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Re: X by Nobody: 7:07pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
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Re: X by lolaluv1(f): 7:29pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
Are you looking for a way to dump her now that you have a job? This is a non-issue IMHO. 3 Likes |
Re: X by armyofone(m): 7:49pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
Kulyie, that epistle long now ![]() ![]() do you actually believe the story for that matter ![]() Please let's play along. |
Re: X by Nobody: 8:01pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
Bros na Onila be that? Our very own resident virgin ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: X by Nobody: 8:08pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
armyofone: Kulyie, that epistle long nowok na ![]() |
Re: X by Nobody: 8:18pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
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Re: X by Nobody: 8:20pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
lola.luv: You know, now that you mentioned it, I think I agree with you. Guess OP suddenly feels they are not on the same level cos he got a job hence looking for every reason to bail. ![]() |
Re: X by Nobody: 8:26pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
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Re: X by armyofone(m): 8:34pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
maybe looking for ways to yab female students. Phema: HotNaijaBabe: |
Re: X by Nobody: 8:37pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
This thread smells of 10naira notes. ![]() ![]() Stingy ppl everywia. Hitting my back button 2 Likes |
Re: X by Ngokafor(f): 8:58pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
Phema:....i honestly couldnt fathom why he was getting so hot under the collar.A 26year old masters holder dating a poor 20year old student,what did he expect??....i know that girls can be overly materialistic and thats wrong..but common the whining on the part of this dude is pathetic!!... this girl can barely make ends meet and needs help financially as a student. The fact that she's still a virgin and have not messed herself up with other guys in exchange for money is clearly lost on this dude...the most unsettling thing is the way he ran to Nairaland screaming blue murder!......anyway he has gotten a job now so i guess level has changed...time to move to 'classier' chicks i suppose...smh! |
Re: X by Nobody: 9:28pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
@ OP No mind all these babes screaming stingy, etc. If you don't want to spend; you either go for the ones who don't need your money...or position yourself as someone who is not a patron. You are not her father. On another note, 'virgin' no be bargaining chip. Don't let it cloud your judgement. A 20 year-old babe is still very fickle-minded and barely knows what she wants in men. Me thinks this your all-serious, marriage-marriage stuff is a little bit too early in her life. And finally, don't be surprised that when you finally do decide to 'enter the place', that you will hear stories of them shoot bird im mama fly. Or how she rode horses or ran cross-country marathons...or was raped yesterday. I'd strongly advice that you give zero ratings to anyone's virginity status and screen based on other more important criteria. 1 Like |
Re: X by Thorgan: 10:06pm On Sep 03, 2013 |
Kai,see naija babes dey vex 4 this thread;poverty is really in nigeria. @op,d "my mom told me to look for the remaining money" is a lie. The "I will look for the remaining money elsewhere" is just a way of making you sympathetic. Again most female response in this thread is still baffling and one thing you will notice abt d females for and against d lady d op mentioned I'd that the latter female are matured women in their 30s while the former females are girls who just want all 9ja men to behave and have the notion that we are mugus(instill the belief in us that occupying their father's role in their life is a norm). For the umpteenth time "WE ARE NOT YOUR FATHERS NOR ARE WE YOUR UNCLEESSSS.It's a pity we are stuck with you guyz.Note I'm not saying it is wrong to give the money when you have it but when ladies start opening their wide greedy mouth to call a student who is still being financed by his parent stingy just because he did not give his gf money that he knows could affect him financially then truly there is high rate of poverty in nigeria and nigerian babes have a long way to go in understanding what a relationship is. 5 Likes |
Re: X by Nobody: 6:35am On Sep 04, 2013 |
