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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by nerodenero: 4:24pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Kanwulia: |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by venous(f): 4:24pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
@op, if u ask me, na who I go ask? d matter wey u see so, e tey wey e start... *singing* 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Arosa(m): 4:25pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I think It's all about pride. Some peeps will insult you if you attempt to help them. That is why I only help peeps that ask or beg for help. 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by constance500: 4:25pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
To help dem as in... Shey to help dem find belle ni abi 2 give dem a lift.. 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 4:26pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Op, sorry for your friend. I have had my own experience of ungrateful women. I dont help women anymore, i rather help men or beggars, i dont know. Btw, for this same reason, i have decided i will marry a rich working class woman and not the poor wicked leeches i used to think were humble... 9 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by chinedumo(m): 4:27pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
E be like say women don run from this thread. Lol @op i know this is true though i am not sure if this trait is percuilar with females alone. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by nerodenero: 4:28pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
dabrake:BADOOO 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by AreaFada2: 4:30pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Arosa: @Op, it's human. Not just Nigerian or women.. Spot on. Humans are generally ungrateful. You see it among Naija women because you deal with them in your Naija environment or social circle. Agreed Naija case is particularly bad. Number 1 is lucky that the lady is not working in his company. Don't be surprised if she would somehow engineer his sack from that company. I helped a Naija woman who was like 7 months pregnant when she arrived in Europe. You know some women 7 months pregnant can have small tummy like 5 months pregnancy. When she delivered I was helping her with the authorities, birth registration, translating for her, being a non-English speaking country. She later told the authorities that I was responsible for the pregnancy. Just because they put her under pressure to declare who the dad was to ensure he pays child support. Nna, na so I see oyinbo officials land for my house to interview me. A woman I just pitied, never knew her before, not my girlfriend. No be small thing o. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 4:31pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
danbabe: I wonder what the average age range of people on this site is. Ask d mods to give u d statistics 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 4:32pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Area-Fada:lmao, this is very funny, so what happened to her? Did she get deported? 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by soulglo: 4:33pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
So these are traits unique to women? I have learned something new today |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Arosa(m): 4:35pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Area-Fada: Could it be she was in love with you? |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Brymo: 4:37pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
bigheart2013: Sorrycalm down,women r d most grateful personality,in d whole wrd. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by adconline(m): 4:37pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
yerima11: I helped my gf secured accomodation while in school and I took some of my furnitures in my room and fix it in there for her. After some time, one fat Igbo guy start sleeping in the room with her and when I confront her, she said the guy is teaching her Anotomy 211 (lol). Later she dumped me and move on with the Igbo guy and the guy also, later dumped her very well. I locked up and loosed her.Next time, improve your English and you will not get dumped. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by richoko60: 4:40pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I don't think this is exclusive to Nigerian women, it happens everywhere, people will always be ingrate and greedy especially blacks, Any help you offer to anyone, don't expect anything in return, Expectation always hurt 3 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by nora544: 4:42pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Xsolutions: Nigerian women most especially the young ones have been trained and engineered to think of themselves more Highly than they ought to...therefore they are unruly and proud with a hardened and seared conscience and that is why many of them don't make great wives I know also such a woman, selfish, make an advertisment in an newspaper that she is now married that all ther document will have the new name, but 8 month after this she start with her PHD in an other country and there he use her maiden name, what do you think about such a wife because her husband has ony a BSc. degree and he pay her stay in the other country. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by bigheart2013(m): 4:46pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
