dominique:


I don't know who this Vilar is, whoever she is, she has a right to her opinion.

Saying that women are more advantaged in marriages in Nigeria is laughable and incredulous. While growing up, an average Nigerian female is being raised to conduct herself in ways that will be acceptable in her "husband's house. Are boys raised same way? Has any boy ever been told to act or not to act in a certain way because of his future wife? If this is not a sign that one party is going into marriages to please the other, I don't know what is.
A distressed woman will come online to post that her husband has been cheating on her. What kind of replies will you see? Keep praying, cook his favourite meals, satisfy him sexually etc. Let a man come and post same, will you see same replies? Send her back to her father's house will be the common anthem.
She gets beaten up by her husband, then she's at fault, she was not submissive enough, she must have used her sharp tongue to provoke him etc
One came to post that her husband raped a minor and his family is begging her not to expose him. Of course she was advised to keep shut and keep praying for the paedophile because a wise woman keeps her marriage no matter what.
So many bullshit a lot of Nigerian women has to stomach in the name of keeping a marriage yet you say they gain more?

Acidosis:


Are you married?

If "No" would you like to get married someday?

Seahawk:
Oh please knock it off with the almost childish personal innuendos. Mtchew

TonieLee:
Personally I don't want to get married, I want a permanent boyfriend but then fornication is a sin and I seriously want to make heaven.

I'll consider marriage when I find a guy who is willing to sign prenup.

TonieLee:
Personally I don't want to get married, I want a permanent boyfriend but then fornication is a sin and I seriously want to make heaven.

I'll consider marriage when I find a guy who is willing to sign prenup.

Seahawk:
Thank you

They all know this. That’s why they shame single women into marriage instead of letting them decide if that want to get married or not.

They have no other tool to disprove to women that marriage is more beneficial to men than women, Hence the act of shaming

Elder0001:


Men and women who shame single mothers the most?

It is fellow women who shame single mothers and unmarried ladies the most.

Doughboysss:
Marriage is a scam designed to keep men in perpetual slavery. There is no incentive to get married as a man. It is a high risk low reward investment .

To all bachelors out there, I'll say this:

Do not get married
Do not cohabitate with a women
There is no special one(AWALT- all women are like that)
She is not yours, its just your turn.

Elder0001:

Marriage made a lot of sense once upon a time



To be honest ,- the future of marriage in the next 20 years is blurred.

Acidosis:


You can't be married and hate marriage this much, and you can't be single and claim to know so much about marriage.

Your inability to state your actual stance shows you have only one mission here - deceive innocent people. Your lifestyle is a better message than the make believe and image you portray via writing.

The only sets of people permitted to share your kind of post are those who have sworn never to get married. You can't be in your husband's house and be posting nonsense about marriage. BTW, that a marriage failed doesn't mean marriage is bad. People fail exams, and it doesn't reduce the value of education. If your marriage fails, then check yourself; if you fail an exam, check yourself again.

Tinamoore:
From my personal experience, I will say yes Marriage still makes sense when its with a compatible and nice person.

The emotional & psychological needs coupled with companionship offered in marriage is second to none.there is a deep bond between couples which cannot be experienced outside marriage( my personal opinion).hence my opinion that marriage still makes sense.it all depends on the kind of person the marriage is entered with.

But a marriage that makes sense may loose its flavour and head to either separation or divorce when a partner changes completely from what he/ she used to be.

There is an adage in my place that says" marriage is like a parcel, you only get to know what's inside when you open it". I have come to believe this adage so much.at times, despite several years of courtship and studying our spouse to be , we may end up seeing a different package either immediately or some years into the marriage.

Some people argued on this thread about who benefits more in a marriage.I don't believe any gender benefits more.marriage is a symbiotic relationship. Both genders benefit and compliment each other.The issue of who benefits more springs up when one party is trying to play smart/wise.

