i would be very happy but a bit worried as it could be difficult to be pregnant and give birth at an older age and risky for her own life plus possible complications to the baby. so def don't stress her she needs support on this moment

have a relationship with the one you are in love and can make u happy, don't make a choice based on race, ethnicity, tribe, occupacion, money etc because you will never be happy

the one who didn't want to break up

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If a man loves a woman and RESPECTS her then he'll never cheat. He could be tempted as is in human nature but he won't do it. Anything else is just excuses for men that don't love their wifes, have bad upbringing or they are bored of them. And excuses of women in bad marriages that try to prove that everybody does it.

If someone wants to break up with you then you just have the self-respect and leave, never begging!! it's their loss on the end of the day. What ninja women do, begging you to stay even if you don't want to be with them??Can't believe this for any woman

@ johnnny thanks, what means though if someone calls someone 'belle' (the only word used)? unless if she wanted to say bad belle and everybody can understand bad,

just1 nope i don't i a nigerian friend called my friend 'belle' once and she said that it was like a greeting meaning hello, it sounded a bit strange and i remembered that's why i thought to ask. why someone will call somone 'stomach'?a bit wird

i show an answer on this topic bad belle people, what belle means?

Happy New Year to everyone!

What have you done on new year's eve and have you spend it with family, girlfriend or boyfriend or friends?

we'll be on holidays

Tall, nice tonned body, dark short hair, nice smile and sexy eyes, dark skin white or light skin black.

Beyonce of course!, her and Tyra are the most good looking black girls.

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how did you came up with this?

My man is yoruba too, there are cultural differences but I found it excited and not a problem. It depends on how traditional someone is but the young generation living abroad is much more modern and adapted to the western life. I never had any issues with my boyfriend to act as the king of the house or whatever, he cooks, cleans, washing and ironing my clothes on the same way that I am doing these stuff for him. Our cultures are similar when it comes to respect, family values etc. The only thing I can say is that nigerian men are less romantic but this is something that he can learn if he wants you to be happy. From what I know if a man loves a woman will try to make the woman happy no matter where he is from. I lough every year on Valentine's day when my boyfriend buys me a gift and he plans a romantic dinner or sth like this (without asking him) but he always mentions that he doesn't believe on valentine's day, that this is too western etc I think nigerians are afraid to come across very romantic and they want to look stong as they fear that they are loosing from their masculinity. I see non nigerian women complaining on this forum on how some nigerian men treat them, the truth is that the problem is not the culture or cultural differences but the fact that these men don't love them.

if i am at my boyfriend's car and we pick up someone older (let's say his mum or my mum) i always offer the front sit, it's just out of courtesy and good manners. The same I would have done for the MD as well as a sign of respect, I wouldn't wait for my man to ask me to do it, don't I have manners? My man is doing the same if I drive. The majority of the times the person doesn't accept the offer anyway but in general is not a big deal.

Get a job and move out or kick him out, there is nothing else that you can do. And ask help from women organisations and any help that you can get from the government. There are places that will be able to give you temporary accomodation(depending which country you are in) until you get back to your feet and don't consider to go back to your old way of life, it's not worth it either. The man is married to somebody else but he messes around and lives with you for years now (what do you expect from this kind of man who will leave his wife to mess around??), he mistreated you, he obviously doesn't respect you and he doesn't love you. Sorry if I sound harsh but you need to WAKE UP. From what I read you don't love him either and how could you. So stop waiting for the impossible, he will never change, build your self-esteem and move on. And no reason to carry on working on his business if he doesn't pay you, use your time contructively to improve your life and your kids' lives. You are only 31, still very very young to turn your life round. Also consider to register in a course if you can, to study something or learn a new skill in order to build your self-esteem, to believe in your ability and advance your employment prospects? You have worked for years in catering business with him so why don't you consider to seek employment in a restaurant, hotel or something like this for the time being?

Last he is not fair to you but you are not fair to yourself either and that's worst. If you think that he can be a good father to your son (how someone can be a good father though when he has a wife and kids to another country and he still live and messes around with anothe woman) try to involve him on his life but for the time being concentrate on your self and how you can build a stable environment for your kids. You have to put them first and not to wait a selfish man to change. Does his wife and kids know about your existence?

At a friend's dinner party, it was love from the first sight and he was the one who made the first move. We've been together since this day up to now, 5 years and counting.

No, the age difference is far too much, one of them could easily be a parent to the other. up tp 10-12 years difference the most, still a bit of age difference but can be tolarated.

very inmature. if you want to break up just have the guts to tell her know and no need to wait for 2 more months

I think only the stupid or desperate(personal issues, financial issues, limited education etc) women are more lkely to be scammed not the smart ones, it is not a matter of race but a matter of intelligence and education. There is more likely though for a white woman to fall by a black man's scam than a black woman as simple for the black woman is the devil that she knows. The same way that far more black women are more likely to fall by a white man's scam compare to a white woman. For example women trafficking and hoocked into prostiution is a big issue for illegal immigrants young black girls (big precentage are nigerian) in south europe. For people that travelled on this part of the world will know exactly what I am speaking about. So the issue really are for all the countries to form policies to protect women for any kind of scam and provide support and make the world a better place. It's easy to say it and difficult to follow it but people who fall for scams are victims and should be treated like that and not be critisized. And scammers are criminals and should be treated as such and not 'praise' them for their achievement. For me a scammer who married a woman for papers in America, use the woman and abuse her is not the only responsible, but equally responsible is the nigerian wife and the family who are aware of it and somehow accept it. On the same way the man who will traffic a woman and force her in prostitution is not the only to be blamed but his wife and family who will tolerate such behaviour and somehow accept it.

possible when none of them can offer you what you want and need. but cheating is very wrong, make up your mind and quite fast, treat people as you want to be treated

She is not over him plus she was looking for a way out of the relationship, i don't bite the bit about virginity, it doesn't make any sense. You'll be better off without her as i don't think she was so much into you and noone is happy with half measures.

57, not married and he is not capable/ can't be asked to find a wife on his own but gives advice on how his wife should be according to trends that he sees in magazines and also likes to insult women,  Is he gay??
Fat or skinny - it's a matter of preferance. Personally I'm not into big guys and I like guys who are in fitness as I believe that everyone should look after themselves and their bodies for esthetical and health reasons. I believe that the best looking women have curves as they look more feminine but not flab, not many men like that.

Desperate: never, looking for a partner to settle down: when she is ready but usually it's just happen when you fall in love

NO and about when is a good time to tke him back: NEVER
Make yourself a big favour and walk away of him, no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship

why should i be offended with a comment of someone who doesn't know how i look  ?

Mr Cork wow your grandmother must be a nature's miracle then You've never seen my photo,

Lack of class, being flashy and poor manners

Do you feel that you have an anger problem only with her or in general?

As I'm still young I prefer to look on my age but when I'll get older I'll propably prefer to look younger