iskalamong: (1) THE CAUSE: Thanks and God bless you for addressing my questions. I want to keep helping but asked the questions to know how to avoid the pitfall of others. I have a little 26yrs old sister. After the death of our mom, being the last born and only girl, she became the queen of the family. I saw her through university in Nigeria. She's in Canada now doing her masters at almost $36,000 USD. Being the oldest son I sold one house, and going through 'hell' now to pay her tuition in Canada. I just don't want to ever think she will be ungrateful to me one day after this. I haven't even married because of carrying the burden of others. Maybe my expectations from them is high. I just don't want to regret all this one day. This is why I'm asking experienced people for guide. I got some points already. God bless you all. 3 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 4:47pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
richoko60: I don't think this is exclusive to Nigerian women, it happens everywhere, people will always be ingrate and greedy especially blacks, Any help you offer to anyone, don't expect anything in return, Expectation always hurt Hmmm I'd say it's in all human - whichever colour. The same ingrates only come to you when they are in need of something. 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by EreluY(f): 4:47pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
A friend, for my sake, helped one of my siblings secured job in a one of the really good banks in Nigeria. My sister has since distanced herself from both of us (my friend and I). FOR EVERY HELP I RENDERED, PEOPLE HAVE ROBBED MY NOSE IN IT & I'VE SIMPLY STOPPED HELPING PEOPLE EVEN IF & WHEN I CAN. I NOW JUST MAKE EXCUSES AND WISH THEM GOOD LUCK. PERIOD. 4 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Iaz93: 4:48pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Khalessi: If the guys on nairaland are indeed the voice of Nigerian men, I pity our ladies.No! Pity yourself instead. The OP didn't generalize. So why the fuss? 6 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by freecocoa(f): 4:51pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Can the bashing of naija females stop already? Its a human thing to be ungrateful, its not exclusive to naija females alone, nonsense. 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by JonCina(m): 4:51pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
It is very simple. It is already a FACT that some people return evil for the help received from you! It is also established that what you do not think of doesn't affect you. Now to manage this, when helping others(ladies inclusive), never expect gratitude in return. Do it because u want to impart a life. With this mentality, inconvenience as a result of "ashes for beauty" would be drastically reduced if not eliminated. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by gaburiel(m): 4:52pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
It is a natural something. For more details, ask Sultan. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Dannylux: 4:52pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
dabrake: bet why are you wicked? 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by tivta(m): 4:54pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
This is serious. Now i see why most naija guys always demand for sex before helping a woman out. I have always known never to help a woman or man unless its something i can also give to a begger without expecting anything in return. The only time i can go out of my comfort zone to help anyone is if its a matter of life and death. He so ever forgets when you help them when they are on their sick bed, have karma to answer to. So guys, dont become mr generous to the point of being broke(although its mostly women who will call you stingy when you refuse to spend, guys on the under hand are more understanding) 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Arosa(m): 4:54pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by StateOfMind: 4:56pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
bigheart2013: Mr, what exactly is your problem? Do you help people just because you want them to worship you after the help rendered? I can't even believe you are already lamenting and whining about helping your own blood sister. You should be ashamed of yourself. I also don't understand how being ungrateful is now a gender thing. I bet if a non-nigerian came here to generalise about nigerians being ungrateful, many posters would have pounced on him and cursed him for the foolish generalization. Now every BOY has a story to tell about ungrateful nigerian women. You all need to grown up and learn to see beyond your noses.. Awon a se ni loore loso ti oshi. On another note, its like some of you Nigerian men will not breathe well or feel good about yourselves until you diss the female folks. Does it in anyway boost you already low esteem? Nonsense. 5 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by WackyJ1(m): 4:56pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Khalessi: Can these jobless douchebags on nairaland stop making the Nigerian female look bad!!!! This nonsense points you've just listed ain't exclusive to Nigerians ladies only, people from all over the world do it. SeunPlus: This same traits is also found in men, and even greater. freecocoa:Why do Ladies like defending themselves with the same thing.. Last last they will use their favourite defense "All Girls are not the same. It must be the girls that you Move around with that are ungrateful" 4 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 4:57pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
is dia anyfin like NIGERIA |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Jayuba(m): 4:57pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Nigerian ladies dont think deep. Their brains are under their sleepers. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Waspy(m): 4:57pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Nigerian women have learn't to be cynical......its a general misconception in Naija that " nothing goes for nothing" 1 Like 1 Share |
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