What keeps Marriage together is marrying the right person and not factors thereafter in Marriage.

The foundation is the winning factor in Marriage.

Marriage is like a house/institution, you build a house on a faulty foundation then you get a collapsed building.

Get it right before entering into it, if you get into it and start patching it up, your Marriage is then a gamble.

Respect, care, tolerance, etc are all intrinsic to the word love, for if you claim to love then these factors are naturally exhibited.

I am open to marital discussions and advise.
(strictly matured minds)

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Both

Love and Respect

From both sides

For sure It's love oo. It's holistic

Love, respect, understanding, tolerance

KanwuliaExtra:
Dear Nigerian husbands.
I don’t want either LOVE or RESPECT from y’all.
Reason? You are quite INCAPABLE of such basic emotions. Please, stop deceiving yourselves and acknowledge you are not created to give love or respect.

Please, PAY THE DAMN BILLS and TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS. As in 50/50! Simple.

I am fine with that. I can love and respect myself with or without your help.

Thanks!❤️

No married woman will type this

PacoRamani:
Big breasts and Trust

Breast that will shrink with time..
Stop all these lustful idea now

They are 5&6, when it's comes to marriage. Before the love could grow, you need respect.

TheKingIsHere:
Money.

If money no dey, there is no love or respect

Fake love..

Davash222:

Nairaland's resident feminists won't like this.

Nobody can fight the truth!!

Money and respect.

ogawisdom:
Submission and money


A man sees submission as love

A woman sees money as love

So a woman will submit to a man that disrespect her in Public just because he provide the money??

Both buh our Nigerian men love to be respected. Respect comes first.

KanwuliaExtra:
Dear Nigerian husbands.
I don’t want either LOVE or RESPECT from y’all.
Reason? You are quite INCAPABLE of such basic emotions. Please, stop deceiving yourselves and acknowledge you are not created to give love or respect.

Please, PAY THE DAMN BILLS and TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS. As in 50/50! Simple.

I am fine with that. I can love and respect myself with or without your help.

Thanks!❤️

..Funny enough there are some guys that very loving and responsible.Its just that they are few and they love people that do not love and appreciate them. I believe some good loving and well brought up guys are available but they are like diamond that we have to look very well .
However, the nuisance and the irresponsible ones are available every where.They are the regulars Joes' in and about town and in churches. Dont worry, Love will come to you and do not let some irresponsible nuisance to make you think it does not exist among Nigerians men.

Good sex with(not and)money

eni4real:
So a woman will submit to a man that disrespect her in Public just because he provide the money??

Others things being equal

When you love someone you respect him/her so much

Also when you respect someone, you will automatically love that person.

Read my comment again, now slowly! I said Love & respect are needed...the other factors i added was just to expatiate further for better understanding for OP.

Oluwafhemmi10:


wot are u saying gan, itz wen love dwells in ur heart dat u can be compassionate; always saying d truth by not hiding anything from each other and d issue of compatibility is just another broad-brimmed scenario...

The hypocrites will not talk about sex.


lack of adequate sex breaks marriages.

money inclusive.

Both, infact they are interwoven OP...when you love ur spouse u will definitely respect him too

Respect... fck love. Respect my fvcking decisions. If I said I am sleeping alone, respect it. If I said I ain't vcking you, respect it. If I said I ain't gonna have more kids, fvcking respect that. If I said I don't wanna argue or talk, respect it. When you respect my decisions, love will come.

It's love for my wife that has kept me in marriage.
My wife has been, and I pray she continues to be, a good help meet to me.

In a marriage, Love is not enough. When I first heard that assertion, I thought it was untrue. But with recent developments I have found it is true. Ask anyone from a broken relationship if they STILL LOVE their ex, the answer is yes. So if there is still love why are they separated? Simply stated- Love without respect cannot work. Disrespect stifles love in any relationship

Husband love ur wife,..wife respect ur husband..thats how it should be

[quote author=frozen70 post=90494580]Love is what keeps marriage

If you love someone, you will respect him or her

Simple

What if the person's action makes you disrespect him or her? Cuz that's the only reason to disrespect him or her.........ACTION

johnrix:


So you can stay with the same woman for 50 years even if you don't respect her that much?

You do not submit to whom you do not respect. Also note that respect begets respect and love binds the souls together forever.

Women are dangerous no matter how you please them evil mind live with them die with them

So as a man i will advise you to marry urself �

Anytime she do anyhow drop her off at her father house or where you pick her from

Nor Sense

Before I can decide to ask you out in the first place, I must respect you and that must be reciprocal. Even if it is a coerced type, I shall pick RESPECT anyday.

samguru:
When you love someone you respect him/her so much

Also when you respect someone, you will automatically love that person.

I totally disagree with the bolded.

example; You respect someone u work for because he/she is your boss.
work ethics demands so. But he/she might be a pain in the azz that u hate so much.


I think love takes respect wherever it goes, but respect doesn't most times.


Understanding each other is key in every relationship, In addition to getting the right partner who will.

Ladies and gents, let me shock you.




LOVE DOESN'T KEEP A MARRIAGE.


COMMITMENT AND RESPECT DOES.

Love can begin marriage but marriage survives on commitment and respect.

A time comes when you don't find anything to love in your spouse.
1. It could be in the time of misunderstanding and quarrels
2. It might be a time the make a terrible mistake
3. It might be during extended family issues.
4. It could come at anytime but trust me, IT MUST COME.


This is why people do terrible things to their spouses or even kill then. Then, you are forced to ask... "no be this people dey act Romeo and Juliet before?".


Every home also needs the HOLY SPIRIT to survive. Do you know why?
1 Only the Holy Spirit can keep your home when it is threatened.
2. He reveals imminent attacks.
3. He keeps you Holy... You can cheat if you have the HOLY SPIRIT.
4. The human mind can't forgive but with the HOLY SPIRIT you can forgive and wrong doing.

I can go on and on but no time.

Just play your part as a man and let the HOLY SPIRIT lead you.


GOD BLESS YOU

Righteousness89:
Submission and Love

Just say "LOVE" because you can't submit to someone u don't love.. Wen you love u submit n respect.