repogirl: From my own point of view, u have a great girl, u said she doesn't hassle u when u can't provide? Guy, u are lucky!
its not news dat girls expect their boyfriends to try to an extent to help with cash, if u really like her u will do what u should do,without her asking.

My girl: I think you should do it stepwisely one by one but dont worry if mine will affect you i will get solution elsewhere thanks
what's selfish about this remark now? Nothing! She's asking for 8k, and u want to spend almost a 100k on ur wardrobe, now who's being selfish?

I think u are scared of being taken for a fool DAT u r actually now acting a fool, looking for something where there's none.

also u take urself too,seriously, okay, so u r a post grad, u r about to become working class, so? And then? Are u the first ever guy to be a graduate? You better handle this chick very well before she finds another who has all your qualities and more.

Also when u go on dates, do u expect her to offset some bills? Haba, u r d guy nao? This is an undergraduate girl with six other siblings, have a little mercy.

pls,don't make her into,something she's not. When she has a high paying job of her own, u can then come and complain.

1million likes.
Guiter life is soooooo full of himself because he is a postgraduate student. Like seriously??

degurl:

1million likes.
Guiter life is soooooo full of himself because he is a postgraduate student. Like seriously??

what does being a postgraduate student have to do with the issue at hand

@Guiterlife so you had the cash yet you refused to give her?..well me thinks you are a tight-fisted person and it's not a virtue at all...you can take that to the bank my dear.Regardless of how we like to say otherwise,the generous(not spendthrift) person trumps and will endear people far more than the stingy person,male or female. ....i'll advice you to rather work on youself instead of worrying so much about your girl...cos as far as am concerned you have more issues than her.

my two cents. u mentioned u were looking for a traditional girl, I can only assume u mean a girl who wud be respectful, complies before questioning, cooks, cleans the whole nine yards right? maybe ure girl was also looking for a traditional guy- one who shud cater to all her needs including her financial needs. So I guess one person is benefiting while the other (ure girl) feels she's being ripped off.
But hey, ure the one with a list of criteria that your girl must meet (not saying its wrong, to each their own). But the saying you can't have ure cake and eat it too seems to apply to your case. Just saying.

Meddler: my two cents. u mentioned u were looking for a traditional girl, I can only assume u mean a girl who wud be respectful, complies before questioning, cooks, cleans the whole nine yards right? maybe ure girl was also looking for a traditional guy- one who shud cater to all her needs including her financial needs. So I guess one person is benefiting while the other (ure girl) feels she's being ripped off.
But hey, ure the one with a list of criteria that your girl must meet (not saying its wrong, to each their own). But the saying you can't have ure cake and eat it too seems to apply to your case. Just saying.

Traditional girl, and still a virgin, but he doesn't wanna be a traditional guy. Couldn't spare a change for her but want to get his own designers wears. Oh boy, stop painting the poor lady bad. It's either you choose traditional or westernized. There is no inbetween. .

Go take her for shopping jor and stop complaining. 4 thousand naira(half of the asoebi money) na him you dey write plenty epistle for here, while you are out there buying designers wear,

If I were that your babe, I for don fashi you tey tey.

Aka gum!

HotNaijaBabe: @Op..
Your babe is 20...Pls, cut her some slack. You should just talk to her and let her realize your financial status. Besides, its obvious that young girls in relationships love to show off. She probably just want to show her friends her new shoe and then proudly say you got the shoes for her... . She is still young and this issue is not as serious as you are making it.

If she wants to show off she should get something doing. Students now do ushering jobs that pay nothing less than 6k per job and you can do more than 3 in a week. We always want to impress!

Ngokafor: @Guiterlife so you had the cash yet you refused to give her?..well me thinks you are a tight-fisted person and it's not a virtue at all...you can take that to the bank my dear.Regardless of how we like to say otherwise,the generous(not spendthrift) person trumps and will endear people far more than the stingy person,male or female. ....i'll advice you to rather work on youself instead of worrying so much about your girl...cos as far as am concerned you have more issues than her.

