baby_123:
This financial aspect. What do you bring to the table in terms of money. Do you spend on your family? Or are you one of those men that spend on strangers and girlfriends neglecting your own family. Just so that you can get outside fame? Just asking.

what's with nl women.If the op was a woman,she would definitely have not be questioned and you would have heard seen them trooping in large numbers on this thread telling her not to take bs from anyone,shouting divorce him,nigerian men are beast but since he is a male,his story suddenly becomes a fabricated one sided story and they start probing him with different questions like how can the woman suddenly change when and even though he clearly stated it was obviously coz of her now bogous salary in recent yrs,they keep asking him the same question as if it's not a common thing for women to start misbehaving coz of tha.And also divorce suddenly becomes a no/last option just coz op is MALE.
@op i hope you find the best solution to your marriage and wish you best of luck in whichever your decision you make at last.

Nice thread,I think you should ff sag's opinion.And if I may add there is nothing like real men or you are a boy not a man;it's all just psychological manipulation that ladies use on some men(learners) to get what they want.
And I still dn't know why ladies like defending s+upid attitudes of their fellow ladies on nl.

tpia@:



you sound like you're a pig , in that case, tell your partner (if any) to help you with your hygiene, stop making a monkey of yourself on the internet.

Wow,are you tilapia ,I know you derive joy in engaging pple online,so henceforth,you are ignored

And na wa for this tilapia woman o,why are you always bullish and aggressive with your comments

Anyways op,I think by now you would have already known that pple will always make bullish comments on nl.
The purpose of this thread was to discuss the importance of keeping your partner's hygeine in check but for some apparent reasons known to these pple,the've decided to change that and attack the op.
I think your personal hygeine should be your personal responsibilty but if you can't take it up,than your partner can step in and if both of you still fail at it,then I think it is unavoidable and you should not see anything bad in that a close colleague been concerned about it.
I think we all tell our close friends and colleagues attitude,behaviour and things we don't like abt them and it is obvious she is close with her boss,so why are pple just accusing her unnecessarily

Typical nlders,you give them ten good points,they will decide to pick on just 1 or 2 that they feel is wrong out of your 10 points ;just like the main point the op is trying to pass across is couples keeping their partner's hygiene in check but the so called nl warriors started accusing her of a fling with her boss.Is that the only thing you all could gather from her write up

*in sexkillz voice* Ignoring fools since 1887

@chillisauce you just keep proving me right about the definition of who you are.
And I didn't criticise anybody's opinion,I only shared mine and you are having trouble seeing the truth cos that is what your mind wants to believe and I think that is what online forums are all about,sharing opinions and learning something @ the end of the day.It's just an online forum,I'd wake up tomorrow and forget that I was ever on this thread.

@chillisauce pls don't make a fool of yourself and post again.
It is either you've learnt who a woman is(strong,independent,virtuous and can have a real foothold in a relationship without having to be a liability) and work on how to become one or be the liabilty and sex object you are.

@mrsmansonn,whatever; you could not justify your ignorant opinion of a rela tionship and after seeing that you can't justify the girls attitude,you said those.I just hope you've learnt one or to things today@chillisauce I know your own situation is beyond redemption so always put it at the back of your mind and everytime that you are a sex object and not worthy to be called a woman,and I think @ your age bracket that I'm guessing that is what you will be forever.

Chillisauce:

at least 1"m not the oe with the soap and vaseline. Not the one all alone with no girl to show for it. Neither am the one with aka gum.

Bleep!

I don't need to start bragging and proving anything to you cos as I said earlier you are not worthy to be called a woman but @least I will like to tell you that if not for online forums like this,I andthings like you will not be found exchanging words

Mrs mansson:
See below what the girl asked the money for.always read a thread from the start before
Guitarlife:
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My girl: The little problem i have is about money i am part of my sis bridal train and i need like 6k for the cloth and 2k for the shoe will we use but mum is paying part of it for me and they ask me to get some also but with no avail i dont want to bother you but no body to assist me and i also wants to get some material for my training and my cousin is also doing her weddng this saturday i have to get what i will put on myself so thats what my prob is all about thanks for listening love u

Another level of ignorance,I ff the thread from beginning and I'm sure you did not read the part where the op said the girl asked for 9k to buy a new phone after the op told her to help him withdraw and after seeing his acct,th greedd set in.

Chillisauce:

Another broke as s whinning nicca. Ogwu aja man! Now go continue with your vaseline and soap. Am sure tgey are just 70 naira.

I'm really sorry,it's now clear you are a candidate of yabaleft and your ignorance is beyond redemption.
As from today with your opinion of what a relationship is,pls view yourself as nothing but a sex object and not a woman.
And pls don't quote me again.
@missmoneymonger,the 2nd paragraph is also for you.