Acidosis:

I hope CHoccolaTE and her "co-sisters" can learn a thing from this. After wasting so many years dating and courting useless playboys, they retire online to tell us why we should boycott marriage. Aunty CHoccolaTE, your bad and bitter experience is not enough to conceptualize marriage, okay? Learn from your experience and move on.

@CHoccolaTE,
Aunty, have you ever heard the quote "family is everything"? What's the foundation of family? baby mama or hoe-ism?

Go and ponder on the above question and come back with a sensible response.

olatuneji:
Does marriage still make sense?
well,i cant give answer to your question because i'm yet to married.but from my observation;marriage these days is something else.There's no more regards for the institution.most wives are doing under g runs likewise majority of husbands still keeps concubines.Love in most homes is no more grounded unlike in the past.husband and wife living under the same roof pretending pseudo love for each other.Most homes are operating like a government establishment.
The day i read the book "manipulated man" that was the day my view about marriage and women changed completely.
Finally,i think marriage doesnt make lots of sense to men these days.The few who are enjoying it are the onces God purposely connected them to their better-half.

JoannaSedley:
Marriage never made sense to me.

I would've preferred a business contract where both parties will agree and sign a contract of what is expected of them before witnesses.

All this submission and obedience nuances is so illogical and untenable when you are a made woman with assets. Much of the nuances has religious undertone which I do not subscribe to. This days a business contract is much more honorable than marriage.
How many business partners have maimed, disfigured and killed their partners of recent compared to the HOLY MATRIMONY. Marriage cages intelligent minded people. It wraps career minded and future inventors up so tight that they cannot make any meaningful impact to the society...rather they are left to breed bitterness and reminiscing on what might have been . .

Most people pretends all is well but can't wait to jet out when given an opportunity.

CHoccolaTE:


So I can't be fighting for my fellow sisters who are have their ambitions and dreams cut short and are being taken advantage of in the name of marriage?
It has to be about me and your imaginary bitter experiences.

Boda Acidosis, so women who are widows or who got divorced cannot form a family with their kids? A man must be in the picture taking advantage of her for the family to be complete? Ehn Boda acidosis?
What of men who are widows and decided not to remarry? They cannot have a family with their kids?
Single parents still have uncles and aunties and cousins and siblings that are also families. These familial ties will continue to exist without marriage.

Lmao, no be only go and ponder, you go fear instructions.
Boda, the foundation of family isn't irresponsible men everywhere that cheat on their wives and ask for prayers and understanding from her.

Acidosis:


Your fellow sisters indeed. These your fellow sisters were probably lying with their respective DHs especially in this very cold weather while you're here groaning in bitterness and frustration over matter wey no concern you. How many of the fellow sisters have come to you to seek guidance about divorce proceedings? You think they will leave their DHs to join you in your bitter campaign against men?


You would probably never realize how much time you're wasting until you have the opportunity to enjoy just 20% of what some of them gain in their homes.

Truth is you lack ideal love in your life. My advice for you is to go and find love. You need love to reset certain things in your life.



You are not as smart as you tink. How can you be a widow, a divorcee, or a widower if you're never married? Sh!t happens and people die, it doesn't take away the memory of a father or a mother figure.

You're campaigning against marriage yet talking about widow and bullsh!t. May be you don't know the difference between a widow and a hoe: a widow can hold a family and do so comfortably because she upholds the family structure. A hoe on the other hand is more likely to raise a bastard. Bastards no dey get father talk more of uncle or cousin. Have you ever seen a product of hoesism talking about cousins, nieces, etc.?



Don't allow your sons and daughters lay curses on you when they start comparing themselves with their colleagues in schools. Uphold the family values and stop spreading hate messages against the family structure. All over the world today, even Presidents are expected to present a first lady before assuming the sensitive position because that is the only thing that matters. Charity begins from home.

