Okija_juju: [b]AFAM!! Tradition is dead....


Lets be honest men, the number of girls that still carry our core traditional values have diminished quite alot. This 'women ;iberation/empowerment' has made girls with traditional values an endangered specie. Sending our daughters abroad to school thereby exposing them to the western culture and way of life hasnt helped matters either. It has even eaten into the way marriages are contracted. Whats left is for girls to wear (western) wedding gowns for their traditional weddings.

All our ladies today want to do is simply go shopping, look fly, do their hair and nails, fly first class to fancy destinations and party. Simply put, they all want to be beyonce.. You can date a girl for 5 years and in those 5 years, she will barely talk about raising up kids and how she intends to raise them. Ask for what they call cooking today, my brother it is pitiful. Thats why Househelps and Nannys now have companies that they work for. I visited my friend who is a newly wed and they already had a live in househelp (Barely 4 months into the marriage). I broke up with many dames because I realized that beyond the fake hair, tight jeans and push-up bras, they had absolutely nothing else to offer. A girl sleeps and wakes up and the next thing she is sitting in the living room watching DSTV. By 7:30am, whilst I am busy prepping to go to work. Couldnt even make simple coffee for me or straighten the bed. I am very traditional. I want a woman that can cook, clean my house, handle certain small household business like restock the shelves, restock my toileteries, re-stock my fridge, iron clothes e.t.c. Even if I say okay babe, dont stress yourself about XYZ, its important to know that she can do them.. Most of our girls want to live the Kim Kardashian lifestyle.

Well, while I am lashing out at the women, I will also blame the guys.. Traditional girls still abound. They just dont always come in the most fanciest of wrappings. being a slut sells better and faster than being a lady. So most girls have also stopped looking for traditional men and now want the magazine cover guys. 21st century compliant guys.

Meanwhile.. I learnt of a Lady who started dating this guy. That as soon as she came into his life, she started acting like a wife. She would pick out his clothes, buy and replace his socks (if they are torn), replace his underwears and boxers (Stuff that most guys tend to always forget to do), cook meals for him to come back from work to, bring him surprise (home cooked) lunch at work, buy and replace things like toilet rolls, bathing sponge and soap, deodorant, perfumes, e.t.c whilst keeping his house clean. When the guy gave her a key to his flat, he didnt know.. They were married after barely a year of courting. The guy became so dependent of her it was almost like she had used juju on him. MEANWHILE.. This babe schooled in Jand o!! MSc. holder.


I guess it is what it is.. I cannot date a girl with no traditional values for any reason other than sex.. _{Thank God I found one of the last few good girls in Nigeria for my wife...} [/b]

debrief08: So you want a lady who you haven't married to come and cook, wash, clean have s3x with you and iron your clothes?
Let me ask you all the ones who have done that for you how many of them have you married?
So after doing househelp for you, you look for someone else and dump her with the slightest excuse.

Women, let me advice you, if you are not a wife, don't go and be acting like one.
If he comes to your house feed him, if you go to his house and he decides to live like a pig clear a space and sit.
Value your self, a man who loves you will respect you

Those of them shouting our mothers and grandmothers, did your mothers tell you that they were cooking and cleaning for your fathers and grandfathers and sleeping with them before they paid their bride price?

lola.luv:


Na today? E don tay!

Don't forget there were other names like 'Militia', 'Almond Joy', 'BootyOnMe', 'Chintua' and I think Baby something.

The woman is fascinating and she has a distinctive way of writing that immediately you come across any of her writings, you know she's the one. Lol.
Seun knows her. They've been on the issue for years so leave matter for Matthias!

Chrisbenogor:


I am beginning to hate the fact that I cannot post on some threads because of you.


DeJa Vu!

So ask the girl I was having lunch with why she cannot do those things for a man, and she says "so that when I finish he would now break up with me" like washing plates cooking and taking care of a house has suddenly turned into "Modern day slavery" BULLSHIT!
Its simple human beings want to eat their cake and have it, like you rightly pointed out stop any "boy" on the road and ask what sort of woman do you want. He would mention every other thing asides from the important things like a woman who can actually hold the house together. Stop a "girl" and ask her what she wants and the first thing you would hear if "TDH - Tall Dark Handsome face, handsome pockets " Me I cannot suffer oh.

