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Chrisvicmall: Chrisvicmall, how much would you be willing to ship a toy car 17.5Kg to nigeria from Alibaba supplier, and am also thinking I could pay through you since the supplier is sinsisting on western union and money gram payment. Thank you. |
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Were. Olorun ma je ka bimo iranu. May GOD not allow us to have crazy children. Amen |
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boselayode@yahoo.com. Thank you. |
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[quote author=Zik4zik]Swag queen and the rest of you that has been abused in you relationship I am really sorry about your situation. These are my advice and you must take it seriously no matter how difficult it seemed. For those of you that are still dating please end the relationship immediately. But for Swag queen and the others here who are married please NEVER EVER leave your home no matter what. You swore for better for worse... DON'T EVER LEAVE YOUR MARITAL HOME FOR ANY REASON. The mind of an abusive married man works like a clock, it eventually gets back to its right senses but if you had already left the house by then lots of irreparable damages might have been done such as him already impregnating someone else or having a kid. I am not saying you should let him beat you to death. No... That's not my intention. The truth is that a man in such situation is actually suffering, he needs help, he knows what he is doing is wrong but he can't help himself, he wants to stop but he can't. Haven't you ever wondered why he beats you with so much hate and rage yet he feels extremely insecure and monitors your every move. He feels insecure because deep inside him you remain his source of strength, he knows he is lost without you. As a wife in such situation, you need to put him in prayers, when you pray, cry in your prayers and let him hear you pray and cry but try not to be too loud. Let him hear you pray for his protection and success, do this every night(2am) for seven days. And for God sake you already knows he beats you when you talk back at him so PLEASE PLEASE and PLEASE from today let him have his way, don't talk back at him, when you findout that he has slept with other ladies keep it to yourself and talk to your God about it. Once you learn to control your tongue, you have taken away his strength over you because there is nothing for him to hold as a reason for beating you. These are simple logic that works and if you can continue like this for 3weeks or more he will gradually revert to his old loving self. But when you confront him or talk back at him, the devil seizes an opportunity to take over his rage and he gets uncontrollably angry towards you and the beating starts again. Please read this post over and over until you master all that I have written in it. Remember, before he married you there were over a million women on earth but he chose you because you meant every thing to him but now he has a cloud over his eyes and you must help him get past his weaknesses by praying for him and keeping your tongue in check... DON'T TALK BACK [/quote The principal thing is wisdom. No woman likes/prays to live her matrimonial home. It is good to pray, but stay far while you pray and watch. We have seen and heard cases of hubby pouring acid on their wives, killings, etc. Fight for your life first before fighting for the marriage. 2 Likes |
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Ujujoan: Thanks so much.. |
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jay bee: please read the story on page 3. Thanks. |
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mysticgal: why do i think this story is a scriptnot a script oooo, things happen. it happened to me. |
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At Swag Queen, you are not the only one. I went thru it sometimes ago. I was married to my hubby for 5 yrs and we have two kids( a boy and a girl) and he just started misbehaving, If i questioned him, he becomes abusive and violent. I think he was frustrated cos his biz was not doing well at that time. I was the one shouldering all d responsibilities at home, was it easy no? no cos i was only earning a stipend working with one man's biz bt I was able to manage cos i was doing a little buying and selling, also with some support frm my parents and sibblings. A man has no excuse to abuse his wife cos pple were tellin me to bear wt him that he was misbehaving cos of his inadequacies and I said to myself that my hubby shld appreciate d fact dt he has a supportive wife even though I nag once in a while as a human being especially wen i become broke and I need to do somethings for the kids. Anyway, he came home one day and said I was a witch that am using his destiny to progress that am responsible for his predicament. To cut the story short, he said he was told he can never make progress untill I leave his life but i refused to leave despite all he did to frustrate me like not comin home for days and not picking his calls. Was I beaten? yes but once. I usually hear pple say if i slap u u will see stars bt i neva knew it was possible.. my dear I saw stars wen he slapped me severally cos i challenged him for something wrong that he did .And then the nxt day i get to remind him of all he said to me and all he did. He tells me it is intentional that he is ready to do more. There was a day we had a problem which we were suppose to solve togeda and he decided to run away as usual. I held his shirt trying to stop him from escaping, the shirt got torn. U knw wot. he tore everything on me including my underwears, and asked me to go out of d house, i tried to wear anoda clothe he stopped me and said dt is hw u are moving out of d hs, even wen a male neighbour forced himsef inside our hs (cos he