Even if he has the cash, why should he give her? Its HIS money! He WORKED for it. Is He her father Giving should Be discretionary and if our relationship would hang on the balance because of money then fine! Whatever happened to pride??

Guitarlife:


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My girl: The little problem i have is about money i am part of my sis bridal train and i need like 6k for the cloth and 2k for the shoe will we use but mum is paying part of it for me and they ask me to get some also but with no avail i dont want to bother you but no body to assist me and i also wants to get some material for my training and my cousin is also doing her weddng this saturday i have to get what i will put on myself so thats what my prob is all about thanks for listening love u
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Guitarlife: I need to buy 5pieces of suit for my resumption. One cost 19500naira I have just 30K on me cos I bought fone.what do you think I should do?
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My girl: I think you should do it stepwisely one by one but dont worry if mine will affect you i will get solution elsewhere thanks.
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I will give you the advice I gave to one of my male cousins and also what I did when I was doing my MBA.....
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I will advice that you release this babe (but stay friends). Why, because of the bolded..... If you don't give her, another guy will give her (now this implies to both money and Dic.kson). So since you cannot meet her demands now, because of the starin on ur own finances (of course you must look out for urself first), let her be. If she wants to keep being your GF fine.... if not no wahala...
2) When I was doing my masters, I knew it was going to cost money and I wasn't willing to turn to a beggar or a burden to family and friends ( I hate begging).... I shunned any form of intimate relationship with the opposite sex... (except some free givers and no strings attached girls).... Today, I have my second degree and I also have choices in who becomes my GF.......... Guy, have patience..... Good things will never finish in this world.

Please take a walk. Like YPP said.The handwriting is on the wall. What are you doing with a twenty year old by the way?

poshdiva:

Even if he has the cash, why should he give her? Its HIS money! He WORKED for it. Is He her father Giving should Be discretionary and if our relationship would hang on the balance because of money then fine! Whatever happened to pride??

i tire o

eagle,eye:


I will give you the advice I gave to one of my male cousins and also what I did when I was doing my MBA.....
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I will advice that you release this babe (but stay friends). Why, because of the bolded..... If you don't give her, another guy will give her (now this implies to both money and Dic.kson). So since you cannot meet her demands now, because of the starin on ur own finances (of course you must look out for urself first), let her be. If she wants to keep being your GF fine.... if not no wahala...
2) When I was doing my masters, I knew it was going to cost money and I wasn't willing to turn to a beggar or a burden to family and friends ( I hate begging).... I shunned any form of intimate relationship with the opposite sex... (except some free givers and no strings attached girls).... Today, I have my second degree and I also have choices in who becomes my GF.......... Guy, have patience..... Good things will never finish in this world.

gbam! Exactly.abeg you need pounded yam,eforiro,bokoto,goat meat and pomo.how do i get it across tou you.you just nailed it perfectly

Shey you see women?. Defending the indefensible. Awon alakpa ma sise.

Dem tell you, tell you, tell you. O se faari, you no listen. You left the mature girl for uni babe that needs the works. A broke guy for that matter. See your life now ontop NL. mtscheew. Omo, abeg carry yourself and madam virgin make you spend the money. You dey pay for wetin you never see. ntoi. One chance candidate. . Na wetin you price you get for market.

@Poster

Let this young and growing girl be in peace, i was sympathetic with your case before but with the way you are ranting, i think you are the one with the problem because if you write these epistles over 8k and 9k,what do you want people who propose to girls with range rover do?

I am really worried for this poor girl and i wish i know her,so i can warn her because you are coming across as a potential nag and bully. See your analysis everywhere. She is a 20 years naive and broke Nigerian girl facing peer pressure,which part of the script don't you understand here?.I swear if you marry this girl and find out she isnt a virgin,na to divorce am be that.

BoboYekini: Shey you see women?. Defending the indefensible. Awon alakpa ma sise.

