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Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Caracta(f): 11:17am On Oct 25, 2013 |
debosky: That's not a problem. We can start from the palace |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by UyiIredia(m): 11:19am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Wu Zetian: I'll take you more seriously on packaging if you marry a beggar. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Danhumprey: 11:21am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Caracta:Exactly! Fact is: if you wanna date/marry(most especially marriage) someone,let that person be the complete opposite of you. Though in some case,the person may not be perfectly the opposite of you,but let he/she be different from you,so you both can complement each other. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:21am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Caracta: If I didn't already know that your initial conviction derived from Tim Lahaye's book, I would have been completely thrown just now. Didn't Tim explain that we are not single temperaments. We are mixtures. A MelPhleg, for instance, would be typically attracted to a MelSan. Why? There're qualities in the San that the Phleg will find novel and vice versa. But only the Mel makes it possible for both to see these qualities in the first place because the Mel automatically pulls them toward each other. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by debosky(m): 11:21am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Holy Lord in Heaven! Expressions of respect are not he same as respect itself. In your Yoruba land, I have to prostrate to greet elderly people. In my Igbo land, I offer two hands for a handshake with a slightly bowed head. They are both expressions of respect. But they mean the same freaking thing: respect to the older ones. You don come again. ![]() Do you consider it malicious to offer your wife as 'company' to a visitor as is done in the Arctic? They think it's respectful, but you don't I guess? The interpretation is in the eyes of the person receiving the 'act' of respect. It is not solely in the meaning intended by the person carrying it out. If you prostrate for an Igbo man who is unaware of Yoruba culture, will he regard the act as respectful? My message is simple - my idea of respect and how it is shown must match my partner's. There is no universal standard when it comes to that. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by debosky(m): 11:24am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Wu Zetian: Hehehe. . . .some packaging looks so good, you won't even think of it as packaging. ![]() Maybe we're getting hung up on the word though - the fact is that you can present yourself in a way that highlights your good parts and reduces emphasis on the not so good. It's not a bad thing and definitely helps in wading through the numerous potential mates out there. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by UjSizzle(f): 11:25am On Oct 25, 2013 |
You people talk too much. We have this same topic discussed in 3 different threads ![]() When i'm less busy, i'll feel more inclined to argue. Till then..... |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:26am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia:So a beggar that packages himself as a millionaire is better than a beggar that doesn't?? Have you considered thinking through your thoughts before posting them?? |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by debosky(m): 11:26am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Caracta: #Let'sGoThere ![]() PS - what/where is the palace? |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:27am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Graham123: To each his/her own. If any lady wants the bad then may God help her. But from Ihedinobi's point of view, why do ladies exhaust their life and expend all the good things they have to offer to the bad guys only to want to settle down with nice guys for marriage. No man wants a used lady, especially not the nice ones who have stood by an exemplary principle all their lives. Preach it, brotha! |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:29am On Oct 25, 2013 |
debosky: There is! Or else there is no possibility of or point in person-to-person or people-group-to-people-group relationship. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Caracta(f): 11:30am On Oct 25, 2013 |
debosky: I'm tired of arguing biko. The palace? You don't know? Chei! |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by GeneralShepherd(m): 11:30am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Be a nice guy, but never bend over too much for another human being, always remember that the only useful thing you can do with a doormat is wipe your feet on it- Don't be a DOORMAT. Signed General Shepherd |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Danhumprey: 11:31am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Matthew briggs:You're not entirely wrong about that. Most women don't know what they really want. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by UjSizzle(f): 11:31am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Caracta:babe,u still at work? I'm heading that way. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:32am On Oct 25, 2013 |
y-fo: Is nice = non-confrontational/non-assertive? In which dictionary? Puhleeeeeeeease! |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:36am On Oct 25, 2013 |
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Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:36am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Caracta: True not everything is in black and white. Taste differs and perception is subjective. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by debosky(m): 11:39am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: The concept of respect is universal, but it is the acts (which aren't universal) that demonstrate respect not so? This is why both parties must understand what respect means to each other in order to have a relationship. Maybe that wasn't clear in my previous post. If, for example, I consider respect to be kneeling down to serve me food while my partner considers it humiliating, we have a problem. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:40am On Oct 25, 2013 |
debosky: You just proved a point that I didn't want to bother making. Anybody would get lazy to maintain a facade. Who you really are is what cements any damn relationship! |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by debosky(m): 11:41am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Caracta: Hmm. . .I don't want to miss road oh, since everything is relative. ![]() That's one thing I learned from relationships - always ask for confirmation. Assume nothing, not even when talking to your own townswoman. ![]() |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:42am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Gospel truth bro! |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:42am On Oct 25, 2013 |
debosky: And how do you truly resolve the problem without appealing to an impartial, all-embracing standard? |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by UjSizzle(f): 11:43am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Ihedinobi:literally) A male person who has a pleasant, friendly manner. idiomatic, euphemism) An inoffensive adult male who desires romantic companionship but who is too bland and uninspiring to be attractive. That's a dictionary definition of a nice guy. But since we've made it our business as humans to use words out of their original meaning, i'll say the definition of a 'nice guy' is subject to different individuals. You can't define it, cause who A views as a nice guy could be a Jerk to B. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by princesa(f): 11:44am On Oct 25, 2013 |
uj_sizzle:Till then, can we go sail that ship you promised? My head is wobbly with so much unnecessary arguments on here ![]() |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by debosky(m): 11:45am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Yes, but that still doesn't negate the (limited) usefulness of the facade - as I said, it's purpose is to catch the attention of the other party. Once that is achieved, one hopes the 'substance' behind the facade is sufficient to keep the other party interested. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:46am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Danhumprey: You're not entirely wrong about that. Most women don't know what they really want. Good thing you see my point ![]() |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by UjSizzle(f): 11:48am On Oct 25, 2013 |
princesa:lol ofcoz darling, we can sail the ship. Beautiful weather and just the right amount of wind ![]() Come with your swim suit, we're gonna dive ![]() |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by debosky(m): 11:48am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: You can't always resolve it - for some the cultural expressions of respect cannot be separated from the concept of respect. For others their practices are so deeply ingrained that they refuse to countenance something different. As always, if we don't agree (or at least compromise), we can't enter into/maintain a relationship. I've never denied the universal concept exists though - only that it's expression is the ultimate test. If we don't match on that level, there is a problem which may or may not be resolvable. |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Nobody: 11:48am On Oct 25, 2013 |
debosky: Oh ok. I'm about the destination and you're about the journey? Fine, but if I'm on the line that runs from Lagos to Kano, I'm not likely to ever get to Umuahia unless I change lines or get to Kano and head back toward Umuahia, no? |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by Caracta(f): 11:50am On Oct 25, 2013 |
uj_sizzle: Yes. But not for long. 12noon. Remember? Matthew briggs: Isn't that what we've been trying to preach to them? |
Re: For Them Nice Guys Like Graham And Danhumphrey by UjSizzle(f): 11:52am On Oct 25, 2013 |
Don't I loove my dictionary ![]() Proverb Nice Guys Finish Last People who are decent, friendly, and agreeable tend to be unsuccessful because they are outmaneuvered or overwhelmed by others who are not so decent, friendly, or agreeable. |
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