Any governor that fails in his re-election bid is either poor in human relations or performance.

I can't imagine being given that golden opportunity among close to 200 million Nigerians and mess up with it.

Bindow are his likes are mistake in Nigeria political space.

This old man should go and sit down Jo.
Is he the only former president we have in this country?

Just making noise up and down.

These people are Nigeria problem always looking for avenue to showcase their love for corruption.
God help this country.

Reducing poverty or compounding it with your unreasonable salaries and allowances.

Just pray we will one day get it right with these legislators.

These current ones are corporate rogues and pickpockets.

Pastors in the house please help me out on the issue of tithe.
Can i be giving this young pastor/prophet who had been a family friend for long and still struggling to own a church though presently move around churches for programs my tithe?
He has been with me through thick and thin, stood by me when I lost my job prayed along with me till I got another job this month and he has been emphasizing on the tithe payment.

The problem really is that I attend a church where I'm not really recognise because it is a big church and I can't be paying tithe in that church and still be giving this my pastor something so I just thought I should be giving him my tithe since tithe everywhere is meant for pastors welfare.
I hope I'm making a sensible decision.

Liars you have started again.
Buhari is a man of integrity.
He is not obj.

TayehJiboluwa:


This means a breakthrough; a big break. A plane is a very expensive equipment and owning or selling it is a breakthrough. It is a breakthrough because it is confirmed to be genuine which means it is ready to be sold and you earn money. This dream will manifest as a huge business opportunity(will have its risks), probably transnational, and breakthrough.

Thanks so much sir.

Good morning bro and thanks for your assistance.
I had a dream where I was showing someone the picture of the plane I want to sell which was drawn on something like paper and the person collected it to like confirm whether it's genuine one. He took the paper like thing that the plane is drawn on to somewhere where they compare and confirm that its genuine.

Thanks sir.

keepingmum:



Re: Post Your "Buhari Suffering" Story by Ralaji: 7:02pm On Feb 20
I will try to be brief. Lost my job in 2016 while my wife was pregnant got laid off without any pay. Things became so hard that I had to rely on few friends and family members for survival. Struggle through 2016 got a job a relief job in 2017 which was meant for 3 months. Help wife got a job too fortunately got retained for another six months we then planned to try us visa as family of four but unfortunately close to 450k was wasted on us visa as we were denied came back home. Start job hunting again while wife is still managing her job but suddenly changed and started pasawording her phone, picking suspicious calls at home seriously subjected me to emotional torture upon the job I helped her to get. So much to say. But Buhari government has taught me not to trust anybody again in life no matter how close the person is I got to know my wife very well when I was down got let down by people have been so helpful to.
But thank God there is a ray of hope.
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did you not post this here in a different post? on this post did you not state your wife spent 300k on visa processing? is 40% of 450k , 300k? Oga stoppit please

Oga thanks for your concern but you are mixing things up. In 2016 she spent close to 300k given to her by her uncle on us visa which j got to know about when she had already started distributing out money to people that will help h which failed in 2)17 when I helped her to get job she said we should try again that the vo was so particular about her husband the last time she went and I reluctantly agreed after so much pressure it failed again after committing around 450k into it.
The latest one is Canada runs which she is doing whixh she has already committed like 300k into without any headway at the expense of home front when she knows I do not have job and it's affecting everyone at home.

But thank God I have a job now but can never trust her again with anything and anybody because of the experience I had about her during my trying time.

keepingmum:


Oga everypost on this forum has been about how negative your wife is......but in a previous post you said your wife paid 450K for the entire family to relocate to the US and unfortunately your visas were denied.
It seems you and your wife have poor financial management which seems to be the crux of your challenges.. I dont understand how you both will carry your entire family savings/earnings to apply for a visa - especially soon after experiencing an extended period of unemployment. I mean, if you were granted visas, where and how did you both intend to source for airticket fees? relocation fees? Were you expecting manner to fall or some "pastor spoke the word and i believed it" type of "suddenly miracle" to happen?

learn financial management first and half your problem is solved....na you wetin make you marry your wife sha bhet since you are married, she is not beating you so keep praying and enduring, God will touch her heart and open doors for you so that she will go back to being the loving wife she once was.