had already locked d door and threw d key under a sette) I was stark naked I had to cover myself wit a curtain, u can imagine d humiliation. I call his pple and dey were indifferent, thay kept saying i shld b patient. At the end, he left hs and never came back for 2 months. while he was away he kept sending msgs of threats sayin if he cums bac home he must not meet me if not one of us will be dead. The kids were on holiday. I stylish move to my parents hs told dem we are der for holiday . And i registered d kids at a nearby schl in my parents hs. My excuse was that d hs rent was due, he wasnt willin to pay and i dont thk i shld pay it either. Fastforward to today. We av being seperated for 4 yrs now, yet to be divorced, am wt d kids, I thk GOD for his faithfulness, we are fine. GOD gave me a better job and am able to takia of myself and d kids, d kids are my source of joy and d ey are doin wonderfully well. Am better off without him. The only problem now is moving on which I belief GOD will sort me out soonest. Now my advise to you is to look for a job, get stable, GOD will give u job cos He knows d situation. You have families I belief, as soon as u are a bit stable leave him if he comes back to his senses and he comes to beg and u see genuine repentance, fine. If he doesnt , move on wt ur life and be happy. At 30 u are still young to go thru all dat. Perharps u can find love again frm a responsible man and if not enjoy, For me, he is callin to beg but i dont trust him, av not seen genuinesss in his apologies.... It is well sis. Hmmm as for mum, I believe she doesnt wish u dead. I hp u knw d case of Titi that was killed by her hubby. About 2 months ago, a lady was pushed frm a 3 story building and she died,dt is the parents loss. .meanwhile wen d hubby became violent, she ran to a neighbour's hs to pass d nait der,she was sent back that she has to go and settle wt d hubby, it is an abomination for dem to take her in.nw dey regret der action. . the guy will marry anoda lady and d lady will probably wear her cloths and use her thgs sef, what abt d kids?who will kia for dem. My dear run for ur life, ur security comes first. Marriage is not a do or die affair pls. 31 Likes |
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Nice dress u av there. |
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This will spoil the neck of the t.shirt but creative though. Nice invention |
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I want 4 for my personal use, send detils @boselayode@yahoo.com pls. |
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The fioni flat is hw much pls? |
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Is it still available? Can we see pixs pls. |
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How much re u selling ur Polo tops? |
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can you give me ur location and d price range pls? |
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If he has really repented y is it nw that he got the letter, he suddenly wants reconciliation.He did not collect the bride price, cos he wants to be seen as being interested. To me it looks like he wants to hang you. By this i mean he is not saying he is not interested or interested . He just wants you to remain like that while he will be enjoying himself. Well we av heard stories like this and they still come back together to live happily together and otherwise too. Ask GOD for direction and watch his actions. Observe him well and see if he has truly changed and repented. see how far he is willing to beg.But you need to becareful. Whiever decision you take. You are the one involved so u bear the brunt if it doesn't come out well. GOd help you. |
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Amen |
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Kill him han. and spend the rest of your life in prison or u die by hanging while better guys will pass u by. |
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You dont have any proof that she is dating this guy. Fine some ladies get carried away when on facebook. I also chat with guys on facebook just to while away the time wen am bored but I do not welcome sweet names calling from them and i do not welcome their advances. she mit not be matured enof to handle it. U need to be dure she is dating d guy before concluding. All the best. |
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Vikin: Me and hubby can never look alike.. Never!y? |
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Please can anyone who has gone for INEC interview brief us of what to expect? Thanks so much. |
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Please ,Can anyone who has gone for the Interview brief us of what to expect.Thank you. |
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Like I was saying,we never seem to reason alike,he doesn't see things my own way and I don't see things his own way really his reasoning is very awkward.His thoughts are old school.I could remember one day I woke up in the midnight and was looking at him.I was like is it me that married dis man?How can?U know.When he is wrong he would never agree and say sorry,instead he will be arguing blindly.as in using Ogboju.I have one weakness,which is I dont know how to hide my feelings.I believe wen u offend me or do something wrong,i will tell u strait off.I might go on and on explaining myself until av said everything I have in mind,after which I will feel relieved and he doesn't want to understand that, that is me.Anyway I was like av married him already wot can I do?Let us continue to patch it. He was not caring not to talk of romantic.He doesn't know how to pet a woman.A times i will intentional frown my face u know,like wanting him to show affection and ask me wot is wrong with me,just to pet me,but he doesn't even know