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Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 2:23am On May 13, 2013 |
Connoisseur: a man that you know is married abi [size=13pt]This thread is about someone who slept with a man who she knew was married. I won't be making that mistake. If I'm lied to, then his wife will hear from me. Let her hate me, blame me, or whatever else afterwards. I don't care. Cheating is near abominable to me. I don't take it lightly.[/size] 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Connoisseur(m): 2:45am On May 13, 2013 |
ogugua88:Ok 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by dBard: 2:48am On May 13, 2013 |
ogugua88: This frankly is d height of it. It's no longer about someone cheating but her actually seeking justification f it. @op, u lie. U Could Help Yourself. Most times we see these things coming from afar off, but choose t remain in it. U could have prevented d affair from happening n even afterwards, u could have stopped it from repeating. That is d truth. How else did u fall f him? did u just meet n then fall into bed n have mind altering sex? gimme a break. this is something u allowed develop over a period of time till it got t this point. don't come here crying d helpless/ liberated victim. open minded ke? there is Right and then there is Wrong. can't even believe wat ur doing t ur bf. that is just wicked n if u have any regard f urself n f him, u will Tell Him D Truth n stop being Selfish! Haba!! girls dse days make me sick. a married man? married t a woman like u?? u should be ashamed of urself. u madam r d worst sort of villian.. 4 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by DigitalSignal(m): 2:51am On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: Oh my left hand!!! You mean for the 4+ years that you've been together he never for once did the doable? Not even for once? And it was a married man, whose wife is giving overdose, that plucked everything!!! Wow, this is not fair! 7 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by dBard: 2:58am On May 13, 2013 |
MRbrownJAY: she should come correct. u can't b looking f a soft landing after throwing away 4 years. not @ all. we already know u selfish, u also a coward as well. there's no remorse here, just someone looking f a way t come out smelling clean while walking thru a shit house 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 7:09am On May 13, 2013 |
DigitalSignal: Oh my left hand!!! You mean for the 4+ years that you've been together he never for once did the doable? Not even for once? And it was a married man, whose wife is giving overdose, that plucked everything!!! Wow, this is not fair! [size=13pt]Unfair is an understatement. So many people involved. The hurt boyfriend, the hurt wife, hurt kids if the wife has any... so much pain because of a fickle woman getting involved with a fellow fickle being.[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Popowaa: 7:48am On May 13, 2013 |
Although what she did was bad i think u guys are been too harsh on her.As human beings sometimes we make mistakes and we learn from it. @ Op u just want to throw 4yrs away just like dat?First regret what u did cos u seem to justify ur action although u were wrong.If u keep justifying it u will see it as the right thing and by the time u reaize sleeping with married men will be a habit.regret ur actions come clean and beg ur boo for forgiveness even if he walks away u will have a clear mind and it will always remind u the next time u want to cheat that u lost smthing valuable the last time u tried. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Aleovera: 9:43am On May 13, 2013 |
Thank you all for sharing your opinions. For the very few who actually gave meaningful advice, it is highly apreciated. Someone (I think signalmind) mentioned that I intend to do right not because I love my boyfriend and that I was influenced by friends amongst other assumptions. That's another wrong assumption. Cheating actually has nothing to do with falling out of love with ones current partner. I think I was weak and thoughtless. Also, I do not have friends with low maral standards and this is the reason I can't even share my experience with them but chose to come here. As for all those who have cast stones, passed judgement and made silly assumptions, I am not in the least bit hurt by your words because you don't know my person and I understand that it is always easier to play self righteous! 5 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Aleovera: 9:52am On May 13, 2013 |
Actually, money and being "spoilt" are no where near the reasons why what happened did. Everything was totally unplanned. We met on the aircraft on board to accra. Infact, his friend was hitting on me and I completely rebuffed his advances. We all got talking and discovered we were going for the same conference. The coincidences afterwards were too much and it was all so innocent. All the while I thought I was in control and even when I sensed I was slipping, I spoke to him about it and he said he was totally harmless until the harm eventually occurred. In all of this, I have learnt never to say NEVER! Never to be so sure of my standards and take things for granted. 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by WackyJ1(m): 11:44am On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: All the while I thought I was in control and even when I sensed I was slipping, I spoke to him about it and he said he was totally harmless until the harm eventually occurred.When you should have run, you spoke to your predator that you thought he was going to eat you. What did you expect him to say? Is it wrong to have faith in our ladies? 5 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Enegod(m): 11:54am On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: All the while I thought I was in control and even when I sensed I was slipping, I spoke to him about it and he said he was totally harmless until the harm eventually occurred.most girls really do have fish brain... 5 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Mynd44: 11:57am On May 13, 2013 |
Enegod: most girls really do have fish brain...A lot, not most 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Caracta(f): 12:03pm On May 13, 2013 |
Ouch! Late again 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Enegod(m): 12:17pm On May 13, 2013 |
Mynd_44:abi 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by DigitalSignal(m): 1:49pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: So are you saying that you want to break-up with this married man because you just realized that you love your boyfriend? Seriously, is that it? And while weighing the the possibility of that, ones mind would be stretched to wander on the reason why you would ask a boyfriend so loved, and because of whom you want to end an affair, to be on a break, for no fault of his, while you sort your feelings with regards to a matter about which he should even be apologized to! That's the height of insult if you asked me! Asking your guy to go on a break after 4+ years because you got entangled with another guy and got confused as to who to stick with, is what you call being in love? If I were your boyfriend, that would be the end of whatever it was we had going! And you said you sensed you were falling for this guy and the wisest thing you could do was to call him and tell him how he's been able to penetrate your walls to have a pull at the strings of your heart!!! Your gleeful indulgence in ignorance as regards your actions is way beyond the limits of comprehension! Though am beginning to like you for being mature in your responses! 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 2:07pm On May 13, 2013 |
