simayanki4real: Hello dolls and gents...

It really has been a while, hope there’s healing going on in this room? Very much kudos to the instigator and my dear friend carmdoll for such a ‘clinic’. One importance of the thread is feedback: dolls in the house who have benefitted from this thread should feel free to let us share in their joys (not just sadness). I, for one have learned how to curtail my anger and be subtle when relating to people.

That being said…. There’s this little story I would like to share once again to benefit the dolls in the house. We all want to be happy whether personally or collectively… but we forget that there is no predestined path to that happiness.
Service year was a year of great enthusiasm for me, as I had so many expectations and aspirations especially romantically….so camp opened up for me with lots of ‘wonderfully and fearfully’ created dolls.

This one especially dark and figured-8 in stature, just beautiful… surprising enough she was from above average family, money wasn’t her problem at all. But there was this guy she was always with in camp and before camp ended he proposed to her and begged her to marry him….. The guy was a handsome young chap with lots of swag, most girls would see him as a player wanting nothing but sex, or just fun….truth is you can never know. Sometimes you just have to count on your sense of perception.

So he begged for like two months but d pretty girl who is always getting attention from varied guys and men refused. Reasons being that the guy had no see-able future: no car, or house or lump sums to throw around. What a silly reason! And she enjoyed the rest of her service year, travelling and flexing men’s money.

Two months after service she logged on to facebook and saw the wedding pictures of the said guy she refused to marry because he had no fore-see-able future. It was like a big bell fell on her and she went dumb for minutes. The funny thing is that the wedding was elaborate (though I cannot say if he has a car) but it wasn’t a cut-n-nail wedding.

So my sexy, beautiful, young, old, not-so-pretty dollies…

1. don’t be so quick to say no. The guys who don’t have money now are yet to be the world’s most influential....even the bible says never forsake humble beginnings. They will keep their plans in mind just to test your love, if you pass you will stnd to enjoy but if you fail...

2s£xy:


The bolded strucked a cord... I don't tell my plans-- That's why my ex said I don't plan ahead( albeit she also used that as a reason to end it)... Fast forward to present day, she is regretting and yet to a 'real' guy that truely loves her like I did...

I have had no good experience with most ladies because of this, but trust me, I spend most of my time building my future little by little and I don't tell them a thing. Even as I am now still serving, I am on job hunt which by God's grace should be done before I finish my service...

There seem to be one who has passed that test though, but I am not gonna give her complete credit just yet. She still has more... More to undergo.

I intentionally told her I dont have money etc... She still stuck with me but I am still not gonna let my guard down because this ladies are like weather.

Vanneni:

2s£xy:
Who are u?

Vanneni: I'm I supposed to answer this

carmelion: @2sexy and any other guy here who believes in I-wont-tell-you -my-plan theory.

I don't subscribe to that. Though it might work for you but let it not be a platform for you to know who really loves you/or who will make a good wife for you.

When you are in a relationship,(a serious one please),give your girl a sense of belonging by letting her into your life. Every woman wants her man to be successful. You might not want to be 100% open with her,but let her know you are working towards something. Who knows she might even have one or two links .Just maybe.

If am in a relationship and my man(a corp member)and he keeps me in the dark about his future plans,I would just assume he is lazy. C'mon I want to see some efforts. You are the man

Well,if he does not tell me,I would ask,and If I don't get any reasonable answer,I would suggest Ideas.

He better starts implementing mine(since he cannot come up with his own),else I would start seeing you as unserious.

2s£xy:
Yuck!

Vanneni: Na u sabi.

2s£xy:
Omo, break down... Na play i dey oh make u no begin reason another thing.

2s£xy:
In addition to Aluta'a post, it isn't as if I have not moved on even the opposite is perceived from my posts.

I only talk about it when I come on here and that's only IF a post reminds me of the incident, which has been the case.

At that point, i start talking about it but most times. I do it so that people could also learn a thing or two from it... Specifically the case here.

This thread will not be complete without the men sharing their own views so as to constructively reshape some belief or conceptions help be some ladies on here.

Since post of people tend make me talk about it, I guess I have to avoid any thread that could lead to it. Hence, it's good bye from here.

I wish the dolls wedding testimonies before the year ends...

The only thing I have to say is, whatever relationship you find yourself, do your best to keep a clean conscience and no regrets...

Good bye and God bless you Carm...

#Unfollow

2s£xy:
In addition to Aluta'a post, it isn't as if I have not moved on even the opposite is perceived from my posts.

I only talk about it when I come on here and that's only IF a post reminds me of the incident, which has been the case.

At that point, i start talking about it but most times. I do it so that people could also learn a thing or two from it... Specifically the case here.

This thread will not be complete without the men sharing their own views so as to constructively reshape some belief or conceptions help be some ladies on here.

Since post of people tend make me talk about it, I guess I have to avoid any thread that could lead to it. Hence, it's good bye from here.

I wish the dolls wedding testimonies before the year ends...

The only thing I have to say is, whatever relationship you find yourself, do your best to keep a clean conscience and no regrets...

Good bye and God bless you Carm...

#Unfollow

Vanneni: You too talk.

temi4fash:

Guy... i tire for u ooo..

Chai dont tell m u gonna quit cos of d general assumption...

then i guess u might not av healed from watever she must av caused u...

#ma opinion though#

plus i sent u p can u pls reply...

or better still send me ur email cos dis PM here is kinda problematic for m..

2s£xy:
Thank you...

2s£xy:
I hope I am safe oh. Anyways, I have replied u..

temi4fash:
check ur spam
U are very safe jawe

Any ways av not seen ur reply jawe...

2s£xy:
I guess I have to avoid any thread that could lead to it. Hence, it's good bye from here.

2s£xy:
I wish the dolls wedding testimonies before the year ends...

2s£xy:
The only thing I have to say is, whatever relationship you find yourself, do your best to keep a clean conscience and no regrets...

2s£xy:
#Unfollow

passionate88: another reasonable albeit proud nd kind of boastful poster don go because of aluta continua, victoria ascertae. E bn dey pain/jealouse u say im dey talk about im babe (ex)
like that?, why una dey take style chase ppl wey me dey like their comments for here?. Causewahala where arth thou?.
#coughs#

e go hard dm o, especially d clean conscience part, gals dm sabi hide things bt dm like to knw ur plans.


eyahhhhhhhhhh.