@poster
Im almost too certain youve got absolutely no faults.
i can tell.
Heres the deal you for whatever way you choose to call or coat this, truth is youre just not in love with the person anymore.
It gets even better, youre not willing to be patient to work things out,
Had a similar issue with my ex.
Was the victim actually, when she went and had the 'perfect boy for her', to cut the story short I guess the devil you know,
Anyways when she did try to come back to talk things over, I guess God was actually doing me a favor then.

Point of the story?
Maybe its actually you who really doesnt deserve him.

Its ok for you to feel all that now but please dont forget to come back and let us know how you screwed up when its time(no pun intended )

^^^^yeah my bad this should work, after telling the father the child died at child birth, or even better let her tell the chap in question that she told the father he was dead

When unqualified people enter Govt, chop money and have access to premium quality spirits and other forms of alcohol jablata begins to fall out of their mouths.
Simple road they havent been able to put to standard, its nuclear plant they want now, small time another 60Billion will disappear through the budget for this.
Bandits!

Any one can be a father, it takes a lot more to be a dad.
Tell your friend as difficult as this might sound, if his father wasnt keen enough to know him let alone be by him as he grew up, what really is the point stressing himself over it?

ok if he meets the man {assuming} eventually and he denies ever knowing you would that make his day?

Let him focus on his mum, every single day shes taken care of him, she created a miracle.single handedly.

ThoniaSlim:

no matter how right a child thinks he/she is,if you don't get blessings from your parents such a marriage is bound to fail.

Sincerely theres no proof to back this up
secondly most divorces we have today all had the parents awareness and even blessings, so whats your excuse for this?
Its a good thing when your parents are aware but what if theyre presenting a silly excuse like race and tribe or even because they just dont like the persons face?

what about that?
Abeg!

How do people just generalize a whole tribe as stereotype failing to put into consideration each of us are as different as our fingerprints in reasoning, character and thought?

Na wa o!
@poster get your relationship to work based on the true principles that truly matter & dont allow a dumb excuse like tribe become the reason you cant be happy with the one you love, ok?
gosh im tired of Nigerians and their tribalism i keep saying it thats why even @49 and counting it still will not grow.

I think its about time we include tribalism as a prayer point that God shoulld smite all tribalistic people.

Trouble dey sleep yanga go wake am!
Tell the Ex that with the post he/she now holds he/she should know the rules of the game.

ladej:

well listening to them i culdnt help but feel pity for some of them in the public eye. tyra banks actually said she preferred dating 'regular guys' and when she was younger she visited haunts like night clubs and other social places a woman can meet a man. she said over 90% of men looked but were not bold enough to approach her, the ones who did asked for autographs or applauded her work in fashion/acting. so she had no choice to to limit her pool of eligible men to celebs like her who wont usually have the inferiority complex to make a move. so my broda its tough, are u getting me? even the now famous david beckham who is a white man used his agent to meet victoria his wife. at the time she was 1000 times more successful and famous than him. he couldnt approach her directly as a result of her being way out of his league. so the problem is very much global. fortunately for him she also liked him and as they say, the rest is history. he's now more successful than him, but dont forget she used all her contacts in the celeb world to elevate her man. amalgamation of efforts as i said. it can work

Yeah i also believe it can work, but Naija women?
I dont know sha guess we can only hope for the best as far as theyre concerned but me i know sha issues plenty for their side.
The ego in them when they have money more than the guy, lets just be thankful that its only something we are imagining now,

Those asking for definition/meaning/explanation of successful woman.
In this case i believe we all are talking about women making more money.
Its not the total standard of successful but in this context, its wallet size were dealing with abi poster?
so please lets get back to the issue at hand.

[b]If you get a derogatory / disrespectful answer, then you are in the wrong relationship. Move on . . . I don't know why people perse[/b]vere in abusive relationships.

What if she says nothing?
Tried this once she took four days to get back to me, but all along even before she asks like the normal Naija man i try to give to her as expected and the day she asks even before the statements over im already running to the ATM.
Im not goin to judge her for this though, guess theyre just wired differently.

Asked a female colleague about this also and she was like WTF, how could i ask her? blah blah(my brain kinda switched off @that point)
i think she got the point though when after i didnt ask her for a while she now started askin if i didnt need it anymore after four days!
Murder!
ive sha laughed over the matter but can you imagine if she was more loaded than i was?
I think this is a good litmus test,if she acts like my babe, join me in praying to God that you should always have the fatter wallet at all times.
If not then i guess she deserves to be prayed for increment in wallet size.
Maybe its one of those how she was brought up things, who knows?
My own is make God no let am get money pass me or even worse find mind myself in a situation where i would be dependent on her, ausubillahi (and dont even go bringing religion into this one, it was just an appropriate expression at that point!)

Im not afraid of guns, its the person behind the gun that scares the living daylights out of me.
Its a good thing for a woman to be successful, its how the success might get to them that worries some men as you put it.
If you can even read between the lines of the posts youd see what i mean.
 just for kicks guys try askin your babe for money sometime that youre broke, youd be amazed!

At 24 some people still look at her as a small girl na wa o!
lets wait when she clocks men-o-pause then she can be old enough.
have you noticed the population of unmarried women in churches today?
Nigerian girls always believing theyre too young for anything, no wahala, if it gets too much tummy tuck and things will adjust it.

guy are you sure youre ok?
this is absolutely ludicrous!
i hope when she comes you not only pay for her hair may she strip ur account dry, maybe then itll come clear to you!