Stop a man though, a real man that has gone through many Kim K's and he knows what a real woman should offer, sometimes some girls grow up to become women and only by then its usually too late. The man if he never made the mistake of settling down with em flashy girls either by sheer luck or his village juju should be sensible enough to know that his saying I do does not ensure Mr. Biggs stays in business.

Today you help to buy meat from the market and tomorrow it turns to " You know you are the one that knows how to price the meat now " Hian!

Chrisbenogor:

Biko Drex comot,
I am sure my grandfathers did not have to buy BB porches as well and pay for Peruvian Brazilian Bolivian Iranian Indian Iraqi and all the bloody weaves out there

afam4eva:

They want a man who won't require them to cook as a typical African woman will readily do.

They want a man that will give them the kind of freedom that they desire to do whatever they want? Ask Tonto Dike.

They want a man that won't rule over them as the head of the family. In fact they want someone they won't submit to.

Sisi_Kill:
Seeing it in black and white. . .A girl would obviously have to be out of her mind to turn this Irresistible gem of a man down.

Cooking. . .if a woman doesn't cook, what exactly is her purpose in this world??!

I mean Freedom? So overrated. . .who needs that? Prisoners don't have freedom and they are surviving, aren't they?

And what on earth is wrong with being ruled over? The Slaves of old turned out right didn't they?

Oh! Oh! My body is all tingly at the prospective. . .where do I sign up??!

jennykadry: Why should I pound yam to show my husband that I Am "submissive"? If i break my "back" in the process what will I tell the A&E doctor when I go there? Which kain adult abuse is that one? so the people that make the powder form of poundo for easy turning are stoopid abi? Oh yes they are.

If you want pounded yam please find yourself a pestle and mortar and pound away, do not involve me, I repeat, do not involve me

Sisi_Kill:

Jenny I will fight you oh!! How can a wife prove her love for her husband if she isn't half way dead at the end of every day?! I think you need a refresh on how to be a good wife. So here 10 Characteristics of a Good Naija Wife

Now go get that mortar and pestle out and start pounding. . .remember to do it in you CL Pumps, Designer Jeans and Top finished off with nice pearls instead of your wrapper because even though they want you to be the traditional wife, you risk losing them if you dressed like one.

slimyem: That's it..
All they want is to eat their cake and still have it.
Unrealistic bunch!!

Okija_juju:


No wonder the prayer request wey full church this days na for husband..







_{Every girl can wear CL Pumps and look good, but not all girls can pound yam or cook Ofe Nsala..}

Sisi_Kill:

Jenny I will fight you oh!! How can a wife prove her love for her husband if she isn't half way dead at the end of every day?! I think you need a refresh on how to be a good wife. So here 10 Characteristics of a Good Naija Wife

Now go get that mortar and pestle out and start pounding. . .remember to do it in you CL Pumps, Designer Jeans and Top finished off with nice pearls instead of your wrapper because even though they want you to be the traditional wife, you risk losing them if you dressed like one.

Okija_juju:


No wonder the prayer request wey full church this days na for husband..







_{Every girl can wear CL Pumps and look good, but not all girls can pound yam or cook Ofe Nsala..}

jennykadry: Why should I pound yam to show my husband that I Am "submissive"? If i break my "back" in the process what will I tell the A&E doctor when I go there? Which kain adult abuse is that one? so the people that make the powder form of poundo for easy turning are stoopid abi? Oh yes they are.

If you want pounded yam please find yourself a pestle and mortar and pound away, do not involve me, I repeat, do not involve me

kulyie: as much as i love you and your posts,for the first time i will have to disagree with you.there's an addage that says whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger.pounding yam will not break your back if not 90 percent of old ekiti women will have been walking with a bent back.pounding yam is a form of indirect exercise,people dont realise this,but its true.whenever you are carrying the pestle and hitting it on the yam,you are burning calories or fats in your arms,it also helps in stregthning your arms.however it is if a woman is pregnant that i will not support her pounding yam.any man that asks his wife to pound yam with protuding tummy is just plain inconsiderate ( i am saying this because i have seen this happen.the man in our former neighbourhood insisted that his pregnant wife of 5 months should pound yam at night around 8pm and when she said she needed rest,the husband angrily left the house with his car keys and said,if you dont pound it for me,ill go and get it elsewhere)

Okija_juju: So because you have a job and contribute to the household funds, you and your husband are now mates abi?!


