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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Bizibi(m): 6:43pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I don't want to generalize but some Nigerian gals are really ungrateful,I have experienced it and it was shocking, helping a fellow guy is better bcuz we guys know the worth of helping each other |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 6:44pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
dayokanu: There is an inherent entitlement mentality in Nigerian females thats not in other nationalsThat is the reason why don't expect anything in return, |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Trisome(m): 6:44pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
We can't stop helping. But help and forget about it. God knows all. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Iaz93: 6:50pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Khalessi:The OP deals with Nigerian women only, hence that statement. Don't blame him. I guess he doesn't know what other women abroad are like. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 6:50pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GoodFaith: say what?! .. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 6:52pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
bigheart2013: Don't expect anything in return, Help but don't extend yourself to over help Sorry to let you know one of brother or sister will disappoint you Hopefully, He/she is not dumb and silly to insult you Please, it will happen |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by bigheart2013(m): 6:53pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Ngokafor: Thanks! This is what matters - apologies when one errs. Once more you have done Nigeria proud. Most people would never apologize due to pride. I also apologize on my comments on you.. I am so proud of what you just did. Keep it up! Your dignity has fully been restored. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 6:54pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
voltron: You help people because the lord has place you in a position to help That is the reason why you don't expect anything in return, |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by seangy4konji: 6:59pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
you nor know anything...I have sworn not to do anything for a mere lady friend again in my life if its not my sister....i will give you 3 examples of somethings that happened to me in the past month...I moved to a new area and saw an old lady we used to know each other in Uni days...we got close due to same area and she jokingly asked me if i had a bb...I said i would get her one.i did and i had to txt her after 2 week why she could not say ordinary thank you,she said she has been busy and it is because i bought her a phone am txting and talking like that?I was going to watch football and the lady living downstairs said i should please get her fish and chisp that she loved the one i shared with her the other day?i came back with the fish and chips for her only to tell me that did i not monitor them when they were doing it and i asked why??she said they did not put lime..(this was at 11 pm).they are just ungrateful kinda and i have made my own decisions. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 7:01pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Bigheart2013 Please take control of yourself life I am not sure of your age If you over 30 Please get married , If you have found the right woman If you wait tomorrow is not promising , You likely get aging You have kids at old age your brother/sister might not help your kids 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by pickabeau1: 7:08pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
All i will say is making one less mouth a liability and fisher(wo)man is a good investment Those abusing the man for helping his sister ... smh She may be ungrateful true... She may not... Others have raised thier nephews and nieces as theirs The main issue is that she will not be asking for fish @bigheart... I feel at this point you have to internalise your charitable acts Focus on your self, start saving again.. give yourself a target to get married maybe in 2 years time Put ur monies in CDs that you cannot touch based on mandate... make that down payment on a home to restore the one you sold ... when u have built enuff... marry and focus on your kids... Then give as u can try....no more |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by chessguru1(m): 7:09pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Heard of a case a man gave a lady a lift one good morning on his way to work. On dropping the lady at a bustop where she could use to get to where she said she wanted to go, she open the door and started screaming! "This man do e no want pay!!!" "E do e no want pay" Started drama in the park sote crowd come they gather...my man had to part with some money J̶̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊S̤̥̈̊τ̲̣̣̥ to have his sanity back and get to work! |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by tomtyte02(m): 7:09pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Please guys ia have a similar story too and this is between me and mah male pal, thru him,i got a job at his firm and some days back i got payed my first salary. Now he is asking for a 10% paay as a way of showing gratitude. I refused bluntyl because we didnt even agree on such basis in d first place. Now his been puttin up attitudes. What do i do guys?? |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 7:11pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
tomtyte02: Please guys ia have a similar story too and this is between me and mah male pal, thru him,i got a job at his firm and some days back i got payed my first salary. Now he is asking for a 10% paay as a way of showing gratitude. I refused bluntyl because we didnt even agree on such basis in d first place. Now his been puttin up attitudes. What do i do guys?? Don't give him 10% tell him to kiss it fool |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Lordskenn(m): 7:19pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
NATURALLY, A WOMAN CAN NEVER BE SATISFIED... ITS JUST THEIR NATURE. It is true, even elderly men confirmd it, the only thing that can satisfy them is grave. 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:20pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
@ OP.... ''Thank you'' is not a must, but it's courteous.... I don't think we should help, expecting to get ' thank you' back, but rather help for help sake or because it might get handy next time..... Ungratefulness don't worry him, expecting a thank you after every help is more worrying...... Afterall, no one forced the dudes to help.... |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by fasho01(m): 7:24pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
People often forget how wet they were when it was raining especially when their cloths get dry. As for me, made up my mind long ago to render meaningful help only to guys and not females who see it as mandatory |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by RoyalRoy(m): 7:24pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
