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Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by SLIDEwaxie(m): 3:27pm On May 13, 2013 |
U people talk too much. Ask the OP: was she raped? No! So, wot has she been tryin to justify? Who do we blame for ur fall? Obviously, u are tryin to say anybody can do it, let no one tot she can't! Well, i can't blame u. There are at times wen u look at an object and u are SURE u will lift it! On gettin there, the first try says u can't. It's not by muscule! U were never dt strong before, u only tot u are! U can't give wot u dnt posses. all d bla bla abt wot u bilived u wont do and u went back to do is nothin bla bla bla! U never possessed any moral value before, u only tot u did. Girls who do dnt do dt, they neva can! 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:28pm On May 13, 2013 |
Lol at responses . @ OP When it's all sunshine and roses, it's easy for us to make grand promises and pledge allegiances. Very few persons can really rightly predict what they would do when shít hits the fan. Beneath our thin veneer of intellect and morality is a MASSIVE animal core. That was your inner cavewoman shinning through all the social 'programming' you've been exposed to all your life. Don't beat up yourself. Now, you have a better understanding of 'yourself' and others too. You're now less judgemental and have an increased tolerance for other people's supposed 'excesses'. ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR YOUR GOOD . 5 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:30pm On May 13, 2013 |
chukkynwob: Please oh before we murder the OP...he without sin shpuld cast the first stone, Pls what's the worst that can happen to cheatMost people cheat this days for various reasons.Some live to face the consequences,while some gets away with it.Some just change along the line. @op,Clear your head and move on with your life with someone else that's not married.Best of luck |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by braxjay(m): 3:30pm On May 13, 2013 |
Dear Aleovera, you deserve to be cheated, frustrated in every relationship, and more importantly, u deserve to have your hubby in future ripped apart by younger hot babes for you lack of focus. yours sincerely braxjay 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by chukkynwob(m): 3:30pm On May 13, 2013 |
Toks2008: I am tired of reading these type of stories abeg. Well said... Love is HIGHLY OVERATED. 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by chukkynwob(m): 3:33pm On May 13, 2013 |
braxjay: Dear Aleovera, Lol get off your high horse.... |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:33pm On May 13, 2013 |
fpeter: .......LET HIM/HER THAT IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE 1ST STONE A cheat will always support another Cheat. Now u can stone yourself at least 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Boss13: 3:34pm On May 13, 2013 |
Jonwesley: First of all the op to me is a guy, from the manner in which the story was presented and just looking for a way to create a conversation. Even though cheating can happen depending on the choices we make, any body with the set of values as described cannot behave so let alone decides to ask for a break from the relationship. It's alien to me, my mind anyway or whateverrrrrrrrr. Smart guy. I thought I was the only person who notice the OP is a guy. |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by naijathings(m): 3:34pm On May 13, 2013 |
instead of making it look presentable and pretty by saying You cheated on your boyfriend with a married man.. why don't you come out and really say it how it is.. [size=18pt]YOU better.. thats what it really is. so now you might as well tell us .... [size=16pt]how long you have been furcking the married man, how you sneak into hotels or did u furck him on his matrimonial bed? or back seat of his car? did you enjoy it? how did you guys meet? what is it that he does differently from your boyfriend that makes you go back for more and even Love him..? when last you guys did it ?? how you manage to hide from the wife and kids ... and all the lies you tell your boyfriend when he suspects..[/size] at least, let us learn something from you too. okay.. start talking. abi no be so? 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by ChiSun27(m): 3:37pm On May 13, 2013 |
Fada in H'vn plz...help dis lady cus she's so confused...cus me I dont undastnd y she cheated with a married man n not even a single man n stil thinks of d married man...chukwu mere gi ebere ooooooo!!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Kassidy90(m): 3:38pm On May 13, 2013 |
its been long since i comment on any topic but this one got my attention, @op firstly i agreed with you nobody is above mistake, faliing in love with another woman's man let assume its a mistake, but from another point of view i think u did it intentionally because if not, why would you ask yor guy to give you a break, with my own knowledge i think getting closer to your guy now is the best way for you to get rid of whatever feelings you have for the other man, though am not judging you but you are one of the reasons some guys always have back up...... 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:39pm On May 13, 2013 |
naijathings: instead of making it look presentable and pretty by saying You cheated on your boyfriend with a married man.. Bros, easy o. E be like your babe finish you too . 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:39pm On May 13, 2013 |