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Re: X by Nobody: 6:53am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Guitarlife: Good morning all, thanks for your various inputs yesterday. I decided not to post so as to get good responses and do a thorough analysis in the mean time.guitarlife no mind anyone wey dey call you stingy.even if you earn 100 billion every week,cater for her necessities not her frivolities.even if you love her make her know that it is not every of her frivolities that will be catered for.infact of its within your means give her money to establish a buisness for herself so she wont come and be asking money for this and that.as a matter of fact,she wont feel justified to ask you again because you have opened a buisness for her to help herself and her family.tell her to think of the kind of buisness she can do that she likes and will fetch her money.period! Because if you start giving her and her family money for a and b,c and end up marrying her.the day things are not too good and you tell them or your wife that you dont have money,she will take offence and trouble will start.she will assume that its because you eanted to marry her that you were giving her money,now that you are married,you cant give her money.she wont understand.moreover yorubas say the thing you dont want as a rich man,you start rejecting it as a poor man.draw a line and let everyone know your stand.love has brains o. 2 Likes |
Re: X by repogirl(f): 7:27am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Frivolities are a part of life jare, not dat u shld indulge her all the time but.....anyway, u'll do what you'll still do, nothing we say here will make u change or anything. also u said u thought u could influence her, this got me really smiling, this for me is a red flag. Once I hear a guy use that word, it's d opposite direction for me. you can't influence /control anyone, maybe at first but seriously the other party will get tired of constantly being controlled. pls find a chick dats a lot more to your specs because in d end, one of u will get frustrated. I also couldn't help noticing u said u cooked for her when she was sick, so dats an achievement? Ow...kay, because u expected her to cook while Ill? okay sha, I dnt really know why I bothered with replying sef, ita obvious u r set in ur ways and u'll do what u'll do. 3 Likes |
Re: X by Nobody: 7:36am On Sep 04, 2013 |
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Re: X by bellong: 8:00am On Sep 04, 2013 |
@Guitarlife, I will say again, shine your eyes and brain very well. Do not let "virginity" becloud your judgement, this is the period to add spiritual searchlight to your five senses. If a person is given wholly to frivolities at her age, I wonder what will become of such a person tomorrow. The seed sown today will germinate to produce fruits in thousands/millions tomorrow. Esteeming virginity of one shows the level of moral decadence in this our present age even with the geometric increase of religious houses. It was not this bad during the days of our fathers with no Christian nor Islamic convictions.... Do not be bullied to accepting you are stingy, if she doesn't fit in to your vision, let her go and focus on who will be of help to your destiny. 2 Likes |
Re: X by Nobody: 8:09am On Sep 04, 2013 |
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Re: X by Nobody: 8:12am On Sep 04, 2013 |
bellong: @Guitarlife,exactly |
Re: X by Nobody: 8:15am On Sep 04, 2013 |
chaircover: I'm seriously shaking my head.gbam.that is the summary of my epistle.that is why men find it easy to take advantage of some girls.i have not seen a man taking advantage of a girl that exercises her brains |
Re: X by Nobody: 9:05am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Stingy nicca want a beautiful princess but whines when she demands for a little token ![]() Didn't you hear about the Brazilian chick that sold her virginity for million dollars. You try see virgin, you no happy, keep looking for virgin that won't demand a dime from you. You go wait tire. You think say u dey Yankee wey parents or government dey take care of their youth, You know Nigeria society on pursuit of wealth, U Berra give her some money before she meet someone who go pop her V status for aso Ebi money. I don talk my own, after all you ain't a virgin no more so, clearly your perfect dating status won't work here. ![]() |
Re: X by bukatyne(f): 9:12am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Chillisauce: Stingy nicca want a beautiful princess but whines when she demands for a little token I do not think that her virginity status is a license to turn the guy to her ATM. If she wants to sell it, she's free. She is not doing the guy a favor been a virgin. 1 Like |
Re: X by Ngokafor(f): 9:13am On Sep 04, 2013 |