tomtyte02: Please guys ia have a similar story too and this is between me and mah male pal, thru him,i got a job at his firm and some days back i got payed my first salary. Now he is asking for a 10% paay as a way of showing gratitude. I refused bluntyl because we didnt even agree on such basis in d first place. Now his been puttin up attitudes. What do i do guys?? Your friend is crazy. 10%? Is he God? Stay away from him o. He is not a worthy friend. 3 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:25pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
tomtyte02: Please guys ia have a similar story too and this is between me and mah male pal, thru him,i got a job at his firm and some days back i got payed my first salary. Now he is asking for a 10% paay as a way of showing gratitude. I refused bluntyl because we didnt even agree on such basis in d first place. Now his been puttin up attitudes. What do i do guys??but you sef you take style stingy sha. so this man actually got you a job. meaning without him you would have no pay, right ? and he is asking you for 10 percent. so what is the big deal ? if you are not comfortable giving him cash buy something with the ten percent like an iphone or something. you crazy mahfukaz i bet if your pastor asked you for 10 percent tithe to praise God for getting you that job you would be so happy to give it to him. chei. naija people sha that 10 percent should be a one off on your first salary. not continuous payment 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by popcykaylah(m): 7:26pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
women love awuf..only 1 in thousands tend to be different |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Deschil: 7:31pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
14 to 20 danbabe: I wonder what the average age range of people on this site is. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 7:35pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Deschil: 14 to 20Sorry 10 to 65 |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lovat(m): 7:37pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Kanwulia: Because familiarity aka 'see finish' ALWAYS breeds contempt!Gay alert. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 7:37pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: but you sef you take style stingy sha. so this man actually got you a job. meaning without him you would have no pay, right ? and he is asking you for 10 percent. so what is the big deal ? if you are not comfortable giving him cash buy something with the ten percent like an iphone or something. you crazy mahfukaz i bet if your pastor asked you for 10 percent tithe to praise God for getting you that job you would be so happy to give it to him. chei. naija people sha We all should learn to help people without expecting monetary return |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Ishilove: 7:39pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: but you sef you take style stingy sha. so this man actually got you a job. meaning without him you would have no pay, right ? and he is asking you for 10 percent. so what is the big deal ? if you are not comfortable giving him cash buy something with the ten percent like an iphone or something. you crazy mahfukaz i bet if your pastor asked you for 10 percent tithe to praise God for getting you that job you would be so happy to give it to him. chei. naija people shaBut the friend shouldn't be the one to ask na. The friend is an assshole 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 7:39pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Arosa:hmmn. [s]Women of Nigerian(Nigerians' women)[/s] women of Nigeria(nigeria's women). |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:39pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
tomtyte02: Please guys ia have a similar story too and this is between me and mah male pal, thru him,i got a job at his firm and some days back i got payed my first salary. Now he is asking for a 10% paay as a way of showing gratitude. I refused bluntyl because we didnt even agree on such basis in d first place. Now his been puttin up attitudes. What do i do guys?? The guy is quite considerate and lenient sef. Some people would ask for FULL first-three-months' salaries as a 'token' reward for helping you get a job. Ask the millions of unemployed graduates in Nigeria whether they would not gladly relinquish full six months' salaries if that is what it takes to get a good, secure job. I'd suggest you give him the mere 10% tithe sharp sharp, otherwise you would be an ingrate. 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 7:40pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
appelmoieddy:am not Sir |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:45pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Twice |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:45pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Area-Fada:Although the charges accrued from child support is a court mandated payment,there are people who avoid it pending on the country in particular, and like yours depending on consensual agreement btw you and her if she fears repatriation actually, the records could hv been falsified. I don't in anyway support her callous action but I only inferred that she acted on the spur of the moment |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:49pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
lirusehn: am not SirLol |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:50pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GoodFaith:[b]in the ideal world ? yes. this is not an ideal world. nobody owes you nothing in this world. if someone is generous enough to help you out, you have to have the decency to reach back and touch that person. anyone who you help and they just move on without reaching back to thank you and reciprocate in any kind of way ? that is a wicked person. this guy is a wicked person because he had to wait for his friend to demand 10 percent. if someone got me a job, i would not even wait for the person to demand anything from me. it would be in my heart to buy the person a generous gift with part of my first cheque to show that i really appreciated what he did for me. anyone who does not do that ? thats a wicked cold person. life is all about favors. you do me a favor ? i owe you one. nothing in life is free. unless of course the person is a family member then thats different. now of course if the person helped is in no position to help back then a thank you is enough. but if i got you a lucrative contract, would you not reach out to me ? its how life is. lets quit pretending that people do stuff for free. [/b] and all these men sayng women are wicked because they are not grateful. i am not buying all that. men are equally wicked. those men who did favors for women, i can bet you all those women were attractive and the guy was hoping to get some a-ss at the end of the day. but they got played so they are mad. will those same men try to help a 400 pound woman with only one teeth left ? nope they wouldnt. so the men are just as demonic as the women. dont cry here cuz you got played by a woman who you tried to buy her affection 3 Likes |
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