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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Kaylize76:no holes in it. ask people around me. they think i am crazy. i dont tell anyone my birthday cuz i dont want you sending me anything. i like to keep a no strings attached kinda friendship with people. its liberating. you should try it |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 8:59pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GoodFaith: obadiah777: no holes in it. ask people around me. they think i am crazy. i dont tell anyone my birthday cuz i dont want you sending me anything. i like to keep a no strings attached kinda friendship with people. its liberating. you should try itperfect answer. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by luvola(m): 8:59pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
bigheart2013:i reside in lagos .thanks and God bless you |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 9:00pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GentleMimi:YOU. For ur mind o |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:04pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:05pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
tomtyte02:brah ? just give the man the ten percent and move on. you both work in the same place so it is good for your rest of mind and your friendship. and lets face it without him you would have 100 percent of nothing. so if you give him ten percent you still have 90 percent of something right ? ninety percent of something is better than 100 percent of nothing right ? do the right thing and mend your friendship. 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GentleMimi: 9:05pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
lirusehn: YOU. For ur mind oWerrin do my mind? |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 9:08pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GentleMimi:ur mind fit dey push u nhow abi? |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:09pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Double post |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Ishilove: 9:11pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Kaylize76: |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GentleMimi: 9:12pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
lirusehn: ur mind fit dey push u nhow abi?a Are u lost or confused? If u've got a problem wif me,come outright and say it ooo.I no sabi u,abeg.I d'nt have time for grudges.So WHAT is ur problem? |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:12pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
bigheart2013: Sorry to bother good nairalander again with another thread back-to-back. Please help me solve this puzzle. Why is that each time someone helps most (not all) Nigeria woman it ends up either in a drama, scandal, enmity or chaos?I am a victim of this! I thank God for internet, men need to learn that the best set of people to help in life as a man is your fellow men. If u must help a woman, do it without any expectation and do it with your eyes wide open. Women see men as a ladder....and people don't always drag the ladder up after using the ladder to climb up. The world is indeed wicked & selfish!!! Both Nigerian men and women do exhibit this attitude of ungratefulness, but its more with Nigerian women. If u like attack or insult me, I am speaking from personal experiences and true life stories. People are just wicked, selfish and inconsiderate in this life, especially black people (Nigerian people)! 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 9:13pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
DailyNews: I am also a victim! I thank God for internet, men need to learn that the best set of people to help in life as a man is your fellow men. If u must help a woman, do it without any expectation and do it with your eyes wide open. Women see men as a ladder....and people don't always drag the ladder up after using the ladder to climb up. The world is indeed vanity!!! And people are just wicked, selfish and inconsiderate in this life, especially black people (Nigerian people)! |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Ishilove: 9:13pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: no holes in it. ask people around me. they think i am crazy. i dont tell anyone my birthday cuz i dont want you sending me anything. i like to keep a no strings attached kinda friendship with people. its liberating. you should try itObadiah ti de...ha, you can lie ooooo!!! |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 9:14pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GentleMimi:now u knw me. Ba3 almst down. Lera |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GentleMimi: 9:20pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
lirusehn: now u knw me. Ba3 almst down. Lerahmmm,i cn't remember u.But no qualms. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by ifebosco: 9:23pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Area-Fada:l know is very disgusting, but you still have paternity test |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Arosa(m): 9:24pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
