your husband, don't be too conscious about paying you back, don't make him feel you are too selfish and money conscious(which you are anyway) is this how you will handle financial issues when you become a wife? Going public for your guy?

There is how you will push him, he will give you back your money and end the money conscious relationship that you are building with him. When you want to be a wife, act like a wife.

Nice one..

Tapout:
go to his family house with police and arrest his mother and See the Magic work.... Thank me later

. you they vex o

It so painful to read this your story. A paltry sum joined you guys together and you are ready to trash the relationship because of money. This is a guy that will still buy you cars and lovely gifts and even be his next of kin on all his property, You don't deserve any good man.

nkwuocha:
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You are a big fool. 500k is your god, that's why the first thing you're doing is overreacting like a failed nuclear reactor. I won't waste words on you, low life...I won't bring my family here, i know just like NNPC declared over 90% of Nigerian graduates are unemployable, i know your mind is stuck in mediocrity,you lowlife...

I''m sure your life is in shambles, nothing in the right order, it's because of this same mindset. Go have your mind reset...You've got a terrible mindset...Ote.[/s]..

Le kwa nu Nkita nsi!
Mpama, It doesn't matter if its 1kobo.You wretched piece of scum!You quoted me first, remember?!

Employable? hahahaha.You dey find work?I don't even know where my CV is.I don't need it!

Now listen you non entity! There are many institution that gives out loans. At best he should have gone for such loans, but na!Why should he,when there's a desperate woman he can swindle off her cash.

Dude shut the FÛCK up.

supersystemsnig:



When they have pressing needs, that's how they act to get out of the tight corner, borrow them the money story go enter, ask for money, they say you are evil. Never borrow friends money, if you do, don't collect a small part, ask for single full payment, once they pay a part, they won't balance up..you end up with a bad tag and spoiled names....Nigerians and money Chai

I tire oh.. Some people can even go to the point of killing their friend just because he demanded to get his money back. The same person I talked about still asks me one way or another, if I could borrow him money and all I tell him is that I don't have. You never pay wetin you owe me finish, yet you still dey ask for more.

TheRealestGuy:


You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

You don't have to attack the lady like this . She requested for advice not insults. I don't know why most Nigerians are like this! If you can't advice without adding insults,why not just keep quiet?

That being said, lady if you're following this thread u created, my simple advice is give ur guy about three months moratorium. This would make him stabilize financially and pay back ur money since it was agreed initially that you lend him , not dash him.I can deduce from your write-up that the guy is an entrepreneur, it's normal for him to face such challenges especially at the nascent stage of the business. He knows that he has u and yhat u can offer support, is the reson why he would ask u in the first place.He can't run away with ur money cos he knows you can easily trace him.
In the meantime, focus on building the love in your relationship. God will help you.

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

Don't mind the silly hungry boys here on nl. The truth is no responsible man will comfortably take money from his gf.
If he has no other option but to take from his girlfriend he certainly won't be an asś.

I hope u get ur money back and dumb him. That's not a man. He will wreck u.

thesuave10:


Dude shut the FÛCK up.

Not your fault, data is cheap, that's why you're...I'll spare you..

Never ever quote me till you die...

You shouldn't be surprised that the guy might even be wondering why he never had problem with his pruduction until when he borrowed money for material from you. This is Africa and you should be more concerned about clearing you name from the firm grip of superstitions.

thesuave10:


Are you OK? So what are you saying that she is right to consider ending her relationship? She hasn't even asked him about the issues yet or known the real reasons. So because he is not picking her calls means he has duped Her. Immee please listen to me a lot of relationships Are ruined because of lack of communication OR wrong facts. You can't use just "he's not picking my calls" as a yardstick to measure trust. Ask him about it and get to know the issue. There are a bunch of reasons outside duping that can result. This is a professional advice. Take heed

How can one establish communication without picking calls?Look, there's no need making this lady feel she is all guilty of some sort...

According to her,he doesn't call or communicate like he use to?what changed?Money?Common guys, if he doesn't have the money yet,why can't he communicate that to her in a more appropriate and matured way like how lovers should?

VICINHO:
kindly message me by mail to talk better..........bellovictor165@gmail.com

What do you want to tell her via mail that you can't say here?

OP actually wanted to take commission (interest) on the loan to a man she's getting married to in November.

If the tables were reversed, I'm sure he wouldn't even ask for his money back talk more of interest...

If you can't fund the business of someone you want to marry, how would you support the home if he goes broke during the marriage and all...

Women sha.. women will always be women

women are very funny, they so much believe in getting and not giving. Try settle with him amicably at least true love has once existed between the two of you. to be fair with you, he is also supposed to say his own part of the story for one to really know what to tell you

i wouldn't want to assume ,but i would like you to tell me,how you came about the idea that thing are ok with the Guy?

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

NowisGod109:


Haa !
You just spoke my mind and Jah bless u
Why will I even tell my husband I have up to 500k in my bank account not to talk of my fiance...chai

I wonder oooo

The babe no wise..She exposed her financial position to the guy.what she doesn't know is that being a financially independent and comfortable lady in Nigeria is a major disadvantage.