Please go over my previous post again never said she paid 450k. She only contributed like 40% of the money while I took care of home front single handedly.

crackhaus:
It's your wife with the character issues here, not her mother, although going by how her mother also acts, you can see the apple didn't fall too far from the tree.

Sorry about your predicament. You're like a soldier that was dropped in enemy territory, surrounded on all sides by unfriendly fire.
You can either surrender and become a prisoner of war, or you can maneuver your way and outsmart the enemy at every turn by making them come to you and play by your rules.

Do not engage the enemy directly, I repeat, DO NOT engage the enemy directly. You can never win a woman (your wife) in a shouting match or in direct confrontation, they are built for that. What they are not built for is mental warfare.

Be unpredictable, run circles around her, change your routine and keep changing it every week, be fluid - act like you don't care about anything she does, then one day, act like you do, then go back to acting like you don't care again. Kiss her goodbye on her lips for three straight days and genuinely hold her affectionately while you do it, then for the next one week after that, don't even bother hugging her.
Your wife will definitely go about her normal routine of reporting everything to her mom, except this time, she will also be reporting your change of routine and how unpredictable you've become. This will also put her mother on edge cos she too won't know how to relate with you anymore, she will want to be more careful. If your wife tries to start a fight, and she will, cos she is trying to gain some control, please keep her quiet and smile. Don't quarrel, don't exchange words, don't even leave the house. Stay in that house, stay in the same room and just keep acting like no one is talking. When she's done, tell her to come closer and kiss her deeply. In fact, make love to her but make sure you cum quickly, she must not cum. Finish quickly and leave her hanging, go to bed or go do something else. Don't even cuddle afterwards, that's her punishment and she will understand it.

About your daughter, don't change her school yet, if staying at your mother-in-laws' reduces the financial burden, then please leave her there at least for now. Any move you make on your daughter now will be seen as retaliation, it shows they are getting to you. In mental warfare, the enemy must never realize they are getting to you. If your MIL wants to be thanked, then by all means, thank her and visit her (actually its your daughter you're visiting, but tell her she's the one you came to see).
Do that until the day you're ready to take your daughter out of there and when that day comes, do it suddenly - just go there, pick her up and leave, she's your daughter.

Your mother-in-law's attitude to you is based SOLELY on how your wife talks about you with her.
Your wife is your primary target, not her mother.

Cheers...

Thanks bro. God bless.

Good day great minds in the house seriously need your advice on how to relate with this woman.

Her daughter who I helped secure a job showed me hell while I lost my job last year thank God just get one now.
She was so wicked and heatless that she was processing Canada visa with all her money at the expense of home front. She took other men as confidants and hardly tell me anything about her plan but sensing she got stuck recently after spending close to 300k on it.
I spied on some chats she was having with other men, saw some eatery settings pictures on her phone, once saw blue film on her phone too which I guess was sent by one of her boyfriend and whenever I tried to confront her she will turn it to real wahala and begin to shout on top of her voice to the extent that the whole compound already know that I'm jobless that she's trying to assist in catering for home front.

On one Sunday morning we were praying and j discovered my wife was pressing phone through out the period and I tried to scold her but she turn it to another shouting maych with all her usual bashing like you are jobless and feeding you etc that j have to live the house for her that day. Went to my mum she was surprised when she saw me cos I never told her I was coming and I explained everything to her and my mum called her mum after seeking my permission but the woman was trying making excuses for her daughter as usual when my mum was telling her that for 4 years that her daughter did not work I did not disturb her.
I call this woman like 2 days after that incidence but rejected my call guess she was angry that I told my mum about her daughter excesses.

Though feel so uncomfortable staying close to her she always complaining that I don't use to come to thier house, her daughter is always fond of going to their house to report me whenever there is any issue don't know may be because she is the last born.