If you married a cheat, then that's your personal business and not the problem for men in general. How can you fail in a business and start blaming other entrepreneurs in your industry?

eyinjuege:


A family can exist outside the confines of marriage. A man can be a good father despite being unmarried, likewise a woman.
You don't have to take it so personal. That is the reality we live in 2018. Marriage isn't for everybody.
The president of United States has been divorced at least 2 times. His current marriage is speculated to be unhappy, and the woman- Melania is expected to get out as soon as she can.
Obama was raised by a single mother, he was lucky to have met his own wife.
There is a clear difference in the idea of morality between Obama raised by a single mother and trump raised by both parents. I'm sure many will go for the morality of Obama than trump.
The goal of any society should be to raise decent human beings. A crazy human will only raise crazy children and a decent person will raise decency.
I'm not sure what you mean by family values, but real value should be shown and taught to all children- integrity, honor, kindness, selflessness etc and these really have nothing to do with marriage.

Acidosis:

Your fellow sisters indeed. These your fellow sisters were probably lying with their respective DHs especially in this very cold weather while you're here groaning in bitterness and frustration over matter wey no concern you. How many of the fellow sisters have come to you to seek guidance about divorce proceedings? You think they will leave their DHs to join you in your bitter campaign against men?

You are not as smart as you tink. How can you be a widow, a divorcee, or a widower if you're never married? Sh!t happens and people die, it doesn't take away the memory of a father or a mother figure.

You're campaigning against marriage yet talking about widow and bullsh!t. May be you don't know the difference between a widow and a hoe: a widow can hold a family and do so comfortably because she upholds the family structure. A hoe on the other hand is more likely to raise a bastard. Bastards no dey get father talk more of uncle or cousin. Have you ever seen a product of hoesism talking about cousins, nieces, etc.?

Don't allow your sons and daughters lay curses on you when they start comparing themselves with their colleagues in schools. Uphold the family values and stop spreading hate messages against the family structure. All over the world today, even Presidents are expected to present a first lady before assuming the sensitive position because that is the only thing that matters. Charity begins from home.

If you married a cheat, then that's your personal business and not the problem for men in general. How can you fail in a business and start blaming other entrepreneurs in your industry?

Acidosis:


Are you married/Would you like to get married?

Yes, right?

Would you divorce your husband?

No, right?

Then we don't have a case

JoannaSedley:
Marriage never made sense to me.

I would've preferred a business contract where both parties will agree and sign a contract of what is expected of them before witnesses.

All this submission and obedience nuances is so illogical and untenable when you are a made woman with assets. Much of the nuances has religious undertone which I do not subscribe to. This days a business contract is much more honorable than marriage.
How many business partners have maimed, disfigured and killed their partners of recent compared to the HOLY MATRIMONY. Marriage cages intelligent minded people. It wraps career minded and future inventors up so tight that they cannot make any meaningful impact to the society...rather they are left to breed bitterness and reminiscing on what might have been . .

Most people pretends all is well but can't wait to jet out when given an opportunity.

eyinjuege:


Lemme reply you, as I just dey come back.
What are you on about? You're asking the questions and giving yourself the answers back. Why are you rambling to yourself? This one pass soliloquy o.
I would divorce my husband without looking back if the marriage is not salvageable. Life is too short to live it in misery. My life will not end without a husband. My children will grow up fine because they have a father and a mother who love them, and don't joke with them.
A wonderful parent doesn't translate to a wonderful spouse. They are 2 very different roles.
Im thankful to my parents who empowered me and gave me the best. I am self confident and I try to impart my children with that.
Some of us have faced worse things life has to offer, and we have survived. A divorce is a minor thing for some, and surely one would survive It. It's one of life's experiences.

Doughboysss:
Marriage is a scam designed to keep men in perpetual slavery. There is no incentive to get married as a man. It is a high risk low reward investment .

To all bachelors out there, I'll say this:

Do not get married
Do not cohabitate with a women
There is no special one(AWALT- all women are like that)
She is not yours, its just your turn.

MrNipplesLover:



as I have gained alot of knowledge in religious stuff, I have discovered that Christianity, Islamic and traditional religions are all saying the same thing when it comes to God's matters.
but the approaches and nature of the religions are different. but God Himself is not different according to all the religions.