Mrs mansson:
Yes maam its good for someone to be independent.i doubt if that money was even for asoebi.since its her sisters or cuz's wedding am sure the asoebi must have been free.maybe something else and she just decided to lie to make it urgent.now some people here just kept saying one should never ask who ever you are dating for anything.ha for real?even if the guitar guy is still a student what about even assisting with the 2k shoe rather than bring the conversation here.cant friends help friends.my hubby got me a rechargeable lamp of 2500 in sch while dating.does that make him my father?and could i not afford a lamp.he didnt just want stories of i couldnt study today cos of a lamp.i still beleive that money wasnt for asoebi anyway.their is a friend of mine i kept sponsoring her interview trips around naija and thank God today she is working and funny enough she had boyfriend oh,the guy told her to be independent.i understand he is still a student but if you are not ok with her boldly tell her to go away rather than ridicule her here.

Exactly my point,DO THINGS OUT OF LOVE FOR SOMEONE and when financially comfortable for you.Take note this shoe is only a WANT not a NEED,and I'm sure your bf then bought this lamp for you out of love and on is own willingness and it was a NEED for you as you needed it to study,not some shoe that you won't die if you don,t have.Again it is cool and quite romantic for a man to buy things for his girl on special occasion,like birthdays and festive periods and times when he feels you really deserve a surprise gift but when you start calling and asking for money for bis,recharge cards,shoes,phones every time as if he is your parent and it is your birthright to do so and gets angry anytime he does not give you the money,I repeat you only love him coz of his money,you know nothing about being in a relationship,and you are a ddefinition of a hoeeeeeee

@debrief ask a student money for a suit.someone that can't even afford 2k.
That's the problem I have with naija babes,financial assistance mostly go one way with them and they start calling you stingy when you don't have the money or their wants are not in your priorities.
@guitarlife don't be intimidated by anybody here;you did the right thing as you are still a student.Maybe when you are financially stable and working you can then cater for are NEEDS and then maybe some of her WANTS.
She seems like a great girl and I'm sure it is greedy bootoms like some ladies here that are are friends that are just telling her things

Chillisauce I'm sorry but I have to call you a greedy phool.If I can ask when you were a student,still depending on your parents financially and your boyfriend demand 8k to buy a shoe,would you have given him.I even doubt your greedy arse could boast earning 5k personally through your own means.It is ambition less girls like you that would go and read food and nut in the university despite knowing the situation of the country,expecting a man to come and save them in the future and then start shouting gender equality.
And if the money was as "small" as you said and she wants to be wearing 2k shoe,why can't she also indulge her greedy bottom self in some petty business to be able to afford a "small 2k shoe".
Giving your gf money is not the problem but when you think it's a norm and our duty to fund your petty wants which you can afford if not for lazy and overdependent attitude aand talking as if if you are not in a relationship you wouldd die of hunger,then you are not ddiff from a hoeee

bayomidland:

Like say you know wetin e be

Anyways,wether na £500 or £50000,one thing wey still sure be say na part of the money wey Atiku embezzle for government d kid dey spend

Kai,see naija babes dey vex 4 this thread;poverty is really in nigeria.
@op,d "my mom told me to look for the remaining money" is a lie.
The "I will look for the remaining money elsewhere" is just a way of making you sympathetic.
Again most female response in this thread is still baffling and one thing you will notice abt d females for and against d lady d op mentioned I'd that the latter female are matured women in their 30s while the former females are girls who just want all 9ja men to behave and have the notion that we are mugus(instill the belief in us that occupying their father's role in their life is a norm).
For the umpteenth time "WE ARE NOT YOUR FATHERS NOR ARE WE YOUR UNCLEESSSS.It's a pity we are stuck with you guyz.Note I'm not saying it is wrong to give the money when you have it but when ladies start opening their wide greedy mouth to call a student who is still being financed by his parent stingy just because he did not give his gf money that he knows could affect him financially then truly there is high rate of poverty in nigeria and nigerian babes have a long way to go in understanding what a relationship is.

My God!!!!!!!@kulyie.you don't need a soothsayer to tell you she is female.*Naija women and their lousy attitude*.chai.......Na wa for all these people that think they are nl warriors

Well I can't say much but it's only in nig that horgly girls will be forming and fronting and I can bet that's what you did to that guy that made him call you that.Anyways,I won't lie to you,you are not too fine neither are you ugly.

Well I can't say much but it's only in nig that horgly girls will be forming and fronting and I can bet that's what you did to that guy that made him call you that.Anyways,I won't lie to you,you are not too fine neither are you too ugly.

Btw we love your emoticons

Aaaarrrrrrggghhhhh,my God u still dey here.
People pls stop responding to her thread.I sense something really bad happened to her Family in nig and she is transferring the aggression.But no matter what you say,at the end of the day you are just 1 person out of 150 million pple(that's if you are still among) and your ignorant opinion doesn't matters and then you'd also realize at the end of all this your rant,you've wasted like 20 precious hrs of your life(it really isn't that much so I guess you can continue)*in spencer's voice*- have a field day with your thread.
Ps-your former thread is a bit confusing;the topic was nin hating on nid but d context was rant about how bad nigeria is.