My pastor told me something not to good about this woman sometimes ago and even told me that If we had known before I married her he wouldn't have let us get married he said she slowing me down I have heard 2 vision from men of God about Being careful with tbuer house and from the look of things this woman 5 children are just struggling with life which somehow give credence to what my pastor says.

She saw a chat on my phone like 2 weeks ago where I exchanged message with a lady I met on this forum I tried to make enquiry about their forum which is for single parent she was mad when she saw it and said I want to betray her she ran to her house as usual to blaspheme me for her people she went to report me to my mum and she called my sister who have not told anything before j had no choice but to tell her everything she has been subjecting me to.

In one of the day of her wahala I tried to call her sister who seems to be reasoning well with me about her stubbornness though she is also staying with their parents, she just came qnd hit me on my neck and smashed my phone on the floor but all through those turbulent time I did not raise my hand against her.

She came home yesterday to tell me her mum is not feeling fine just tried to call her today to ask after her health but she rejected my call again and this is the second time this woman will be rejecting my call.

My daughter stays in their house because her school is around their though planning to change her school soon she believes because of this I should be calling her to thank her every time.

Please house how do I handle this woman?

I will try to be brief. Lost my job in 2016 while my wife was pregnant got laid off without any pay. Things became so hard that I had to rely on few friends and family members for survival. Struggle through 2016 got a job a relief job in 2017 which was meant for 3 months. Help wife got a job too fortunately got retained for another six months we then planned to try us visa as family of four but unfortunately close to 450k was wasted on us visa as we were denied came back home. Start job hunting again while wife is still managing her job but suddenly changed and started pasawording her phone, picking suspicious calls at home seriously subjected me to emotional torture upon the job I helped her to get. So much to say. But Buhari government has taught me not to trust anybody again in life no matter how close the person is I got to know my wife very well when I was down got let down by people have been so helpful to.
But thank God there is a ray of hope.
0049821271 access bank for the good Samaritan. Thank you.

Akpabio is a game changer.

This dreams occurred consecutively within 5 days.
Saw myself eating yam and pepper this occurred twice the first time I fasted to cancel any evil food in my system I just had the second one last night was actually eating with a guy that seems successful as he just graduated with a first class and he even gave me some of his clothes which I was thinking I could give to some brothers around me.
Saw one of my brothers being pursued and naked in the dream and j was trying to rescue Jim
Saw him in another dream getting down from a sienna for me and some people and he was walking towards baby boy honda car like he wants to go and enter it.
Saw him again fighting with one man and it was serious, they were stoning each other I was actually making peace between them until they move close to each other and he headbutts that man and he fell.

Thanks in anticipation of your interpersonal.

carammel:
That is how they will come and write matter that will paint them as saints, the woman is the problem, her only mistake was falling in love with you. You even call her a cheerful giver ( animashaun, anfani adugbo), you that had sex with a woman on second day of meeting her is a what?
May God forgive you and i pray your woman finds it easy to bear the shock she is about to get from you.

Madam. Thanks for your contribution but I never said I had sex with her on second day of our meeting but I said on her 2nd or 3rd visit which was more than a month after meeting her.Thanks all the same.

Steppingup4lyf:
my brother, i feel your pain.its not time for criticism. its time for solution. its not going to be easy.but it is possible.i want to reach out but what i want to discuss is with you no offence.i may not be in the best position to make suggestions,but i am sure my little input may go a long way. lets discuss steppingup4lyf@gmail.com

Bro please check your mailbox.

divinelove:
Mr op u are not a firm man, u are the type that your wife can easily push around to get what she wants done financially. How on Earth can u spend 250k on baby shopping when u are still struggling. U also borrowed to do wedding as evident in the debt thereafter.

All Women are selfish, the only reason they love their husband is bc they provide for the family. Once u can't provide any woman will maltreat and disrespect his husband.

U only know the woman u are married to if u go out of job for a while.

Op the Bible says that a man that can't provide for his household is worst than an infidel and anyone that can't work should not eat. Now provision for family must be done with wisdom so your source don't run dry so u don't spend above your means while doing this.

