I stumbled upon a good evidence that one of her ex lovers is a reverend father. She is vey close to this priest who constantly bombard her with phone calls even at odd hours in the night.

8ogoegbunam: Thanks all for your advice. I married her in the catholic church due to her plea to me that we should please her parents who are staunch catholics. My grouse is that she lied to me that she will change her sect once we are married.I am a very spiritual person, I have my reservation about the catholic church. I respect all christians and muslims. Everyone have a right to belong to any faith. I believe that the spiritual atmosphere of my home have been poisoned. I have dreams and precepts that guide my life and marriage. I even gave her the choice to pick any of the numerous pentecostal churches were both of us can attend as a couple. Yet she insisted on cathlic church or nothing.am not a sect fanatic, but I believe a couple and kids should attend same sect.

Having said all that, I still would put part of the blame on you.....you always had your reservations about the Catholic church,SO Y IN GOD's NAME DIDN'T YOU LOOK FOR A SISTER IN YOUR OWN CHURCH? Besides self: Anglicans and Catholics doctrines are quite similar. You knew right from the work go that she was Catholic, yet you still went ahead: " toasted" her, dated her, courted her and eventually married her....now you blame her for refusing to change her faith and believe? Common dude, there were other things that attracted you to her in the first place before her faith, please dwell on that and save your self headaches. Be happy shes a Christain, thats what should count..I'm sure there are other things to worry about on earth.....

realmscape: One chance... Sorry

Exponental: Report her to a reverend father, she will be called to order. Betterstill, let ur reverend meet her reverend n let them know d risk d woman is imposing on d marriage.

8ogoegbunam: I admire the catholic church and respect them , though I have my resevations about them, I do not despise them. I am liberal when it comes to religion,I believe that I can marry any lady, as long as we practise the same religion after marriage.I was even ready to marry muslims as long as the lady converts to christianity. Sorry am not fashola or tinubu. They chose the way their families and marriage should be. I believe I should choose mine.

8ogoegbunam: Religious belief is a major factor in marriage. If I had known that she will turn out this way, I would not have married her

8ogoegbunam: I got married early this year. My wife is a sweet lady,loving and caring lady.The only major problem we face in our young union is religoius issues. I was brought up in the anglican faith while she grew up a catholic. She promised me that she will attend attend the same church with me once we got married, her only condition is that I should wed her in the catholic church. Amidst great opposition from my parents who were against it initially on the basis of religion, I fullfilled my promise to her by holding our wedding in the catholic church.

After our wedding she bluntly refused to attend the anglican church. She even asked me to convert to catholic. Honestly, I am disappointed with her. We have quarreled over this issue several times. As a compromise, I told her to attend my church once a month; that she should continue attending her church. She bluntly refused ,her only condition for agreeing to my idea is that I should attend the catholic church with her sometimes.

I feel I have been conned into marriage.

She is 36 years , we are yet to have any children . Should I divorce her. I am worried about the faith of my future children.she hinted that our children whenever we have one most toe her own line in religious matters.

I stumbled upon a good evidence that one of her ex lovers is a reverend father. She is vey close to this priest who constantly bombard her with phone calls even at odd hours in the night.

I have no evidence that the affair is still on. Please I need sincere advice.

dukila: Pls What is d difference between catholic and Anglican?

Mr CGPA: There is a point many refuse to get here. '' she use to have one priest boy friend that still give her calls late at night''. How sure are you that her die hard interest in the Catholic is not to reunite with the priest? There is no qualms worshipping in different church from your spouse but the issue is that, as one family you should be united. You are the head so you can still call her to order.

Kobojunkie:

Can we agree that Jesus was more spiritual than you could ever dream, yet he didn't have a sect of his own.

Yes, your wife lied to you that she will change after marriage, but I don't believe even Jesus will tell you that is grounds enough for divorce.

You claim you have your reservations about the catholic church but where were those reservations when you started dating a catholic girl? And where where they when you married her in a catholic church?

If you truly believe that everyone has a right to belong to any faith, why are you trying to FORCE your wife to make a decision ON HER FAITH?

And what spiritual atmosphere could you be speaking of? The one that was there when you dated and eventually married a Catholic woman? Or the one that you have allowed to take root as a result of you deciding divorce an option? Where were your dreams and precepts when you dated and married her catholic? Please stop trying to drag God into this. Do you really think God is impressed with you on this or something?

Look, dude, she lied to you. People get lied to everyday, even the one's they love. What matters is that when that lie is discovered people work to fix the problem.You two can work together to fix this, or you can let your egos run this one.

dukila: Pls What is d difference between catholic and Anglican?

victorian: @op, u r honestly not serious. So , because u r anglican and she is catholic, will then create basis for divorce? First of all,either catholic, pentecostal,anglican , we are all christians and child of God, in the Lords eyes. There is no segregation with God, everyone is equal in the eyes of God. See what pastors have caused inbetween the christian communities.God almighty will judge them and place them where they belong !
You have a peaceful home and you are not satisfied because of church?, na wa... I have a female friend, she use to date a pentecostal guy, while she is catholic. She breaks up with the guy because he is not willing to change to her church. She bluntly told the guy to move on with another girl, so she can marry a catholic guy. 5yrs gone. she is still waiting for the catholic guy that fits her heart desire. But none could be like her ex boyfriend, she contacted him recently, that she is now ready to marry him irrespective of their different church and that she had not found true and peaceful love like his when they use to be together. She cried that day, begging him to reconcile that she is sorry, but the fyne guy has moved on with another cute babe.
She always blames herself for letting him go..... so poster, appreciate what u have and focus on serving God, not Church.

c.fours:
You were too desperate to get married you didn't think about the fact that you need to be compatible in terms of beliefs and values.
Both of you are at fault. Marriage without compatibility is a time bomb waiting to happen.

If she's 36[size=18pt] then I imagine that you are at least 40 or almost 40yrsof age.[/size]

x-fire:

If religious belief is a major factor, you shouldn't have married her in the first place. You don't base a critical decision such as marriage on mere promise BUT FIRM COMMITMENT. This tells me that your basis/bases for marrying her is/are faulty.
If you are born again, divorce is out of question. You must find a way to sort issues out. Commit it to God in prayer. And also give it time. Learn the virtue of PATIENCE. Marriage is a life long commitment and you must be patient for her to change. Let her see reasons, try and persuade her. Preach to her and most importantly pray.
Lastly, I believe you should be more concerned about her spiritual health or standing with God and not just church affliations. She could even start going to Anglican church but still retains catholic church beliefs. I believe church affliations are superficial. Be much more concerned about her soul, except if you yourself are not totally renewed in Christ. Let her see the light in Christ in the Anglican church. Don't be dogmatic about Anglican church, except you practise 'churchianity' and not christianity.
Like I earlier said, NO to divorce.