Fake I.D.:
Am not even based in nigeria but i do visit and very grateful for the information i just read. Generally speaking you have to be careful when crossing the road anywhere in Nigeria. I remember crossing a zebra crossing just outside silverbirds in lagos and nearly being knocked down by an angry driver who i believe don't even know what a zebra crossing is

If you love your dear life,please don't try that again:to nigerian drivers,it's just a tom-tom advertisement

Valeree:
She is Far younger than you! Hmmm.. Then It is not her fault, u should hav waited maybe another year or two b4 talking her into marriage.. Kindly forgive her, but be rest assured dat wen u reach middle age, dis issue have a high tendency of repeating itself and I don't blame her, then when u are old and tired just be praying dat she still respects u. Finally age gap between couple really matters.

I tried as much as possible nt to say this but you must be deviated to from normal state of health to say she's not guilty because of her age.
@op.I'm not married and thus my advice on your final decision may not be the best for you as I may not really know what it's like to be in your shoe but what I will tell you is that whichever decision,it should be the one you will be able to live with the rest of your life and make sure your decision is not affected in anyway by your wife's plea or soberness(it's only normal if she does that) or your MIL plea and also your own emotion.
And I think you should tell your sister about it cos believe,it may be later on but she will definitely find out and please no matter your decision,you should cut ties with the m0ronic f00l you call an inlaw.
WISH YOU THE BEST

jennykadry:

You made sense in your first post until you posted the above, has coogar directed a post at you yet? Why are you asking for insults and then planning on blaming him if he gives you that which you asked for?

It will be funny if he decides to start abusing me cos what I said is not in anyway abusive but only describes the way he argues(he talks without listening when arguing)

This coogar of a guy has always been very aggressive and so uncivil in his arguements

jennykadry:

I will reply you cos I like your post. I am not proud to be a Nigerian and I am not hiding that fact. I don't hate the good bits of Nigeria , I despise the bad and the bad far outweighs the good.people are talking about money and comparing, and my original post had nothing to do with who is richer but putting a good system in place. Our system is not running well, forget about culture, forget about fun, forget about food. The poor are getting poorer,its getting more and more difficult for students gain admission, ASUU is not helping matters, our high commission abroad treats us worse than they do other nationals. We can say nigeria will get better but to be more realistic the corruption and rudeness has gone so far that you cannot retrace your footstep and stop it. I have never seen adults who have done nothing be whipped before except in Nigeria by people in power. Why do you have to be rich to gain access to things that should be for every one/class?

I am not denying that I am a Nigerian but I AM NOT PROUD TO BE ONE

You make it sound like nigerians exhibit some bad behaviours on purpose.The money an agbero u see extorting,is prob*bly d money he just manage to keep body and soul together,the rude pple working at the nigerian embassy that you are comparing to those at australian embassy,probably earn as half of what those at australian embassy earn just like someone said at some point pple in china were selliing their babies just to feed themselves;it's not as if they are naturally wicked na condition make crayfish bend or do you think if the pay of the pple working australia's embassy were to be peanuts do you think they would show good ethics or if there was good pay and fulfillment for nigerians working at the embassy,the won't show better work ethics or if the govt had provided good public education,there would agberos? Or if d govt had fulfilled their promise for ASUU,there would be strike?.A naïve rich man's son could always point fingers at a poor man's son as to why he is dressing shabbily and you could also stand there and compare pple in nations that have passed through what nigeria is passing through now and now have a good working environment to pple working and living under the nigerian envronment or u could think of how you could make nigeria a better place with your own little contribution starting by not calling your country a shit hole.
P.S:Nigerians @ this various embassies also live in those various embassies and *re therefore NID and they still exhibit those bad traits which goes to show that it's not where you work that influence your behaviour but the environment and the type of leaders you have.So I guess you can conclude that the problem stems from our moronic leaders and not your average nigerian.

Chillisauce:

What kind of humor is that one .

I expected u to apologize and here you are rolling euyes. Clearly, the OP felt insulted, what you should have done, even if you meant no harm is to apologize.


On topic,

I think it's based on the bacteria it releases. Some bacteria are good for the bodies while some are not. Always check the expiry date of your purchases before consumption

U 4 say make him con prostrate 4 ur house nah.All this extremely old pple sef wey just full nl dis days.
As 4 expired food.me chop one gala like dat lst week and I got to know it was expired after eating.the thing abt expired date on food is that they are nt reaaly expired on d day witten on d product but after a week or a mth,depending on the product:I think it's just a precautionery measure.

GIrls will always lye or o to any length to deny anything embarassing,that is y on shows like jerry springer,u will see a girl accusing her bf of cheating ggoing like we are done if I find out he cheated but afta some begging,d lady will accept d bf back but d thing there is that it's nt because of d begging,she already know that they can still try to work things out but due to nt wanting pple to view her as cheap girl that's why she will say that she's done with d rltnshp if d bf is cheating..That is why a girl will go to any length to deny with diff lies to deny cheating if accused and y all nl girls will deny d truth d op is saying.
And this one is to naija girls that think everybody that ask them what the time is or wants to ask 4 road direction wants to woo them or evry guy that wants to chat with them have d notion of wooing them,YOU ARE CLASSLESS AND NEED BRAIN SURGERY ASAP.
@op nice job