@OP,forget abt telling ur bf about the whole ish and i wud simply advise you to cut off any means of contacts or communication with d married man and that's if truly u are serious to put an end to the affair. Obviously he's gotten sth things ur bf lacks and I guess he's a pro too,so imo u jes av to run far far frm him. Cos d married he's jes avin fun n catchin trips with you. Gof help you |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by colombiana: 3:41pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: Hello house,yeah yeah yeah blah blah blah all women are cheats dear and av a prize a man just nidto come up with the prize and I guess the married man came up with urs don't worry dear wen ur married ur huzzy wud come up with anoda younger fresher ladies prize wen ur old and sagged and I guess we wud see it on nairaland. Clap for ursef 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:41pm On May 13, 2013 |
ogugua88: This is an inspired post. I am not sure whether the poster is telling the truth because she actually seems happy with what she has done. Poster, if the story is true then you deserve a slap. Do unto others like you want them to do unto you. When you grow older, some girl will cheat with your husband and will even drive you out of you matrimonial home because that is exactly what you deserve. 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by hardbody: 3:42pm On May 13, 2013 |
ogugua88: You are right and most times really you are spot on. However, i dislike your high moral standing especially when one has admitted to being in error and is more or less seeking help (as it were). Admitting to a crime is one thing, seeking to make amends is another. that is why in law we have what they call 'Plea of Allocutus'. It allows a judge to look at the circumstances, your demeanour, mien and carriage in the course of the trial and determine how remorseful you are or have become and may then choose to temper justice with mercy. Please cut this OP a slack. She needs help not vituperative darts of words. And by the way, i am assuming this post is true and correct. I have reasons to believe it is basically a farce. However my opinion would not have changed either way. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by babadem2much(m): 3:43pm On May 13, 2013 |
[quote author=ogugua88][size=13pt]What I'm getting from this is that you once believed cheating was wrong, but because you're now a cheat yourself, your perspective has changed? Give me a break. As far as I'm concerned, cheating is one of the worst forms of disrespect to a partner or spouse, and people who cheat are discontented and highly undisciplined human beings. There is such a thing as self-control. In your case, it's not that you lost control, but that you know what's right and wrong and have chosen to do wrong on more than one occasion. You are giving yourself to another woman's husband. What does marriage even mean to you, if anything at all? I'm assuming you want to get married one day. Isn't marriage a sacred union that people are supposed to hold at high regard? If you're disrespecting and desecrating another woman's union, what makes you think yours should even be average, let alone sweet? How on earth could you even take a break with your boyfriend? If you loved him at all, you wouldn't even consider leaving him for another woman's husband. You told him you need a break as if you're the one that's being hurt. Add the word "selfish" along with discontented and highly undisciplined please. You are not just wrong, but double wrong. If you have any ounce of morality left in you, come clean with your boyfriend and let him go. I wonder what he's done to deserve having an adulterer as a girlfriend. And we wonder why STDs are rampant. Shey na 2013? Smh.[/size][/quote] you are a true child of ur parent, with all this write up, wish you HML now n 4eva, gud upbringing n kudos 2 u 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by colombiana: 3:44pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: Hello house,yeah yeah yeah blah blah blah all women are cheats dear and av a prize a man just nidto come up with the prize and I guess the married man came up with urs don't worry dear wen ur married ur huzzy wud come up with anoda younger fresher ladies prize wen ur old and sagged and I guess we wud see it on nairaland. Clap for ursef |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Odinaka00(m): 3:45pm On May 13, 2013 |
Aleovera: I really do feel a lot better. Guess I didn't know how much weight I have been carrying around. Thank you MrbrownJay and Wacky. Your opinions are highly valued. Ogugua thanks too. Your response was just the harsh truth I needed to hear. Keeping us posted wil be quite unneccessary dear cuz you didn't keep us posted when you were furnicating with a married man....you re just a cheap LovePeddler my dear, hw would you feel if somebody dat you love or someone dat yu ve loved 4 a whole 4yrs nw breaks ya heart just 4 no meaningful reason? I just hate to read craps like this on nl....GTFOH 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:46pm On May 13, 2013 |