Your inability to manage your finances and be firm and stick to budget has doomed u. When u marry a spender as wife and u are not firm in financial decisions then she will send u back to the village n move on before u know it.

Money is the center of all your problems plus unsupportive n faithful wife.

Honestly if I catch my wife with another man the marriage will be dissolved that day, that is the only thing I can't tolerate in marriage

if she must cheat then I better not catch her cheating ass bc I can't forgive that n the Bible will support me to divorce her.

Advice - learn to be a firm and assertive man

Thanks bro. I appreciate your contribution.

shakmati:


What kind of yeye advice is this? Can you please treat the issues he raised without this your load of toxicity? This forum provides the chance of being anonymous so the Op has not bared anything to you. He is only seeking advice. You are even telling him there are no other women out there! How myopic and self centred of you!

Op, have you sat your wife down and discussed the way you feel with her? If you are sincerely not interested in living with her again you better seperate from her before something evil happens. Sit with her and talk about it. To marry and live together is not a do or die affair. Or else you can break her neck one day in annoyance or she poisons you when she sees a man she prefers. In all this, make sure you always cater for your children. Living together with her or not.

Thanks bro. I didn't say I want divorce at all cost. I still care for her though but in fairness to her she only display this attitude when ever there is serious financial challenge. I believe a good woman should be able to endure tough time atimes without misbehaving.

edoman2016:

Brother, I understood your situation. If what you wrote above are actually true, most people crucifying you on this thread would have reacted as you do.

You need to know that you didn't marry a good wife. A good wife will never be a cheerful giver of sex to different men except her husband. I will advice you to be separated from her and observe her behaviour for sometime whether she will change her wayward lifestyle. And if she doesn't, please divorce her.

Thanks bro.

sassysure:

It didn't widen after popping out your kids but can widen cos it accommodated prikks that's not up to 10% of human head and body including yours or are u saying u have tiny Winnie?
Bro, go and sit down.
See how divorce is very easy for you to say.
As you have already condemned ur wife, what do you want people to tell you?
From the beginning of your epistle, u already called her a cheerful giver when u were very busy collecting what she was giving. What a hypocrite u are!

I wouldn't be surprised if it wife is the one who need the divorce from you as I have learnt here that the guilty ones always run when no one is chasing them.
Tell her to come and give her own account.
We then might have a case to debate on.

Ok bro. Thanks all the same.

jesmond3945:
Op you married an olosho and the signs were there but you were blinded by love. There was nothing like juju, her bedmatics hoodwinked you into doing her bidding. Thats why I advise young men to always use their head, dont be carried away by sex, an olosho can never make a good wife. Now look at how messed up you are. I would advise to work hard to make your marriage work because of your kids. You have entered perhaps some people would learn from your experience.

Ok jesmond. Thanks o but have dated so many girls before her.

Dyt:


how do you expect me to reading just your part?

what if you didnt say it all?

you want me to condemn her and praise you?

ok o mr Ralaji
try to make your marriage work o
communication is important
tell her all about how you feel.

Dyt. You know what happened.
I'm have mapped out how I want my home to be when I married. But unfortunately it has not been so.
Ok want the best of life for my family.
But here is a woman that practically brought issues into my life I can never point to at least an assistance she has rendered for me for the past 5 years except the 100k she gave sometimes ago which we expended most half of it on his brothers wedding.
If she had opened up to me we wouldn't have found ourselves in this mess we are now.
The worst is my mum which has been my greatest pillar of support in life after God that have not found resources to take care of though I have elderly ones who are taking care of her but since I married this woman have been in debt.
If you know me you will know that I so much value happy home because lacked this while growing up but you can have it without a very supportive wife.

ayomilore:


I later got to know after wedding that she is this woman that is only after your money and nothing more. She is very selfish.

Bros how is this your business?

Dyt:
your wife should come and write her own too

Just advise please.

Oyindidi:
I said separate not divorce. The kids will be fine till you sort things out.

