BoboYekini: Btw, what does 'aka gum' mean anyways?
All these ibo girls and their useless lingo.

Chillisauce: OP, how far? Have you dropped the money?

Abi you don take off .

Oshow free!

Phema: This Guitarlife Sef! Was it not on the "How can I tame my appetite without committing adultery" thread that you talked about how you couldn't satisfy one lady in bed hence opting for a novice (virgin)? Now again, you can't even "hold your side" financially. . . I ask again, what have you got to offer? Potatoe in bed and an empty wallet? And to think you are one of the traditional chauvinist Lot! Mstcheeeeewww!

Guy abeg, just keep quiet when real men are talking! There is a reason they have balls!

ifyalways: @Repogirl,you get time for your hands.work in fast food,bla bla,na for same fast food where ND students are queuing up to wash plates or another one? You think its that easy to get "any" job in Naija? Anyways, no time for internet Nigerians and their fantasy stories.
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Nothing,absolutely nothing wrong with a boyfriend loaning or dashing his GF capital to start something.if he can afford it ,why not?. Funniest part is that y'all forming "wtf and can't she work,no shame" would do WORST if you were unfortunately born and bred in a "really poor home" so shove your fake swag! Poverty strips a man of all pride.

@OP,buying aso ebi for a wedding na frivolity. I don't support you giving her the money seeing you are cash trapped yourself BUT for the future,to imbibe the spirit of hardwork,value for money on your girl, sit down with her and find out what little thing she can start while she's still schooling. You love her? Help her to be a better person.

@Aluta,lol, I dey kampe.

lady j u: From my point of view d girl is in need of money and she doesn't have someone else to turn to. She wanted to know if u can help her. If u truly love u won't be tabling this mild issue here.

blank: Initially, i didn't want to reply but i decided to do so. Don't take this too personal but you sound stingy. I personally believe that a lady should pay her own way. However, there is nothing wrong in you showing her empathy. You want her to empathize with you but you are not doing the same for her. I know you are not married or anything but i have seen guys that are in love and are commited to a relationship. If you had said that you will give her 2k out of the money you have but she got angry, i would have understood with you and seen your point of view.

You need to stop over-analyzing her and just accept her statements at face value. I did not see anything wrong in what she said. I think you should do it step by step as well. Buy 2 suits now and then some later when you get paid.

temi4fash: Some of d responses on dis thread dai funny me, y wuld some1 call d op stingy,is it not what he has he will give, or should he put his masters and job interview on hold cos he dos not want to b stingy.. Its same pple dat say give her dat still turn back and tell him he is stupid..

As ma mummy will say 'eyan o kin fu ye ko ni oun wu wo

Bros if na cos she b virgin ur brain dai boot.. Being a virgin dos not automatically make a reasonable or complete babe.. Bros u treat lik every oda babe abeg..

jidegirl12: Lady gogo... I deliberately ignored your post where you quoted me because I knew someone's gonna jump on you with 'this is Naija' bull

It's simple, if you want to do big girl.. Be ready to work for it or better carry mixed granite and cement .. Abi that one scarce to get too ? .... Shikena

Phema: Aaawww, Guitarlife, oya sorry, no vex. I noticed you have been very cool on this thread without "losing it" and I can see you really do mean well for this girl. I guess I rebuked you that much cos of your previous posts on other threads and how you have been an advocate for "women slavery".

Now, let me try and look at this your post critically. . . I hate, no scratch that, I loathe leeches! I for one can't stand people who do not have a sense of self worth and esteem. But I think you are going about it the wrong way by coming here and over analysing someone you claim to love.

The first step is to sit her down and talk to her. Let her know you are a student and still get funds from your parents and as such can't do much for her. Suggest ways you think she can make extra money and help her plan how to go about it.

Help her financially occasionally, but make sure she understands that you are doing it for love and not as a responsibility.

In summary, try to find a balance and also know you can't have it all in one person. You listed her good sides and I think they outweigh the bad ones.

Goodluck.

intbizoil: Op let me give you my advise. Concentrate on your masters and getting a good job afterwards. Please date a girl that is matured and have like mind with you, girls from 25 up. Am talking from experience, she has a long way to go. You don't need such a person now. Forget the advise ladies on this forum are giving you, they will always defend the indefensible. Plan your future bro. and you will get the best of women. Talking about changing her attitude, bro you are on a long thing. You are not God. The decision to change will be made by her. Am sorry to tell you this if you are not careful, she will definitely cheat on you with someone who can offer her what she needs and as when due.