whether u are happy or not.No cuddling nothing.Just imagine his insensitivity.Imagine u calling somebody ur hubby,he would neva call to ask me if av gotten to the office or not when i leave home in the morning especially wen it rains.I will be d one calling him most of the times.We had several issues really,like him wanting to travel and not tell me beforehand.he might just tell 2 days to dat time.u know.It got to a point that he would just tell me sori i av an urgent biz call,am on d way am in Ibadan.Well he started behaving like a mafia,as if he is playing games with me.He will tell me he is going to A and A friend mit jst call me not 4 amebo sake.How are you?I saw ur hubby at another location and I asked him to greet u.hope he delivered my msg,u know.And he would not want me to challenge him.He keeps late night and he doesnt want me to complain.He will want to make love with me and he will never want to do pre-intimacy.U know.To be continued |
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I pray that the Mum will recover fast and only God himself can console the mother.Am a mother of two myself and I can imagine how it was.Accept my condolence.And God will console d father too.God will give them anoda that would stay. |
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Wot a sad story.Our health system is extremely poor.I just hope Prof.Nora akunyili will get to read this.A situation that could av been prevented.Anyway the harm has been done already.We only pray such should not occur again in future.Just imagine,u had ur money and u are ready to pay for the service but they are not even ready to give you the service.The nurses needs orientation,they seem not to value human lifes.It is not by force to be a nurse or a doctor,it was of their own freewill so why the nonchalant attitude.I think if they can be punished for such,others will learn to be serious with their job.By the time they sack one or two people.Others will sit up. |
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So much has been said already,everybody has a point but one thing I want you all to realize is that getting married is not the main thing but getting married to the right person.I got married when I was almost 26,but now I wished I had stayed a little bit longer cos am married to a monster so to say.He didnt show me all of his character untill we got married,dat is y it is always good to have long courtship.We met 2002 Sept and we got married 2004.Most of those cpourting period,I was in school after which I went for NYSC and afta was d wedding.I didn't really take time to knowing him well enough.I started noticing some bad character in him after our introduction and I was like girl no going back cos the intro was done at Ilu. And it was a big one.So I was like it is not good to put my parents into shame and really I was thinking it is a bad thing to cut off a relationship after Intro.I wish I had known better my fellow Naira landers.I wanted to leave my parents house,wanted to be free and be on my own.I am first of my parents and my younger ones were always getting on my nerves so i was like getting married would be a solution to avoid their insults.Just imagine how immatured how I was.Well u can say I didnt really know wot I wanted or I wasnt exposed and all that. After the wedding,I noticed that his idea of marriage was quite different from my own,for example he believes he doesnt have to hold me to sleep or face me to sleep.He was always turning his back at me.In short he believes he can do his own thing the way he wants not considering me.He neva wanted togetherness,we neva bonded.hope u are feeling me o.Anyway will continue my story later.Dont want u guys to get bored.I really want you all to learn. |
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My dear sister ,dont venture into marrying the first guy,i beg you in the name of God.For you to have been able to notice that he is nonchalant and uncaring that means it is quite obvious.And again you dont overlook such kind of behaviour.And from the way you talk i can see that you really loved to be cared for.which woman doesn't amyway?If you go into the marriage and he travels and he doesn't call.It will become a big issue,infact his nonchalant and uncaring attitude will create problems for you both .At that time you can't change him and if you try to complain all he will tell you is that but you know this is how i am before you got married. I am in this kind of situation so I know exactly how it is |
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How we met: We met while i was helping out my mum to sell in her shop,his car broke down and he was trying to fix it sumwhere near Mum's shop.He noticed me and tried chatting me up. - What attracted me: he was cool headed and responsible.oh yes his persistency: - Who proposed:He did of course. - Who opposed: Only one person,a friend who happens to be my Ex's friend.How i wish i had listened to him but I didn't because I felt he was trying to protect his friend's interest - The wedding: It was ok at my HomeTown,it happened over 3 yrs ago. - The honeymoon - Nigeria - Made a mistake choosing my partner? - Capital yes,infact he is the greatest mistake of my life - Tempted to be unfaithful: Yes am tempted to because he doesn't appreciate me,does not value me,he doesn't send me any longer.In fact he has neglected and abandoned me and the kids.the funniest thing is that Guys appreciate me outside and they always say my hubby is lucky cos of my nature:friendly,humorous,no dull moment,intelligent,jovial,outspoken).They see this in meaning outside and appreciate it.Some even say ,if not that you are married.So tell me why i wont be tempted to. - How long:I don't know,if he is willing to change,forever.if not anything can happen. 1 Like |
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