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Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by PoliticalChinex(m): 11:10pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
Purge yourself of past grudges from your family and do something fast!! If your sister's marriage breaks, u will still be involved! Stop acting like small pikin and be a man! If France and England can forgive Germany after causing them so much deaths and destructions in World Wars, why can't u simply forgive ur family! ! 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by GabrielYulaw(m): 11:11pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
linearity: I stand behind this OP. But if i were you i would just leave them alone, start a family and a new life. Why? All this time they never thought to apologize for the way they treated you and despite the fact that you pay lots of their bills. That shows a massive lack of respect. And i don't thin k that is going to change anytime soon. It's time you decisively show them that you don't need them and are better off without them. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by mazimee(m): 11:11pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
Just reading this story made me feel bad, I don't want to Imagine any member of my family disregarding the breath from me like it was never there. I hate when people do that to others Outside their family how much when My Mum, my sisters and the Elders of my family? I love the way you reacted to their calls for your presense (the same presense they treated like it never existed) . If they don't do the right by appologising and correcting the wrong they did to you as a person, Then as a Di Okpara (first són), please don't give in, because if you give in, they may still repeat something like this if you go broke Again (God forbid). Your mum is not acting like a mother, I am sorry to say this but she has been disappointing from the beginning even till now. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by heskeyw(m): 11:11pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
God puts somethings in its place in order to know our reaction(s). Bro from my point of view, this is the perfect opportunity to revenge for all their wrong doings, yet, u can as well overlook everything and forgive them. I keep on telling people that the hardest thing in the Bible was when Jesus said "forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespassed against us". It might be hard to do but it will save generations unborn. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 11:11pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
KOPT33: How long are you going to continue in this. What do you want them to do for you. Blessed are the peace makers. It can only get better for you and the family if you forget the past and move on. Unforgiving spirit will hold you back in life 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 11:11pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
KOPT33:how can you mediate on an issue involving any party you've not been introduced to before worse still you as the head of your father's household? If I was in your shoes...keep up with your benevolence towards them but let them handle their business; no need for more drama in your life, enough with the sentiment.amen? Say amen...cheers bro 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DukeNija(m): 11:13pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
Coldfeets: Save which stupid marriage? Is he Jesus Christ the savior? If he was still reeking of poverty and suffering will he be called upon? Lol @ save the marriage. Pls let the marriage crash! Sister that didn’t call her brother for years, that’s not a sister. @op better allow your sister and mother to solve their problems. 7 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by GabrielYulaw(m): 11:13pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
PoliticalChinex: What brought World War 1 and 2 into this? And who says that Germany started either wars? You talk about death and destruction go and check Wikipedia to see how many civilians the Germans lost in terror raids. Read about the firebombing of Dresden too 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by GabrielYulaw(m): 11:13pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
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Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by selfemployed(m): 11:13pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
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Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by heskeyw(m): 11:14pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
Taking financial responsibilities of the family that hates u means that u have already forgiven them. Don't mind my earlier post, I was high. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by selfemployed(m): 11:15pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
Op you are right in your decision. But just count the cost before you conclude. What will you gain if your sisters marriage crashes? Unhappiness, She may become a liability, She may become wayward and fall into wrong hands. Etc. What will you gain if you bury your ego and make peace between them? More blessings... especially for their children Blessed are the peacemakers.... Life is not worth living in pains. Everyone will still end up six feet below where there's no ego [sup][/sup] 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Elliot2(m): 11:17pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
KOPT33:Bro,I am on ur side. you see,some people think it is fun to hurt people! And then when events take a new turn,they want forgiveness a mostly without sincerity and remorse ( they think it is a right to be forgiven). left for me,I don't joke with people who intentional hurt me- cos for me I believe in the doctrine of love but not forgiveness. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DukeNija(m): 11:18pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
selfemployed: It’s like your eyes are covered with cobwebs abi? Couldn’t you read where he said he pays for them to have a life? He foots all their bills? Is that a sign of unforgivenes? Pls if you don’t have something reasonable to contribute just go and do something else. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by soonest(f): 11:18pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
I understand your hurt but how can they make it right when husband and wife are warring. For the sake of love mediate and afterwards lay your grievances to them. Life is too short and not guaranteed to harbour grudges. All the best 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Michelle55: 11:19pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