There is no need to over analyse the issue just leave the married man. Yes feeling cannot be switched off and on but how often do you see this man? who does most of the contact? 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 2:24pm On May 13, 2013 |
Married men are really enjoying nowadays.....chopping young sweet girls like nothing. Judgement day dey near o 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Okijajuju: 2:32pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: Hello house, 6 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by techie(m): 2:33pm On May 13, 2013 |
Enough with judging the OP already, all kinds of people cheat, good girls, bad girls, married men, single men, same for married women too Each for their own reason passion, revenge, greed, babies etc etc Definitely more than helf the Nairalanders have cheated or are cheating right now 5 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by devour129: 2:35pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: A friend said married men are very normal people, it is just that they are married! She said this when I once questioned how a girl would have inappropriate relations with a man, knowing he is married. We often feel we gat it under control and certain things are beneath us but alas...don't think you need advice,with ur write up,you sound like you know it all. Greedy girl 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by fpeter(f): 2:36pm On May 13, 2013 |
.......LET HIM/HER THAT IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE 1ST STONE 4 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by nexzy9: 2:37pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: Hello house, |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by yuzedo: 2:37pm On May 13, 2013 |
[size=18pt]CHILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/size] You didn't give your boyfriend the kpekus for four years, but you gave a married man?? LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm out! 7 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by devour129: 2:38pm On May 13, 2013 |
WackyJ1:she is a hoe,what you abhor you abhor. This one is a serial cheat.and when she gets married she will come here crying that hubby is cheating on her. 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by nwababy: 2:38pm On May 13, 2013 |
@OP,to come clean and accepting your wrong is not easy I must applaud you for that.First of all, you must reflect and acknowlegde the reason that made you to fall for a married man cos I believe in Karma.Often time,is always money that makes single girls to fall for this temptation;Gurl,I wouldn't judge you but will tell you the simple truth.YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR BOO cos if you do,you wouldn't dare sleep with another man not to talk of a married man;temptations are bound to happen especially if your Boo no too hold cos you wouldn't tell me you will sleep with a pauper married man.Once you are in love,you wouldn't want to hurt that person even if he's a pauper.I don't want to compare myself with you but,in the company were I work,is just like a competition dating a married man (I mean they can intimidate you with their dressing and not that they are finer than mua)but am not by any means pertubed.If you give room for any man be it married or single,they will come in and even occupy your bed space.My dear,even a Nun can fall into temptation if she allows herself.So,try and know why you fell for him and work on that cos when the situation arises a second time,who knows. 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by HonSuQMaDIQ(m): 2:42pm On May 13, 2013 |
ogugua88: [size=13pt]What I'm getting from this is that you once believed cheating was wrong, but because you're now a cheat yourself, your perspective has changed? Give me a break.Wat more can i say, cos u've said it all. That's why it's advisable to always love wit our head and not heart. The poor guy is busy nw wondering wat he did wrong to warant d gals withdrawal, while she's on Nairaland trying to launder adultery and probably still enjoying d married guy's BULALA. 6 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by hotwax: 2:43pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: Hello house, Dont come here and cry about how men are bad. Dont later come here complaining how your married husband goes after young girls. You have also tasted another woman's husband. Somebody will taste your own, and when it happens, dont claim to be innocent house-wife who is married to a promiscuous husband. Cheating is a chain reaction. You have started a chain. It will come back to you, because you are the start of the chain. 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Acidosis(m): 2:45pm On May 13, 2013 |
The easiest way to die young is to give all your love to a woman... While you're dating, make sure you face your business, family, career and future plans.. 7% attention to her; 90% attention to your job, religion, brothers, sisters, career etc... Don't give her more than 10% lest you fall into a very big unamendable disaster.... I don talk my own. 9 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by ChukChinCol(m): 2:47pm On May 13, 2013 |
I dont believe in cheating by mistake...u either a cheat or not. And cheating is a gradual process, u first conjure d idea repeated. Its a function of ua conscience 2 discard d tot or carry it on. In ua case u carried it on, dat makes u a cheat not a mistake. It depends on ua guy`s un'standin u can stil be curbed n contained. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by debosky(m): 2:49pm On May 13, 2013 |
Judgmental folk: get off your soap box for a moment and learn a lesson from the OP. She isn't 'justifying' what she did. She is simply saying that - like many of you - she felt it would never happen to her. This is a very important lesson. It can happen - that's the point of the thread, even to those who consider themselves 'above' such mistakes. Even those holding on to virginity as a shield are not immune. She's already broken off the relationship, as well as taking a break from the bf to clear her head. She cannot unphock the married man, so all your condemnation will not change a thing. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 2:53pm On May 13, 2013 |
Nollywood stuff |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by freecocoa(f): 2:55pm On May 13, 2013 |
What de feck is this OP on about? You should be ashamed of yourself, you obviously don't even know what you want. 1 Like |
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