lirusehn: i wud rather u looked at wot fluency demands That is irrelevant in this case, You can say Nigerian women or Nigeria's women, they are both correct. But not Nigeria women. Get it? When used as an adjective (i.e. someone's nationality), the correct form is 'Nigerian'. http://www.englishclub.com/vocabulary/world-countries-nationality.htm |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:26pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Its sad though, but the attitude of people nowadays isn't encouraging, even here on nairaland people exhibit that same selfishness and wickedness. Some find pleasure in rubbishing other peoples names. Some do turn against good people that once helped them here directly or indirectly, thinking that being grateful or showing appreciation to those people doesn't matter since its online, y bother. Its good to appreciate anyone who helps u in life no matter how little the help maybe...to encourage them to help more people and for ur own future. As for Nigerian women and ungratefulness, I think most see it as their birthright to get help from men! Most women naturally expect every man they come across to help them without them helping any man. Most Nigerian women believe that any man that helps them is doing so for sex purpose or sexual reward and for this, they see it as their birthright not to appreciate any man that helps them. How many women that drive cars stop to give men lift in Nigeria? They will give excuses of being afraid of rape, robbery, blah, blah, blah. But when a man stops with a Royce Rolls or Bentley to give them lift, they won't be afraid of being raped or used for rituals, they will just jump in excitedly but will never give any stranded man lift when they acquire a car in future. Honestly, black women, Nigerian women need to start thinking inwardly and also advice themselves for good. This isn't bashing cos I won't benefit anything if I bash women here...whatever I advice women here, I do so to my female relatives and any female I come across. Nigerian men wants to see some positive changes in our today women, even those that are keeping quiet aren't happy with the situation, take it or leave it, life goes on. Its for the good of those who have ears to listen and practice what's good. Goodnight all 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by ifebosco: 9:27pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I am a victim of this! I thank God for internet, men need to learn that the best set of people to help in life as a man is your fellow men. If u must help a woman, do it without any expectation and do it with your eyes wide open. Women see men as a ladder....and people don't always drag the ladder up after using the ladder to climb up. The world is indeed wicked & selfish!!! Both Nigerian men and women do exhibit this attitude of ungratefulness, but its more with Nigerian women. If u like attack or insult me, I am speaking from personal experiences and true life stories.[b][/b]you said it all with one error,not only black people.ours is too much because of extreme poverty |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Ngokafor: @op i think there's something seriously wrong with you,worse with touts that agreed with you..Oh you better SHUT UP and think with you BRAIN for a moment and not your emotions...we are talking about MOST WOMEN and not ALL WOMEN...besides the poster has the right to express his observations... |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by NEROSKY(m): 9:35pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
yerima11: I helped my gf secured accomodation while in school and I took some of my furnitures in my room and fix it in there for her. After some time, one fat Igbo guy start sleeping in the room with her and when I confront her, she said the guy is teaching her Anotomy 211 (lol). Later she dumped me and move on with the Igbo guy and the guy also, later dumped her very well. I locked up and loosed her.You nailed it |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:45pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Some guys are like: 1 Like
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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by ikennahill: 9:51pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
helping a woman is like breaking palm kernnel for fowl to eat |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Michyeddy(f): 9:52pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I've learnt not to expect too much from people cos its in the human nature to forget good deeds done for them..but still,..i find it rather appalling to some attitudes of some ladies..i'm nt a feminist and so i'll say the truth the way it is..if only ladies can work to earn their cash,we won't be receiving the insults we get and if indeed we get favors by pipo who actually care,there's nothing wrong in saying thankyou and meaning it...ladies,we need to restore our dignity. 4 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 9:57pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Michyeddy: I've learnt not to expect too much from people cos its in the human nature to forget good deeds done for them..but still,..i find it rather appalling to some attitudes of some ladies..i'm nt a feminist and so i'll say the truth the way it is..if only ladies can work to earn their cash,we won't be receiving the insults we get and if indeed we get favors by pipo who actually care,there's nothing wrong in saying thankyou and meaning it...ladies,we need to restore our dignity.1,000,000 likes for this wonderful comment from a DIGNIFIED LADY...this immediately separates her from the rest of the majority of our young ladies who believe it is their RIGHT and not a PRIVILEGDE to receive help from both male and female alike... |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 10:00pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