Naija men can rant all they can on social media about hating dependent ladies and preferring independent ladies but in reality,its the opposite.
They actually prefer ladies who present themselves as broke,needy thus massaging their male ego as they provide.
once you come acting all so made and independent,they will see you as a meal ticket,chop you,run you down and use your money to enjoy with another girl who shows them that "needy,brokeness"....

As a lady,no matter how rich you are,pretend you are not.
Hide it,to avoid falling victim to scammers like this op's so called fiance.
If you have 2M in your account,give your man the impression that you have only 200k

SycophanticGoat:


I tire oh.. Some people can even go to the point of killing their friend just because he demanded to get his money back. The same person I talked about still asks me one way or another, if I could borrow him money and all I tell him is that I don't have. You never pay wetin you owe me finish, yet you still dey ask for more.

I am dragging one now. That's the last person i will borrow money....

nkwuocha:


How can one establish communication without picking calls?Look, there's no need making this lady feel she is all guilty of some sort...

According to her,he doesn't call or communicate like he use to?what changed?Money?Common guys, if he doesn't have the money yet,why can't he communicate that to her in a more appropriate and matured way like how lovers should?

Exactly. What changed? Why is he no longer picking her calls?

Please Lord please save me from ladies like the selfish, money lovers ( plus the op )on this thread.

The first question to be asked is how long have you guys been dating?

A scammer is not going to invest as long as even 3 months to scam you of just 500k.

Another question is how do you know things are back to normal in his company?

Production might be back to normal but he would still need to cover all the days that were lost due to the unforeseen problem that occurred with his machines.

Chukazu:
sometimes the way some women act regarding money can be very shameful.

you probably have been bombarding him with calls.
recently promised a girl money by month end and she has literarily been harassing me with calls even when month has not ended.

call less and seek for an avenue to connect with his emotions; I mean he has to be alive to pay you back. so find out if every thing is alright with him

Most ladies can't even keep relationships and it is often times annoying that they can't really see afar. The emboldened are not far from the truth. There must have been an emotional disconnect at this point because money has been prioritised. She claimed she thought of visiting just so she could go and get her money! Who does that?? How about a friendly visit to find out if there are financial hiccups since he is just bouncing back.

The interest part soiled everything and clearly tells a whole lot about her. Perhaps she agreed to assist the guy all because of the interest, perhaps not. However, it speaks volume so much that it is disturbing.

supersystemsnig:


From the quality of texts, it's easy to know whom the road side seller is. If you're hustling no problem, my father owns the whole creation. I'm never in crisis

Seems you're more concerned on the "Who is who"?I don't rub shoulders with anyone. I may be the meat seller here,who knows....
Have a good day.

Many things have been spoken already. I am strongly in support of those who have advised you try and find out how his business is going. He may be running because things are not yet OK with him. For someone of his calibre, I think 500k is too little. Pls, stop thinking about your money for now. Show him some concern about him business and your relationship. He may have developed that willingness to talk with u like it has being because he has not been able to keep to his promise and he feels disappointed. This is the time u need to be more understanding.

Ishilove:

Exactly. What changed? Why is he no longer picking her calls?

Perhaps he fell into more financial troubles?

Perhaps it's the typical syndrome, people can collect but releasing is hard for them....perhaps he has made the money back but doesn't want to refund it....but something is wrong, he seem to have forgotten, he has 500k more to collect...

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Dude shut the FÛCK up. [/quote[s][/s]]

Bleep off!

Ishilove:

What do you want to tell her via mail that you can't say here?

he can't borrow money here now

supersystemsnig:


If i'm your husband, i'll know. I'll checkup your text messages from time to time

Haha...I am smarter than you could ever imagine. I deactivated my SMS alerts, email notifications for my account.

nkwuocha:


Seems you're more concerned on the "Who is who"?I don't rub shoulders with anyone. I may be the meat seller here,who knows....
Have a good day.

Who's rubbing shoulders, scroll up and read your comments...Guy how you take pass JAMB...look at you dilating here and there, now sense has fallen on you..It is well..

Good Day

Me too I need loan of 300k I beg you with the name of God.
If you loan me the cash ehh, if I no marry you may thunder fire me.
Contact me if you care.

As for your old 500k just chill he will give you, May be he is still trying to balance somethings first.

U try on ur part babe, i commend u for that! Secondly u are after ur money since the day u lend him,
the issue is, if u get marry at d end, tins like this will happen(surport each other finacially).........................try to send him and sms that he should pick ur call that u are not after ur money, that u ave some inportant message to pass for him (or send ur concern about d relationship through sms, nt about d money) if he call then understand that he's ashame of himself for not paying u back @agree time, if he doesnt call then follow ur heart ok

NowisGod109:


Haha...I am smarter than you could ever imagine. I deactivated my SMS alerts, email notifications for all my accounts. Only someone that has access to my internet banking will know my financial status abeg

You don't know me. Can we meet up in Lagos? Within one month, i will give you your financial worth..Life, if i no do am, i go deactivate this account