<Copy & Paste>
send to a babe & watch her reaction just for kicks.
im saving this for the next quarrel i have with Aunty, beats having to apologize!
rotflmao

Guy if by now you havent developed the skills then sincerely you dont deserve the chicks!
plain & simple after we teach you what you refused to learn since JS3next thing youll raise another thread about the next thing to do & on & on.
Simply remain celibate &if it gets too much, take more cold showers!
Adios!

maybe cos the doctors will always be on call allowing the women have the space theyll always crave!

my baby,
my baby,
my baby,
cant believe you even asked!

Its usually called an infertile COUPLE!
what happens if the second wife comes in and its the same thing?
people are really funny sha!
Know a couple who had a similar issue for 17years without a child, the wife gave birth last december, can you beat that?
i still respect the man very much sha, getting a second wife seriously isnt always the solution, shikena!

To all those who cant be changed thats cool, i believe we all come with the good the bad & the ugly sides of us in varying degrees.

Learning to accept you're not perfect is the beginning of your being a better person.

Whats that saying again "its only those who love you that correct you"

, you do have a choice though,abi?

you dont change for your partner &tomorrow you also see something tou dont like how do you raise it?
From there on what happens to the relationship?

Marriage shouldnt be about loving the perfect person, but about loving the imperfect person perfectly.
Ive heard it all from you need to pray (yet some people who do still end up with broken marriages)-not that i dont believe in prayers but i hate it when people overlook both the Quran & the bibles view on personal input for anything to work.

Then one of my favorites lately, make sure youre both of the same religion like any one of them had a hand in their religions before they were born, lets face it sincerely if our parents were of the other religion honestly what would your religion be?The trip about it is people now make it seem marrying of the same religion is 100% guarantee there can never be a divorce, yeah right!
Muslims marry Muslims &sometimes divorce
Christians marry Christians &sometimes divorce
christians marry muslims &sometimes they divorce

, i really dont think the religion guarantees this, or the tribe (especially this one, its such primitive thinking the senate ought to outlaw it!)

Seen loads of comments especially here on NL that can only leave me wondering, the very same reasons marriages have issues evidently boil down to why we as a country cant move forward.

i have a friend whose father wont allow her marry the boy she loves cos theyre of different tribes, then i also have another friend whose dad says the boy she wants to marry are from the same town and he thinks the closeness of both families is too much!

Seriously, its sickening sometimes.

You want to make it work? Theres no hard &fast rule but it pays if you do marry your friend in the true meaning of the word (&be a friend also to this person), someone youre comfortable with, someone you love.someone once said Its true
love doesnt make the world go round but it makes the trip worthwhile.

&please please please know what you want for yourself not what your friends or family want for you cos ultimately its your marriage, then dont go in thinking you can change certain things about the person, its a complete package, the good, the bad & the ugly.
Learning to accept and balance these things within yourself, &no grudges always let bygones be bygones, then plenty plenty talk between yourselves.
it doesnt always have to be about anything but evidently this should create an absolute dependence on each other, which im thinking the whole marriage thing is all about.

I particularly love PB cos of how it takes a character makes you hate them so much take Bellick for instance almost cried when he died much as i hated him so much from the fox river days, also Kellerman (except for T Bag anyway guess he was beyond redemption even if the devil wanted!)
Seriously though i think PB is the best serial ive seen in such a very long time.

Kudos, with mad love to the crew for such an exceptional program.

denony:

I think as a nation we have achieved a lot of things
But our achievement is beyond the global expectation
Our leaders are making things look worst,
as their selfish and greedy interest is painting our image black in the eyes of the world
Nigeria is a great nation with corrupt leaders.

HAPPY 49TH

Yes o!
I couldnt agree with you more,we have achieved a lot like no electricity.
Its beyond global expectation that i have to be fueling the gen every single night without fail!

Seriously, i think every one in Nepa, PHCN or whatever new collabo canbe thought of from the minister to the apes who climb the poles should be put in a camp like Auschwitz, and given the service that follows.

Frigging basterds!

Hows about a whole lot of angry citizens as an achievement?

Youre very right!

9ja4eva:

He deserves it,

Eko o ni baje oh,

Fashola for Gov 2011

Utomi for President 2011

pls lets not spoil a good thing here, which kin utomi?
what happened at volkswagen of Nigeria?
Do we forget so quickly?

Putting simply, uncle Fash is the best thing thats happened to this state or even country as a whole.
Award or no award i believe we as individuals should also in our own little way include him in our prayers.
He truly deserves this and much more.
Really wish he could run for presidency and lets have someone who is alive and well running things.
congratulations to the man for a well deserved award.

Happy Independence ko, Happy independence ni, 49 year old Agbaya, every day i have to budget money to fuel generator to say the least.
The only thing to be happy about at least we all will be resting small for one day even though no electricity, na wa o!

seriously, whats the score card on the 7point agenda as at today?

Even if its only power supply (to our homes o, not politicians egos) if thats all this administration can achieve, ive started hoping too much again!

Its hopeless,

Even baba Agbe still try small today we all have mobile phones, rates may be high but at least now we can talk to anyone anywhere, how many points where his own agenda?

Builder:

CEOs going next week, where are they going, they just gonna recycle themself and make themself availble for senate and govenorship. looting continues. Aluta Continua, Victoria Aserta for the looters

you probably mean "a-loota Continua, "

Has she tried using a grinder?
the type welders use in smoothing surfaces after welding?
just be careful for the sparks!

u guys with BSC should stop mocking the HND holders because u are just priviledge to have BSC.Although i am a university graduate with a second class upper division in Accounting,l never 4 once see myself as being superior to HND holders because i know they are victims of "Nigeria factor". i have friends who tried their best possible to have a university education but ended up in the polytechnics after many years of writing University Matriculation Examination(UME).it was not that they were not passing UME,circumstances did not just work in their favour.


Dude you obviously have never worked in an environment with these
HND people. The day you do, ehn? youll come to realize the difference in your life and draw closer to God in gratitude.