EverGlorious:
I know a lot people here are going to bash me for this but it's okay. I'm not the right or worthy person to say this but since no one here have no plans of saying this its good people know the Truth.

First of all, the true author of Christianity is Jesus Christ himself and not the 'white people'. This has been a sad misconception for a very long time till now. If I write a book and I want you and your whole family, friends and relations to read it and know it, and live by it and I give it to you first to read it and pass on, that doesn't make you the owner or creator of the book, you where just privileged to share it to other people. The white people don't own Christianity neither did they create it. And it's not 'black' mentality, for all those that'll always like to give themselves an excuse to do wrong. Well that's by the way. And FYI it's proper name is Christian marriage and not 'white wedding'.

In order for your marriage to be truly valid, three things must check, if any one is left out, your marriage is incomplete and may suffer in future (and by then the only people you can point at is your village people):
- the hospital
- the family
- the church

- the hospital has to check in the sense that the couple has to find out their compatibility status or else they'll be doing their children, their pockets and even their self serious bad. Compatibility status like your genotype, blood group, and any other related tests in the hospital/lab.

- the family has to check in the sense that both couples families have to agree and consent to giving their children away (though this is mostly the case of the woman). In some countries there's nothing like traditional marriage. They just fix a dinner where the families come together and know themselves and agree on what's up. But here in Nigeria culture, we do ours in an amazing manner where both families come together and the ladies family gives her hand out to the other family and they come to an agreement, in a grand style. This is our culture and this is good, very good.

But my friend your marriage is not yet complete, yes you've gotten your parents blessings, fine. But you see marriage is a special gift, a sacrament from God. And if he has given us such great gift, won't it be fitting that he bless it for us through his servants, our ministers in our Church?

- the church has to check in the sense that every marriage has to be blessed and bonded by God through His ministers so no one can put asunder. Yes I know, people seize this moment to point at the broken 'Christian' homes, cheating husbands/wives and co., but if you understand God you'll know that he allows some things just to test our faith. Constant prayer is needed in every marriage, in every home. Christian marriage is not to make your marriage known to the world, but rather to make your marriage known to God, to bring God into your marriage. It can be done between you, your spouse and the priest/pastor of your church. The misconception nowadays is that you must invite the whole world before you know you've done Christian marriage. And that's why many people shy away and give lousy excuses why it's not important and unnecessary. Now I tell you, a Christian marriage can be done between you and your spouse and a few family members. You don't have to do it big. Cut your coat according to your size. Besides the Christian marriage has nothing to do with the reception. It's just additional celebration.

Sorry this had to be this long. To answer your questions if you haven't gotten it by now, NO, Christians are not allowed to have sex after Traditional marriage because the marriage ain't valid yet until the Christian marriage.

Daboomb:


These sort of Vertical cracks are usually the result of "ground settlement" that affect the Foundation when such foundation is not done properly in terms of depth, thickness, strength of materials (Granite/Cement/Sand mix ratio), inadequate reinforcement/iron.

As the foundatin settles, due to the weight on it (or ground movements from nearby), the raft/pad/blinding is probably breaking apart and the sheer forces are being transmitted to the block work.
Result is that if there are no "columns firmly tied to Beams" which can "break" the transmission of such forces to the blocks, it will simply start to crack like Biscuits!
(I have ssen it a few times so l am speaking from experience).

I feel very sad to say this:
It will cost you more to try and rectify this problem because it is a "foundational problem" that wont ever go-away. (I bet your soil is poor even though l have not seen it properly). There is ground movement going on (Is someone building a bigger house with very sound foundations, within 250ft radius of you? Take a look around. They are not the cause of your problem just that such buildings do 'settle' and push ground away to other areas as they 'sink to their settlment point' so that nearby buildings with poor foundations will start 'feeling the heat'. )

If you have the wherewithal, (if and only if), you need to count your loses, pull this building down, remove the broken blocks, dig a one feet down into the ground and do a thick, inverted-T raft foundation to about three/four planks (to cater for future settlement/sinking) and ensure that builders dont cut-corners on the mix-ratios and the reinforcemnt.

This is one expensive mistake the builders have caused for you.
My sincere sympathy.

KolaShangOne:


Is your house in ibadan?

Your house looked like one I visited in Ibadan sometimes in 2016. It was located few metres from a stream. Had several cracks like this. Told The owner to pull it down but he went ahead to install precast fascia on it. They told him it would be covered up by plastering and he agreed.

The problem of your building is most likely from the foundation since you said it was sandfilled. I know money is not easy to come by but since you haven't roofed, you could just pull it down.

Also I saw a free standing wall in one of your pictures. Walls like that are affected greatly by wind loads and may collapse easily.

bixton:


I do not know how long your building have been left this way before this incident.
It's just a case of soil settlement.
Kindly get a professional to be on site to properly check.

The other option you have is to introduce a beam at the base of the wall where it meets the ground since it appears you have not done the flooring.
Get someone to crack open the blocks in a way you can fit in the beam and cast it. It should be done carefully and in a 3m interval.

diordaves:


This is a clear case of subsidence. This is related to the moisture content of the soil underneath the foundation. Clay and silt soil type are particularly vulnerable since they shrink and swell in relation to their moisture content. The foundation soil may not have been compacted properly during construction or the clay/silt not evacuated as would have been necessary. Subsidence is a manifest of poor quality foundation works or design.

Your foundation may need underpinning as the solution, so get an expert in your area. If this is a proven case of subsidence, you can't paper over the cracks. It's a major issue.

bixton:


Kindly post pictures of your build and the affected parts.

bixton:


Kindly post pictures of your build and the affected parts.

Rubbiish:

What is the nature of your land?
Your story though.....But why didn't u engage another engineer since he traveled?
Or u felt it was waste of funds engaging an engineer to supervise a bungalow?

Chanbaby:


Congrat dearie. How was ur experience with the hospital and dr xydas cos I will be using both soon.

gurlnext2u:
You'll continue to use the same Pediatrician. I don't see any reason why you should use another after you're discharged

igetam:
Nothing is compulsory o. But in my opinion, baby should still see a pediatrician according to what's specified from the hospital till about 4 weeks or so, Just to be sure everything is fine..

Hope this helps.

Boladami:
In case anyone needs dollar in the US especially Houston. I have at a good rate.

firsttymum:

Do u have a dom account? Let hubby fund it... Even if it's just $100. He can buy at blackmarket rate.
U can withdraw and use. If u don't... U prolly might have a relative who does...
Book with airbnb..
And then use their card details to pay.
That's after ur hubby has funded the account

veleta:
@Topnotch, it's at the end of 36 weeKS, fit to fly letter must be from your doctor and it has to state your edd and gestational week,it should not be more than 72 hours as in the date you got the fit to fly. All these are on BA's website

Annim:


Hospital, doctor and nurses are very okay. Got some freebies for my baby... Had HBP that made me spend an extra night but was not charged. Got my zero balance from the hospital while I was still on admission. Also got confirmation of epidural paid while in the hospital. All in all experience was very okay. Also noticed they are not quick to send baby to NICU. Used a Nigerian pead after discharge. While in hospital you will have to use theirs its compulsory.