Guitarlife: Good morning all, thanks for your various inputs yesterday. I decided not to post so as to get good responses and do a thorough analysis in the mean time.
I am quite befuddled at the kind of responses I am getting here. It shows we are all humans after all, otherwise how would people from this same family section. People who are always singing that we single peeps should open our eyes wide and study every single detail about our partners before we get married now turn back to accuse me of overanalysing? Is that not close to speaking from both sides of the mouth if it's not exactly that?
For the records, I love this girl so much. I am friends with a few family section posters offline and there is no way I can tell a lie here. What would I stand to gain ? That transcript of text messages that I posted initially was directly copied from my mesages inbox and pasted here. Not a single word was altered so I am not trying to give a dog a bad name just so I can hang it like some people are already insinuating.
Neither am I stingy. Thrifty ? Maybe, but definitely not stingy but what I can tell you is that I am very much against spending on frivolities. I am a believer in saving for the rainy days.
I decided to table this issue at family section for balanced analysis because it had gotten to a heads.
If I begin to reel out some shocking incidents all bothering on unwholesome financial demands of my girl you will all conclude I am making up stories. But I am not, I am convinced her behaviour is as a result of a wrong orientation . Even before we started dating I had seen the red flag but I believed I could influence her cos we all know nobody is perfect but it seems It ain't as easy as I thought now and I may have to count my teeth with my tongue.
I will still give this another shot though. I will try to speak to her in a loving manner and make her see reasons why a lady should prize herself and not see her boyfriend as an ATM machine(AB05, 2013).
Thanks all once again for your inputs, I am also most greatful to the #EndTimeTinsCrew for gracing my thread with their presence.
Lest I forget, My girl has left school now since June for her home. When she was around there were times I personally cooked for her when she was sick. She is a reasonable girl too and I believe getting a decent girl like her will take a while so I want to give it another shot and hoping she will yeild. I do my little to make her see that I love her and want her for the long haul. Like I said initially, its easier for me to date her cos all the previous relationships I have had has been a challenge for me in the area of abstinence.
I love you all and have a great week ahead(Oops!!! Today is wednesday already.)

kulyie: guitarlife no mind anyone wey dey call you stingy.even if you earn 100 billion every week,cater for her necessities not her frivolities.even if you love her make her know that it is not every of her frivolities that will be catered for.infact of its within your means give her money to establish a buisness for herself so she wont come and be asking money for this and that.as a matter of fact,she wont feel justified to ask you again because you have opened a buisness for her to help herself and her family.tell her to think of the kind of buisness she can do that she likes and will fetch her money.period! Because if you start giving her and her family money for a and b,c and end up marrying her.the day things are not too good and you tell them or your wife that you dont have money,she will take offence and trouble will start.she will assume that its because you eanted to marry her that you were giving her money,now that you are married,you cant give her money.she wont understand.moreover yorubas say the thing you dont want as a rich man,you start rejecting it as a poor man.draw a line and let everyone know your stand.love has brains o.

BoboYekini: Shey you see women?. Defending the indefensible. Awon alakpa ma sise.

Guitarlife: I understand your position. Although I may want to disagree with that your 'she will definitely cheat on you' part. I understand too that nobody is perfect. I do not have an assurance that a 25 year old lady won't misbehave do I ? I have seen a lot of positives in her already so am sure she will listen to the voice of reason. I am not saying I want to change her but I believe I can influence her if I go about it the proper way. Thanks for your time.

Guitarlife: For the records too, We do not indulge in any type of sexual immorality like kissing, smooching or s*ex.

This was the main reason I left my previous girlfriends to be with her cos they always put pressure on me for sex.But my present girlfriend does not which is what I always wanted and becos she is a virgin.

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poshdiva: Who put this on front page?

It's not right!

intbizoil: Op let me give you my advise. Concentrate on your masters and getting a good job afterwards. Please date a girl that is matured and have like mind with you, girls from 25 up. Am talking from experience, she has a long way to go. You don't need such a person now. Forget the advise ladies on this forum are giving you, they will always defend the indefensible. Plan your future bro. and you will get the best of women. Talking about changing her attitude, bro you are on a long thing. You are not God. The decision to change will be made by her. Am sorry to tell you this if you are not careful, she will definitely cheat on you with someone who can offer her what she needs and as when due.

Guitarlife: Can I please request once again that the mods do the needful and take down this thread as requested by me the poster ?