For instance, in present day Nigeria, we have more young ladies working in good companies than young guys, and this owe tribute to some men who helped those ladies out of pity, romance, God or as a way of trying to empower women in Nigeria. But ask yourself how many of these young ladies working in good companies have helped a young man still struggling to survive? Instead most of them are still busy searching for Goodluck to help them become minister. How many young ladies in Nigeria from wealthy family backgrounds have helped a young man to become somebody either by helping him secure a job, get contract, business link, etc? I am sure very very few when compared to the number of guys who have helped ladies in Nigeria become rich and comfortable. The problem is that our Nigerian women are naturally stingy, selfish, pompous and wicked, yes, including my own sisters. I do tell them too. A young man earning 2million naira a year can sacrifice 1million for his siblings and parents and another 100thousand naira for his girlfriend, but a young Nigerian lady earning 5million naira a month will hardly or never sacrifice 100thousand naira for her siblings or parents to talk of her boyfriend or a man she doesn't know, only very few of them do it. I ask again, how many Nigerian women do give men car lift even after church service? Hardly can u see a Nigerian lady give a strange guy car lift, even if he's her church member or colleague...very rare and difficult for Nigerian women, why? How many Nigerian women treat their maids like humans? Most carry their maids at the back seat of their car just to tell the whole world that she is a maid and not related to her. So many things are wrong with our Nigerian sisters. And anytime I observe my mother try to exhibit any of those useless traits most Nigerian women exhibit, I don't waste time in cautioning her, including my sister....and I thank God my efforts and that of my other male siblings helped to shape my mother and sister well. We guys need to take it as a task to educate and put our sisters, mother, aunts, girlfriends and wives to order if we must make a positive change in this becos from my years of observation, our Nigerian women are naturally wicked, selfish, and inconsiderate, especially towards men who aren't their lovers, and its very bad cos its causing men to treat them with disdain and dislike even when they act like they care. Guys pls start counselling your sisters, mother, aunts, girlfriends and wives for good. Don't ignore...and don't just come only online to shout....also educate them at home, school, work (if possible), and at church. All men of God and religious leaders also have a key role to play in shaping the Nigerian women for good pls. 8 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 10:04pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
That is a fairly accurate belief, but I don't see anything wrong with that; there's nothing like free lunch in this life, especially when one (helper) has needs that can be met by the other ('helpee'). It is quite simple: either accept the help knowing that you are obliged to pay back in kind, or reject the help knowing that it is not worth the sexual favours you'd be expected to give in return. Shikena. Since women already know that most men would want 'something' in return for helping them, they are in a good position to decide before-hand whether or not to ask for/accept/reject the help. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by kraftyiyk: 10:09pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
INGRATITUDE RUNS IN THE DNA OF MOST NIGERIAN WOMEN, ESPECIALLY THE POOR ONES, WHICH EXPLAINS WHY THEY ARE POOR ANYWAY, IT,S ALWAYS BETTER TO HELP A GUY THAN A GIRL, UNLESS D GIRL IS READY TO PAY IN KIND, ONLY THEN IS SHE FREE TO DISPLAY HER MISBEHAVIOR.....HE WHO HAVE GOT EARS, LET HIM HEAR. 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 10:25pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
DailyNews: For instance, in present day Nigeria, we have more young ladies working in good companies than young guys, and this owe tribute to some men who helped those ladies out of pity, romance, God or as a way of trying to empower women in Nigeria. I remember year ago look at this lady "I asked do you know how to say thanks" I should have know better Great mistake but it is well thanks to God 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by efedavies: 10:43pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I never wanted to comment but I was forced to,every comment for here na true talk,our ladies no try at all very ungrateful and selfish dem full everywhere. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by holusormi(m): 10:48pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
this is why i keep saying to people,, never help anybody without leaving a little chance to hurt them'.... u might hate me for this, buh believe me,if i help u i will definetely leave a little loophole so that u can come back for more and u can be sure that once u agree to ma help,u are sitting on a timebomb that will or will not be activated by your attitude,,, everybody around me knows this so anytime i help anybody,,i ALWAYS get mu dues,,the ones who paid the ingratitude cards with me are much more bleeped up than they would have normally been... call me a devil or waheva u like,,,i dont care,but as far as am concerned,i dont do anything for doing sake,if i do you any help, them its cos am expecting a return from you!!!! and of course,just as tupac said,'revenge is the sweetest joy,next to getting pu**y' !!!..#lobatan!! |
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