hardbody: You are right and most times really you are spot on. [size=13pt]I wouldn't have come out swinging if I had detected an iota of remorse in her post. Instead she begged everyone not to judge her and came to Nairaland hoping to receive sugarcoated advice. It's not about me having high morals. It's about the OP doing heinous acts and expecting someone to pet her head and tell her everything is okay. I don't even know if she's telling the truth or not. She started her post saying she has a boyfriend. Now she's engaged to be married. Confusion everywhere.[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Oliverpat(m): 3:46pm On May 13, 2013 |
She was calling for a detailed information how she can get out the hook not being baised. poeple in such circumstance should be able to give her a good guide line for her to unhook herself. Let her post and help her simple...she is so desparate to unhook herself out from the MARRIED MAN. |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by naijathings(m): 3:48pm On May 13, 2013 |
Richfella: [size=14pt]you think say I get time to worry about who my babe furck or who she no furck? Me I have nothing against the O.P if she furck alll the married men in the world even Obama but I am just saying she should not try to pain the story if she is really sorry to make it look innocent like she is feeling guilty cos she is not and I can bet my last dollar that she is definitely going to furck the married guy 3 more times before the year runs out. no be today nyash dey for back[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Nobody: 3:49pm On May 13, 2013 |
Oliverpat.: [size=13pt]No, she's not, because she said she loves the married man.[/size] 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Acidosis(m): 3:50pm On May 13, 2013 |
Jastombutex11: buhahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha... I think I need to drop this line here; "Only a f00l would want to learn from his own mistakes; If you must learn, learn from the mistakes of others." -Acidosis 3 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by bayowhoelse: 3:53pm On May 13, 2013 |
As for me you did not state the main reason for you to be cheating on your guy......hmmm forget about being principled or whatever you calld it....girls with material finz Kuku ma tel us dat d man in question is loaded(rich) compare 2ur guy 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by PrettySpicey(f): 3:56pm On May 13, 2013 |
@Ogugua88 thank u for dat load of good sense n frank talk. Now @Aloevera, welcome to NL. Don't u dare try to justify cheating/unfaithfulness - there's no excuse for it. You got it right when you saw cheating as an act by discontented n undisciplined people. N as Ogugua said - selfish people. Listen, no one has the perfect man/woman by their side. N that married man u profess to be in love with? He is not perfect n i know u know that already, as he is already cheating on his wife with u. No partner is perfect . But when we make a commitment n give our word to our significant other, we owe it not just to them but above all to ourselves to keep that word for that is our proof of integrity. So there's no 'matured talk' necessary. There's only being truthful with ur partner n taking full responsibility for your actions. N finally let go another woman's man. Thank u. 2 Likes |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Acidosis(m): 3:58pm On May 13, 2013 |
Here is another quote; “Smart people learn from their mistakes. But the real sharp ones learn from the mistakes of others.” ― Brandon Mull, Fablehaven 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by born2fuckpussy: 4:03pm On May 13, 2013 |
Sharia law but I cheat too |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by Zechy09: 4:04pm On May 13, 2013 |
[b][/b]@OP, The truth about life is that the world is filled with pretenders and like you said, many people will keep saying you are stupid and that such will never happen to them . To me, the purpose of the thread is "NEVER SAY NEVER". Only the intelligent or mature minds will understand where you are coming from. People like Ogugua88 may not because they have not experienced some things in life. My Experience When i was in university, i used to follow up people that would always say they are in perfect control and would never succomb to temptation, it was my little experiment, i would follow them up until i sleep with them just to prove to myself that they are like everyother girl. This sometimes took more than a year (mind you, they all knew my girlfriend.) I also allowed my friend who was interested in my ex to continue being friends with her just because she said she would never sleep with any of my friends. Guess what! after 14months he slept with her! Bottom line, never say never! cos nobody knows what temptation the OP faced. Many would succomb much quicker than she did. I can bet she knows now not to trust her natural ability to resist. Learn from it and move on! 1 Like |
Re: I Cheated On My Boyfriend With A Married Man - Please Advise by AdexOmoby(f): 4:05pm On May 13, 2013 |
ogugua88: [size=13pt]What I'm getting from this is that you once believed cheating was wrong, but because you're now a cheat yourself, your perspective has changed? Give me a break.I wanna like your comments a hundred times! You were able to see beneath the lines...! I am impressed! To the poster, remember: "God is not mocked, whatever a man sows, same he shall reap" She could not even come to tell her bobo plainly that she cheated on him, rather she choose to say she needed a break Gosh! You disgust me! 5 Likes |
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