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What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 11:15am On Jun 09, 2020 |
Married men in the house, which do you see keeps your marriage - love for your wife or Respect for her? On one hand, one lady who is all nice and sweet, puts all her emotions into the rship, but her attitude, intellect needs some work. You are ready to help build her, educate her but you fear you might not respect that much. Her dream is a loving husband. On the other hand, another lady, is not the loving/romantic type type, a little cold, but she is responsible and smart. You respect her a lot, but it looks, you will both have to grow the love. She'll have the tendency, say any disrespect, I'm packing my bags instead of working things out. Her primary focus is to be respected in her marriage. Lastly, what do you ladies want? I hear some women say love, some say respect, some say both. It varies based on those who believe strongly in love vs those who don't want disrespect from their husbands. But one thing is sure, most women deep down want one over the other. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Vyzz: 11:21am On Jun 09, 2020 |
Oooh FTC again Why ftc the rush me nah?. The only thing that keeps a marriage going is when the partners Respect Love.... And money. Let me use this chance to propose that FG should allow open up all olosho business and support the... Let a brothel b 5miles from every home... And reduce their prices... The way I dey see rape thread for nairaland Don tire me and my niggas 15 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by saucecode(m): 11:21am On Jun 09, 2020 |
For many,the fear of going back to square one. Two is always better than one financially 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Righteousness89(m): 11:22am On Jun 09, 2020 |
Submission and Love 55 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 11:29am On Jun 09, 2020 |
saucecode: How will you suggest handling a woman you know can leave you at any time. She is more concerned about her status. In fact the word is not comprising on her respect. You as a man can go to blazes if you disrespect her... The type you can come home, without warning, meet an empty house.. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 11:30am On Jun 09, 2020 |
Righteousness89: So you can stay with the same woman for 50 years even if you don't respect her that much? |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by MightySparrow: 11:31am On Jun 09, 2020 |
both, some times none 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Righteousness89(m): 11:41am On Jun 09, 2020 |
johnrix: Wife Submit to Husband Husband Love your wife Every other thing falls in place.. 205 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by LordKO(m): 12:09pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
Love - the big/action love which its feminine variation is submission. Love is a compound word/entity that is literally meaningless without its constituents, selflessness and humility (which are attributes) - it is encompassing. Respect/disrespect is one of end products of the constituents of love/lack of it. Saneness is a constant. However, if you are talking about the smaller love (soft spot or fancy), it's fickle. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Perfecttouchade: 1:22pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
If only we all see ourselves as different persons whose aim is to make it work since no violence is involved..we can't be of the same attitudes and behavior but understanding and tolerance as well as giving chances for communication will make it work perfect.. relationship takes alot to build even till ur last age together, u can never act the same. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Fountainofyouth(f): 1:29pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
Righteousness89: Nope, it's the other way round, Husband love your wife Wife submit to husband Love comes before submission, and when these two are present, respect comes naturally. 84 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Nobody: 1:35pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
RESPECT. You can't have love without respect. You can respect someone you don't love, but can't love someone you don't respect. 34 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Adinije(f): 2:34pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
In my opinion, what keeps marriage together is LOYALTY. If spouse can be loyal to each other, everything else will fall in place. If you are loyal to someone, you will love, respect and have their back. 29 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Righteousness89(m): 2:40pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth: Ma! It's not a Contention or Competition! That is How It is in the Word of GOD 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Fountainofyouth(f): 2:48pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
Righteousness89: Book, Chapter and verse? 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Righteousness89(m): 2:51pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth: Ephesians 5:22-25 47 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by faithfull18(f): 5:45pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
The love of God |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 5:46pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
LordKO: Then it means you don't see a scenario where love and respect coexist separately. What would you say about love for a sibling, but no respect for that sibling based on behavior. You can love them without respecting them due to their actions. 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 5:50pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
aeion: I've heard this before, and it's the strongest point for respect. What do you say when the actions of the person you love make you lose respect for them? 2 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Bartork(m): 6:06pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
johnrix: Everyone wants different things Some love, others respect. But if it's a union that will grow and last Respect will do a lot. Deep respect comes with love. Respect comes with admiration and deep regard. And once it's accepted the love line is sealed. Love can come with or without regard. I love you and it's deep but because of little respect I take advantage of the love and cheat. Lemme stop and read others comments 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by LordKO(m): 6:07pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
johnrix: Don't mistake bond for either love or respect - by virtue of being siblings, a bond is automatically and naturally created. And the bond can be sustained with just a single end product of one/more constituents of love or with just saneness - care or sensitivity does it in the scenario you presented. Care, just like respect, loyalty, etc, is an end product of constituents of love - sensitivity, on the other hand, is a sign of saneness. Love remains encompassing. Mutually shared ethical leaning is as strong as, if not stronger, the bond between siblings. As for siblings who share the same ethical leanings - strong ethical leanings - the mutual love is more refreshing than refreshment itself. LOL. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Bartork(m): 6:09pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
Adinije: Thats true That word is lacking in many people's dictionary these days People just act like they are loyal to only one person Their self 4 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by frozen70(f): 9:26pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
Love is what keeps marriage If you love someone, you will respect him or her Simple 4 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by jelel6: 9:39pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
LordKO: Your knockouts no be here oh However, on a serious note; are you saying respect is dependent on love? That's odd I think. The girl I have had the deepest respect for I never loved. If I'm to pick a woman to marry blindly, I'd be her 100%. There's a baseline respect I think every human should accord their fellow Human. However, some individuals are able to earn a deeper level of respect from people, mostly because these individuals mirror their shared values and/or outlook of life. Hence, I believe married folks could fall out of love for each other and still have peace and a work-like relationship if they respect the other person. For me though, the ideal marriage is built on love-trust-respect. Couples in it have the best chance of finding fulfilment. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by merieam16(f): 10:21pm On Jun 09, 2020 |
LOVE!dat y u see some guys lovin a naggin or hot tempered wife 1 Like |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by Ugaboy: 12:30am On Jun 10, 2020 |
merieam16:SO YOUR HUBBY LOVES IT WHEN U NAG...tell him he needs premium sense 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 12:43pm On Jun 10, 2020 |
LordKO: Though I don't agree with love leading to respect, this is a good argument for that |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 12:45pm On Jun 10, 2020 |
frozen70: I have friends that love their women, but show little respect behind their back. I have a suspicious eye on love 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by johnrix: 12:46pm On Jun 10, 2020 |
jelel6: You say Love - trust - respect... With love coming first or Respect? |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by KanwuliaExtra: 1:20pm On Jun 10, 2020 |
Dear Nigerian husbands. I don’t want either LOVE or RESPECT from y’all. Reason? You are quite INCAPABLE of such basic emotions. Please, stop deceiving yourselves and acknowledge you are not created to give/receive love or respect. Please, PAY THE DAMN BILLS and TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS. As in 50/50! I am fine with dat! That is what love and respect means to moi.Simple. Not asking for much abi? I can love and respect myself with or without your help. Thanks!❤️ 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by frozen70(f): 2:38pm On Jun 10, 2020 |
johnrix: OK, but why showing little respect behind their back when he can as well show it in her front Does it mean that respect doesn't worth giving See, respect is respect anything less is no longer respect 2 Likes |
Re: What Keeps A Marriage Together - Love Or Respect? by OLDESTWARRIBOY: 2:46pm On Jun 10, 2020 |
Side Chick 3 Likes 1 Share
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