linearity:seconded |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by godofuck231: 11:19pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
KOPT33: First of all you do not drink orijin, and the gods are upset, the details as follows, When a child is born male or female the cry of that child is only heard in the spirit world if he's a male child. No hunter urinates on the lamp deliberately in which he uses for hunting, your uncles have directly insulted your father's house and so have soiled the family name, the gods are wise, and the prayers and libation poured were rejected by your father who so sits with your ancestors. A traditional divorce can only be carried out when all members present on the day of that marriage are seated and the salt shared are returned according to allotment. The mason who neglects the broken brick or stone will end up using it as the corner stone of a building, you cannot preside over a meeting you were not invited to, you did not give your blessing to that union and you are not the head or chief prist of that marriage (head of the house), if you do you will explain to the ancestors (death). Your mother who you are supposed to fight for has betrayed you, you will forgive her as your father did, it's is what all men go trough to become elders, women aren't perfect, thats why in the circle of elders you will be sought after and your mother and sister are not to be heard except spoken to, remember it is the cry of a male child the ancestors recognise!!!!! Your sisters have committed a taboo it will be redressed and a fine will be issued, the union was not fulfilled the husband knew this and indulged in the shame, this he knows as your uncles have belittled the family to him and he's paying the family for what it is worth (a band of badgers) For that marriage to settle and for your sister to be in peace it is best you took this issue to the clan head or your king, the family elders will be summoned and brought to order and your blessings and rights will be restored, only then can you pray and restore peace to that marriage otherwise a great calamity awaits ur sister, this would be a tip of the iceberg. Stop paying the bills of your family,instead teach them how to survive, in your old age they will not remember you, help them establish and face your immediate family, ur wife and kids are more in need that adults who once neglected you. My orijin is finished, a warning is enough for a child, a word is enough for the wise. Now there was a beautiful lady after my heart who needs my attention.......... 14 Likes 3 Shares
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Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by kazyhm(m): 11:20pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
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Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by spiralwedge(m): 11:20pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
KOPT33: Please stick to this decision and dine with them with a long spoon. Please don't over-familiarised with them now that you have reconciled with them. Keep a lot of personal info away. Show that you have no stake or interest in their property especially and other family wahala. My 10kobo from personal experience. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by ashjay001(m): 11:21pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
KOPT33: My kind of guy. Though, I see myself, as a realist! Satisfy ur conscience, then, do d needful, as kids are involved. U even try, to mend fences sef! Since u mended fences, go d whole length. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by immortal145: 11:23pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
forgive n forget my broda...i knw its painful wot ws done to u BUT...dats d prize we firstborn must bear... 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by selfemployed(m): 11:23pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
DukeNija: So what will he gain if the sister's marriage crashes just because he refused to mediate? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DukeNija(m): 11:26pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
agabaI23: It’s like you need to see a doctor. I doubt you are well 8 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by excomarow(m): 11:27pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
stacyadams: The man said no one has explain niether apologies to him. He was not alive then, now that he has resurected, He is their saviour 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DukeNija(m): 11:27pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
selfemployed: Which stupid sister? Does he look like someone that has a sister? You think sister is just a title you are given? Oga Abeg shift cos as far as I’m concerned he does not have a family. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by firo08(m): 11:28pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
Bro I understand your plights, some mother can be so cruel and it profit you nothing to pay them back with evil.. count those days you where denied of your civic right as trying time everyone has to experience in life bro.. my own father suffer the same abuse from his step mother's. Since God have lifted you above them all forgiveness is the ultimate key. Please try save the image of your family and let their conscience judge them accordingly. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DukeNija(m): 11:28pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
excomarow: Don’t mind them. Wicked family members that won’t waste a minute to desert him again if things go bad. Some people are better off without families I swear. 11 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Coldfeets: 11:30pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
DukeNija: Two wrongs don't make a right. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Nobody: 11:32pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
KOPT33: And they want you to mediate? You will be the biggest fool on earth to oblige them. 10 Likes |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by DukeNija(m): 11:32pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
Coldfeets: Mother Theresa we have heard you. |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by saintol(m): 11:34pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
"Bi Olorun ba ti gbeja eda, ki lo luwae tun binu fun". 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Got Married Without My Knowledge -- Now They Need Me To Mediate by Thegeneralqueen(f): 11:36pm On Apr 06, 2018 |
PoliticalChinex:You belong here 1 Like
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