Thats why you wont cook or clean the house abi?!

Thats why you cant run him a bath or do his laundry?!




What kind of life is this sef?!

Okija_juju:


You must be from Imo State...

phineas: point is if your parents raised you like a princess,and you choose the lineage of slaves in the name of love,the choice was yours to make,dont complain.

Vikin:

Are you for real? Stick to a point! If pounding yam is very good for the arms, then why won't a pregnant woman pound yam.

When I was still living with parents, the boys pound anything poundable. My own is to put the yam for mortar.


Continue pounding Sha, if that will make you keep ya man! All the best dear...

Tomorrow if you marry a non traditional man or non nigerian, all these ya pounding yam skills will disappear.

What will you be left with?

phineas: Traditional men exist,they are brought up to be traditional,to see women as inferior.a lady once said her Inlaws told her her job was to bear kids for her son when she married him,she went ahead,they came in told her how to take care of their son up to the way they prefer his kitchen and house arranged,eventually he started beating her for not dropping her pay.point is if your parents raised you like a princess,and you choose the lineage of slaves in the name of love,the choice was yours to make,dont complain.

kulyie: i am pounding yam because i love it,not necesarily to keep a man or get a man.its to be domesticated as a female,however to each his own,if you feel you dont need to learn it,all well and good.secondly pregnant women need loads of rest for obvious reasons,yes they should exercise but not strenous ones like pounding na.they can take a walk in the evenings and all but nothing that will exert a lot of energy.3rdly am sticking to a point

kulyie: as much as i love you and your posts,for the first time i will have to disagree with you.there's an addage that says whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger.pounding yam will not break your back if not 90 percent of old ekiti women will have been walking with a bent back.pounding yam is a form of indirect exercise,people dont realise this,but its true.whenever you are carrying the pestle and hitting it on the yam,you are burning calories or fats in your arms,it also helps in stregthning your arms.however it is if a woman is pregnant that i will not support her pounding yam.any man that asks his wife to pound yam with protuding tummy is just plain inconsiderate ( i am saying this because i have seen this happen.the man in our former neighbourhood insisted that his pregnant wife of 5 months should pound yam at night around 8pm and when she said she needed rest,the husband angrily left the house with his car keys and said,if you dont pound it for me,ill go and get it elsewhere)

Sisi_Kill:

Jenny I will fight you oh!! How can a wife prove her love for her husband if she isn't half way dead at the end of every day?! I think you need a refresh on how to be a good wife. So here 10 Characteristics of a Good Naija Wife

Now go get that mortar and pestle out and start pounding. . .remember to do it in you CL Pumps, Designer Jeans and Top finished off with nice pearls instead of your wrapper because even though they want you to be the traditional wife, you risk losing them if you dressed like one.

afam4eva: If there's one thing I've noticed in life, it is that people always embrace things that will benefit them. With the infiltration of western culture into Nigeria, our ladies have been mostly receptive to this culture. They embrace it and even carry it into their search for a spouse. I've heard ladies say things like "I can't marry a traditional man". Meaning that, they don't want a man who's a stickler for African tradition. I think this is just because these ladies know that African culture does not favour them so, they'll rather marry someone who has a western outlook on life.

They want a man who won't require them to cook as a typical African woman will readily do.

They want a man that will give them the kind of freedom that they desire to do whatever they want? Ask Tonto Dike.

They want a man that won't rule over them as the head of the family. Infact they want someone they won't submit to.

Isn't it ironic that the same ladies will want advice young people that they should respect their elders because it's part of African culture.

You can see that these ladies use and dump African culture when it suits them.

Vikin:

Nothing wrong my dear

Just that I would have much more important things than worrying about if my pounded yam has seeds in it, or if my bitter leaf soup is too bitter.

Something's are complimentary for me not an obligation.