Chacal:

@ Danity,

You must admit it is one-sided for Black couples.
A Black sister's idea of romance in Nigeria is to cook goathead stew for her husband.
In return, she wants a boat-cruise or a romantic weekend in Hawaii. . . . . .How does that add up?

As for the bust-size, i do mind. I don't want to be choked to death.
Black sistas should sort themselves out and act straight.
Like the scriptures say, You REAP WHAT You SOW.

As for the loving her for her looks. . . . . Thats hypocrisy at the very top level.
I must like what i see before i even take the 1st step of chatting u up in the first place SO LOOKS COUNT.
Any man that comes here to say otherwise is deceitful!!!!!

Any man that says otherwise - knows what's up.
Looks count - sure but do they have to be what your relationship is based on?
If you sow a few nights of goathead soup, at least a massage or one day's vacation should be reaped.

I won't even answer you about the bust size anymore. You know what you can handle so i guess big boobs are not your style

@ faketan,
Not every fat woman is lazy. Some of them can't lose weight after they pop children out. Some are genetically fat. Smartness, however, counts. A woman who cannot carry herself has issues.
Also, if you've been romantic but the ladies have been cruel to you - you've been looking in the wrong places.

@ Stillwater - thank you oooo. They will drink beer and start grooming pot bellies.

stillwater:

What are you guys saying? Is it not the naija man that starts grooming pot bellies competing with the wife on who's belly grows larger as if they did not eat in their mother's house before marrying the woman.

danity:

Any man that says otherwise - knows what's up.
Looks count - sure but do they have to be what your relationship is based on?
If you sow a few nights of goathead soup, at least a massage or one day's vacation should be reaped.

I won't even answer you about the bust size anymore. You know what you can handle so i guess big boobs are not your style

@ faketan,
Not every fat woman is lazy. Some of them can't lose weight after they pop children out. Some are genetically fat. Smartness, however, counts. A woman who cannot carry herself has issues.
Also, if you've been romantic but the ladies have been cruel to you - you've been looking in the wrong places.

@ Stillwater - thank you oooo. They will drink beer and start grooming pot bellies.

Stillwater . . . when you people stop grouping us as above we will stop stereotyping too.  

how many men develop a potbelly? very few.

A Naija woman stops taking care of herself once she is married.
All u get to see on em is traditional wear like Rachel Oniga. . . . .Body weight triples and everything just blow up like NITRO.
Do u really think Black brothers find that attractive?
The annoying thing is u folks are the first to cry FOUL when a brother eyes a beyonce-esque chic.    

Chacal:

@ Danity,

Is it that obvious i am sexist?
The crux of the issue is a woman must look after herself. . . . . . .
Once that condition is met. . . . a brother will co-operate and treat a sister in the right way.

Well then, if a man is spoiling his woman silly with attention, she'll want to please him in every way. When there is no romance, what's the use in keeping herself fit? It's not like the guy notices anyway.
Sexism won't get you very far. You need to be less sexist so you can be excluded from the typical naija men population

danity:

[@ faketan - it's not a problem of "after all, i'm married". It's more like "after all, he doesn't care"

Chacal:

@ Danity,

It does not work that way.
In reality, 1+1 is not always 2.
Women take men for granted when men go attention crazy.
Have u ever wondered why the wives of wife-beaters tend to stay with em despite the domestic violence and stuffs?
Don't get me wrong. . . . I don't like violence!!! It's just a THUNK.

Cheiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!
So what some men like you do is to make yourselves attention-deficient?
Have you ever wondered if some women actually like the attention because it reassures them of their positions in the man's life?
In reality 1 +1 is not always 2. However, for you to be married to a woman whom you're attention-crazy over, y'all are going to have to understand each other.
You're talking as if your wife wouldn't really know much about you.
She would have to understand that all the romance is so that she can add her side to make the marriage sweeter for both of you.

faketan:

Until you catch him eyeing a cute and smart lady who may be older than you are.

Yeah - then everything clicks into place or she shows the man pepper for looking at that cute, smart lady. It goes both ways.

I disagree with u.

How often do u see 20-yr-old MEN looking 35 in Nigeria? Lets be realistic.
Now lets flip the coin over. . . . .How often do u see 22-yr-old women in native attire looking 50? I see it everytime.
It seems Black women age quickly more than black men. . . . . something has to be wrong somewhere.
Imagine what Liv Tyler or Julia Roberts would have looked like if they were Nigerians.

Chacal:

@ Danity,

Thats the secret. . . . . .
When a woman gets loads of it. . . . she doesn't value it.
However, give it to her in drops and she will be lapping it up and chasing the man up n down for it.

danity:

The games just don't stop even in marriage.

Chacal:

C'mon Danity Kane!!!!!!!!!!!!

You of all people should know the games between a man and a woman can never stop.
The politicking is the same. . . . . teasing and testing the waters, etc.
Do u really expect a man to show all his cards on the table? You are having a laugh.

danity:

Yeah - then everything clicks into place or she shows the man pepper for looking at that cute, smart lady. It goes both ways.

faketan:

And who will you blame? You said 'after all i'm married' means 'afterall he does not care' where as he cares.

It is then that you will know he cares. Why will you show him pepper when you took your face value for granted.
Baby you gotta look good for your man. It is very necessary. Unfornatelty, in some places in nigeria, how fat your ass is, is a measure of how wealthy you are. And when you raise your hand and shout praiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiise the lord, your bicep fat will be obstructing the vew of those around you.

LMAO!!!!!!!!!! You are so mean
Did you not just see what Chacal said 5 seconds ago?

Well trust me - I plan on looking good for my man at anytime and it's something all women have to keep doing. It's a process. But then he's gotta strive to be more romantic because then I know that the way I look drives him crazy in ways that no other woman can and this alone - makes the woman even want to look better. She knows that all her efforts are not in vain. IN other words, it's a freaking cycle.

Now lets flip the coin over. . . . .How often do u see 22-yr-old women in native attire looking 50? I see it everytime.

@ stillwater,

I don't wear glasses.
Nigerian women tend to age quickly.
Its like they are operating on CAT YEARS.   1 YEAR = 9 YEARS.

stillwater:



The women you are describing here are the ones suffering under the military regime of their husbands, why won't they stress up?

Chacal:

@ Danity,

Of course, i can die for a woman i love.
However, i have to be sure she can die for me as well before i take such a dive!!!!
Fair exchange, innit??(as Oxford Circus residents will say).

I had a neighbour whose husband gives a signed empty cheque but she wears , wonders shall never end. She refuses to look for God knows why.
is the husband to blame?

stillwater:

The women you are describing here are the ones suffering under the military regime of their husbands, why won't they stress up?