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Alapa plastic jati jati gbogbo!!

baby_123: Dem tell you, tell you, tell you. O se faari, you no listen. You left the mature girl for uni babe that needs the works. A broke guy for that matter. See your life now ontop NL. mtscheew. Omo, abeg carry yourself and madam virgin make you spend the money. You dey pay for wetin you never see. ntoi. One chance candidate. . Na wetin you price you get for market.

lmao @ Faari

.. **Mimics sluggishly ** yen yen => If you don't have the monie , I will get it elsewhere .... See emotional blackmail with style from a so called 'poor girl', awawi they continuously hammering on her age... Is she a baby??

And for those blaming her parents .. Y'all better ask for forgiveness.

poshdiva:

Even if he has the cash, why should he give her? Its HIS money! He WORKED for it. Is He her father Giving should Be discretionary and if our relationship would hang on the balance because of money then fine! Whatever happened to pride??

Pride? Pride ? Pride you asked?? Where? In ogun river ... Its all clear ... Now I know ... Reminds me of Moral Stupefaction.

*Yawns*
Mister,have you sat down to talk with this your babe,suggest and help her start up something small so she wont have problems with her own small small upkeep money?Love builds not nag and complain all day long.
With 20K,she can start a mobile boutique,weave-on biz or whatever.
Btw,you be proper aka gum. All this sacred songs and sorrows for 7K? Father Lord !

She is a virgin.The society has messed up everything,attached so much importance to virginity and hymen that virgins are seen as priceless trophies so if you cant deal
with it,let her go.If i were a virgin,I wont be caught dead moving with an aka gum like ya,biko

Ok let me add my own 2 kobo.
Not condoning the girl asking you for money, my belief is a girl SHOULD not ask her boyfriend for money, not saying gifts cant be given but it should not be on the basis of you are my boyfriend you must take care of me.I dont even believe in asking husbands for aso ebi money not to talk of boyfriend.As for sister, you want a 20 yr old who obviously has no source of income on your bridal train you pay for her outfit (my sister was my maid of honour and I paid for everthing she wore cos she no dey work).

That said you too dey over analyse sha.As ify pointed out, , when you love someone you build up the person.Yeah I agree that aso ebi bridal train bla bla is frivolous BUT have you tried talking to her on ways to make money? Her parents obviously are just managing to provide the Basics so she has to look for ways to make money for extras.Encourage her to look inwards, all this your critique is really not indicative of someone who truly loves her.Yeah you should look for someone who adds to you BUT love means giving and sacrifice sometimes.Its lil gestures (not aso ebi o so dont get me wrong) that shows how much you care.

ifyalways: *Yawns*
Mister,have you sat down to talk with this your babe,suggest and help her start up something small so she wont have problems with her own small small upkeep money?Love builds not nag and complain all day long.
With 20K,she can start a mobile boutique,weave-on biz or whatever.
Btw,you be proper aka gum. All this sacred songs and sorrows for 7K? Father Lord !

She is a virgin.The society has messed up everything,attached so much importance to virginity and hymen that virgins are seen as priceless trophies so if you cant deal
with it,let her go.If i were a virgin,I wont be caught dead moving with an aka gum like ya,biko

Shebi one of your colleagues auctioned hers on eBay recently. Who told you she's ready to start anything. Free my guy joor.

^^^ nuh uh na Amazon ... Oshisko

Start a business for a girlfriend? Wow!!

jidegirl12: ^^^ nuh uh na Amazon ... Oshisko

Start a business for a girlfriend? Wow!!

Is oshisko 'honey' in your language? My fiancée is a vicious shark - be warned.

In Akpors voice: "Independence, republic. Republic, independence all na the same thing". Amazon & eBay na the same tin for my head.

BTW, how much did you sell yours?

Ifyalways
Where have you been? Welcome back!
[s]Abeg, una shld start one topic on kpekusing, Ify is a specialist in that area! [/s]

No be me talk am oo

Oshisko = Nonsense kinda

Tell her not to worry ... I've been taken for almost 2 decades now and in next life

jidegirl12: ^^^ nuh uh na Amazon ... Oshisko

Start a business for a girlfriend? Wow!!

That surprised me too. So her boyfriend should be the one loaning her money? Why cant she ask her parents or relatives? Some girls dont have shame sha. Dont they get tired of being leeches...