Are you sure she's seeing other men or you're just insinuating?

So sure it was too obvious around June July. Though it has subsided now.
When you notice where you visit regularly has suddenly become so wide
She began to password her phone which she was not doing before
Once saw a blue film on her phone guess was sent by one of the men she sleeps with
Perceived condom smell around her region on more than 2 occasion around June July.
And lots more

clive2u:
since I'm not married i wont know what to say but I've been in relationships and i feel your pain. just keep holding on to faith, be forgiving and be ready to make a tough decision when it matters

Guy. Thanks.

Oyindidi:
separate from this woman

Oyindidi. Thanks but what become of these little kids is my greatest concern.

Please I was introduced to this forum by a brother.
Please kindly read my story and drop your advise.
I met this lady 6 years ago immediately I broke up with my last girl friend, she agreed to visit me after a month and we began to have intimacy on her 2nd or 3rd visit. By 4th month she started disturbing me that her parents want to meet me meanwhile she was a free giver whenever she visited,atimes she sleeps over in my place. There is this cool headed girl I was about sealing her deal then that she spoilt for me. On my first plan visit to her place she was not around I guessed she had a date with one of her guys which I got to know through our conversation over the phone, the guy actually camped her for 3 days but she lied to me that she was with her brother. Eventually I went to her place and I met with her mum and dad her dad had health challenge while her sister is staying in their house on the excuse that her husband works in another town but later got to know that she's having issues with her marriage. On that day its as if I was jazzed because I started doing anything herself and her mum ask me to do. While visiting she used to tell me about getting car that it would be nice and being someone that is so trusting and believing that she will do same to me, she also asked whether I have landed property which I said no. At my place of work there some cars that were place for auction then I applied for one and I was granted.
She complained about my apartment she said the area is bushy I had to look for another apartment I even run to my mum for financial assistance over this.
While preparing for our wedding I funded most of the expenses they were able to do all these because my people do not stay in the city where we are.
After the wedding I was already in debt and she lost her job when it was like 2 weeks to our wedding.
After the wedding she told me that she had bought a car and that it was with her brother.
I began to spend on the car immediately her brother brought the car starting form number.
Some months after the wedding there was an occasion in their family and they share money I carried the highest being that her elder ones are jobless except 2 of them that are managing, she is the last among them.
Six months after our marriage we had our son. She stood on my neck with her mum that we should do all the shopping for the baby being the first born I eventually spent around #250k on this still in debt. Some of those things are useless today.
Around the time we had our baby she said her colleagues in school have started paying for school fees I said she should defer it till following year but her mum started begging eventually I put up my car for sale I never knew that her car is problem on its own which is sold to her by one of her boyfriends. The car is actually a used Nigeria car package for her like new at #600k being fanciful at that time and very presentable than my own we put mine for sale and his brother stylishly bought it from us to clear her school fees.
When she went for exams she came back with some new clothes which I knew were bought for her by her boyfriend.
She got some money from her uncle like 2 years ago she said she wants to travel abroad she spent all the money on the processing which eventually failed.
Around this time I lost my job too, but was able to get some money which I gave to her to go and get her result in school.
She help me get one temporary job which I did for 3 months but before I left ihelped her secure another job this is after 4 years of our marriage I also helped one of her brothers to get job too.
I got another too but lost it around may this year it is a deposit mobilization job so we were all asked to leave when we could not meet up with the target.
Around June my wife started misbehaving I started noticing that she's sleeping around I felt so bad I had to turn to God for serious prayer still hunting for job but God has been faithful in settling some bills.
I got a financial assistance from someone recently through her to pay for rent and children bills when she said she cannot help with the bill.
I feel so cheated and I even think divorce will be the best when I eventually get my life back on track but I don't want my kids to pass through what I went through because I'm a product of a polygamous settings.
Please don't mind my grammar kindly advise me, the did is done already.
Meanwhile the men of God have told me repeatedly that God says I should not revenge.

Please advise. Thanks.