@Guitarlife...maybe am wrong about your wanting to dump her now you have gotten a job,sorry about that..but i still maintain that running to Nairaland to complain and 'seek' for advice is not the way to go seriously.... ...what exactly did you want to hear?..how materialistic and irresponsible she is?...how bad her mother is?...na waoo!...you've just told us you knew she was like that yet you went ahead to date her so wetin be the issue now?....abeg if you really love her like you said,then give her the benefit of doubt as per she being a broke student,young and naive...in all,i pray for financial breakthrough for you so that 8k aso-ebi and other minor expenses wont be a big deal to you henceforth.Peace!! 1 Like |
Re: X by Nobody: 9:14am On Sep 04, 2013 |
bukatyne: Tell that to the guy that has virginity as a criterion for choosing his spouse ![]() 1 Like |
Re: X by Nobody: 10:05am On Sep 04, 2013 |
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Re: X by Nobody: 10:40am On Sep 04, 2013 |
@ op, I understand you very well, but know that relationships have their peculiarity and sometimes it is a risk like every other thing in life.I have seen so many men that decided to sponsor their wives through school and it turn out good for them even though there are still otherwise. my point is apart from this constant demand of cash what of other areas like character,decency,beliefs,philosophy about life etc if you are okay with other things you can work this out.just know that whoever it is you are going to spend,lets assume you are dating a rich girl now are you saying you are not going to buy her gift on her birthday? are you not going to take her out sometimes? you see whichever way, somehow you will spend.Perhaps she is asking because she needs help.Are you saying if is your guy that needs help you wont help if you are capable? try and see it as if you are helping a needy that way you will not see yourself as an ATM machine. However if you can't cope with her demands just let her go but know that the next person might not be about money but something else you see is all about looking for the lesser evil and try to manage it. |
Re: X by Nobody: 10:43am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Guitarlife,stop whinning like a woman! Haba! Is this the same gal u plan to marry tomoro? And u said some pple know u outside nairaland? And I assume they will eventually c d two of u together? A very bad foundation if I must say. Either u waka front or u work on ur affair. Its not a school debate. And please close ur mouth.CLOSE YA MOUTH Men act,not talk. Infact tell mod to close this 3 Likes |
Re: X by repogirl(f): 10:56am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Hmmmm, smh. I'm still sticking wit op is stingy. u accused her unjustly because ur paranoid mind told u she checked ur balance , how so unfair. like poster above said, u seriously need to change ur mindset. U have a really cool chick here or she wild have ported since. |
Re: X by Nobody: 10:58am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Chillisauce: Stingy nicca want a beautiful princess but whines when she demands for a little tokenobviously we know virginity has become a commercial entity and i feel sorry for the girls that exchanged it for a pack of fried rice and chicken at mr biggs but virginity is still one of the best gifts a girl can give a guy IF SHE HAS CHARACTER.the virginity thing will not have value if she doesnt have character,so if she needs the money that bad or her immidiate gratification is more important than her long term relationship,she can kiss the relationship good bye and pop it for any amount of money she needs.the point is that the beauty of virginity is CHARACTER.a virgin without CHARACTER is not better than a girl who sleeps with anything that has a tail between his legs for anything she wants and is not ready to work for,including grades in school.ill give an example.i have a close friend who told me that her brother married his wife as a virgin.shes hard working,takes care of the home and all,the only problem is that she talks too much about her private affairs especially to wrong people.like telling hair dresser,neighbours and her husbands friends about whatever happens in the bedroom.any time they have disagreement,she must tell her friends and her sisters.do you think such a man will still appreciate and value her virginity status. |
Re: X by bukatyne(f): 11:01am On Sep 04, 2013 |
Chillisauce: Is he one of the virgin finders? Oh well! She has something of interest to the guy then ![]() I thought he was looking for a woman who would complement his vision in life. Since he put a price tag on her, she is just following his foot steps na... |
Re: X by Nobody: 11:06am On Sep 04, 2013 |
repogirl: Hmmmm, smh. I'm still sticking wit op is stingy.the substance,beauty and maintenance of any relationship and even marriage is CHARACTER.Character maintains and sustains a marriage or relationship not virginity.i am not saying virginity is bad.its good but women need to have more value for themselves beyond their S3XUALITY 2 Likes |
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