Its about time Nigerian kids start learning how to multitask i.e working and going to school. There is no excuse as we now have so many fastfood joints in Nigeria now. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Here in Obodo, you see kids as young as 16 working at mcdonalds(even 14, and 15 with parental consent are allowed to work). Which boyfriend is she now going to ask for money for aso-ebi or iphone when she already knows the value of the dollar and the said boyfriend also has to toil hard for his. The other option is to ask for overtime from her employers. shikena.

Naija and overseas na the same thing? Overtime, what does that even mean here? Pls,nor use abroad to compare naija, if u want a job, whether as low as cleaner sef, ur education becomes part time, pls someone correct me if I'm wrong.

even sales bizness doesn't add much, I know chics back in skl DAT supplemented sales with aristo-Ing. So it ain't easy anyway u look at it.

am not endorsing her getting every penny from her stingy bf but at least d guy shld try small na.

repogirl: Naija and overseas na the same thing? Overtime, what does that even mean here? Pls,nor use abroad to compare naija, if u want a job, whether as low as cleaner sef, ur education becomes part time, pls someone correct me if I'm wrong.

even sales bizness doesn't add much, I know chics back in skl DAT supplemented sales with aristo-Ing. So it ain't easy anyway u look at it.

If parents are able to cover the basics, then the money made from business and work will be supplementary and should be enough for your aso-ebis and other frivolities.Except you want to carry the latest It bag and wear Choos. There is no excuse whatsoever.



am not endorsing her getting every penny from her stingy bf but at least d guy shld try small na.

Of course they are two different countries.It is not easy anywhere my dear. If you can combine aristoing, boyfriends and all with school then i dont see any reason why you cant work and school. You just have to up your time-management skills.

repogirl: Naija and overseas na the same thing? Overtime, what does that even mean here? Pls,nor use abroad to compare naija, if u want a job, whether as low as cleaner sef, ur education becomes part time, pls someone correct me if I'm wrong.

even sales bizness doesn't add much, I know chics back in skl DAT supplemented sales with aristo-Ing. So it ain't easy anyway u look at it.


am not endorsing her getting every penny from her stingy bf but at least d guy shld try small na.

Of course they are two different countries.It is not easy anywhere my dear. If you can combine aristoing, boyfriends and all with school then i dont see any reason why you cant work and school. You just have to up your time-management skills.

If parents are able to cover the basics, then the money made from business and work will be supplementary and should be enough for your aso-ebis and other frivolities.Except you want to carry the latest It bag and wear Choos. There is no excuse whatsoever.

lady gogo:



Of course they are two different countries.It is not easy anywhere my dear. If you can combine aristoing, boyfriends and all with school then i dont see any reason why you cant work and school. You just have to up your time-management skills.

If parents are able to cover the basics, then the money made from business and work will be supplementary and should be enough for your aso-ebis and other frivolities.Except you want to carry the latest It bag and wear Choos. There is no excuse whatsoever.

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@Repogirl,you get time for your hands.work in fast food,bla bla,na for same fast food where ND students are queuing up to wash plates or another one? You think its that easy to get "any" job in Naija? Anyways, no time for internet Nigerians and their fantasy stories.

Nothing,absolutely nothing wrong with a boyfriend loaning or dashing his GF capital to start something.if he can afford it ,why not?. Funniest part is that y'all forming "wtf and can't she work,no shame" would do WORST if you were unfortunately born and bred in a "really poor home" so shove your fake swag! Poverty strips a man of all pride.

@OP,buying aso ebi for a wedding na frivolity. I don't support you giving her the money seeing you are cash trapped yourself BUT for the future,to imbibe the spirit of hardwork,value for money on your girl, sit down with her and find out what little thing she can start while she's still schooling. You love her? Help her to be a better person.

@Aluta,lol, I dey kampe.

Lady gogo... I deliberately ignored your post where you quoted me because I knew someone's gonna jump on you with 'this is Naija' bull

It's simple, if you want to do big girl.. Be ready to work for it or better carry mixed granite and cement .. Abi that one scarce to get too ? .... Shikena

Btw, what does 'aka gum' mean anyways?
All these ibo girls and their useless lingo.